Comments by "Jim Luebke" (@jimluebke3869) on "The True Cost of Family Breakdown - Melissa Kearney" video.

  1. You need to make sure your son understands that the only normal and acceptable form of family is a mother, a father, (for life), and their children. DO NOT let him normalize any other sort in his mind, or your grandchildren will suffer like his acquaintance.
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  2. The only thing a child of a two-parent family owes to a child of a single-parent family, is encouragement to form two-parent families of their own.
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  3. "Don't blame the victim" The only victims here are the child -- and the parent that got the divorce papers. We have gone too long, not blaming women. That's why there's such a problem now.
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  4. "We're not blaming single moms" We should, and the problem is that we are not. Women need to take responsibility for their decisions, whether it's getting into trouble with men who aren't worthwhile, or throwing away men who are. If they know they'll be coddled and even celebrated, they'll make bad decisions.
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  5.  @flintfredstone228  You have a point about how rhetorically, a manipulative liar can blow exceptions entirely out of proportion. Why are you siding with manipulative liars? Surrendering to them is no different than siding with them.
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  6.  @sinesaii  If it's not typical, all the more reason to stress that it's normal.
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  7. Stop being afraid of being called "anti-feminist". The feminists are the problem.
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  8.  @flintfredstone228  Why include incredibly rare exceptions, particularly exceptions people have no control over, when discussing norms and rules?
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  9.  @jessaabraham  Women take care of little ones, and they're built for that. Men take care of older ones -- particularly reining in anti-social behavior as the boys grow stronger than their mothers, but also reining in unwise tendencies of daughters to go to find provider / protectors of their own when they show the first signs of maturity. Fathers also have an instinctive interest in the well-being of their own children, in a way that less closely related women (including aunts or cousins) simply don't. The wicked stepmother is an archetype for a reason.
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  10. "You're saying women can't do it as well as men, or they can't do it without a man" -- no, the data is saying that. "I'm not any less of a feminist for saying that" -- you should be. Everyone should be less of whatever "a feminist" is these days, our world would be a better place.
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  11. "The one parent is their best asset, because they are doing all they can" Nonsense. If they were doing all they could, they would have kept their marriage together.
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  12.  @beckee6282  You don't end up with 4 kids unless things are good for a long while. Whoever gave up, is the one at fault.
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  13.  @lwivv9052  When people use the word "privilege", it's a setup to mean it's something that should be taken away in the name of "fairness" and "equity". The fact that we're dealing with that mind-virus right now, is an artifact of political correctness / the euphemistic treadmill. Instead of calling people "poor" (since that was hurtful I guess) we were supposed to call them "underprivileged". That led to people talking about "privilege" as the opposite, and that led to this kind of "Harrison Bergeron" style score-settling we're seeing today.
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  14.  @jessaabraham  Look at data -- kids do better with single dads than with single moms. Look at data -- custody laws are written in women's favor, and fathers seldom get the timeshare they ask for, as women use those laws ruthlessly to their material advantage. I think you're vastly underestimating the role fathers play. "Even in olden times" the sons would be helping bring money in as well, and it would be the fathers teaching them how.
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  15.  @smileyspoon1  The archetype, "girlboss who don't need no man," is already well on its way to a well-deserved villain status.
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  16.  @JamesClark-cg1qk  It's still normal. We need to get back to that -- even the people who didn't experience it for themselves. That's what a "norm" is, and it's why we so urgently need to reject people who reject those norms.
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  17.  @PettyCrow-n9c  A norm is a goal we should all strive for, and exert public pressure to maintain. Pointing out "er, um, people don't do it anymore" is not intelligent; it's being a buffoon. It's confessing that you don't know exactly how harmful any other form of "family" is. You should be ashamed of making the observation without condemning it forcefully.
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  18.  @waynebarrow3245  "What we're doing isn't working!" "Is there anything you're specifically not doing?" "Blaming feminism" "Well, there you go."
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  19.  @windycityliz7711  Curious you should mention that. The ones most prone to think of themselves as victims, think that it's a one way street -- the other way. And never question their own role.
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  20.  @windycityliz7711  Depends on the situation -- what they're doing, what they consider "abuse", etc. See your earlier "two-way street" comment.
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  21.  @windycityliz7711  Depends on the situation, obviously. See your earlier comment, skeptical of one way streets.
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  22.  @ianmiles2505  Didn't you know, if Lefties can find just one instance of their social program working, that justifies all the other lives they destroy in the process?
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