Comments by "Allison James" (@allisonjames2923) on "Why You Shut Down Sometimes" video.

  1. …/hug. I know exactly how you feel! Perfectionism is such a hard taskmaster, especially since there’s no real reward at the end of a task, just berating oneself over perceived flaws or at best, thinking “ok. That’s done & went all right. What’s next?” with no real sense of accomplishment. No time to savour the moment & take pride in an achievement.
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  2.  @cecileroy557  That’s a great idea. So sad for you that your husband died. Life really sux sometimes …/hug
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  3. It’s incredible how much your world shrinks when you’re in this kind of shutdown mode. I live in a lovely beachside town, in a 2 br house with a garden & I work for the ambulance … but my world has basically shrunk to one side of my bed except when I force myself to go to work or go to the shops. And within this tiny space, I spend so much time criticising myself, being disappointed in myself & angry that I’m finding it so hard to do anything, that it’s a pretty uncomfortable place to be. I know I feel better when I achieve something - anything. There are loads of things I want to do, before I even think of looking at my long list of things I have to do. Things I know I’ll enjoy. Yet it still feels so horrendously overwhelming to start doing any of them. I wish it was easier to turn my brain’s habit of berating me towards appreciating me & encouraging me. But I need something to change. So the first thing I’ll celebrate is that I watched this video & applaud myself for that, even if it feels a bit silly. But it’s the first step to seeing my way out of this dark lonely, tiny hole. I will celebrate that I reached out to other people, including you, to let you know that none of us are alone even if we feel that way. I truly do understand how you’re feeling if you feel this way. It’s not everything I want to achieve by any means. But for now, it’s enough. Sending you warm hugs & hoping you find your way out of this frozen wasteland too 😊
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  4. The amygdala is a “we” because it’s the overall boss of everything in the body for life & death type responses - the General in charge of our brain, muscles, nerves, organs etc & it takes a collaborative approach. It is a lot to coordinate & boss around, especially when there are so many stressors that we deal with every day, most of which are a lot more subtle than the velociraptor, saber tooth tiger, swooping magpie/plover variety 🤷‍♀️ I bet it wishes it wasn’t permanently on call & could take a vacation every now & then 🤔😁
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