Youtube comments of (@chrismaxwell1624).

  1. I did even realize just relaxing witnessing your thought with out judgment was form of meditation let alone open meditation. I've gotten pretty good at no judgment over the past 7 years.
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  2. La Nina usually means more snow for us in Canada just east of the rockies. El Nino usually mean warm weather and drought. Like last years. Little rain in summer and warm winter with little snow. One nice thing about El Nino is less thunderstorms. But here's hoping for more snow and great ski season.
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  3. Can it even be called capitalism with all the corporate welfare we have today? Would that not be corporate socialism?
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  4. Trusting your gut is a double edged sword. It's your subconscious and what you put subconscious can make you gut feeling be 100% off due to limiting beliefs you have learned through out life. So you could have gut feeling to stay in poverty and not take advantage of an opportunity because you don't believe at subconscious level that you deserve that. Get hold of you subconscious then the gut can be really good to listen to. That's easier said than done, usually mean seekings therapy.
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  5. Another thing to throw wrench in his is neuro divergence. I can tell you I sure felt victimized in most situations. The problem is I'm missing upwards of 90% of communication in worst of times but unaware I am. I mean how do you know if your know if you have good hearing but the brain just get overwhelmed and does not process what I'm hearing. I hear all the noise but words just don't get processed at all. I miss all the social cues and don't know I missed 1 in 4 sentences. That's really hard to deal and make really easy to gaslight as I can't counter a claim if they said X or did say X. So I have to go with I did not hear it. They may have said it but I didn't hear it.
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  6.  @lesterroberts1628  I also see government regulations making it harder for small businesses to do what previous small businesses did to get big. Can't have competition is what that seems like, yet competition is required for capitalism.
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  7. I'm on spectrum and I have no difficulty with social interaction. It just can overwhelm me and I can weird people out. A lot miscommunication occurs. I can get into there and talk and be social and my friends and family know this about me. They know I won't make eye contact, that my body language isn't giving the message they would expect. I will struggle with intentions, take things literally, fall in black and white thinking, struggle to know when I'm interrupting vs finding the spot insert my story in conversation. and such. I get overwhelmed and it appears like I'm introverted which I'm completely not. Interesting thing is when I talk to others on spectrum none this difficulties are present. I understand their social cues or I'm just not relying on them, I don't know. So I tend to attract other people like, especially women who I don't think are diagnosed. I was diagnosed in 1980 at 9 years old. It's not that I can't keep up in social setting more the opposite just I have good chance of processing it incorrectly.
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  8. That's what most feel when it come to autistic children. A early diagnosed autistic person, I've had 45 years to see this as true. It's not just a bad father, that neuro typical behaviour or a father that is denial of their own autism.
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  9. Avoiding pain does really augment it. It's just if you do once you do twice and 3 time and soon you pile up so emotional pain it come roaring back as one big pile of intense emotional pain. I think of it like getting a 1000 paper cuts of years but storing the pain and not feeling it. Then when the pain comes out it's like cutting off your leg. So why not feel the paper cut emotional pain.
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  10. Therapist don't fill you head as they just let you talk and ask opened end question so you can talk more.
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  11. That's not bonding, that protecting themselves from the bully. I've seen that with men too. All toadies to bully do that to avoid becoming the bullies next victim.
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  12. Where I live we are about 1 KM above sea level. No worries about this. Not to say there is no worries. If sea level rose 3 meter that would mean surface area of the oceans increased massively. More water vapor and more going between drought and massive flooding. This is already been seen over the past 20 years. More pineapple expresses for mountain coast of BC more eastern flooding coming form the eastern rockies.
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  13. That's the problem. Don't improve for your spouse, there is no motivation in doing that. Improve yourself for you and you wife will notice that. If you do it for her it come off as fake.
