Comments by "Xyz Same" (@xyzsame4081) on "Dr. Phil" channel.

  1.  Kelly Day  If you cannot wear a mask, you can wear a clear visor. - if you have any health condition, you should preferably avoid shops, (hang in there maybe they come up with a vaccine or treatment drug soon). I think you would find people willing to help out. With asthma you cannot afford to get infected, it could hit you much harder. And / or additionally to a visor, you can wear a sign in your cart "Thank YOU for wearing a mask, you protect people like me who cannot wear one." An anti-masker would not do that they are all about their fREedOm. That is how one would recognize those who are not just entitled suburban folks with too much time, no purpose in life, and a gusto for causing scenes and being oppositional.
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  2. That man is a narcissist, if your father is one too "winning" is the most important thing. - Better drop a few words in advance to your superiors and your collegues (if you have a good contact to them). Nothing specific (like my father and his mistress, and we had a spat about this or that, you should not drag them into that). Along the lines of: "My father may have a personalitly disorder, we had a conflict related to the marriage of my parents - and he recently threatened to contact my employer and get me fired. Just in case he makes good on that, so that you know to cut him short." I am disappointed that my father even says such a thing - about harming me that way - I value may job here ....  (some fluff to sugar coat it for collegues or management) .... you would have the PR advantage - the person that gets to present their case first, is more believed. And you make sure they will remember how outrageous it is that a parent would do such a thing (or even how immature it is to even threatne that). It is a good idea to think in advance what you will say and to rehearse it. So you come across as professional, mature and discreet (I would very much prefer to not go into details, I would not bother you except for fear it could impact my job negatively). If YOU tell them they will think: WHICH kind of father would want to get their child fired from a job If he calls them: companies can get annoyed (the strategy is to cut him off when he is on the phone) and to hand over messages. That would also be important, because if he is stupid enough to produce a paper trail, you want your company to hand over evidence. If he tries to poison your co workers relationship - if you warned them you will immunize them to a degree. (Else it can be: Wow, she/he must realy bad if even the father .... No, not even if the child misbehaves a lot would a mature parent want them to lose their job as revenge).
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  3. No wonder his photo was used. He looks like a nice man. And he IS a nice man. Showing compassion and apologizing because his identity was misued. A gentleman.
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  4. She calmly exposed her daughters to all of that. Likely for YEARS. Kids suffer if they have to watch a parent / sibling being abused. She is co-dependent. I wonder how earns the money in that household. She has a job and clearly he also expects her to to all the chores. (or she and the daughters).
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  5. She even feared the man would stab her, he was sooooo aggressive (his stance) - so she stayed in close proximity and escalated by shouting.
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  6. And after WW2 black veterans thought they could wear their medals.
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  7. The new woman steps up to mother the boy, and the ex has defamed her fiance for molesting the child. Plus she is of course in the middle of all the drama, and supports her man. She may like the role of the good one, but she is earning it ! I guess if the mother would be reasonable the step mum would not undermine the relationship.
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  8. Yes, because keeping children safe (30 per class) when case numbers are high in the general population works especially well with the little ones !
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  9. @shifstar yes she even feared to be stabbed, so she stayed there and started shounting. people scared for their life do that all the time
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  10. What kind of nonsense is that ? Children must stay home for let's say 6 months until we have a vaccine. O.K. let's make that 12 months if we have the vaccine for sure and can produce it for all. At most people with a life expectancy of 80 years will miss one year. Not even that. Remove stress from the parents, pay them to be at home and over programs to teach them to read or do simple calculations. And lots of games. All of that could be developed.
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  11. Well - she was generous - they couple took the trainwreck of mother in when she had nowhere to stay. (Other women would not allow the ex of her fiance to live with them !) Then the ex helped herself to the wardrobe of her hostess, allegedly did not help with chores, once used her credit card and paid with it (methinks that was a test but she was busted, so she did not repeat that). only 24 USD - but with her history or doing drugs ... - the ex says she had taken the card / stored the number because of a quarrel, that it showed up as one of the payment options, and "by mistake" she used it to pay for an uber. HOW do you "happen" to store the credit card number of the fiance of your former boyfriend - that is also your hostess ? (or was it when you were down). And what has taking the card / storing the number to do with having a fight - a fight they only had because they had taken her in. I am pretty sure it was not like THEY owed her money, never mind you cannot just use the credit card of another person. I guess the mooching mother is smart enough to realize that they would sue her and she could get into trouble for fraud, if she would use the card more. Maybe she found out that this lady has her act together, and does monitor her credit card expenditures. Maybe the Uber payment was a test. She would have made a lot ot mistakes and I guess she would betted on it that her ex does not want to see the mother of his child in jail.
