Comments by "Xyz Same" (@xyzsame4081) on "The Take" channel.

  1. You could check out the channel of Dr. Ramani a psychologist that specializes in narcissism. the word is thrown around a lot - but there is a clinical definition and most true narcs will gaslight as part of their behavior / tactics. You likely will find relief in hearing and understanding the phenomen and how it plays out in relationships. Many state their relief in the comment section that they now understand and feel validated - a comment section which is uncommonly polite, helpful and supportive for youtube ;) Normally a cheating husband would feel guilty so if he is so easily able to go into attack or manipulation mode, there is a chance he is a narc or has strong narcissistic tendencies.
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  2. Another point that I picked up from Dr. John Delony. Most partners of a cheating (ex)spouse will question their ability to judge reality. Even if the cheating partner does not gaslight but just tries to pull it off secretly, and is remorseful, etc. The cheated on partner does not only need to rebuild trust with the spouse (if they try to work it out) they also need to regain trust in themselves. And that is under better conditions with a partner that is not manipulative. Again the information of Dr. Ramani could help you with that.
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  3. You could check out the channel of Dr. Ramani a psychologist that specializes in narcissism. Most true narcs will gaslight as part of their behavior / tactics. 8 years sound like it. You likely will find relief in hearing and understanding the phenomen and how it plays out in relationships and what she recommends for recovery. Many state their relief in the comment section that they now understand and feel validated It also would set you up to sniff out narcs in future relationships right in the dating phase. (or recognize them in your family of origin, or in the workplace). Was your ex husband in the beginning very charming, did he rush the relationship ? Was it very "romantic" like in the movies - almost too good to be true ? Did everyone think what a charming husband you had - but (after some time when the honeymoon phase ended) he was a different person when you were with friends, family or in public compared to when you were alone with him ?
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  4. You could check out the channel of Dr. Ramani a psychologist that specializes in narcissism. Most true narcs will gaslight as part of their behavior / tactics. Many victims state their relief in the comment section that they now understand and feel validated It also would set you up to sniff out narcs in future relationships right in the dating phase. Or recognize them in your family of origin, or in the workplace. It is especially toxic when parents (normally one parent) do it to children and sadly it sets the victims up to fall for a narc as partner later. In the beginning of a relationship narcs are often very charming, they rush the relationship. Very "romantic" like in the movies - almost too good to be true. And then the gaslighting starts: everyone thinks what a charming partner the narc is, how lucky you are - but (after some time when the honeymoon phase ends ) he or she is a different person when you are with friends, family or in public compared to when you are alone with them.
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