Comments by "Kathy Bramley" (@kathybramley5609) on "HealthyGamerGG"
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Some myths it seems like about mentalising . Scale, or the moment vs distanced observation is a big thing. For me. AuDHD diagnosed as first autistic and then ADHD in my forties in the last few years. As a teen I got praise for the maturity of my insight in English Literature. I watched too much TV (moderate severe inattentive/distractible) and researched the emotions of others and the politics of difference. But when my mum and dad bought me a TV for Christmas I was upset in the moment as if my parents were fed up of shouting across at me for my attention and upsetting me, so we're trying to take me out the way to my room, lock me in there with my attention problems. A rejection I was sensitive to. I mean it didn't work like that because my parents just thought I liked TV and it was a big present and of course you are supposed to be grateful and it was a surprise for them though that doesn't neccesarily have to trump all personal feelings but yeah, I wasn't accurately reading the intention in the moment because I was triggered regarding a sense of isolation & general frustration with sensory and attention issues and conflict related to it. Part of that was my mum (probably not NT) had the TV on all the time as a comfort thing but in the open plan downstairs main living area and next to the fire in a house without any central heating - so it was difficult, sensory overload. I spent a lot of time at the local recreation ground or outside in our back garden. I didn't spend a lot of time in my room in winter except for trying to do school work or just cold but a bit dreamy . But I wanted to be part of the social hub of the family and things that were going on. It was just a bit overwhelming and a conflict of sensory needs between me and my mother.
So there was this difference between the reflective empathy and the triggered empathy. And empathy is complicated but I think as well as the power of screens in general I do often find other people's emotions quite flooding and painful - especially given all the confectionary of editing, music and so-on, the violins. So that's part of why the TV was both engaging and stressful. The heightened emotions went together, brought to the surface with the pressures of Christmas. Have you heard of the study about mirror neurons about pain firing more painfully in autistics? In contravention of some theories - affective empathy and physiological response was actually stringer. Then there's Damian Milton's double-empathy problem theory and the story telling study that shows between verbal autistics communication is similarly effective than between allistics but struggling in an alternating line - in that latter scenario much less detail got from one end of chain to the other. Leads me to think all the social frustration and communication barriers and the knock on effects of it all are what cause a lot of the problems. It's not all in NTs heads but there is definitely some frustrating kind of shared responsibility: if they're so "good" at communicating why can't they bridge the gap!? It seems that the deficit is just as much in them but it's majority wins rather than solid empirical evidence.
I thank you for your overall interest. But I'm not sure you're where I'd want you to be - a lot of ick and cringe- getting into what you were saying about disorders Vs differences, not to mention the terminology debates of person first language or identity first language, functioning. There's a discussion about stereotypes about function - bias exaggerating the lack of function in less verbal or lower IQ, how much these are conflated unjustly and again how much these are comorbidities - there are various kinds of speech production disorder and language issues as well as other different kinds of specific cognitive issues that can take their part for a person's presentation- and perception of function level and ability to access & function in society with some reference to the social model of disability being worthwhile here, it can be about the comorbid disorders (in the perception of function) rather than the severity of the autism itself.
I know there's studies suggesting that people with lower IQ have less executive function problems and mental health problems.
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