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  12. If the father is a narcissist - they can be very convincing. I recommend the youtube channel of Dr. Ramani. For instance about "Flying Monkeys".
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  13. note the cap he is wearing. I assume he has now a position (paid or unpaid) of authority in religion. so he tries to defend his reputation and the life he was able to build for himself (because he - being at least a low level criminal - was able to get off with a lighter sentence for sacrificing his sister. Wrong testimony is also a crime for Muslim (I am going after the name), and framing a close family member does not make it any better. I assume there was some talk and true to narcissist form, he thought he could bully his way through the show and "clear his good name". No contact with the sister gives it away (he could have written letters). I wonder if he also ignored his nices and nephews. The usual story: the police / prosecutors pevert justice by offering lighter sentences if he turns in someone else. In that case someone else was his sister and mother of 5 children. She may have never have done anything criminal in her life - but he has some troubles and that was his cheap way out. and true to form (I think he is a bully) he tries now to gaslight and talk over other people. He was foolish to even appear on TV, it did not help him - but people like that do not always make correct assessments about how other people feel (if you walk over others you are not good in realizing how other people feel about certain things. That can come to haunt a narcissist - I think he is one, not only a coward, he is a narc that still tries to deceive people, he could have simply gone under the radar if he did it out of weakness.
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  14. Bravo ! - the kids are likely getting more attention from you and have a higher chance of learning. I hope it all works out well. (did not understand your sentence with M & T, and the rest of the sentence)
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  15.  Rachel P  slight correction Sweden is the among the worst for a first world country - all other nations that did badly have also conditions that make it harder to contain spread - and the U.S. is just about to overtake the U.K. to become one of the first world countries with the worst outcomes.
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  16. She is a goal post changer and uses right wing talking points. She seems to be opinionated on a LOT of things but not coming from nuance or information. Well, many young and old people are, but she choses to search out controversial topics. You better be right if you chose to be blunt and very opinionated.
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  17.  @khwisco6112  you are correct and as the one teacher pointed out it is the governments job to fix THAT problem (bailing out the parents, so they can afford to stay home). If schools are officially NOT reopened (as would be appropriate in a country with so many infections), the government would be forced to do something about it. They want people pressured back to work, school is the babysitter, and the ruling class couldn't care less if the underlings or the teachers die. And they always find some sycophants. If the Special ed teacher REALLY cared she missed out on one imprtant argument: that some parents cannot cope with difficult kids at home all the time (it is an argument). Interestingly she did not bring that up. One commenter mentioned the nails of the teacher (special ed, I have to check that out. because if you really work with the kidst that is not compatitble with manicured nails).
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  18.  Testa Rossa  They are fairly young, the father picked well with his second choice. also well for his son.
