Comments by "Ida Larsen" (@idalarsen2540) on "Dr. Phil"
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It's weird just how much I can relate to EVERYTHING she said (except being famous ofc).
I know very well I had a bad and frightening childhood, but whenever people (including CPS, the police and such during my teen years) asked me what was so wrong, what had happened, why I was so scared and such, I had no coherent answer. I just put up a brick wall, or started crying and sobbing hysterically, almost as if I went back to a very vulnerable child like-state, just like how I was as a (very) young child.
I knew deep within that something was wrong, that something had happened. I just couldn't figure out what it was. So, people thought I was just another run away-teen, doing rebellious "teen-stuff".
That hurt me so bad and made me doubt myself and my entire existence, only making everything worse. I ended up homeless, severly addicted to drugs including injecting heroin. I OD'd several times, one time I barely made it. Someone found me, cracked all my ribs doing CPR (which is really good - it means they really did it right. I was dead anyway, so I was blessed af being able to wake up at all, despite being on life support for a few days). I am forever grateful to the people that saved my life. I even jokingly thanked them for breaking all my ribs. I was fortunate enough to meet them, and they were fortunate enough to meet me again - not because I'm special or whatever, but so that they could see living proof of their hard work and heroism considering that I'd be dead if it wasn't for them acting fast and logically. Trust me when I say that group hug we had lasted for a loooooooong time with loads of tears and sobbing from all of us.
Anyway. I'm not diagnosed with DID, but it's reckognized medically that I do suffer from childhood trauma as well as severe adult trauma. PTSD, anxiety, depression and drug addiction. Possibly more, I'm working with a pshychiatrist on possible diagnoses. Not just to put yet another label on me, but so that I can get the help I need. DID is in fact a possibility. We don't know for sure yet. Due to my long term, hardcore drug usage, it's a lot harder to separate one experience and/or symptom from the other. It's a work in progress. I hope I don't have any more psychological issues than I already have, but if I do, I absolutely want to know so that I can understand myself better, and make life better in the long run.
It just baffled me how relatable her story is to mine, despite our differences.
If anyone bothered reading this, thank you so much.
If anyone reading this are struggling with whatever it may be, I hope that you get help. I hope you have, or get support. I wish you well, and a good life. I wish you'll be able to feel like you're thriving, not just surviving. You deserve it. You really do. Best wishes from me 💚💚💚👊
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I know right, wtf?
SO many people here are blaming her and are just being plain CRUEL. None of those people see the ACTUAL problem here.
This is NOTHING but exploitation and sensationalism for views, his own gain. He talks down to her so much, breaking her down even more.. while she's obiviously laying down on the floor in pain. He's kicking her while she's down, it's just cruel.
I've been an addict myself and have gotten those kinds of treatment (take the TV part out of it), and all it did was make me do even more drugs. Smh. It wasn't until someone actually started treating me better and considered the effect their words had on me, after I got so mad about it all that I had to just scream in his face how terrible he made me feel, that all it did was made me feel worse and fall even deeper into my addictions that I started to even just CONSIDER that what I was doing were more harmful than I wanted to think.
Knowing that you're not judged for falling was such a big comfort to me. It made me actually want to do SOMETHING about it. It took me an extremely long time and many, many tries over several years for me to actually sober up - and stay sober.
I still enjoy some drugs from time to time (smoke weed daily, most at night time due to ptsd related nightmares and insomnia, a very rare couple of drinks or a couple beers and sometimes I take amphetamine/speed, although that's rare), but it's all under control. I work, pay my rent and bills and take properly care of my self, my dog and my cat. So finally, I'm doing good.
If people treated me like Phil treats this lady, I'd literally be dead. I would have no incentive to try to help myself. I'd feel to shameful and worthless.
Shame on you, "Dr." Phil.. shame.
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For real. I became homeless for about three years, and I had both a dog and a cat before that happened (honestly not my fault, seriously. Long story). Luckily I knew that my dog could stay with my father safely, so she wasn't really a worry for me. My cat on the other hand was. I knew of no one that would agree to take care of my cat for me while I tried finding a new place, so I was extremely worried. I asked EVERYONE I knew, posted about it daily on facebook and everywhere. I knew I could give him away, but I simply refused having to give him up to strangers. That was so horrible, the entire thing. I wanted my sweet cat back, we loved each other so much and I knew I could provide a great home for him as soon as I found somewhere new to live. It took me quite some time, three years like I said - but I did it.
I eventually did recieve an offer from a friend who were willing to take him in, but after a while she found him to be "too much" for her (she fell way too deep in her drug abuse smh, my cat wasn't at fault in any way. He's a sweetie. I panicked as I had to look for someone else. Eventually someone else I knew took him in, but after a while they broke up and we're moving away from each other, and none of them were willing to take him with them. Same route once again. These two people were my last hope (I thought), so it absolutely broke my heart. I still refused to give him up. Then, like a miracle, some friends of some of my other friends had heard about our story and wanted to help - for free, even. They took him in and cared so much for him. They cared so much in fact that they wanted to TAKE HIM, despite promising me that I'd get him back when the time was ready. I was livid, completely FURIOUS. I couldn't do anything but cry myself to sleep every night, and just the thought of him brought me to tears. I had already fought so much for him, my energy was drained. Still, the thought of losing him for good was too much for me. I just couldn't take it. I did everything and more to convince them to give him back to me. After months of living in my new apartment, I still hadn't gotten him back, but I refused to let him go. Eventually, they budged. Thankfully.
I now live safely with both my pets, my dog Lucy and my cat Skurk (Norwegian for criminal, pretty much - sounds like a weird name in English but I promise you, he fits his name completely and everyone just finds it to be a cute, fitting name for him). I work and take care of them very well, more than I've seen most people do. I'm so glad that I kept fighting for us, that I never lost hope regardless of how dark it all seemed for years.
I'll fight for my loved ones, my pets any time, any day. Always. ALWAYS.
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STOP THE WAR ON DRUGS. Phil ain't even bothering to talk about drugs in an honest, nuanced way. Everyone would be better off with proper, SCIENCE based info instead of filtered "scary truths" that often ain't even the slightest true at all. I'm not saying he should endorse drugs of any kind, that would be wrong by principle.. same goes for spreading misinformation, it's just wrong.
Update yourselves, research, wonder, grow, learn and grow some more.
This ain't the "D.A.R.E" world anymore, this is 2020. Whatever 2020 is..
Anyways, I will never respect Dr. Phil again unless he manages to actually follow the times, especially considering this. The war on drugs is a war on people. Talk about that, "Dr" Money. I guess he won't tho, he is way too close minded. Let's see him bring on people devestated in one way or another by the political war on "drugs" (people), and see if he even can fathom trying to understand both the human mind, body and soul, the political bias that has broken so many lives. It's been proven so many times to all of us that everyone matters and the truth matters. That "even" drug users/addicts matter.
