Comments by "worn down" (@worndown8280) on ""I don't want to WASTE MY TIME": responding to female timelines" video.

As a stoic I have to disagree with you. The last woman I dated was in her late 20s, I am 48. When she brought up marriage I immediately stated that that was not something I was interested in, as I have already had my children and didnt not feel I could be a decent father at my age doing it all again. I also told her that if that is something she wanted I would stop seeing her so I wouldnt waste the time she had left. When she insisted that she wanted to marry I ended the relationship. One of the biggest problems is that men and women do not date with purpose. And I have see both men and women lied to by their partners, sometimes convincingly so, because the other just didnt want to be alone. That is not the persons fault. Most people struggle with the sunk cost fallacy. And this is at the core of what this is about. You may not have intended it, but your position is people should trust less. It should, instead, be people should act more trustworthy. Our society is bereft of trust. Or perhaps thats just my perspective on what you have said. A better man than me said, "A man who has virtue, is in need of nothing whatever for the purpose of living well."
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Mine left me when I was 37, im 48 right now. I had just broke my back. Have had 3 back surgeries. She left me and I had to fight for my 3 sons. I kept them and the house. I busted my ass for years for her to stay home. The first year she was gone I had an extra 40k in cash. So I busted my ass when I could go back to work, worked hard for about 6 more years. Now I am retired. I never have to work again. You can get there. Its ok to be angry, but it will pass if you let it.
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 @mgtowski395 unfortunately, you are probably correct. Overcoming ones biology seems to be impossible for some.
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Yea. Its like saying if you dont have a good enough door lock, you deserve to be burgled.
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@uanip1341 statistically thats highly unlikely. 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women, more so if they are college or university educated. And few women have 4 children, 13% to be exact. I think you may, respectfully, be suffering from sample selection bias.
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@balladbuster5109 no, you are projecting onto my statement something that is not there. I am not of the mind that one should trust blindly, nor did I state that. Trust is of course earned. But what I stated was that people should endeavor to be more trustworthy. Most people lie when it is convenient for them and then cry when others do that to them. That is why living a virtuous life is its own reward.
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thats an interesting scenario you created. It does a good job of reinforcing all your concerns doesnt it? The question is, is it accurate
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@saqibsheikh2790 my purpose? Companionship.Which I was upfront about.
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@saqibsheikh2790 indeed. deception always backfires, at least in my 48 years of experience. She wasnt intentionally being dishonest though. Most people dont start a relationship going out with someone because they want to marry them. The more they get to know them they either start ticking all the boxes or throwing red flags. Its why open and honest communication are important. People are not static beings. Its one of the issues I have with the video creators view on wasting peoples time. Sometimes, peoples goals for a relationship change. And that is ok. But people need to communicate that.
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@uanip1341 weird, mine did.
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How much time are we talking here? If its over 5 years, well my grandpa would say, you need to shit or get off the pot.
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May I ask why you feel marriage is out of the question?
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@Maybe-cg2tn I could make a blanket statement that all women change too, typically by rationing sex and getting fat, but I dont do blanket statements. Blanket statements are often the crutch weak arguments or positions rest on. That said, I will take you at your word that you would be miserable as a wife. Some people are not capable of being on a team. And that's ok. I wish more people realized it. So in that, for what it matters, you have my respect.
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@Maybe-cg2tn I really have no words to respond to your post. Ill just say this, perhaps women are spending their energies in sub optimal ways. Most women I meet, are utterly miserable, single, dating or married. That seems to be the primary setting in modernity. I wonder why? Though I again thank you for your honesty. It is refreshing in this sort of content.
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@caucasianafrican1435 that's what happened to my ex wife, but she left me.
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@uanip1341 again, stats show that men who raise their children have better outcomes than those children who are raised only by their mothers. In fact its so close that the difference in a father only and a intact family is negligible
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@drinkxyz I don't recall stating any of that. Why do you like your own posts?
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