Comments by "Ida Larsen" (@idalarsen2540) on "I spent a day with ROMANCE REPULSED AROMANTICS" video.

  1. I've realized over the years that both me and my mom are aromantics. As a child growing up, my parents were never the kind to show affection to either each other, or me and my brother. I always felt like something was "off" in my family due to this, and seeing how my friends' parents kissed, held hands, went on dates etc., something my parents never did. They never even shared a bedroom, because my mother didn't feel comfortable doing so. My mother was always viewed as "distant" and "weird" because of her struggles of showing what we percieve as "proper", "normal" or "expected" affection. I know my mother would do anything for us, she's truly the most loving person I know.. she just doesn't show it like a "regular" person does. It's taken me so many years of pain and agony, and total confusion to figure this all out. I remember once yelling my soul out at her for "not loving me", which broke her heart. I don't regret doing it tho, as that.. conversation, and the following talks we had after that enlightened the both of us a lot. Seeing my mother break down like that killed me inside, but it was necessary to open up and regulate the boiling lid, in lack of a better way of describing it. My parents (finally) divorced some years ago, when both me and my brother were well into adulthood, and our entire family have become so much better and much more happy and comfortable individually and together, despite my mother and father not having any contact. It just turned out best for all of us. It freed us.
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