Comments by "Jim Luebke" (@jimluebke3869) on "The Invisible Women and Female Privilege" video.

To be fair, being picky about exactly which male does the gazing is a good thing. It's almost as if making an effort to find such a man and making a mutually agreeable arrangement with him, then dressing modestly with every other man you meet to disrupt that gaze, has a great deal of value. Imagine a world where such arrangements were common. The arrangement would probably be exclusive, because of the pain caused by something called "infidelity". It would be a great situation to bring children into -- and given enough gazing, that would probably happen as nature takes its course, provided you stop trying not to. If a woman were kind to the man in question, they could build up a lifelong relationship so that he would not only fondly "remember her when" but also have something to appreciate about her when her looks faded.
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@TryMyMartini So how do we get your story to be the one that other women use as a model? It happens yes, but doesn't happen enough.
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The only solution to this is to get married to a good man when you're in your 20s (preferably early 20s). Stay married to him by being kind to him, so when you're 50 you'll have a man around who fondly remembers when you were young and hot. Also, have children in your late 20s / early 30s at the latest, so when you're hitting 50 or so you're looking forward to having grandchildren; paying attention to grandchildren is probably the very best distraction from the idea that other men aren't paying as much attention to you.
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As much a I dislike remakes involving mindless gender-swaps, it seems to me that casting a woman as Ebenezer Scrooge and allowing the story to play out realistically, is exactly the sort of cautionary tale that corporate women need to see. It's up there with "All My Sons" as a reminder of the impact of your decisions and priorities can have.
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@JesusHChrist2000 Our laws should not be made by the most paranoid.
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@marco26gdm Yes. The irony of the culture war between the incels and the Mary Sue fans, is that it will be resolved by a narrative that manages to get them to reconcile and settle down together. We'll have a happy ending eventually, although along the way some villains (male nihilists, and feminist ideologues) will end up suffering awful fates.
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@JesusHChrist2000 Women have control over whether men see any bare skin at all, unless men are the ones dressing the women. Or unless men go everywhere with their eyes closed. Either way, your assertions are out of touch with reality. We're talking about "gazing", the social signals of dress, and whether women feel comfortable or not. Not behavior, that's a different conversation entirely. Women have control over what men (or women, for that matter) see of them by dressing one way or another. I'm surprised that even has to be said, but here we are as a culture thanks to ideologies that are wander off into fantasy.
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@JesusHChrist2000 I'm not talking about a man "losing control" of his behavior. I'm talking about what a man can see and what a woman is showing. If a woman doesn't want men generally seeing her cleavage (for example), she shouldn't wear an outfit that shows her cleavage. You're arguing with a point I'm not trying to make.
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@bibbityboppityboo1206 It's hard to disagree with you there. Society was healthier when modesty was more common than pornography, and we need to get back to that.
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@JesusHChrist2000 It's not that hard to signal to a guy by how you dress, that you're not into being gazed at.
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@JesusHChrist2000 "By how you dress" is the key phrase there. Modestly.
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@sleepyblink I doubt they were as good to their husbands as they claim.
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"These women ask themselves, What's Next?" The cold embrace of the grave, if we're honest.
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@M-S_4321 Yes, feminism wrecked my marriage as well. Fortunately only about 20% of Americans, last I heard, considered themselves "feminists" (and that includes the male variety.) There is still hope; although looking at the dramatic drop-off of birthrates on the Left, they have maybe one generation to go, if we can keep them away from children.
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@therealdoctory-roblox3844 And in basically every society on Earth, including the West, up until very recently. So much for your straw man.
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@joanarc7963 You could not be more wrong. The women I see who are good women, are typically of previous generations. My personal situation happens to involve a 10-year custody fight with a woman who turned out, after 15 years, not to be one of the good ones. (Went from attractive, to extremely unattractive, in terms of her character.) There aren't enough good ones, and the culture encourages the ones who are decent, to go bad.
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@therealdoctory-roblox3844 Doomed? Which side has collapsing birthrates? It's the decaying side of Westernism that's doomed. Traditional families and cultures -- the only people on the globe who are at replacement birthrates -- will survive current fashions. In fact, the obvious demographic collapse just provides that much more evidence confirming us in our beliefs.
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@JesusHChrist2000 No laws should be made by the paranoid.
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@joshk2181 Thank you for the encouragement, but are you a bot?
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