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  19.  Rachel P  most countries that were hit hard have some characeristics. very large cities, a lot of international travel (in spring), in Europe: the country is in the South, or Center (as opposed to Northern Europe that was hit later - that gave them time to learn from Italy, France, Spain, ... With Finland and Norway used well, see their very low death numbers). The U.S. has a major challenge with the huge cities, and lots of international travel. The half baked, inconsistent, erratic, head-in-the-sand, every-state-is-on-its-own repsonse made things worse. To a lesser degree all of that applies to the U.K. Only that most of the U.K. is densely populated, while there ARE large rural areas in the U.S. that naturally fared better in spring, in the first phase of the pandemic. The U.K. had also a the denial phase in spring, and it cost the U.K. dearly. (Their Boris Johnson is not quite as idiotic, maybe it helped that he was reckless in his disregard of social distancing rules, and caught the virus early on ). Only the U.S is STILL in the first phase, the graph for the other countries for deaths per million is a (often steep sometimes very steep) increase and then the graph flattens. after 3 weeks or after 6 weeks if they were hit hard. Lucky countries had a modest increase, the unlucky ones have a steep one and it is drawn out - but by the end of June even blundering U.K. had gotten a grip on the situation. Only the U.S. graph is VERY different. It is a 45 degree line since spring. No sign whatsover of any flattening, it continues to rise. I always forget the high numbers of Belgium (11 million people approx.) I guess a LOT of international travel to the center of the EU was a major factor, they got it early, too. Another factor Belgium and also France and Luxembourg also count people that are suspected to have died from CoVid-19. They have the numbers under control, they got most of their deaths in spring when testing capacities were not sufficient. There is a standard to find out the "additional deats" they to compare the number of people that have died in 2020 with 2019 or 2018. We will have to wait if Belgium fares better in that regard (which would indicate that the different way to count the deaths play a role, they overcounted or the other nations undercounted).
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  20. On a side note: it is not your place to confront you father about affairs. Or to defend your mother in that regard. It is her job to confront her husband, and it is her decision to handle that, so stay with him or to allow him to use her as doormat. And keep you out of that so that you can continue to have a halfway decent relationship. No matter what happend between the two of you. Thing is: she SHOULD encourage you to have a good relationship. If you confronted him you are at least a teenager or an adult. Hard as it is - the relationship between the parent and the children does NOT involve taking sides or having to "defend" either of them. It is a sick and damaging dynamic. You have 50 % of the DNA of your father, your mother should not need you to turn against a part of yourself so to speak. And as disappointed as you may be in your father, he does not owe you to have a romantic or faithful relationship with your mother or any other person. He owes you fatherhood. The person that is more victimized (and willing to go along with that and exposing the children to that) is often not mature enough to keep the children out of the man/wife relationship. They are glad to have a "support team". Their support team can be their parents and friends, not the children, not even if you are already middle aged and mature yourself.
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  21.  @Ambear_  a psychopath would not have confessed to his step mother.
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  22. Masks do not work so well especially if laypersons wear them (they tend to wear them with a more sloppy fit even more so than medical staff). BUT even if masks "only" reduce the infection rates by maybe 10 or 20 % - that is nothing to sneer on - considering we have no other highly effective options. That would be 1) a safe well working vaccine (it gives sufficient immunity to most that get the shot, and the protetions lasts for some time) and 2) as a second best - treatment drugs that work really well. Shortening or avoiding hospital stays, much fewer cases for the ICU or deaths. Plasma therapy is a start, it helps in 30 % of the cases (or is suited fro them) and there it works really well. That effecitvity of masks is just my estimate (reading a little into studies where they tried to simulate the protection with a good fit and a lose fit - with some test installation). I would be very surprised if it would be over 30 %, to be honest. We do not have the good options 1) or 2), so we have to make do with imperfect measures. Like handwashing, masks, social distancing, a cooperating population, and strategic testing. Unfortunately also hindering certain businesses because they are hubs. In Austria, Germany, France ..... it helps that people get paid sick leave (has been like that for decades, and in Austria it is pointless to fire such a person, because the employer has to pay their salary until the are declared healthy even if the contract has expired. Small business can get an insurance to cover that risk (having to pay sick leave) and they get a good deal from the single payer agency. People do not have to fear medical bills - services free at the point of delivery. That coverage is also not lost if a person applies for unemployment benefits, and they get it then for free and it is very easy. As soon as a person signs the application, they are automatically covered. Same agency, same coverage and insurance card as before and of course still including automatically all dependent family members Single payer coverage costs 3,8 % of wage (max USD 2,200 per year, employers must match that) - but it is free for the unemployed. Necessary testing (when a person has symptoms) is free. The testing required for travel has to be paid - maybe 160 bucks per test. It is often a negative test or mandatory quarantine for travellers. So people are more likely to get tested if in doubt, to go to the doctor, and to stay at home, instead of taking a gamble. If THEY are young and healthy and cannot afford to miss out on their wage if they have no paid sick leave, they have an incentive to take a gamble. Testing is available and it is free as well. Testing costs for a family could be a burden, think 4 x 160 bucks. Lower income families had good reasons to spend their holidays within the country this summer.