But oh these all so powerful and corrupted "experts" and politicians just always need something other than their own greed to blame to save face.
It's sickening. Stop listening to propaganda.
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Fr 😭😭😭
I live for my pets (cat and dog), my children as I call them. Call me crazy for that, I don't care. I view them as my children. Even if I just accidentaly manage to step on my dog's foot or something like that, I feel sooooo bad and start hugging and apologizing - even if she barely noticed. One time I was cutting my dog's hair (she doesn't shed her fur, she's allergy friendly so she practically has more human like hair, hence why I have to cut it) and I was getting tired as I had been cutting her for so long. I was tired, she was tired so she started moving around a bit making it harder for me to cut, so I accidentally managed to come close to her skin on her chest while cutting. It BARELY cut her at all, but I did hear her scream very high pitched (not for long at all, it was more of a "ouch" in dog language) so I threw the scissors right away that second and I started crying. I checked her to see how bad it was.. it didn't even start bleeding, it was more of a scratch. So luckily, it couldn't have been that painful. I'm sure it was painful that second, but like I said, it was tiny and didn't even bleed the slightest bit. I started bawling my eyes out, hugging her and all. She was wagging her tail as soon as I hugged her, so it couldn't have hurt much at all, and she understood that it was just a little accident, nothing on purpose at all.
That just goes to show how much I love and care for my pets. Even the slightest little "could happen to the best"-things breaks my heart and makes me feel so bad. So, just the thought of doing something like this lady is doing - I could NEVER. It just breaks my heart so much. It doesn't matter at all whether I know the animals or not, seeing them hurt in even the slightest way is heartbreaking.
I don't understand people that willfully aquires pets, only to not give them proper care and love. I've seen homeless people literally taking so much better care for their dogs than this lady/family has. Having a big home and a garden is worthless if you're not taking actual care for them.
I live in not the smallest, yet surely not the biggest apartment (I've lived in much smaller places than now also) but that doesn't matter. They have space to move around in here and most importantly, they're properly fed with good food and have all that they need. I take my dog out for 3-5 times a day, depending on my energy, if I work that day and on the weather (I live in Norway so our winters are extremely cold lol, so we spend more time inside during winter than summer). They're happy, clean, fed, not too big or too small, healthy and everything.
Having a big home and a garden means NOTHING to your pets if you don't take care of them. It's not adequate to just let them outside in the garden, never walking them. It sure is a great bonus to your pets if you have a big home and a garden if you actually take care of them. That's definetely a great bonus. But that's all it is. It's just a bonus that makes it a bit easier for you to exercise especially your dogs. Your garden doesn't take care of your pets, YOU take care of your pets.
Smdh.
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I completely understand what you're saying. I'm not severly allergic to anything myself, but I do literally suffer from pollen allergies during summer time, breathing is extremely difficult and I need a lot of medications for that to just barely be able to be outside - or even inside during summer. I don't go into anaphylaxis which sounds just horrifying to me. I know what it feels like having my throat closing up, not to the point where it's anaphylaxis, but even for me it's really scary when I feel like I can't breathe.. so I can at least sort of imagine what anaphylaxis would feel like. I also suffer from several mental illnesses, like heavy ptsd, anxiety disorder and panic attacks, and depression on and off (not due to seasonal change).
I absolutely HATE when people are acting like this woman who exaggerates (my 1st language is Norwegian so I'm sorry if some words gets butchered) because it puts us that actually really struggle with one thing or another.
I would still like to say in her little defense that she's been heavily exposed to toxins from her home, they apparantly found many spores of different allergens in her home - which alone can cause unusual behaviour. She's on medications as well, so that combo isn't exactly working in her favor. This was talked about in another clip from this, I don't have the link but it shouldn't be too hard to find.
So at least for her, she has some validity with this.
I believe her behaviour has been enabled too much and that the couple should have fixed whatever problems they have with their house a long time ago instead of accomidating her (mostly) irrational or overexagerrated behaviour.
Not trying to defend her too much, but there's two sides of every coin and two sides to every story.
Emphathy and compassion is extremely important. Not saying we should baby or enable people at all, we should just try to understand each other's points if views as much as possible. Not to excuse someone's irrational behaviour, but to understand. When people disagree with ourselves, we also would like for "the other side" to try ti understand their point of view and how they think to better understand what drives people's bad behaviour so that it's easier to prevent people from completely losing their minds. We can't help people if we don't understand how others think. You know what I mean?
This became a long "rant", sorry about that.
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I completely understand what people are critizing her for, but she does have some validity here. I'm not severly allergic to anything myself, but I do literally suffer from pollen allergies during summer time, breathing is extremely difficult and I need a lot of medications for that to just barely be able to be outside - or even inside during summer. I don't go into anaphylaxis which sounds just horrifying to me. I know what it feels like having my throat closing up, not to the point where it's anaphylaxis, but even for me it's really scary when I feel like I can't breathe.. so I can at least sort of imagine what anaphylaxis would feel like. I also suffer from several mental illnesses, like heavy ptsd, anxiety disorder and panic attacks, and depression on and off (not due to seasonal change).
I absolutely HATE when people are acting like this woman who exaggerates (my 1st language is Norwegian so I'm sorry if some words gets butchered) because it puts us that actually really struggle with one thing or another.
I would still like to say in her little defense that she's been heavily exposed to toxins from her home, they apparantly found many spores of different allergens in her home - which alone can cause unusual behaviour. She's on medications as well, so that combo isn't exactly working in her favor. This was talked about in another clip from this, I don't have the link but it shouldn't be too hard to find.
So at least for her, she has some validity with this.
I believe her behaviour has been enabled too much and that the couple should have fixed whatever problems they have with their house a long time ago instead of accomidating her (mostly) irrational or overexagerrated behaviour.
Not trying to defend her too much, but there's two sides of every coin and two sides to every story.
Emphathy and compassion is extremely important. Not saying we should baby or enable people at all, we should just try to understand each other's points if views as much as possible. Not to excuse someone's irrational behaviour, but to understand. When people disagree with ourselves, we also would like for "the other side" to try ti understand their point of view and how they think to better understand what drives people's bad behaviour so that it's easier to prevent people from completely losing their minds. We can't help people if we don't understand how others think. You know what I mean?
This became a long "rant", sorry about that.
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Are you certain that's a causation, not just a correlation? I've been on benzo's for years and it's the only thing that have ever helped me with anxiety, ptsd, depression, paranoia and so much more. I know many others with the same experience, where benzo's are the only thing that helps them.
Although just to mention it, experiences and outcomes from this varies greatly based on many factors, like what kind of benzo, dosages, if they're mixing with other benzo's, if they're mixing with other drugs like morphine, codeine etc., if they're mixing both class A (opiates/opiods) and class B (Benzo's; Xanax, Valium etc.), if they're on other drugs as well like antipsychotics or antidepressants, underlying mental/physical health issues, use of narcotics etc. Results vary a lot for different people.
