Comments by "" (@chrismaxwell1624) on "The Diary Of A CEO" channel.

  1. Trusting your gut is a double edged sword. It's your subconscious and what you put subconscious can make you gut feeling be 100% off due to limiting beliefs you have learned through out life. So you could have gut feeling to stay in poverty and not take advantage of an opportunity because you don't believe at subconscious level that you deserve that. Get hold of you subconscious then the gut can be really good to listen to. That's easier said than done, usually mean seekings therapy.
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  2.  @noseyandneutral  It's double edged because you gut can wrong if it's influenced by unknown biases and self limiting beliefs. At the same if none of those apply it can spot on.
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  3. I learned in my 20s that hard work is a waste of time. I learned that working hard in job where I polished the same surface 10 time, worked hard at. What dd that achieve, nothing it was wasting my time for an hourly pay of minimum wage. I think that's lesson you have to learn as kid though in that type of job. Later in post secondary a speaker said never work hard. Work smart, that might require some hard work but you won't be working hard. A lot people keep doing hard work that can be in better in a more productive way for less effort by stopping putting little of right hard work. Some reason people think this means they will work themselves out of a job. It's really the opposite. When the employer see this the do it and the all those people hanging on to the work get laid off. So working hard is detrimental in the long. Work your self out of a job, that show's your value and you will get better work and often higher pay. You are a productive employee or contract worker.
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  4. Marriage and monogamy isn't the same thing. Marriage can non monogamous. You can be not married and be monogamous.
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  5. Resources does = wealth. It can include wealth. Resources: one's personal attributes and capabilities regarded as able to help or sustain one in adverse circumstances. Wealth sure does help with the above definition. So does being creative and being able use all your resource from intelligence, emotional intelligence, skills, and such to help or sustain in adverse circumstance. So a man may not have more wealth but they can have other resource the highly desired by women. For example can a man be an emotional rock for his spouse to hang on to during emotionally troubling times. The rock the break the waves in way that is protecting her. That's a very powerful resource a lot men have.
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  6. He talks like autism is disease. It's not, it's a genetically different brain. I can trace autism back 4 generation in my family. Diversity in brain played big role in survival of human species. What he's describing though could be impacting people who autistic/ADHD more than does NT people. That is not the cause of it but could be what makes it disabling. Neuro Typical people might not be a sensitive. Consider this though with Neuro Diversity we'd still be living caves as hunter gathers.
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  7. I disagree, 25 years with my wife all started with casual sex. FWBs for 8 months and into committed relationship that lead to marriage, kids and quarter of century together. I"m not saying all casual relationship will end that way, just many I suspect end as causal dating does.
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  8. Those racial and sexual dynamics aren't about 200 years ago. That's this guys blind spot. That's something that happens today. There are atrocities that have happened in my life time. I'm from Canada and Residential school people think happened over 100 years ago yet they stopped the practice taking kids away in 1996. We are still dealing with that today because those people are still alive dealing the with trauma. Saying it's dealing with the past is just avoiding the problem by pretending it's ancient history when it's we have fallout of in present day. We just repeating history too doing again just somewhere else.
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  9. That ADHD isn't genetic does not make sense. It's been researched a lot. 20% though is not genetic. Maybe she talking about that. Thing is there was more stress in generations before so that kind flies in the face of this. Would everyone be ADHD then if what she says is true? It is genetic, you can see in families identify it going bad 4 generations. Longer if the stories are correct form the past. ADHD in boomer generation and before was a bad thing. It was lot more hand on physical work and high school wasn't needed. It's problem today with more education and desk jobs as more and more of the jobs are automated
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  10. Where I live a prenup isn't enforceable if it violates existing law. So they have to be carefully draft it or the becomes unenforceable. I'm sure that true in US too but the US might have less laws to take into consideration.
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  11. Casual sex isn't with someone a woman doesn't know. Hook up sex can be, one night stands and such. Casual sex is two people that know each that have consensual sex with out commitments. Friends with befits for example. Hook up sex is dangerous for both because both are doing it and risk of STIs are higher in that sort of situation. Pregnancy is a problem as after hook up they might now even know the guys first name let alone anything about him. Casual sex is defined relationship where both know each and know each better. Casual sex can end in long term relationship too and better relationship if it goes that way, can go the opposite and end really badly too. I met my wife through casual sex and we've been together for 25 years now. The casual was that we were both going different direction in year. I was on contract job and had no clue where I'd be in year and she was moving to the UK for a year. So we kept is FWB and things changed. We moved from FWB to committed relationship and changed our plans to do that. So is causal sex all that bad if after 25 years we are still together?
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  12. Should have said that I know this as that is exactly what my wife tells me. Not some male assumption. I'm that rock for her and she treasures that about me.
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  13. I think the reason women are opting out marriage is the cost of weddings. It's really gotten out of hand how much it costs now. The price of wedding can be down payment on house.