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  23. No need to imagine that. That kind of abuse is imposed by both genders. Severe physical violence against the spouse is MUCH more often done by males. (The stats are misleading, because "violence against a partner" can be a slap in the face - or a deadly or almost deadly attack. Never mind the stats of attacks on an ex). Men also lead when it comes to the assaults and the form of retalation after the wife left. Females that are really out for revenge might engage in telephone terror or have a phone campaign to get him or a new parnter fired from their job or have a smear campaign online. Males that are intent ! on retaliating severely harm or kill the ex. And / or her new partner, her family members, the common children, .... Especially if it is about severe physical abuse or killing the partner - men lead by a wide margin. This is not to say that this woman does not inflict a LOT of harm on her husband and child (or children). But it is not likley that she would go after him (or the children) and kill him once he is able / willing to get a divorce. She likely might do other unpleasant things (like online bullying), but not attempt to murder him.
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  24. Gives daughter 150 USD per week and knows it goes towards her addiction. Ex wife suggested he sends her the money so she can spend it directly on the daughter (because she is nearby). But: Some of the money would have gone towards his ex wife (the 2nd wife is eager to support that claim). - Heaven forbid HIS EX and mother of his daughter would use some of the money for herself, it is much better if it goes towards the dealer. Of course one could have a cordial agreement that the ex would give a (loose) account of what she spends money on. He literally would rather give it to the addicted daughter than his sober ex. No, wonder the daughter is having issues. And the stepmother is no better.
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  25.  Rachel P  870 Belgium - that means deaths by corona virus per million residents 642 Spain / 627 UK / 590 Italy / 574 Sweden / 460 France. The U.S. is just aiming for the 600 mark (597 according to the stats per Sep 16, 2020), the U.S. is bound to overtake U.K.and Spain in the next week. Many European countries are in the double digit range even, also Sweden's neighbours Finland, Norway that have very comparable conditions to Sweden. Or Austria, Hungary, Poland, ... Or Germany with 113 deaths per million residents, Denmark is in that range too. Some countries are in the 200 - 300 range, but the bad ones are listed above.
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  26.  @jelkin5678  she responds to protests on police brutality (on law abiding citizens btw, or petty offenders) with "look over there". She has not even the insight how destructive it is when police is not trusted in a society. Never mind the law, the constitution, fairness.
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  27.  @jelkin5678  Imagine there is a fundraiser for cancer - and you go there and you make a point to announce loudly "there is other diseases too, so why don't we / you fix those before ?". What is the point in that context of making that comment. Yes there are other diseases and other things beyong disease that affect people negatively. So what is the point of showing up to the cancer fundraiser and giving that message. It is to minmize it, deflect from it.
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  28. Her Whataboutism shows the Republican dog whistler, that uncritically repeats the right wing talking point. A community can be fixed be fixed but there is no cure for a corrupt to the core police force (see New York and Serpico the cop that turned whistle blower, nothing has changed). * jobs, schools, after school activites, - some bottom up, some top down especially money, but also fix of the attitude. Think the propaganda against poor black crack users versus the opiode / heroin epidemic that is now in the white community. The framing is much more empathetic. NOW it is discovered that drug addiction should be treated as a disease not as a crime. See the approach of Portugal that was wildly successful.
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  29. All efforts to fix the community will be for naught if the local police has their own agenda to entrap low income people in fines, even jail time if they cannot pay the fines, if they do unconstitutional frisk and stop. It was utterly useless they did not find drugs or weapons in New York (hardly any). So WHY did they continue to do it when it was such a waste of money and resources ? Police likes to do that. Easy job, it is not dangerous. Mindset. Deeply racist but also against poor people. Politicians in large cities collude with the real estate "developers" that means a lot of working poor, as rent shoots up when normal people are priced out of the "market". If you have many disaffected people you need the police to "police" them and to show them their place. Stop and frisk did not add to safety - that was never the reason it was done. It was signalling to the wealthy people, those that vote and are doing O.K., well or very, very well. That "those other, poor people" were kept down and shown their place. Damn relations with the community (which would be important for real crime reduction - that the population trusts the police - that could help against REAL crime, the gangs). That was not the goal in the times of Serpico. Then politicians and police chief did some grandstanding, too. Meanwhile the parents in the poor areas (that could not afford to move away) knew what was really going on. Poor parents had no way to protect their teeangers from the gangs, and the police was not helping. On the contrary ! That the police colluded with the gangs, and drug dealers, that they would NEVER touch the big guys (police delivering hints to the FBI and the DEA so that the big guys could take over). That they extorted protection money from small businesses. Police in Chicago had BLACK SITES to torture suspects.