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  14. Talent is a myth. It's passion, things that you have passion for come easier to you because you enjoy. So if you love doing it you practice for joy of it when your brain is developing. So people who don't put that work in dismiss that as natural talent in others. Being tall doesn't mean you will be good a basket ball if you have no interest in basket ball. I'm tall never liked basket ball. So I never played it outside few week in Gym class. Chasing fame by doing something you don't like you will find it very hard to do.
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  15.  @bipo819  A person who is scared of you is fawning, that is not even close to respect. To think that is respect shows me that the person never been respected so has no idea feels it's like.
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  16. Happiness I find I find is just being present in the moment. I had a person tell me that I find such happiness in small things in life. I was sitting on deck just eating a ice cream sandwich. The only thing in my mind was the sun shining down on me, the heat on my skin, the ice cream sandwich is my hand. I was just in moment.
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  17. Mama Bear, you see this with bears. The most dangerous bear you can encounter is a pregnant or mama bear with cubs. I saw that with same thing with my wife after we had kids, she doesn't back down. Especially if the kids are involved but that carries over to other things in life too. She became a much better negotiator with car dealerships. This something car salesmen don't factor in.
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  18.  @kateginger  Sounds like denial to me. What more is a lot people don't like the idea that you getting therapy might highlight what shame they feel over having something wrong with them. I know people like that who won't associate with you if are in therapy. It's really weird.
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  19. Exactly, being nice is people pleasing action. Kindness not so much generosity but can include it. you don't have to kind to her even. Be kind to others show's her you are kind. If you kind to people who serve you then that intrigues her. The man is nice to her but unkind to others is a red flag.
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  20. When I was in the time out stage I worked jobs to survive but they were never career. Time out was in not chasing a career my parents wanted me to do. You still have to survive. What more the income made didn't allow for much so I had lot of time to myself to think about things.
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  21. I get that. Took me a long time till I found what I was meant to do where a strength really shined through. I had to work many jobs to find that. I also have huge disadvantage in employment, I'm on the spectrum. I had special interests that I was strong at but most didn't seem to lead to employment. One that did was video games. That introduced me to computer networking but I didn't know that at the time. It was just something I did to connect PC for lan games. I knew I liked computers and went college but programming was not my thing. That's all it was. I understood it well but it was my interest. So in random job I took they had a small network 2 pc 1 hub and a shared modem. It wasn't my job and they had problem so I just fixed it. This open the door. Late 90s and networking was just taking off and I got into that and have had 26 career in that all from fixing problem at job that wasn't even my job to fix. I've worked in fast food, as baker, in oil patch, a meat cutter, movie theater, as lab tech, in packing job, garbage man, water sewer worker. I had to try a lot things to find what I just fit. I did try law enforcement too just no jobs at that time, that turned out to be good with IT security in my career.
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  22. I get that, that when I gave up and just followed some strange things from intuition. Like it felt the universe was conspiring against me. Something changed mid 20s. I think i might have been acceptance but it's like life just fell into place. It was mind set change but not one I did intentionally it just sort happened when I went into bout depression losing my job and acceptance that lasted about 6 weeks where I came out on the clueless just happy to have job but things really changed. In hindsight I subconsciously made a lot odd decision that lead to success.
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  23. I've been doing shadow work off and on for 7 years. Found lots and lots of interesting things. One I found is desired to learn to play the guitar. I've always denied that by telling myself that I'm not musical. I found that as kid I was violin lesson at age 3 and hated it. But I had toy guitar, no string just buttons and loved that. Guitar lessons were not in plan. Parents had no money for it and by the time I was in grade 7 to hide this desire I told myself I was sucked musically. So I started to learn to play. I should have stuck with my desire, I'm sure I'd have found a way to do it back when I was 12. I could paid for it myself when I was 15 and had a job. I feel silly now looking back at it. This came up after dealing a lot of other things. People said you can find good things in your shadow, this was first I found.
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  24. I found being on spectrum I could learn fast than others once I leaned in to autistic side. Just look spaced out and absorb information. When masking I pretend to look like I'm paying attention but I'm not paying attention at all and putting all my energy in keeping the mask up. I also stim a lot when learning. In post secondary I did this when I realized I'm paying to be so I'll learn how I learn. In school I had to mask or be punished.
