Comments by "Jim Luebke" (@jimluebke3869) on "Louise Perry: The feminist case for marriage | SpectatorTV" video.

  1. This woman is an angel. I wonder, how many proposals does she get in an average month?
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  2.  @chriswatson1698  This is wrong in a number of ways. First, women control 80% of consumer spending. Whether someone has any control over the income is irrelevant, compared to having control over how the money is spent. (Men are happy enough with this arrangement, if their wives make any kind of effort towards that.) Second, in many legal systems, a man paying child support has absolutely no recourse as to how a woman spends that money; she can spend it on international vacations while neglecting the kids for her career, and there's nothing he can do about it. Third, a woman in legal systems like this has no incentive to behave in a way that keeps the marriage and family together. She can be a thoroughly rotten human being and treat her husband horribly, confident that the law will support her if he objects. Fourth, theoretical "earning capacity" depends on a multitude of factors, and is frequently exaggerated. In one case I am extremely familiar with, a man was very unhappy that his wife was committing so much time to her career at the expense of her marriage and family. She ended the marriage, to pursue a more exalted position in a corporate hierarchy. Unfortunately for all involved, her ambitions didn't lead her anywhere; instead of climbing up the corporate ladder, five years after the divorce she was back in the same career position she was five years before the divorce. Aside from the immiseration of several people, the wrecking of three children's home lives, and the enrichment of some therapists and lawyers, nothing was accomplished. Modern social mores wreck lives.
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  3. Easy enough for anyone to avoid having children - it's very well understood how that process works.
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  4.  @chriswatson1698  Sorry, but however you arranged it with you husband, 80% of total household spending decisions are made by women. And, as long as our wives are good to us, most men are completely fine with this arrangement. For larger decisions we like to be included, but we're still not going to pick a house or car our wives are unhappy with. As long as we're sharing personal anecdotes, in my experience, separate accounts lead to divorce. Bad news all around.
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  5.  @ianmiles2505  That's not much of a rational argument.
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  6.  @chriswatson1698  You're right about abstinence being the only guaranteed way to avoid conception, though.
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  7.  @chriswatson1698  Lol, you really think that men approve of all the spending decisions their wives make? What you're saying isn't even close to true, in the vast majority of cases. The average guy will let a number of things pass, although a wise man will never just knuckle under to everything, because eventually there's going to be something he just can't put up with (her cat p**sing on the kitchen table on a daily basis, for instance, or her absolutely refusing to budget for a major new expense like replacing both cars) and if his wife is used to him just going along with everything, they'll have no way of working it out. Nah, that 20% accounts for the input that the guy has on joint decisions. The lion's share of the spending decisions are entirely in most wives' hands. Any successful marriage involves people reaching mutually agreeable plans most of the time. If you want to see that as an absolutely unconscionable infringement, I hope you live in a state that favors men in Family Court, if any of those exist anymore.
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  8.  @jonahtwhale1779  And as long as women treat us decently, we're good with this. Yes, being treated decently does mean not being chained to debts from irresponsible spending, figuring out ways to come to mutual agreement on big-ticket items, and the like. That's just common sense, or should be.
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