Comments by "Eyen Nordic" (@eyennordic348) on "China Unvarnished" channel.

  1. My colleagues, who know me and my husband, always describe me as more calm and stable one. Its not about gender as much as character type and emotional maturity. Upbring also plays a role there. More healthy family upbringing results in being more emotionally secure person. My parents, while having a lot of issues and being not ideal, at least never argued before me. I literally never heard them being harsh to each other for 11 years of my life. It helped a lot with me being positive, friendly and caring, calm person, less insecure and bervoys. Disadvantage is that I am bad at conflicts and have poor argument skills. Not a rapper definately😂. Husband, on the other hand, had really problematic mother and no father, he was really insecure and exposed to violence both due to being born male and because he was bullied for his mother's problems at school, which resulted in him being too aggressive to even minor insults. He is overdefencive sometimes and too emotional. It really depends on personality type and character type and personal history. I have seen many families where women were the fundament of calm and stability, while men were main trouble makers and were engaged in risky activities.
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  2. Mature divorced man with children is not unrealistic. Man just was irritated she did not asked him more questions about his ex. Imagine it vice versa.
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  3. He died without any committed relationship.
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  4. She does not demand to h virgin handsome man, just guy with good character.
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  5. When people men or women, who prefer solitude , freedom and individual path challenged with others questions on the matter, they usually defend by describing how awful being in relationship may be. But why you need excuses? Solitude actually should not be even questioned. Especially in China. Many taoists practitioners valued freedom and simple life rather then social pressure. Not because alternative is bad, but because its their own way to do things.
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  6. Well, when people are not just poor, but also weak, frail and sensitive, they of course under biological laws . Its survival mode. Some struggle to be as good as they can, some just use every opportunity to get better things to thenselvez. But when you are rich and have life experience with age, you are safe. You are comfortable already. You do not need to use others for survival. So you can choose guys you really are into and attracted to.
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  7. You do not understand what it means to be medical doctor. One of the most time consuming education and occupation. Overworking. No time for personal life. As single child, she was busy studying to support her parents. Walking with boys at younger age would just led her to be single anyway. She even had not talk with men a lot before die to strict parenting . Her awkwardness led her to lose her match.
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  8. Communication is important for nation that does not want to die out completely just because "she did not asked me this and that, I would not marry her because her questions imply that she is not into me completely on our first date" Its not woman , who is high demanding there. She did not ask for anything except good character.
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  9. Well, too low demands are as bad as too high. Because it seems you do not care about her lifestyle, personality or believe or dreams at all. And if you do not match, how happiness can come? Even Petersons daughter divorced because she was unhappy in marriage, on interpersonal level. For most women, marriage means cooking for two and then for many people, washing dishes for many people, ironing twice as much clothes, etc... If person, even with lowest demands, is not your special someone, with same values, it wont be good life. Its just added suffering and also lost years of career yog sacrifice.
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  10. If she is his age, also rich, cute, beautiful, virgin, nice person, who loves him and respect him for what he choose to do, share his passions, why not? Rich men of 50 in USA have affairs with young girls, but still marry 40-50 year old women closer to their generation. They also prefer smart women over good looking women even.
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  11. Things get messy. Black men marry philippine. Chinese guys marry Slavic girls. Western white men adore Chinese girls. Slavic girls like Turkish guys. Turkey ladies...Still the only patriotic tribe, but they are more drawn to Korean guys nowadays and also Dubai guys. European older educated rich women with dominatrix tendencies marry black young kind poor Namibian guys, who wants to survive and feed their family.
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  12. He rejected her so she was not likable to him. Probably he does not actually love her same she loves him. But at least he respects her support for him. This types of marriage usually end up with guys cheating with girls who they really are attracted to on their rich wives they married for money.
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  13. I heard similar story, with bodyguard and rich daughter of millionere. Bodyguard initially married her, but ended up cheating even on her, knowing that she loved him not for his money or manliness, but for himself. Yet he still did it. While when guys us rich and girl is poor, its usually makes them both proud of themselves, the opposite can work other way round, especially with men's ego. It can be both high pressure for girl who both provider, emotional support and mother of his children and her man, who are just being there with her, being man, means no investment, no emotions, no skills for caring for children. Some men would feel useless regardless of how woman see their inner value in their relaxed presence.
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  14. I wonder what did woman on 10 minute have done to be called arrogant. She was not chosen based solely on appearance not her demands
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  15. Well, you can built a family with 30's and 40 old woman, if you meet each others criteria and both more reasonable then examples above. Chinese men marry only young girls, but young Chinese girls do not desperately chase guys, if they have some talents and skills, they usually try to reach their dreams and have a good profession first, to help not just themselves but their parents and society in general. As for third woman, nothing bad about her except her being less than average attractive. She is healthy, nice, not too demanding. Yet still guys deny her based only on her photos.
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  16. Too much competition. If every free woman would do, then guy is very promiscuous husband. Proper husband need to put some boundaries.
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  17. Chinese guys only pay attantion to youngest and prettiest, so they have a lot of attantion. 70 old men wants them 60 old men wants them 50 old men wants them 40 old men wants them 30 olds, 20 old and even teenagers lust for them. At the same time, 20 old ugly girls are treated like they do not exist 30-70 women are called leftovers and can only get married in USA, Russia or Italy , western mentality countries with less competition for your birth date or combination of nose if your father and eyes of your mother. Man can party control his money and get them with time. Women do not control their genetics and cant rewind time. They are in state, when they both already humiliated to being a thing that can only loose value with time, not a developing human with growing virtues and wisdom, and , af the same time, excitedly valued for things the have no control, by older and supposedly wiser people, who still insanely lusty for them , being professors, and buisnessmen. That both degrading and spoiling attitude give birth to insane and shameless people, who try to get their life maximum until they are 25 and totally undesirable anymore, so at least they have some fun with bags, gems , gold and some dum of money to start something that does not require being in your early 20's and pretty.
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  18. Probably because China is big and there are different girls out thete. Good Chinese girls may feel offended. While for other these men are second class, for some they are their potentional love they just happened not to stumble in their life.
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  19. Well, in Russia men do not pay dowry anymore, this tradition is long lost. So naturally, while most women expect love and support in material way to their motherhood and beauty, they do not expect initial investement. Though, if one Chinese guy would offer this and other fk not, first would appear being more generous and more loving , while second would appear more greedy and insecure, yet both would have high chances with russians. Russian men, on the other hand, find Asian beauty mesmerizing, even if its leftover Chinese girl, who looks "old" for Chinese guys, but not to russians. Same dynamic as with older Slavic girls and Turkish guys.
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