Comments by "Voryn Rosethorn" (@vorynrosethorn903) on "Japan's Rise of Unmarried and Childless Women | Birthrate Crisis (ep.4)" video.

  1. Let's be honest, the focus on love is a big part of the issue, it is heavily pushed by advertisers, probably because it sells tat without delivering but really a large part of it is the social conditions and norms which allow two people to make a relationship work as well as the kids. Relationships are something that must be built or maintained, but like everything our society seems to tell use we can buy, neglect or abandon them at will with no real consequences or responsibility, really it is to the point of saying we should and holding moral evil as a moral good. People need to have less options frankly, if you say some bullshit about falling out of love when you have children then frankly you need to grow up and stop being self-centred, you are not the centre of the relationship, your children are. There are unhealthy relationships but to often they are such by lack of effort and a sense of entitlement rather than anything more irreconcilable. As for getting into a relationship working out what you want is fine, if they don't want that then right there you have saved years of potentially dancing around it. To be fair relationships aren't about self-actualisation, that just comes about once you get into a rhythm, they are about children, all the rest is a later product largely out of very Christian concepts about consent and the enjoining of humans into one flesh (and yes that is most certainly a reference to the literal as well as the spiritual), unless you are counting political alliance, which is ancient by probably not terribly relevant. The main issue today is that the culture and legal framework is not accommodating of marriage, there is a rampant individualism, almost to the point of farce, and an overreliance on taking from the state without acknowledging that costs are a universal and people will be needed in the next generation to support you no matter what. It is best that the obligation is relational as frankly in current conditions it is a race between the finance departments and the younger generation to scrap pensions. People are happy to look after their own, but an old market principle the Soviets proved is being unearthed, farmers will let the cities starve if they don't get paid, and young people will prefer not to work than to have all of their money taken towards people too irresponsible to have children of their own.
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