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@Freya1412 I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not a mother/parent (unless I count my pets whom I love with my entire heart. I view them as my children, they always come first and they've changed my life so much. The thought of not having my furry babies would absolutely crush me more than anything. I know it's not quite the same, but our bond is so deep, I can't help but view them as my adooted kids), so I can't say I understand how you feel. All I can say is that I at least understand how gut wrenching it must be to lose your babies, and my empathy really goes out to you. Wishing you healing, love, peace and happiness. I understand it will never be the same, and that it's gotta be just about impossible to completely "get over".. I just hope that you'll find more peace as time goes and for you to be surrounded by as much love as possible. I'm truly sorry. Losing any loved one is heart breaking, so one can only imagine the despair of losing your child. It's just not right. Parents shouldn't have to burry their kids, it should be the other way around. So many small, yet growing lives are taken away from us way too soon. It's so horrible to think about, and I truly send love and all the best thoughts to you and everyone else out there who's lost their child. May you all find some peace wherever you can ❤🌷❤
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For real. Really. Prohibition only kills and causes problems for everyone. The entire society, not only the actual users. I personally believe marihuana should be legalized (and regulated like alcohol is), while other illegal drugs should be decriminalized and regulated.
This was never about a war on drugs. It started as a war on black people, and has spiraled to become a war on ALL people. It wasn't okay then, and it isn't okay now. Damn Reagan. This isn't only going on in the states, it quickly became the same "war" in the entire globe.
Portugal has gotten the absolute BEST drug laws, only just a few years ago (prob less than 3 y, can't remember exactly when they had their massive drug reform). Look at their statistics, compare before and after. The amount of drug victims (people dying from OD's, drug related crime etc.) and users went down severly.
It's way past time for this to stop, all it does is hurt people and strain society at large.
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Totally.. there are other solutions. They CAN afford the lizard, they're priorities are just severly off. They don't need to feed it as much as they do. They also spend A LOT of unnesecary money elsewhere, like on the two cars and DAMN BRAND NAME CHILDREN'S CLOTHING. Even if they were to JUST cut down on clothing (stop buying brand clothes they'll grow out off instantly and make the kids share more; passing down clothes etc.), they'd save A LOT. They got the lizard, time to prioritize.
I totally agree with letting it go to someone else with the funds to properly take care of it if they had already tried to prioritize, but couldn't make it work. If you actually can't afford your pet, the best thing to do 100% is to give it away to someone who'll care for it like it deserves. Them giving away the lizard because they fail to prioritize properly, like buying Tommy Hilfiger etc. is just extremely selfish. This is my issue here.
I personally LOVE pets (I have both a dog and a cat and I want more), and there came a time where my economic situation got so tight that I had to pack up and leave my already cheap apartment to find somewhere cheaper to live (I'd already tried to cut back on EVERYTHING else, I at times had to go without food just to afford pet food), and had no choice but to rehome both my pets for well over a year. It broke my heart and I just couldn't stop crying, I'd cry myself to sleep thinking about them almost every night until I got them back. I still knew I had to do it for their sake, they deserve a properly caring home, which despite my extremely cheap living, I just couldn't afford it. I have them back now, thankfully. I made sure despite huge difficulties that I could get them back when I could.
Point is, when you get pets, you have a duty of care. They're living creatures. If you're not prepared for the costs and constant responsibility, just don't get any pets at all. If you get pets and difficulties later occur, you do everything possible to make sure to prioritize properly. These people seem to care more about having a nice fasade than their pets. People like that should NOT have pets. They still do, and I hope they managed to prioritize life over damn stupid clothing etc.
So, both points here are technically right and I don't get why y'all argue so much. It all depends on the situation.
These people could obiviously afford the lizard, they just seem too vain to put the lizard before their appearance. Totally deplorable.
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She's most likely not paranoid or cheating. Smh. After experiencing what she did, it's common to dissociate completely. You can get "flashbacks 2.0", kinda. Ya know, "regular" flashbacks and reoccuring nightmares are typical traits of PTSD. Some people tho can get those symptoms in more extreme ways. People experience PTSD differently, nobody have the same experience. It's very likely that she completely dissociates, "leaves" her body, and enters into altered realities where she experience her trauma over again, with no control over it.
Just because you don't get it, doesn't mean it's not real. I doubt she's actually still getting abused, but I don't either think she makes it up at all. Perception is reality, and her trauma has become her reality.
Surviving sexual abuse is terrible and traumatizing regardless, but when it happens while you're a child, especially when you're a young child, it can become so much harder to cope. Children don't have the mental capacity to actually cope. Sexual abuse can really damage you for years or decades, sometimes even throughout your whole life (often dependant on the severity, age when it happened, frequency etc.). It's absolutely terrible.
Y'all are jumping to too many conclusions too fast. I'm assuming none of you who thinks she's made up this elaborate story so that she can cheat, have never ever come close to experiencing sexual abuse.
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This is exactly what I'm trying to tell people who claim shrooms are just "soooo terrible" all the time. MORE research surely needs to be done and it's not for everyone, that's very clear.
I personally have benefitted a great deal from psychedelics. Not just shrooms, but LSD and MDMA (and more) as well. I've been through a ton in my life, including one r*pe at 14, and another one at 18 where I nearly died. Lots of childhood trauma as well (unrelated to the 1st r*pe). I strongly doubt I would manage as well as I'm doing now, if it wasn't for psychedelics (mostly shrooms and LSD) and weed. It gave me different perspectives, a greater love for myself, my body, my freedom, nature, and life in general. For me it's surely been great. It even helped me with my addiction to hard drugs (including heroin, amphetamine, benzo's +++).
I wish people would actually research instead of assuming that everything that we consider to be drugs are just all bad.
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So sad, hard to watch.
- former addict who once died due to my many addictions.
If anyone talked to me like that when I was behaving and feeling like she is, I would've become extremely scared and confused, possibly even attacked in a form of self defense.
NOT that I'm a violent person AT ALL, but being cornered like that when you're this low and drugs are involved (remember, just because alcohol is legal doesn't mean that it not a drug), you get scared, causing reactions that can seem possibly violent. It's all about fight, flight or freeze.
She probably has PTSD as well, which complicates things a lot more.
Not saying people should sow pillows under your arms at all when you're like this, just.. don't do what happened here. Threatening like that is not okay.
She don't know what she's doing at this point. She may be in a slight psychosis, even. Probably started withdrawals.
He for sure knows all of this, but still treats her bad making everything worse psycologically. She obvs doesn't feel safe.
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That's absolutely very true, and many people don't understand this at all. I've been struggling with this myself a lot. I've been r*ped twice, once at 14 y/o (by a 18 y/o) and once at 18 y/o (by a 44 y/o). It's terrible to dissociate like that. It's a total nightmare.