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  14. I don't see an affair causing PTSD but CPTSD makes more sense. PTSD come single traumatic experience. CPTSD comes from a prolong trauma over few money. In affair that trauma is over few months or years. Over the duration of an affair that person knows it happening. They may not acknowledge it consciously or push it away making excuses for that person to avoid the conflict. But when time comes and the cards are on table for all to see the that when all that trauma come to head. The person who was cheated on second guess that past, why didn't they notice it was all there, that tells me they did notice but weren't ready to deal with it. Or they second guess what they should have said. "Why didn't I say anything when I noticed...." This would cause CPTSD, that why when he/sh is late triggers one time not other time, the late has to match that subconsciously noticed pattern of the affair over years.
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  15. Sex once a month I wish. Lucky if i get once in 3 months. I know the reason though. Prescription meds that lower libido as side effect. Wife's 4 different meds with that same side effect. She went off on for while to see if was the cause of iron loss. It wasn't but during the time our sex life went from 3-4 times years to 3-4 time in month just from her not being on the drug for 3 months. But now she's back on the drug for stomach issues. It's hard thing to deal with, not sure how much more I can take of this.
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  16. Saw a neuro scientist's pod cast. Oxytocin as well as Vasopressin have some interesting affects. It depends on a few factors. 1) Casual sex and man leave after sex. That woman will ends up in more both Oxytocin and Vasopressin. More bonding for the woman 2) The man stay and cuddle after sex. The man end up with more both Oxytocin and Vasopression. More bonding for the man. Men figure this out and if they don't want to get attached they leave as quickly as possible after sex. That's why they do it.
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  17. I disagree on equality. We all want equality except maybe those with NPD, sociopaths and psychopaths. The equality though is at certain level that is not sustainable for larger populations. There is also equality in opportunity which don't even have now. That means people get the same opportunities but they free to not use them.
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  18. Men having no sex, it's clear they are choosing to no have sex. I seen men sabotage themselves so bad with online dating. I have single women that show me the "the crap" they have to deal with. I take a look, hundreds of the same emails and instant messages. Have men become idiots or something. I'm being serious, do men really think that sort of thing works to get sex. Maybe they go lucky once with but most women just laugh at the stupidity of men these days. It's literally shocking how stupid some men are. ' I think George Carlin got it right with this — 'Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.'
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  19. I don't think WOKE has anything to do with this. It's just word thrown around. Starts in 2014, that when social media hit a critical mass on smart phones. Bring the echo chamber effect to all of use. Blaming wokeness is just like any other excuse people use to avoid responsibility. That responsibility is to get off the doom scrolling.
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  20. marriage was useful for a few things. This would be legal marriage no marriage as in the big party or religious accompaniments. 1) It allow the work place benefits to cover the spouse and kids if they come with the spouse. 2) It allow some tax breaks but only in specific circumstances 3) Shared resources, rent, food, services. 4) It bring protection to both parties in marriage in things split up later.
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  21. To say 1 in 6 people are is basically saying everyone is. Which would be true. Narcissism is something we all have. There is healthy and unhealthy narcissism. I don't think that means 1 in 6 have NPD though. I do see society that would be pushing us to show a lot of narcissistic trait more than any other time due to social media and culture of misinformation. This create a space where more those traits show up. A person with NPD show set number consistent narcissistic traits and that is the normal base line. A person that does not have NPD can show the same traits but their not their normal base line and they opposite of consistent. So it's not like there are more narcissist just feels that way on social media. Also a lot of people like to point the finger at others in relationship to be narcissist when the relationship is toxic. It's easy to do instead of looking at yourself and your role in the relationship. I've done that, didn't help things when I needed to be more assertive and less people pleasing. Communicating more and not letting resentment build up. Those are thing I did, my responsibility in toxicity of the relationship. But I could have just pointed at her and she's narcissist taking taking taking use that as excuse to end thing and go repeat the same mistakes with the next relationship. What's more is our society pushes that happy wife happy life mentality on us and that's just a road to a toxic relationship filled with resentment and contempt.
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  22. Just my opinion but I think those that don't think they have worth or feel useless have not found purpose. In this world today find one's purpose is extremely hard. Societal expectation expect men to get an education, find any job that pay, get married, have kids, and such. What if marriage is something one wants, they do it out societal pressure and fail at it. Thy work a job for 10-15 year that has purpose and feel defeated, useless and the job provides no worth. That's terrible way to live. We all struggle to find purpose and it can take longer than you think. Some stumble on it right away. Others it take years of shaking off the expectations of others to find purpose.
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  23.  @susanlodgerelaxations5269  It's different for everyone because everyone eats different foods. I don't know what your doctors are like but here in Canada my doctor is big on vitamins and making sure the efficiencies are not causing a problem. Rules them out first. From what I've read about depression a lot of it is situational. SSRI only treat the symptoms of depression and it's kind of like juggling to find the one the work best as in helps with most symptom with least side effect impact.
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  24. Happy wife, Happy life means people pleasing that keeps the peace for as time as internal resentment builds resulting in contempt for each other. So if you want to end up divorced in 10 years follow that advice. How happy are you really when you hide your needs and ignore their needs catering to them based on the needs not you are not getting met. Sometime that can work if you unmet needs are their unmet needs but that not normally the case. If this does work this when you have 25 years marriage end in divorce.
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