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How abusers operate:
Find a potential victim (this need not be someone who is openly vulnerable), gain their trust, then start gradually stepping up coercion until an initial assault occurs. The victim might want to comply with their abuser, and may be given alcohol, drugs, or both; if they don’t comply, the assault will be a lot worse. The victim will be told, repeatedly, that they’re worthless, stupid, evil etc. so anything that’s happening to them is their own fault, and reminded that no one will believe them if they seek help.
After this period of negative reinforcement, the positive reinforcement kicks in. This is called “the honeymoon period”. The abuser offers gifts, telling the victim that they’re sorry and promising it’ll never happen again… unless the victim forces them to do so…
No matter what the victim does, the abuser will find an excuse to start the cycle of abuse again and, unfortunately, the abuse will get increasingly violent.
Look up The Duluth Model. It was created as a result of studies on DV, but it lays out the specifics of the cycle of abuse.
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