Many people refuse to believe me when I explain what sometimes happens to me, which makes me feel so extremely alone. It's been a few years now since the last one happened as I'm 23 y/o now, but it still haunts me, and I'm sure it will for many, many more years to come. I can't say that it hasn't gotten better over time, but it's going slowly. I'm not getting any help. No therapy, no medications, nothing. I'm chronically afraid and feel like I'm always at the verge of crying, with little relief ever. The only relief I can get my hands on are drugs, so that's become my solution. I understand that drugs only help temporarily, while only making it all worse in the long run, but.. I don't feel like I have a choice. It's such a double edged sword. It helps right then and there, but it'll only cut me even deeper the more I keep self-medicating. I've ended up dead due to an overdose on fentanyl-laced heroin, rivotril, oxazepam, xanax, valium, ghb and alcohol. Thankfully, someone got to me in time and managed to get some life back into me by doing extreme CPR for a very long time, until the ambulance came and took over and brought me to the ICU on life support. All my ribs were broken, which obiviously hurt a lot for some weeks after, but dang.. I'd take that over death most days, absolutely. You're (most likely) not doing CPR right if you don't break at least one rib. That's just part of the process, and kinda the point. Well, the point is to push so hard that you're "manually" beating the heart for that person recieving it. So I'm just saying, if you ever have to do CPR, don't be afraid to push hard/break something! That person's dead anyway, so it's not like you're doing any harm. On the other hand, what will do someone harm, is if you don't do it at all for whatever reason. That decreases their risk of surviving a great deal. Also, before doing CPR, make sure the person actually have no pulse. You will harm someone if you do CPR on someone that's simply unconcious. So it's important to check their pulse first, while you're calling an ambulance. The dispatcher will guide you on what to do.
((Sorry, I just had to. Many people are afraid of doing CPR, but don't be, as long as you can't feel any pulse. CPR saves lives!! You'll most likely recieve a "thanku!!" if you save them, despite how many ribs you crack. Better to have broken ribs than being dead!))
Anyways. The other side of the sword is that without drugs, I'd probably be in too much pain to manage to keep going in life.
So, what saves me is what kills me.
I hate being so terribly haunted by this, as it feels like they're still winning. They still hold power over my life, despite the second monster that assaulted me (for two damn days straight, nearly killing me) being in prison now, since I filed charges and managed to get him convicted (which is truly a blessing, considering how many victims/survivors don't even get their case reviewed. Most people are not believed, which is extremely sad. That sets such a bad precedent, practically giving abusers the message that they'll most likely get away with even the most heinous assaults. So, that was truly a bittersweet victory, as there really aren't any winners in the end.
I don't know what to do anymore. I need help, but nobody's willing to reach their hands out. All I get is doors slammed in my face.
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It would be SO MUCH BETTER and HELLA SAFER for her to instead either immidiatly get sent to a hospital for detox, then a long term treatment facility, or to continue drinking, but (preferrably) with support around her from someone experienced (not family) with alcoholism, hopefully being able to slowly wean down before long term treatment. Not to "be completely on your own with no new tools or coping mechanisms", with the added stress and pressure of having to prove that she "really wants the help", gosh.
This is entirely reckless and DANGEROUS from even a life/death perspective. NO ACTUAL PERSON WITH A VALID "DR." IN FRONT OF THEIR NAME WOULD DO THIS. NO ONE. ZERO, ZILCH. It's faaaar to reckless. Smfh.
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@joceydragoo8567 Sure, but one would think that if this was a school project, the teacher would've read it and considering the context of the letter, the teacher should 100% went to their parent/s and notify them about the concerning text he'd written.
I remember one time in like 9th grade or smthn (when I had a severe case of the emo, to put it like that) we got an assignment to write a story of some sort, can't remember exactly, but it was supposed to be fictional, not personally true like the "letter to my future self" assignment.
Considering my emo self I surely ended up writing about something really dark including suicide. Although I totally made something up and it had no resembelance to my life, the teacher still notified my parents about it.
Which is why I think it's strange that the teacher didn't notify his parent/s, especially considering it was his thoughts about his own life, which were obiviously tragically dark.
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@jaybee1248 And? There are MANY states that do things and have laws and regulations that are HELLA weird.
So.. the fact that some states in one (developed) country does something, makes it right? Is that it? There's a reason (well, several) most states in America as well as no other developed country uses lie detector tests as proof in court.
Remember that even the person that made those things up, says they don't really work (as intented). It's also important to note that even if the test was always 100% accurate, they only detect what the test subject PERCIEVES to be truthful, not what's ACTUALLY true.
Like.. say you were to believe that the sky was green, not blue. You're subjected to that test, and the question is if the sky is blue, you'll answer no. The test will pick that up as truthful, despite how false it really is.
See the point?
It's understandable to use during investigations, but not as factual evidence in court, as it proves nothing. It's way too subjective.
What some states in America do doesn't set the standard for what's right and fair.
If what you're saying is true, then those states act irresponsibly.
Most people really think that lie detector tests are a good and valid tool, when they're really not. So when a test is admitted and presented as evidence in court in front of a jury obvs consisting of "regular" citizens, they can be easily swayed by just that, as many people think they work really well, and is actual evidence and factual. It can truly cause innocent people wrongful convictions, as well as guilty people getting free. Allowing lie detector tests as part of the evidence should be cause for a mistrial, but that won't happen and the verdict won't be fair if they're allowed in court.
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@xgengx7530 IF you're already predisposed, then yes. Otherwise, no. This has been researched quite a lot. Drugs (including weed) has the potential to trigger things like scizophrenia. The thing is tho, it still isn't the weed's fault. If weed doesn't trigger it, something else surely will at some point. Although this is fairly rare, that's what CAN have the possibility to become harmful. We simply don't know what we're predisposed to and what is going to trigger that. That's what makes any drug use scary. Although I advocate for all drugs to at least be decriminalized and for weed to be legalized, I still think that if you're able to stay away from whatever drugs, then do so. Still, as long as you're aware of both the potential pros and cons, wait 'til you're a certain age and do it responsibly, go right ahead.
For many people, weed can be absolutely great - even life saving. If you for instance have epilepsy that is hard to control, there's nothing wrong with trying weed as long as your doctor is well informed on it and have thought of and tried other treatments first. This is till individual tho. In other cases, say you're heavily addicted to hard drugs like heroin, meth, pills etc. and you find quitting everything is too hard, there's nothing wrong with smoking weed if that's what keeps you from going back to a highly dangerous lifestyle.
So this is all individual. It's good or even life changing/saving for some, but for other people it's not at all good.
So it's impossible to say that weed is either good or bad in general.
I guess I'd say that weed is at least not harmful in MOST people (doing it responsibly, this is key), but it would be stupid and ignorant of me ti say that it's ALWAYS good.
