Comments by "Harry \x22Nic\x22 Nicholas" (@HarryNicNicholas) on "Men, The Friendzone, and Simping for Women." video.

  1. children's books and saturday morning cartoons are the biggest influence on adult behaviour. just sayin. if you want to influence adults, write good books, for kids.
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  2. 1:53:50 read "games people play" by eric berne. best to shut down on some people, we seek attention as children, if we can't get the attention we seek by being "good" then bad behaviour can still get a result, even if it's negative attention, that is if someone bugs you and you reprimand them, they get satisfaction from your reaction - being beaten or chastised is still attention, and can be interpreted as interest. ignoring some people completely is the best message, they move on to the next victim.
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  3. Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes. - oscar wilde. interesting, this thing of boundaries, i've never thought about telling other people what they can or can't do involving me, if i like the attention, okay, if i don't, i deal with that in whatever way i think is appropriate, but i would never have thought of me in relation to boundaries of me. do what you want, it you that's going to feel the consequences, good or bad. maybe i'm just tolerant, maybe i just like attention. i can see boundaries as being important to women, men are asses, but what do you do, hand over a list of does and don'ts? i'm an old man, so i've become immune to rejection, but my technique is to say up front "i have designs on your body" and then we both know where we're coming from, if anything it's the friendzone (mine) that's tricky "i don't really have designs on your body, i just want to pick your brain" is a greyer area. lol. 18:30 okay, boundaries suddenly become paramount. "i'll break your arm" is probably a good way to keep his arm off your waist, men are asses. even if you're out to seduce someone, at least be subtle about it. my critiscism though would be when you get the third text you text back "look i feel really uncomfortable that your motives are questionable, i won't be in your lab again chum" would be the way i'd go. nip it in the bud. (edit) the very few men that have tried to make a pass at me, i tell them politely they aren't going to get anywhere, so don't waste the time. "much as i like you, i have no qualms about breaking a limb, so let's just get on with what we were doing before." 22:00 crikey. i've had a smattering of one night stands, but i've had six "girlfriends" one who became my wife, now ex wife, and although i'm not sure which would like to see me again i am still on reasonable terms with my ex-wife (married 20 years, one son now 22) and on good terms with the girlfriend i had before i got married (someone i've known for thirty years) and from my point of view i'd be more than happy to see any of them again, i feel i have been incredibly lucky in love (although i got dumped every time - lol) but when i hear the nightmare stories that people, both men and women go through, i wonder what the human race is all about. i'm selfish, i want sex, i want - stuff - but there are ways get to achieve your ambitions, and ways that just ruin other people, it's just not necessary to destroy other people to get what you want. and statistically you're going to get rejected more than accepted, so get over it. win-win is just as easy, and more satisfying for all.
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