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  25.  @JustinKerns8x6  That's not the type of immortal they are talking about. Soul is immortal regardless of the bible. Where the soul goes on the spirit and body are gone is debatable depending on the religion you follow. Catholic vs Protestant for example the follow the same root idea just have different rituals and prices to be go to heaven. Prices don't necessarily mean money but anything you give up. Like not eating meat of Fridays.
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  26. Hard work has always gotten you exploited and no where. Working smart is better and more productive than working hard. I learned that in my early 20s. Work hard and get thing done fast just go you more work at no extra pay. You just made thing worse for everyone else too. That turned other against you. Working smart is developing transferable skills. So you can move on to some other job that pays more. Then your existing employer might counter and offer more. I got 50% increase pay doing that.
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  27.  @Lev-t2t  That's true. While this is very interesting it doesn't really help with living with Autism.
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  28. Brother's friend worked the rigs at 17. He was cheap. They'd get hotel allowance, food allowance and incidental. He'd set up tent on the lease and eat cheap instead of hotel room and fancy restaurant the others did. He bought his first and paid cash, rented out. Repeated it again and third time he bought an apartment building. All before turning 31 and retired. He took a job a Wallmart after for the social contact and said it best job ever knowing he didn't have to work and he did just for kicks. Kept investing and last I hear he owns 5 apartment buildings now. Just kept reinvesting. What did I do at that age, hit bars, chased women and had fun. In hind sight not such good idea. Should just invested all money in Apple.
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  29. That lack of trust undermines productivity costing the economy trillions of dollars as year. So I've read at least. I think they mean world wide.
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  30. As person on spectrum I experienced a ton of rejection then something changed in my late 20s. Women were suddenly were interested. So I had my first kid 34. So older age and increased chance of autism makes sense. In my case as autism is genetic.
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  31. It's the little things then you one uses a excuse like you have provided to write off you own unmet needs off as being selfish because what more could you ask for. It's not anyone's fault though. It's just how one internalized an unmet need. In other an unmet need might just get met by them and they move on. Other suppress it, feel shame for wanting more when they had as much as anyone could ask for. That's my experience. I can see one had lot of these it would impact them more. For me it was just few things. Really minor things. Like I didn't get play guitar. This turned hate of music, playing in Band, Singing. I'd listen to music but a false belief that sucked at music translated well beyond a guitar I wanted when I was 4, instead I got violin and I sucked. Not true though. I wasn't interested in it. I wanted the guitar. That little even colored me for the next 40 years. I figured it out through work in asking myself questions. What proof do I have suck musically, there was none. Just kept asking till I found "because I want to pay the guitar", a 4 years old me. This didn't have huge impact on my life, just felt like something missing. But imagine if something like that happened for other things. Something that little in way of accomplishing something.
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  32. That was recommended by my hygienist last week with normal flossing once in while or when needed.
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  33. I'm of the opinion respect is earned not given. It can be easily lost, just like trust can be lost.
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  34.  @Demonsta  Bullying does earn respect. What bully thinks is respect is fawning to avoid getting treat like shit. It's the opposite of respect.
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  35. It feels like a threat though. I put myself in situation. Say I'm too fearful to do tic toks but it's something I really want to do but let my fear stop me. Then a friend just doing it would feel threatening to me. That because it encourages me to do that same and brings up the deep seated fear which triggers a response that I'm threatened. If I can recognize that I can deal with the fear and no problem as I can figure out why I'm fearful. Could be just not knowing how to do it so I could ask for tips on how to make tic tok. If I don't recognize that I'll lash out that cause my fears which is the friend doing the thing I want to do but won't due fears.
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  36. Is there an enabler or is there just person that is scared the abuse will turn to them if they rock the boat so the take on more bystander role.
