Comments by "Eli Nope" (@elinope4745) on "VICE Asia" channel.

Men on average are self sufficient, so extras aren't a net negative.
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Demand too much from a potential partner while not offering enough of things that they value. There are lots of women like this in China.
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@nachgeben I think you are ignoring the looks department. If a 40 year old woman wearing no makeup looked like an 18 year old woman, than she would have way more men chasing her than common 40 year old women do.
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@conacal rubdurA lot of times school doesn't teach how to think, instead it serves as a tool of the leaders to tell people WHAT to think. In places like that, it is better to not go to school and instead use that time to learn something that will be useful to you.
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There are more mosquitoes than humans, why isn't your house full of them? Not all mosquitoes or women are desirable.
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They are great for lesbians who love masculine women.
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Show me a beautiful girl who is dating or married to a man who is not chased by any other women, and I will show you a woman who is the boss of her own life as well as that of her boyfriends or husbands.
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@ami.2711 People who have had many close relationships in the past are more likely to divorce in the future. So it is best when two people who marry are young and inexperienced. They must be young so they still have room to grow together. That allows them to have the same wavelength as you put it. If they grow up dating many people they have spasmatic wavelengths that don't match anyone. Dating many people, then settling with one is cheating the one you settled for. You are less of a person after having had so many close connections to others. "The first cut is the deepest". And its not settling with some guy to raise "his" children, it is growing together with the person that they will love and cherish, who will love and cherish them and raising "their" children.
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@ami.2711 If they cannot adjust with their partner one of three things is true. Them or their partner is incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship. Or they weren't young enough when they got together. Shared tragedies bring people closer together. It is weathering the storm that makes people close.
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@ami.2711 Depends on the person and the situation. In a perfect world they marry at puberty.
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@ami.2711 in my 40's never married and dating a young woman half my age. I would be screwing her over if I wasn't prepping her to leave me and be stable on her own, but I'm a decent person. She's better off for having me in her life. And yeah, not young enough. If they married when they were 12 to 14 then lived together raised by one of their parents so that they grow up and struggle together, that would be MUCH better for them. Not all cultures require sex early in the marriage.
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@ami.2711 Yes you are right. In my case I found a young woman who does not like her culture and wishes to leave her country. She is having a difficult time leaving her country. She is using me to get to another country where presumably she will leave me for a younger man. I am using her, she is using me, we both benefit from the relationship. I treat her better than a traditional husband from her culture would treat her.
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@ami.2711 Oh, in case you thought otherwise, I have discussed these things with her. She knows that she is expected to look for a better man to marry, I know that I have to help her save up money to leave the country as well as help her gain the skills required to get gainful employment in a western country of her choosing. Right now I am in my country and she in hers, I have to attend a wedding of one of my friends (ironically considering this conversation). We both know that this is temporary and not good for her future relationships. It ends up, the world isn't perfect and neither is she or I
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@ami.2711 She would be if she kept to her own culture and married someone from her country. But she has made it very clear that she does not intend to do that and would prefer to stay single over doing so. I will be sending her to a western country, where men, sadly, can't have such high expectations of women.
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@ami.2711 In a perfect world. Count the number of people you know who married at puberty. In all of my friends and acquaintance groups I know approximately 2, and I have friends in many states and a few countries. Both of them are now over 60 years old. I also think in a perfect world people would skip out on unhealthy food, grow their own vegetable gardens and eat healthy as well as exercise. My gym membership expired and I drink too much beer. I didn't claim to be perfect or even close to perfect. I am decent, and that is better than most.
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The real "problem" is that they are right.
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