Weed in it's own nature isn't harmful at all. It's all the other possible factors that can make weed seem bad. Yet, just because someone has bad reactions to it doesn't mean that weed is dangerous. Nothing is that black and white. An analogy I like to use is to think about allergies. Just because some people can get severe allergic reactions to whatever (grass, peanuts, apples, dogs, cats etc.) doesn't mean that dogs etc. are bad.
Hope this makes sense.
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Although the financial part is obvs extremely important, what's even more important is for the child to grow up in a safe and stable enviroment. Letting kids live in whatever kind of chaos is abusive. They notice and understand sooo much more than many people think. They learn their behaviours more by their parents actions, than their words. "If mommy does it, I can do it". "Daddy's hitting mommy, that's what daddy's do".. and so forth.
It's so much better for any child to grow up with less money and just "stuff" than "having it all" without any stability, certainty and safety. A child is better off with one parent that loves and cares for them, living in a shelter than living in a big house with one or two parents that pays no attention to them, with parents who fights, both verbally and/or physically, emotionally distant parents etc. The child doesn't care about if they have the best and most toys, the prettiest clothes, high-end food, nice furniture, all of that. That doesn't matter. They're perfectly happy with just the basics. As long as their needs are met and they are and feel loved and safe, having the certainty that no matter what, they have a loving, protecting parent. If possible, sure, having a two-parent household in their own house/apartment, financial security and love and affection from parents who also are loving and affectionate towards each other is ideal, but having that "white picket fence"-dream is just a dream for most people. Although that's what many people want, they simply can't have it. So as long as the kid(s) always comes first and they are secure and properly nurtured, they don't really need more than that. Stability, safety, security, love and care is what matters. Not the money.
I'm not saying to go ahead and just get a baby despite being too poor to ensure their safety, health and wellbeing, not at all. Getting your stuff together and knowing that you can take good care of both yourself and your kid(s) should be a priority before getting pregnant. People should never just get a baby and "figure it out" as they go. Not at all, that's extremely irresponsible. You're creating life, after all. I'm just making the important point that money alone will never be good enough on it's own.
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Uhm.. of course he's not advocating that. What else are you supposed to do? You can't keep making several types of dinners for one meal.
You know how small children work, right? At some point you have no choice but to make them eat what you make despite them saying they don't want it. Of course we should never starve our kids, but they have to learn to eat their broccoli and potatoes at some point. The sooner they learn that you have to eat what you're served, the better.
Not saying that if a child that actually eats what you give them tells you they don't like a certain thing, you should literally force them to eat it, of course not. I don't think either that, or as many other people do which is to say that "you have to finish the entire plate" is okay. Not at all. Don't force your kid to eat more on a full stomach or force them to eat anything at all, but teaching them from early on to accept what they get and making them at least TRY the food a few times is very important. There's a big difference between a kid who just looks at food and says "I don't want it" just so they can get hotdogs instead of salmon and potatoes, and a kid who eats most of what they get but develop preferences and says "I don't like mustard, can I have ketchup instead?" or whatever along those lines. Not liking certain foods is okay, but demanding a certain kind of food is not okay either.
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@daschwarz1649 You have no right to tell other people what to do. You don't know them or their story, nothing.
I absolutely agree that you shouldn't smoke in front of your kid(s), due to how exhibiting your (poor) habits in front of them can normalize it and indirectly tell your children that it's okay to smoke, but other than that, there's no issue. It's surely ideal to quit any smoking for anyone, but that's not real life.
What's good about vaping is that you're not getting all those extra chemicals found in cigarettes. With vapes, you get the nicotine which is the main/active ingredient in tobacco that is addictive, just not all the rest of it. It's so much better than smoking tobacco. It's better for people to pick up a vape, rather than lighting up a toxic cigarette affecting not only you, but everyone around you.
I say this as a long time, heavy smoker myself, who started smoking at 11 y/o, and was addicted by the age og 13. I smoke at least a pack a day. I don't have any kids, so I'm only harming myself and surely my wallet. Cigarettes are hella expensive where I'm from (Norway), and stupidly enough, it's illegal to sell vape oil with nicotine, you can only get oils without nicotine. If I had the option, I would absolutely vape instead. I'm not ready to quit smoking yet, that's my decision and nobody can tell me otherwise.
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@Eclectic-Harlowe He has an anger problem, which doesn't go well with ANY drug. Weed is not the driving force here, at least. It may be a factor for him, but not at all the driving force. This is internalized anger which he thinks he can fix with weed. It doesn't. It can surely be a band aid, but not an actual solution for him. It does sincerely help a lot of people including myself, but I know that it only helps me in addition to other kinds of help. Weed helps relieve my anxiety, depression, insomnia and ptsd-symptoms. Still, it's not a cure-all.
There's a reason it's getting decriminalized, legalized or allowed medically more and more places around the world. There's many good reasons for that. We just have to remember it's no cure-all in the long run, same concept as with prescribed pain killers etc. It does help releave whatever pain or anxiety or sleep disorders etc, but we have to realize that it doesn't cure too much in most cases. There are cases where people have epilepsy for instance where that becomes the only valuable solution. As long as it works, that's all good and okay as long as a good doctor approves of it and they've tried just about anything else. Still, this is highly individual just like with ANY other medication and treatment. What works for me might not work for you and so forth.
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Right, wth!? 500-600 dollars is EXTREMELY cheap for a dog. I spend way more a year on just my cat, smh. I always try to stay as cheap as I can due to my low income + me having to care for both my cat and my dog, but if there's one thing I'll always make sure is quality, is PET FOOD.
I usually buy food for my cat online, because where I live, the only options for cat food I have is either very cheap, low quality food or I have to go to a crazy expensive vet/animal store that doesn't even for the most part have that much better food than what I find in the grocery store..:/ So I order online. Sometimes if my money situation is really tight and I couldn't order more cat food in time or the delivery is late, I have no choice but to find something else.. even though that luckily doesn't happen a lot, I feel so bad for having to buy him something else which I know isn't too good.. I obvs try to find the best of the worst and I've found ONE option which is neither good or bad, it's just okay.. I feel so bad those times, despite him luckily getting good and proper nutrition most of the time.
Then I see other people with pets who just couldn't give a single damn and just buys the cheapest of the cheapest store brands! 😱 Like, WAY WORSE than Friskies etc. I could NEVER! Even if I suddenly had NO money, I wouldn't do that! I'd literally just steal something at least a little bit better. Whatever I need to do.
A lot of people just doesn't seem to understand that food/nutrition is directly linked to long term health. The better nutrition they get, the less likely you are to have to spend loads of money, heart ache and trouble for your beloved animal along the line.
They demand so little from us, the absolute least we can do for them is to give them proper nutrition. That's the VERY LEAST we can do.
