Comments by "Wellness Path For Me" (@wellnesspathforme6236) on "Why men get married: it's not about you" video.

@pwilliams4073 Defined as 'I want my way or I will make a problem.' The elephant in the middle of the room of the difference in sex drives between men and women and the outright hostility, even if passive aggressive, that women have towards the male sex drive. Women should be happily compromising here, the way the man is supposed to happily compromise over providing his wife's desires. I know of one case where the woman asked 50x of the man than the man asked of the woman, and what little the man asked was treated with derision. THAT crap, coupled with the acting ability of women and the male lack of ability to discern the acting, is why many men will NEVER get married. The reasonable men and women will suffer in this toxic environment.
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He just told the narcissistic women how to more effectively manipulate a man into signing over his life... so she can then flip the script once she gets the her business deal inked.
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That's not true. They do want peace, but the non-narcissistic versions also want a partner who values who they are, and this includes their sexual wiring. The latter is usually a big problem. Women want to be dictatorial when it comes to marital intimacy and get angry and toxic when they are confronted with their selfishness. It is just as wrong for a woman to be sexually dictatorial as for a man to be sexually dictatorial. It is all about finding a HAPPY balance. Narcissists of all sexes want conformance to their agenda and see their spouse's contrary agenda as something TO WAGE WAR AGAINST. That's just EVIL.
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@hiannahgus574 >> If a man is a good lover, treats her well, and still dates her (and she him), she’ll want sex with him.<< Do you really think that ALL women think in accord with your desires? That is delusional. You are simply wrong... sort of. Many may want to have sex with their spouse but only on her terms and demand. What does the man want? She doesn't figure that in because she's obviously right and he's wrong. Not all, but very, very many.
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@matthewhunter6421 There are lottery winners out there -- do you play the lottery because they exist? I suspect your wife wasn't raised in a big city, and perhaps you were not, either. Or it could be you are the raging pathological narcissist who is getting away with abusing their spouse and thinking it is a 'great gift to do so.' Or maybe both of you won the lottery. There are very many variables in play.
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@lenkamaresova4116 And when society collapse, the effects of their narcissism will be revealed to them. Men, too, especially the 3% that 90% of women feel entitled to, but who they will end up divorcing anyway... Jordan, Brady, et al.
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@chercher304 Men are failing to teach their princes that marriage is not about being a princess. I would want my daughter to have a good sex life with her husband. If she didn’t then I’d be concerned. The average marriage has sex 3x a month and women are driving that. If my daughter wanted that and it was important, I’d tell her to make sure any potential husband knew that upfront. Pretending to be sexy-weazy and then flipping the script after the business deal is done with the state is fraud and immoral. I would want my daughter to have integrity — especially with someone she claims to love. Now, let’s say my daughter wasn’t physically comfortable with sex 2-3 times a week. OK. She should be comfortable. She has hands and a sweet voice… and a loving husband… I’m sure they could work out a HAPPY compromise for 20m plus/minus. I believe the main problem is most women hold male sexuality in complete and total contempt outside of the woman’s perspective of what they want it to be. Essentially, this means they hold men in contempt. If my daughter held men in contempt I would counsel her to avoid getting married, or even dating, unless she could reframe her perspective into something positive. ^^^ This is NOT rocket science, but it does take a women who actually cares about another person who has a very different biochemical makeup than she does. Not many women like that exist.
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@hiannahgus574 >>A woman needs to feel seen, heard, respected, and desired in order to want to have sex with her husband. If he doesn’t get into her head, and figure out how to make her feel appreciated, she’s not going to be letting him into her body, because she loses respect and desire for him. << While this sounds good, how do you know? Has any man ever done this for you? Did you marry him and are you both living happily ever after? I know this is false from personal experience. Some men/women just want everything their way and what is not their way is wrong. They are incapable of caring about the feelings of others -- it is called narcissism. To deny that this exists is delusional... and you protesting too much like your subconscious might feel guilty about something and be trying to hide in the masses 'women.'
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