Comments by "Jim Luebke" (@jimluebke3869) on "Why Men u0026 Boys Are Struggling and No One Cares - Dr Warren Farrell" video.

"We do care what's best for the children, but we care about female ideologues more." Disgusting.
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FF: "Why is it taboo to say that children will do less well if they come from a broken home?" He just explained that, Francis. It's because our political (and therefore our legal) system caters to feminist ideologues.
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"That will make single mothers feel inadequate" -- Good. This is the single best thing to do, for children. Single mothers should not be given the benefit of the doubt -- quite the opposite, in fact.
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Why would anyone wish to have a girl right now? Their youth will land right in the middle of the backlash to the present day's nonsense.
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Just goes to show, appeasement doesn't work. Whatever your tone, they're going to come after you. Might as well say it loud, so people will hear.
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@dragonfox2.058 Peacefully, so far. =)
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@dragonfox2.058 The world would be a better place if more people listened, though. It's also a better place when people aren't silent. Not speaking is just as much an obstacle to communication, as not listening. Silence can be such a horrible weapon, too.
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We don't walk away. The legal system actively prevents us from getting equal time.
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@shelleyphilcox4743 Let me first say, I'm deeply sorry if your husband was unfaithful to you. That's an inexcusable betrayal, and that kind of breach of trust leaves scars on a very profound level. I'm the last person who could blame someone for being in a state of confusion, despair, and hostility, after an experience like that. Things are changing, though. Women account for about 80% of divorce filings, even though infidelity is about evenly split between men and women. Men who have been faithful to their wives their whole lives (I'm among them) have found themselves with divorce papers. These are from women who, out of a sense of entitlement, new ideologies, or just an erosion of old-fashioned more's, ignored their children's well-being and all good advice on what's necessary to keep a marriage and family together. Men who fight for equal time with their kids (again, I'm among them) are faced with a legal system that presents obstacle after obstacle. After spending hundreds of thousands on professional fees (remember, $150k is only the average ransom a man has to pay) we still find ourselves shut out of their children's lives. In the midst of this, the system allows "single moms" to keep their children like hostages, and take international vacations (without the kids) with what they collect for child support. (I could not make this up.) All the while, the kids are deprived of the two parents they need to grow up healthy and well-adjusted. As far as I can tell, women are very sensitive to peer pressure and fashion. The current fashion for glorifying single mothers and claiming that they can raise children alone just as well as the kids' mother and father could together, is nothing but toxic. It has to stop.
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C K Just the ones that deliberately destroy men's lives. There aren't as many of those as a lot of people expect. I'm surprised you have ears to hear the sort of thing this man has to say.
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@Vesuya This is also why the Left is bent on destroying traditional charities, and making sure people can't get professional help for their deviances. The more disaffected there are, the more cannon fodder the Left has.
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@shelleyphilcox4743 This is an extremely 70's view of single motherhood. Look at the actual numbers now. Men aren't the ones abandoning their wives and children; it's women who are cutting fathers off, out of spite, greed, or ideology.
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"Women should make sure that their boys' fathers know they are needed, and understand what dad-style parenting is" This will just lead to women pretending to be men. Theoretically it would work, except we're talking about women who have already rejected what's best for their children.
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C K Have you heard what he has to say before?
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FrankieLilyBonetti You know, a simple "Thank you. You're right" could end this cycle of petty bickering.
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FrankieLilyBonetti Does your varied diet include languages? Englishment unable to say "Thank you" in English, historically should learn to say "Yes sir, immediately sir" in German, or Russian. Do you know how to express your obedience and love of your government, in Mandarin?
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@shelleyphilcox4743 Things are working out how they're working out for me and the kids, because the system as it stands now is 100% on her side. I don't see it changing, much, although you never know how many swings of the hammer will break that rock. One strike feels very like another, until it starts to crumble. And things certainly won't change if you never do anything. I hope things work out better for you too. I wish that social norms were strong enough to deter the sort of thing he put you through, and more than that, strong enough to be able to encourage him not to have become the man he became. "Just move on, they aren't worth worrying about anymore"? The h**l of it is, even if we each find someone without all of those flaws, it wouldn't be the kids' other parent, and there's still a wrongness to that in so many ways. As the guy said, step-parents just aren't the same. (And sometimes they're a lot worse; there's some old instincts about that, that just are not helpful.) It would be a better world if people didn't throw away wedding vows so lightly, and if so many other people didn't just shrug at it. Few things in this life cause so much pain; it shocks me that people who flatter themselves that they are compassionate, can be so casual about this cruelty. Well, God bless you and your kids, and may He provide some light in your future to brighten it and lead you to the best way for you.
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Remember back when we could blow off steam by pointing out these foibles and idiosyncrasies, and laugh them off? I miss those days.
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That was always the deal, wasn't it? What's the deal now, though?
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@moondust1992 "The father is usually the one to walk away" That has changed. And in situations where the father emphatically is not walking away, the mother still has a huge amount of power, under our legal system. Our legal system needs to change so that it no longer favors women so dramatically.
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@miriams76 If you want to see Leftist cannon fodder, look at Antefa footsoldiers in street riots in Portland and other US cities. Also look at Project Veritas videos of public school teachers working as Antefa recruiters (with the full knowledge of their school administrators) who have specifically said they were looking for their students to become "martyrs" (his word, not mine) for the Antefa cause.
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@moondust1992 Greed, spite, and control. Child support is based on % of the timeshare. A woman who makes more than a man doesn't get child support unless she has a lot more custodial time, even if the children spend that time in the care of someone other than the mother. The child support money is fungible, and the father is not allowed to raise any objections if the mother uses the money to, say, take international vacations (without the kids). The system incentivizes bad behavior on the part of mothers. This needs to stop.
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@moondust1992 Our society has been de-risking women having kids for a very long time. The risks to men in this situation have only increased. Looking back at what previous generations had to say on the subject -- the war between men and women has been going on for a long, long time. In response, we make our separate peace two by two. We should also look at what previous generations say about what form this peace takes. There's a lot of wisdom in the Book of Common Prayer.
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@moondust1992 The courts (as they stand now) have explicitly rejected the idea that any question should be raised about how the money is spent. I think that a lot of fathers would be happier having more time with the kids. In some cases, fathers have gotten more actual time with the kids (without changing the support payments) simply by allowing the mother to count time the kids are at school as "her" time. That helps resolve some of the resentment the fathers feel from getting the short end of the stick in terms of time with the kids, but it makes a mockery of the idea that the court represents justice at all.
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