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  30. It is bad enought when criminals are criminals. But the POLICE given special powers by society acting like a criminal gang and as if they are above the law ?? That is another level of dysfunction. You cannot compare normal crime with criminal police and police violence, it is even more destructive to society. Of course it is likely that this girl grew up in a nice neighbourhood so police behaves themselves when they show up there. The bullies and thugs in blue are going after the easy targets. They do not act out in areas where people live that have a megaphone and often there are lawyers in the areea. The police acts out in low income areas, and cities that have been devastated because industry got all the help they needed by greedy politicans to outsource jobs).
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  31. "I was able to create fake news for four days [cocaine helps against corona virus] I was on Fox News on mainstream media." Honey, Faux Infotainement is NOT NEWS, they define themselves as entertainment (and that ludicrous clickbait story certainly fit the mould), they settled that during a law suit (so they do not have the burden of telling the truth, when it can be proven that they know better). I assume she wasn't on the other networks, obvioulsy no one in their right mind and into fact checking run with that. (the whole thing escaped my notice in March). Else Fox (I mean the Murdoch wing, not the part of Fox that belongs to Disney) would be responsible for wrong info they present (intentionally misleading) or could not fire employees that are hired for an "invesitgative" format. Those fools really thought they could bring factual info against Monsanto and another big company (read: advertisers). They were of course fired, and tried to sue against it. Well if is all entertainment than their lawsuit has no basis. Obviously they are not entitled to have a factual documentary aired just becaus Faux announced to the audience that was the whole point of the format (investigative journalism).
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  32. Good for you, it sounds like you broke the cycle. (You might find the book of Robin Norwood helpful or interesing: Women that love too much Helpful to understand the behavior of you mother, and the effects of that childhood might still play out in your life. Insight can support a healthy distance . It is a classic, a library should have it.
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  33. They have a baby together so this is going on for a while. She may be in for the money and a provider. And the daughter will have to move on. That woman former (close) friend may become her stepmother ;)
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  34. And the mother has to come to grips with the fact that she exposed the children to that, so that may be the reason that she willingly made the children comply with visitation.
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  35. With HIGH GROWTH RATES (easy spread) there is no middle ground. Either very low danger - or out of control. It is a fragile balance, there is such a thing as a point of no return. Even only 10 or 20 % prevented cases (on an ongoing base) can make or break containment.
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  36. No - she gave him the hammer, gave him the container for the gerbil (where the animal could not escape the blows). Plenty of opportunities to back down if that was just a stupid threat. that woman is a psychopath. She doesn't deserve her son to feel bad for her - but that is how children roll (on a deeper level).
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  37.  Rachel P  No intent of spamming you (I tried to provide relevant information), but reacting to your comment. I think everyone in the thread gets the info, too so they can read it if they want to. - . If you find it irrelevant, just ignore. However, if you debate the people that are (willfully) ignorant or misleading, it would be a good idea that your claims are correct (even if that is about details). And I think my comments also point out the unique situation in the U.S.
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  38. No the U.S. is at 195,342 deaths already (confirmed deaths as per Sep 16,2020). It will be more than 200,000 within 10 days. (Unless you meant 200,000 in 2020 SO FAR ..) with the push for open schools that will considerably accelerate. In Europe they paid the price for summer tourism (open to have some biz), numbers slowly crept up, it looked good in July and till mid August. Now summer tourism is over - since the first week of September it is back to school, I think that plays a role, that could become the second wave in manyEuropean countries, I am not sure they can contain it at that point ... It does not look good.