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  37. Envry is something you want, Jealousy is something fear losing. Jealousy doesn't mean insecure. It's tell you that you need to do something or you will lose something. So you might be envious of relationship a friends has. You could jealous that you relation might end. If you feel the jealousy it will direct you to doing good things for a relationship. Direct you to having the uncomfortable conversation that creates growth in the relationship. If you suppress jealousy it turn in the green eyed monster most associate with jealousy. So jealousy is very valid and useful.
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  38.  @noseyandneutral  It's double edged because you gut can wrong if it's influenced by unknown biases and self limiting beliefs. At the same if none of those apply it can spot on.
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  39. Bi-polar and BPD is often misdiagnosed when person is ASD or AuDHD. Then medicated for issue that don't exist.
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  40. Delusions are interesting when you take quantum physics in play which they have now proven occurs in the brain. This is rabbit hole that is fun to go down and blows your mind. So in way our brain is like quantum processor. That open the doors to the multiverse. Think of it like this, every decision cells make in our body an atomic level result in Schrodinger's Cat. Is the cat and alive or dead. Both options happen in multiverses. one with cat is alive and other the cat is dead. So does cell go cancerous, in one of multiverse it does in other it doesn't. We can't see this. Now what if delusion come our brain noticing this and the reality they are perceiving is a another multiverse. This would be a great fictional story I think. Not saying this reality, but boy could I write interesting story about it as work of fiction. Would it be sci-fi?
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  41. What goes through my mind when on vacation that last day. I'm looking forward to going home. Getting back to a routine. Getting back to thing I enjoy at home. The last two weeks were fun but I've gotten tired from it all and want to just get home.
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  42. That's not that easy. Our laws put the guy wanting to end a relationship in between a rock and hard place. Law favors the woman. Custody favors the woman. So they have a wife who is nothing more roommate. Ending isn't that easy. I think it should be easier for men and women to end a relationship. This death till us part just leads abusive relationships. I know a couple and they hate each other. They both cheat on each other. She know he does but he think she isn't and that he's pulled the wool over her eyes. They don't spit up because they can't afford to.
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  43. That's sort of true. Social media is income that people work really hard at and need to be going 24/7 in lot case. No time for a relationship. i know few people that do it. It's not just putting up quick short, the create hundreds of then put up one that gets views. When you see any say they are content provider they are too busy for a relationship.
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  44. Most women in 40s have adult kids and in some case might even be a grandmother. Unless she started really late or had oops kid she should on verge of kid free if not already.
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  45. That march vortex really messed up things. Dead tress. Fruit crops. Expect high prices for summer fruit this year.
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  46. I don't think this is case of bending the rules. What you ex did was just jerk move in general. Thoughtless.
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  47. I think it's not biased as much as she understands the tools better than you do. I found couple therapy useless personally. Working on myself one on one with psychologist helped me a lot more than couple therapy. Fixing myself then those tools of couples therapy made a lot more sense and things got a lot better.
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  48. How did you convince you psychiatrist to tapper you off the drugs? I find psychiatrist tend to want to just add more drugs. They seem to be very against going off the drugs at all.
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  49. I was watching Humberman lab when had sleep expert. His guest talk about Chronotypes. Different circadian rhythms which they suspect server as a tribal survival mechanism. Someone in the tribe would alway be up an alert for dangers. There was extreme early rises, early risers, middle of the road late risers and extreme late risers. Out society favors the middle of road and early risers with a lot of the 9-5 work days. If I had work day that was 10 am to 8 pm I'd more productive at work. Problem is the world doesn't support that. Business aren't open, by that I mean some stores are but mostly services like doctors, dentist, bank, lawyers, mechanics and such. When I retire I'm going enjoy my natural circadian rythm.
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  50. Where do you live that loaf of bread is $10. I complain when loaf bread is higher than $3. I typically get loaf for $0.95 but it's not sliced and that has the advantage of no going bad as quick too.
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  51. having a hour to yourself with no TV, no video game, no internet or anything feels like a really long time. I several of those hour per night.