I don't understand how Phil managed to get that severly low average number for yearly costs of one dog. I know this episode is old, but c'mon it's not THAT old! You'd gave to go a lot further back in time than this to get to those numbers.
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@malulu1947 Hmm.. where is this (country) and what kind of treatment center is it? I'm from Norway, where healthcare is free and (usually) easily and readily available, with a very high standard, and brain scans for patients struggling with mental health just doesn't happen, even in really severe cases. I wish it did, ffs.. I absolutely need to get a brain scan. I'm struggling HARD, and have done for a long time, and I KNOW that my brain have been through a whole heck of a lot, and I can with close to certainty say that there is SOME kind of damage there in some kind of way. It would be a "medical miracle" if it wasn't. Still, nobody's willing to even have a look, despite how no treatment have worked yet. It's hella annoying.
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I mean, I get and do believe in white privilege but there surely are exceptions. I've been personally and know of MANY white people who can't feel safe from harrassment, questions on how you can afford this or that and such. I think class has a lot to do with this.
What I mean by this, is that there surely are groups of/including white people who get criminalized in unfair ways, just because of looks or social status. Drug addicts and (noticable) mentally ill people, homeless people, people with downs syndrome and such. Those groups gets disenfranchised heavily as well, yet we ignore that.
I think class has A LOT to do with it.
I would certainly say that a rich black man has more privilege than a white, homeless drug addict. This goes to show the effects on class privilege. We don't talk about this. We ignore this issue. This does NOT delegitimize white privilege, but claiming there aren't exeptions is just ignorant. Saying all white people have privilege.. no. It's important to talk about class privilege as well, the two are not mutually exclusive or deligitimize the other.
Now, take a homeless drug addict that is BLACK and a homeless drug addict that is WHITE. Certainly the white homeless drug addict has a bigger advantage in that situation, due to white privilege. This is partly what makes this complicated. Now, in this situation, although the white person would have an inherent advantage on the black person, it doesn't mean that all white people get treated better than all black people. Would you say a rich, black man has less privilege than the poor white man? I would not. This is why I think privilege has many factors to it and that it's on a spectrum. It's complicated, but I hope this view on it all can start a thinking process in some people. Don't tell me that the white, homeless drug addict has more privilege than LeBron James or Beyoncé. Get my point?
Two things can exist, coexist and conflict at the same time. Nothing is (no pun intended) so black or white.
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@Joseph.Carrion Ffs you can't "prove" something that doesn't exist, smfh. You can't prove that "god" is real, yet the burden of proof lays on you (aka you and believers in general).
Just like, if you were to say unicorns were real, you couldn't fault me for not being able to disprove that. On the other hand, you, the one claiming that unicorns are real, would have to be able to prove that.
Take that unicorn-analogy and replace "unicorn" with "god". Same concept. None of you believers are able to, in any way, prove that there is such a thing as a god. Still, you wanna call us non-believers crazy or wrong for not believing..
The closest thing we can get to proving that god is all made up, is in a nutshell, EVOLUTION. Nothing in the bible (which is your only "proof") correlates at all with what we KNOW about evolution, and how old the universe, our planet and such actually are etc.
So in conclusion, we have tons of theories (science's highest term for proof) that debunks the bible, disproving anything the bible says about how everything was created. "God" just doesn't make any sense with all that we KNOW. So, you'd have to come up with some deadly strong evidence if you want to make the existence of "god" to seem even remotely rational.
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Yeah, It's a lot more common than most people think. It has nothing to do with covid either, this have existed in people basically through the beginning of time.
I've had similar struggles myself, I've struggled with psychosis a few times throughout my life. That was drug induced, tho. A combination of not sleeping for literal weeks on end while taking inhumane amounts of uppers (amphetamine etc.) will do that to people.
It doesn't have to be drug induced either tho, several studies have shown that even the strongest, most healthy people out there will start developing similar symptoms after just four days without sleep. There are many other reasons as well, like certain mental disorders. It's not unusual despite being abnormal. It all seems so real, but like they say, perception is reality. You can't just snap out of it. When you're paranoid like this, nothing people say will convince you otherwise. It would be like me trying to convince you that grass is purple and the sky is green. It's extremely frightening to be in such a state.
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Good job!
Finally clean as well, working, taking care of my two pets and have a good place to live.
I still smoke weed and I'm on medications, but going from being homeless for years, shooting up heroin, amphetamine, taking all kinds of pills, coke, acid, ketamine etc., a lil' weed to be able to sleep + buprenorphine to prevent me from using heroin as well as oxazepam for anxiety and PTSD is no biggie! If that's what I need to stay sober, so be it. I know I'm proud of myself. I've OD'd several times, one time I died; my heart stopped and needed serious interventions for a long time after just to be able to breathe again on my own. So I'm very lucky to be alive!
I can't think of anything more difficult than fighting to become sober, and I've been through a lot. Homelessness, even in the middle of norwegian winters is nothing compared to getting and staying sober. It's incredibly difficult and in no way as easy as so many people make it out to be. You can't just quit as so many people claim. Just quitting cold turkey can be fatal, depending on what you're addicted to. The most dangerous time for any addict is while you're getting clean, because if you relapse your body can't take it as well as it used to. The first few weeks of recovery is when the risk of overdose is at it's peak.
Congratulations to all of you here who's been through the struggle and has managed to kick addiction in it's butt! You all deserve so much credit and I'm proud of you! Keep going! 🤘❤
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@kasualbeauty309 I agree.. although weed is a drug. It's not like drug = bad automatically, just saying. Same goes for alcohol, it's still a drug. Mind altering substances are drugs, including weed and alcohol. Is weed harmful? In most (responsible) cases, not at all. Although I would never say weed itself is bad, some people are predisposed to have bad reactions to it. To make an easy analogy, think of it like allergies. Grass and dogs and nuts and kiwi (etc.) are not at all bad things, but some people react badly to it. Same goes for weed, or all kinds of drugs for that matter.
I do agree with you except for that one point that weed isn't a drug. Oh and also, addiction is more of a physical desease, not really a mental illness. It surely does highly affect your mind in many ways - meaning addiction, not the drug - still not a mental illness.
I know I'm sort of nit picking here and I'm not trying to argue with you because I agree, just wanted to point out some details! 😁 420Blazeit, have a good one.
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@emmalouise9776 No. For that you have to go through something horribly traumstic before the age of 7. Also, there's not personalities, there are "people" in one body (host). Imagine driving a car. The one driving is fronting, while you may have co-conciousness where another person "sist next to you" in the "car", but you're still at the front. The rest of the people may sit behind in the backseat. They can decide to "take over" especially when things get stressfull. It's "person" inside you have their own "job", like some are protectors, other are children, others hold on to and deal with the trauma etc.
