Comments by "Ida Larsen" (@idalarsen2540) on "Woman Brings a Vape on Dr. Phil to Help Her Deal With Anxiety" video.

  1. Although the financial part is obvs extremely important, what's even more important is for the child to grow up in a safe and stable enviroment. Letting kids live in whatever kind of chaos is abusive. They notice and understand sooo much more than many people think. They learn their behaviours more by their parents actions, than their words. "If mommy does it, I can do it". "Daddy's hitting mommy, that's what daddy's do".. and so forth. It's so much better for any child to grow up with less money and just "stuff" than "having it all" without any stability, certainty and safety. A child is better off with one parent that loves and cares for them, living in a shelter than living in a big house with one or two parents that pays no attention to them, with parents who fights, both verbally and/or physically, emotionally distant parents etc. The child doesn't care about if they have the best and most toys, the prettiest clothes, high-end food, nice furniture, all of that. That doesn't matter. They're perfectly happy with just the basics. As long as their needs are met and they are and feel loved and safe, having the certainty that no matter what, they have a loving, protecting parent. If possible, sure, having a two-parent household in their own house/apartment, financial security and love and affection from parents who also are loving and affectionate towards each other is ideal, but having that "white picket fence"-dream is just a dream for most people. Although that's what many people want, they simply can't have it. So as long as the kid(s) always comes first and they are secure and properly nurtured, they don't really need more than that. Stability, safety, security, love and care is what matters. Not the money. I'm not saying to go ahead and just get a baby despite being too poor to ensure their safety, health and wellbeing, not at all. Getting your stuff together and knowing that you can take good care of both yourself and your kid(s) should be a priority before getting pregnant. People should never just get a baby and "figure it out" as they go. Not at all, that's extremely irresponsible. You're creating life, after all. I'm just making the important point that money alone will never be good enough on it's own.
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  2.  @daschwarz1649  You have no right to tell other people what to do. You don't know them or their story, nothing. I absolutely agree that you shouldn't smoke in front of your kid(s), due to how exhibiting your (poor) habits in front of them can normalize it and indirectly tell your children that it's okay to smoke, but other than that, there's no issue. It's surely ideal to quit any smoking for anyone, but that's not real life. What's good about vaping is that you're not getting all those extra chemicals found in cigarettes. With vapes, you get the nicotine which is the main/active ingredient in tobacco that is addictive, just not all the rest of it. It's so much better than smoking tobacco. It's better for people to pick up a vape, rather than lighting up a toxic cigarette affecting not only you, but everyone around you. I say this as a long time, heavy smoker myself, who started smoking at 11 y/o, and was addicted by the age og 13. I smoke at least a pack a day. I don't have any kids, so I'm only harming myself and surely my wallet. Cigarettes are hella expensive where I'm from (Norway), and stupidly enough, it's illegal to sell vape oil with nicotine, you can only get oils without nicotine. If I had the option, I would absolutely vape instead. I'm not ready to quit smoking yet, that's my decision and nobody can tell me otherwise.
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  3. Yeah lol he really took that way out of proportion. Ofc both vaping and smoking cigarettes is really, really bad for your health (and surely your wallet), but we all know that. She too. She have the choice to smoke if she wants to, just not in front of her child. Her child didn't consent to that. Her health is getting affected, and she doesn't have any choice in the matter. If parents want to smoke, do it somewhere else, preferrably outside so the smoke doesn't stay indoors. Having your young child right next to you in bed while you're smoking is just straight up terrible and selfish. Just don't do it. Not only with regards to second hand-smoke, but it's also displaying irresponsible behaviour. That's normalizing smoking, indirectly telling your child that smoking is okay. It's not. It's better to vape than use actual cigarettes, but still. It's just not good. I'm a long-time heavy smoker myself, I was addicted by the time I was 13 y/o. When I was young, my father was a smoker (he quit when I was around 10 y/o). He didn't smoke inside that often, but he smoked on the balcony where I always used to follow him, because I liked the smell, lol. My grandparents (father's parents) were heavy smokers as well, and they did not care about where they smoked at all. Me and my brother often went on trips with them, and when we were driving in their small car with only four seats, they smoked the entire time they were driving and barely had the windows open, so the entire car was literally packed with a massive cloud of smoke. This is most likely the reason I started smoking (so damn early as well, I believe my first cigarette was smoked at 11 y/o and it became daily at 13 y/o..). I'm even smoking a cigarette right now as I'm typing this, lol. I started smoking weed as well when I was 14-15 (still do, and I refuse to quit! Weed is good for my soul hahahh, couldn't do without it). So.. yeah. Be careful with what habits you're exhibiting to your kids. Kids won't "do as they say, not as they do". You have the right to harm your own body, but not anyone else's. That's not okay.
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