Comments by "" (@dingokidneys) on "The Manosphere to Alt-Right Pipeline (we should all be talking about this)" video.

@theroguerider Maybe you're awkward because you feel that you have to succeed in this interaction because there are expectations that you will find a woman, have a family and make lots of money to feed, raise and educate your children. I'm a motorbike rider and one of the things you learn is not to hold on too tight. Holding on too tight actually reduces the control you have in a situation because it reduces your flexibility and ability to respond. Likewise, in life don't put too much import on any particular interaction with a woman or really any person that you interact with. It's not a win or lose at this singular encounter. The more people you encounter on a relaxed, no expectations type of basis, the better your chances of finding people you enjoy interacting with, be they potential friends or a potential romantic partners. Who ever said you are only successful if you have a romantic partner; no body whose judgement you should respect. For my kids, I've always felt that they are better set up for life with real long term friendships than glomming onto a romantic partner as soon as possible. They seem happy. One is single with a vibrant social life and the other is in a long term relationship - with a vibrant social life. That makes me happy too.
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A few years ago I heard some of what Jordan Peterson said to young men of recent generations. "Take responsibility in your life" and "Be the person whom others can depend on in difficult times." These kinds of things will give one an intrinsic feeling of worth and often others will find that an attractive attribute in a friend or romantic partner. I felt that this was good advice at the time and I still generally agree with it. I don't agree so much with some of his other public musings. 🤨 I once read that book, "Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus" and found some interesting insights in it, so much so that I passed it on to my sister's ex-husband who was very down about their break-up. Given what I'd drawn from the book, I was startled by what he got from it; a handbook on manipulating women and bending them to his will. I understood then why my sister couldn't live with him regardless of the two children they had. I have to agree with Leeja; many men are not okay. I wish I knew how to help in this situation but so much of this is so far from my experience that they may as well be from Mars - the Mars from "Mars Attacks."
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