All this happens because when your under the age of seven you have yet to develop "your true self". At this age you haven't really developed completely. So then if something happens when you're seven or younger, another "part" of you takes over so you can survive what happens to you. Then, alters form stronger and stays with you. Sort of. I don't have DID, but this is how people with it explain it.
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Yeah lol he really took that way out of proportion. Ofc both vaping and smoking cigarettes is really, really bad for your health (and surely your wallet), but we all know that. She too. She have the choice to smoke if she wants to, just not in front of her child. Her child didn't consent to that. Her health is getting affected, and she doesn't have any choice in the matter. If parents want to smoke, do it somewhere else, preferrably outside so the smoke doesn't stay indoors. Having your young child right next to you in bed while you're smoking is just straight up terrible and selfish. Just don't do it. Not only with regards to second hand-smoke, but it's also displaying irresponsible behaviour. That's normalizing smoking, indirectly telling your child that smoking is okay. It's not. It's better to vape than use actual cigarettes, but still. It's just not good.
I'm a long-time heavy smoker myself, I was addicted by the time I was 13 y/o. When I was young, my father was a smoker (he quit when I was around 10 y/o). He didn't smoke inside that often, but he smoked on the balcony where I always used to follow him, because I liked the smell, lol. My grandparents (father's parents) were heavy smokers as well, and they did not care about where they smoked at all. Me and my brother often went on trips with them, and when we were driving in their small car with only four seats, they smoked the entire time they were driving and barely had the windows open, so the entire car was literally packed with a massive cloud of smoke.
This is most likely the reason I started smoking (so damn early as well, I believe my first cigarette was smoked at 11 y/o and it became daily at 13 y/o..). I'm even smoking a cigarette right now as I'm typing this, lol. I started smoking weed as well when I was 14-15 (still do, and I refuse to quit! Weed is good for my soul hahahh, couldn't do without it).
So.. yeah. Be careful with what habits you're exhibiting to your kids. Kids won't "do as they say, not as they do".
You have the right to harm your own body, but not anyone else's. That's not okay.
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@Zakaiazail No problem at all, I hope you find a good and safe way out to a better life. I think reaching to go completely drug free right away is a recipe for disaster. I've been forced to do that many times, and it only made things WAY worse. I've only overdosed on drugs after getting out of forced rehabilitation. So.. yeah.
I think trying to reach for a gradual weaning off is a lot better, safer and way more comfortable. It sure will be uncomfortable to wean down, but not really like.. bad at all when done slowly. That way you don't scare your body too much. This is absolutely best to do under the guidance of a medical professional, but still. Weaning off a little bit on your own isn't really that bad. Just take it slowly, so it doesn't feel so bad. You'll barely notice it if you simply eliminate small doses, wait a few days, then keep going. Not much at the time. Give your body time to get used to less, that way it won't feel as horrible, making you want to go right back to how it used to be.
I truly hope you'll find peace one day, and that this only gets better from here. Trust me, I know it's incredibly hard. The road is worth it, tho. It absoluteky is. Take care ♡
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This is yet another reason the entire GLOBE needs massive drug reform!
Prohibition only kills and causes problems for everyone. The entire society, not only the actual users. I personally believe marihuana should be legalized (and regulated like alcohol is), while other illegal drugs should be decriminalized and regulated.
This was never about a war on drugs. It started as a war on black people, and has spiraled to become a war on ALL people. It wasn't okay then, and it isn't okay now. Damn Reagan. This isn't only going on in the states, it quickly became the same "war" in the entire globe.
Portugal has gotten the absolute BEST drug laws, only just a few years ago (prob less than 3 y, can't remember exactly when they had their massive drug reform). Look at their statistics, compare before and after. The amount of drug victims (people dying from OD's, drug related crime etc.) and users went down severly.
It's way past time for this to stop, all it does is hurt people and strain society at large.
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Fr. I might be one to break up TOO FAST (idrk, most of my friends stay in destructive relationships WAY too long so I have no normal relationships to compare mine to), tho. Still, I'd rather get out soon enough to not fall too much in love to manage to get out fine fast enough. I don't wanna feel trapped/fall too much in love, making it way harder to actually leave the relationship.
Still, I wish I could meet someone that actually loved me, cared for me and respected me. I don't at all feel like my standards are too high, like, my basic standard is obiviously being attracted to someone, I don't want to get sick thinking about kissing/sleeping with someone 😂 I also need trust, for my partner to allow me to keep being independent, I want someone who gives as much as I give (mutual respect, pretty much) and someone who puts my interests before their own. All these things is what I need, they are also what I give and do myself.
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@MrsGagnon Holy shoot, talk about jumping the gun with a completely wrong accusation.
Of course, OBIVIOUSLY actually LIKING someone dying by suicide is TERRIBLE. No one says ANY different.
The thing here tho, which like 99.9% of people understand, is that liking a video like this means that you "approve" of the video, that it was either funny, interesting, educational, cute or whatever and that you think it was a good video. When you like a video on YT it means that there's a higher chance that the algorythm will suggest it to more people. The more people DISLIKE a video, especially considering if the video has more dislikes than likes, the video is way less likely to be recommended in people's feeds.
You can like the content of a video despite it's heavy topic of suicide. I can't believe I have to say this, but we OBIVIOUSLY don't LIKE when someone dies of damn suicide, that's just absolutely terrible and for you to assume that is terrible as well.
It's baffling to me how you not only don't understand this, but that you'd have the audacity to assume that us who's liked the video _like the fact that they died of suicide_. That's a horribly unreasonable statement for you to come with, and being this clueless while assuming such awful things about us is offensive.
Common sense is certainly not in any way common anymore. Obiviously.
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How much do you have to go to the vet??
I spend like almost thrice the amount of what Phil said on even just FOOD for my dog. I buy quality food.. not the most expensive kind, but certainly good quality. I look at it as an investment, because it is. I'd rather spend some more monthly/yearly on dog and cat food than save a few bucks, only to cause health problems in the long run which will do nothing but cause pain, heart break and expensive bills which will end up costing more than food.
I do not at all say that you have to buy the most expensive food, but it's important to invest in their health. I'd stay FAR away from grocery store pet food.. that's dangerously unregulated, and I don't trust it. No one should.
My dog and cat just about never have to go to the vet, and each checkup they've had, they've been completely fine and very healthy and happy. There's never been a single worry regarding their health. I invest in good, proper food which can be trusted.
I know so many other people with pets who at least for the most part buys grocery store food, and they all struggle with SOMETHING, whether it's fur related, digestion related, energy related, weight related or what not.
That's not surprising, tho.
Just like with humans, for the most part at least (there are ALWAYS exceptions, whether it's pets/animals or humans) the worse food we eat, the worse our health get especially in the long run. It's not rocket science.
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So many ignorant, non-empathetic people here who does not understand the issues at hand.
You clearly don't understand the complexities of mental health issues and addiction.
You don't understand that the police shouldn't have responser at all.