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  39.  Tough Bickies  if you watch TV or read the newspapers since WW2 (just to define a random point of time) you have been brainwashed from the time you were little with the narrative. Likely not explicitely in words (that is not necessary). You have to look like PR / marketing works.
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  40.  Tough Bickies  Have you ever wondered how they train little girls to prefer pink/blush (by a wide margin). a) it is genetic (but the genetic factor in girls and boys (who avoid the color) for some weird reason only manifested in the last 60 - 70 years b) there is an intense education _deliberate, conscious _effort by parents or childcare wokers, and family to teach girls to like the color and to teach boys it is not for them - they must of course also be trained - how would you else explain the pronounced like / dislike per gender. c) .... there is some other highly effective brainwashing going on - widely unnoticed by the population. not completey secretive, but people are so used to it that they do not even notice. Like a fish in water. Hidden in plain sight. And that mechanisms also works on parents, grandparents and anyone giving children (boys or girls) gifts and clothes in a certain color (and avoid others). And it is highly effective because it is so inconspicuous and no one is openly forced. Because it seems to be a matter of choice. See the answer to the riddle in the next comment.
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  41.  @koo-core7274  She made this racist points some time ago. (seems like she comments on a LOT of things. more opinionated than nuanced, logical and well informed. good Trump material. It seems she is that too. Wel that was not hard to guess). And after she got backlash now (and no doubt qualified nuanced comments when she originally posted) she STILL stands by them. She is a prejudiced racist. The crown was taken from her because she can bring the event and competition into disrepute.
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  42. The U.S. "justice" system at it again. That is why police brutality is not prosecuted. Prosecutors and police (and public defenders !) collude to get a lot of successful convictions. Never mind if they even get the murderer or not. The conviction rate matters. And of course the easy targets are low income people, the other defendants (innocent or not) would have lawyered up. A good attorney would have torn brother and police apart in the trial. That excuse for a public defender KNEW who the "smocking gun witness" was (after 16 ! years), he must have know or the convictions could have been overturned on formal grounds. but the public defender CHOSE not to tell her who the witness was ? In other words: the defender COLLUDES with prosecutors. They have no interest in winning those cases, they just want to get over with it and go through the motions.
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  43. completely naive regarding stranger danger - but an IT whizz .... Does not compute with me !
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  44.  Castiel Arc7  if it is O.K. to force her to take the test because she is a minor (I disagree) then it is not O.K. to violate her privacy for the show. the thing with pregnancy. you do not need a test, it becomes apparent anyway.
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  45.  @derpoverload  originally the cross was an istrument of torture - what is your point ?
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  46. + Joshua ... read her tweet about the hijab booth again. Michigan has a large Muslim minority group, so I can see how they would like to inform the pulbic. - She said (in another segment) that she did not have time to engage with the people informing about the hijab. But she shot off that tweet, she has no Muslim friend and obviously never talked to a woman that was a proud wearer. She also did not like that the Muslim woman spoke more. Well this was about LEARNING something. She claims she wants a discussion and info. No she doesn't. She likes to make opinionated tweets, she wears MAGA hats and poses with guns, I guess now she has opinions on maks wearing.
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  47. Alaska. Hawaii, too !
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  48. a classic. They will use this clip in the training of psychologists !
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  49. The problem is that mentally ill persons would also confess to a crime they were not involved in. The police knows that in high profile cases (think serial killers) the weirdos come out of the woodworks. Usually they hold back some details of the crime so they can differentiate between a crazy person and one that must have been there. - On the other hand high profile crimes incentivize them to find someone that the prosecutor can put behind bars. A "success" and if the person is poor, has some criminal record they are an ideal target for that. Ask Amy Klobuchar how that works. It is not only the injustice and the costs for the taxpayer, the guilty person is still on the loose.
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  50. She had a bankrupcy in her first marriage so I am not sure if she had money, but I think she had a house (and had renovated it, maybe for flipping it). In 2013 when they bought the house in CO she could not be on the loan, and in ? 2017 when they bought the car the contract was also on his name. So her credit still was not good. - but she was a little older and I guess much more experienced so he made sure to seal the deal. - it is a tactic of covert narcisists, love bombing.
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