Comments by "" (@chrismaxwell1624) on "Lies you've been told about attachment style" video.

  1. I learned you can meet all your needs yourself but that highly energy intensive and take more time than you have in day to do so and needs will go unmet. At the same it take less energy to meet another persons needs. This appears to be a survival mechanism. If it take me less energy to meet the needs of someone else who in turn spends less energy meeting my needs then we end connected and working together with better chance of survival. Just more observation with myself and anecdotal. I don't know there is peer reviewed study on this. So take that with grain of salt.
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  2. You're young. That's why. Wait till your married 25 years. Own hobbies, friends groups, and such is something happen naturally over time. I don't have to do everything with my wife. I'm excited for my wife if she gets a new friend and they go drinks. I'm happy she has her own hobbies. I do like parallel play though. That's where I do my own thing in same room she does her own thing. My hobbies I have group of friends that play games. My wife is happy for me to have that even though I'm going 6 hours with my friends once a week. I'm love it if she played the game too but she has no interest. But then I have no interest trivia night with her friends. Early in the relationship it was the opposite and we did everything together. It's good but as your grow that changes and that's good thing.
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