She should have been taken to the hospitals by paramedics.
If only they did that instead, this wouldn't have happened.
By the police responding at all, they're to blame.
She's clearly extremely sick, and her illness is valid.
You wouldn't to that to any other patient. As soon as there's talk about someone struggling with addiction and/or mental illness(es), police respond, regardless if the person is violent or not. When an addict/mentally ill person is violent/erratic, paramedics should've responded with maybe an officer or two for backup if needed to protect the paramedics.
This wasn't a police case in any way, and they shouldn't have responsed and abused their powers. They're not properly trained to handle sick people. She's a patient, not a criminal. Get it in your heads people. You're too ignorant, acting like you know what's up.
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Really, same.. I usually avergae about 10 years older than me, much due to maturity, interests and all. Still, I'm only 23 so a man 10 years older is no problem at all, I'd say.
You know, I'm not 100% sure if I want kids yet. I am 100% sure I don't want kids until at least five years from now. That's still okay and won't cause issues because I'm very well still in a maternal age and will be for probably close to maybe 10-13 years or so. So, say I wanted children as "late" as the age of 33 (to go to the higher age range) and my bf/husband was 10 years older that would still be completely fine. Although we know that for women that our eggs "expire" at certain ages, we also know that men can conceive much longer than that. 43 years of age wouldn't really be problematic.
Right now I'm with someone that is 29. He wants kids one day and like I said I'm not sure yet. Yes, he knows that. That's barely an age gap at all.
So for me and my preferences in men, I think I'm all good.
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It's truly horrible. I've died of an overdose myself, not as a kid but still very young. I was only 20, and I've had several other OD's. The first OD I had I was about 18.
The one where I died tho, that was absolutely terrible. I locked myself in a bathroom in a charity-place where you could sleep, eat and get much more help. I didn't intend to overdose, just to be clear. I only locked the door because I wanted privacy while shooting up heroin. I'd already had a lot to drink, as well as probably around (seriously) 80 rivotril, 10-15 valium and a few xanax. This was usual for me. I was going to sleep, and I took some more heroin than usual (I'd just bought the heroin and wasn't aware of how strong it was), not a lot more heroin than usual but just what you'd call a "sleep dose". I needed extra because I'd taken a lot of amphetamine throughout the day.. it simply ended up being too much of that extremely strong heroin. For all I know it could've been laced with fentanyl, but I'm not sure.
Luckily a few other people notified the staff because they started getting concerned apparantly, so the staff ended up having to kick the door in. They immidiatly started doing extremely good CPR and called the ambulance. All my ribs got broken, so that's how I know they really did good CPR and that it took a lot to get a pulse. Remember this, people. If you're ever in a situation where there's no pulse and you have to do CPR, do NOT hesitate because literally each second is a matter of life or death. Remember that life in exchange for some broken ribs is as worth it as anything can be worth it. When you're doing CPR, the point is to try to "fake" a heart beat. You have to push hard enough, you're not doing it right unless you actually damage the ribs. Just saying. I've been trained several times.
In those situations, you either choose between trying to save someone who's already dead, so you're not ever doing more harm than good when doing CPR. Also remember that you only do CPR when there's no pulse, so make sure you check the neck and wrists if you're uncertain whether the person is simply unconcious or actually DEAD. CPR should only be used when there's no pulse, not when someone's simply unconcious. It' easy to check and see if there's a pulse.
If you're alone and someone has lost their pulse (or if they're unconcious) the first thing you do is call an ambulance. They'll guide you all the way. Call the ambulance and if the pulse is non-existent, do CPR and DO NOT worry about breaking ribs. The person is DEAD. The person's survival rate is way bigger the harder you push, use your body weight to help you. CPR should go in the tune of the song "staying alive", ironically enough. Remember, "ha, ha, ha, ha, staying alive, staying alive".
Hope you all are doing okay, and that you'll never have to do any of this. It's just important to know.
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@Freya1412 That's so lovely. I'm so sorry for your loss.. I'm glad you got the puppy tho. They can truly be life savers, they force you to stay up and going when that's the absolute last thing you want to do, and we're better people for it. For sure. Animals truly love unconditionally, the love and bond many people get with our fur babies is incredible. Not everyone gets it. Those who do get it tho, are so lucky. They truly give us their whole world, we are their whole world, the love they give, as long as we're open and willing to fully recieve it can be incredible, there's nothing like it. I'm glad that puppy came into your life, when you didn't want it. Them needing you like that helps so much when you're as down as you can be.. them needing you, and them giving their all back to you for even just the smallest things is amazing. Literal life savers, for sure. I petsonally wouldn't be here w/o them, and I'm glad that puppy did so much for you, just like you did so much for that puppy. ❤❤
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@j.c985 No. There will always be exceptions, but no. Smoking is WAY better than alcohol and it helps A LOT of people overcoming much harder addictions. Sure, cannabis is a drug but drugs are not inherently bad, as many people like to claim. Sure, you could say that about heroin, meth etc. Not weed tho. It's not for everyone and I would never encourage ANY type of drug to ANYONE unless the situation calls for it, which it sometimes does. Many of my friends have managed quitting or reducing their intake by using weed instead. It's helped many people including myself, a long time drug addict, with my heroin, amphetamine, benzo addiction and many other things.. I've just about done it all. I have had several overdoses, and I've died. I've been homeless for many years combined, I've just about RUINED practically all my veins due to excessive use of needles, the list goes on. I've been stuck at the bottom a scary amount of times, for long times. My family and friends had to start preparing for my FUNERAL, my will and everything. To all of us it was just a matter of time.
Today, I'm on buprenorphine (heroin "blocker" and replacement), anxiety medication and smoke weed. That good cbd hashish. Really relaxes me, helps my PTSD, anxiety, depression, insomnia and physical pains. If I really struggle w/ not using hard drugs and needles, I smoke my brains out and either fall asleep or munch my entire kitchen, laughing at anything and everything. It's all about harm reduction. Many times, almost all of the time it's too big of a goal to quit EVERYTHIG, at least at once. It's obiviously a lot better what I'm doing now than what I did before.
I'm now a board member in an organization for the welfare of drug addicts, with a focus on harm reduction instead of pushing people to sober up. We've found that that (most of the time) has WAY better results. It doesn't matter if you can't quit absolutely everything, the chance of successfull recovery or at least reduction of heavy intake is a lot higher if you not only allow time to take baby steps, not "punishing" yourself if you have a setback, and encouraging people that are really trying instead of knocking them further down if you relapse. Compassion first. If we push people too hard it's way too easy to not feel adequate enough, only pushing you down further, maybe all the way down to no point of return. Compassion and emphathy is crucial. Support is crucial.
Would we rather want heavy addicts smoke some weed or completely ruin not only their own life, but damage the well being of those who care for and love the struggling person? I'd say bring in the weed.
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