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  52. I learned in my 20s that hard work is a waste of time. I learned that working hard in job where I polished the same surface 10 time, worked hard at. What dd that achieve, nothing it was wasting my time for an hourly pay of minimum wage. I think that's lesson you have to learn as kid though in that type of job. Later in post secondary a speaker said never work hard. Work smart, that might require some hard work but you won't be working hard. A lot people keep doing hard work that can be in better in a more productive way for less effort by stopping putting little of right hard work. Some reason people think this means they will work themselves out of a job. It's really the opposite. When the employer see this the do it and the all those people hanging on to the work get laid off. So working hard is detrimental in the long. Work your self out of a job, that show's your value and you will get better work and often higher pay. You are a productive employee or contract worker.
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  53. Marriage and monogamy isn't the same thing. Marriage can non monogamous. You can be not married and be monogamous.
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  54. Anxiety is fear. Fear something in future. So one can have fear of spider. If they see one they are scared that fear. They anxious about going into basement because they might see a spider that is still fear of the spider but in the future there for anxiety. So if fear is fear would not anxiety and fear being the same light up the same region of the brain?
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  55. Self diagnosis is a think that is good for going to a doctor. If I go to a doctor is typical because of self diagnosis. I'm not taking my self diagnosis right. It's something I'll go to doctor confirm. Most time I'm right sometime I'm wrong. I think if I have sore throat and I diagnose sinus infection which sometime I'm right but I've also been diagnosed with Strep throat.
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  56. The algorithms are terrible. It's so difficult to fight the algorithm. I delete my social media every couple years and start over because it feeds me a lot stuff I don't want.
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  57. That's not getting sick though. Broken spine mean no job. Woman leaves. If you was independently wealthy she'd have stuck by him. This isn't being down on women, just look at it women and income gap. What about kids. A man that can't provide is social construct too that is taught to women as someone to avoid.
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  58. That makes a lot sense. If you drink 1 soda and 2 equal amounts of water you will end up drinking less soda as you end up less thirsty and less likely to reach for a soda. Just doing that can cause weight loss over period of time.
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  59.  @Lisargarza  I think this rose colored glasses of the past. My grandparent both worked an they lived through the war. Post war my grandmother was telephone operator, grandfather electrician. They had 6 kids. that was in late 1940s. My grandmother also had side hustle of making Drapes. So they had a nice house that my grandfather built. Built the basement first they lived in basement as built the house above. That wouldn't be legal today. I'm just pointing out this 1 income family idea was not the reality that many believe. Many in 1950 had women with home based business selling thing like Avon to Tupperware as well. Some sold reader digest subscriptions. The fantasy of 1 income families are rare even back then. The work has changed that's all.
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  60. When you say bottled water, define bottled water. Do you mean the 500 ml bottles, the large water cooler bottles, then what about tap water that goes through plastic pipe such PEX pipes. At Water Treatment plants water go through plastic pipe. By that I mean plastic to sewer then treated and back into water system which get treated again to become drinking water at water treatment plants. Would all that micro plastic be there from that process. As well in water treatment large plastic pipes, I'm not sure if the tanks are lined with plastic. Been in Water Treatment plant doing IT work.
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  61. Got to love You Tube algorithm.
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  62. Oddly enough the people who I find the people with divorced parent I know not one has gotten divorced. What more some seem to stay in relationships that toxic.
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  63. Resources does = wealth. It can include wealth. Resources: one's personal attributes and capabilities regarded as able to help or sustain one in adverse circumstances. Wealth sure does help with the above definition. So does being creative and being able use all your resource from intelligence, emotional intelligence, skills, and such to help or sustain in adverse circumstance. So a man may not have more wealth but they can have other resource the highly desired by women. For example can a man be an emotional rock for his spouse to hang on to during emotionally troubling times. The rock the break the waves in way that is protecting her. That's a very powerful resource a lot men have.
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  64. praying allow people to be more resilient to the bad things that happen to them. I've read this can be achieved with prayer though meditation and silent mantras. So not like religion has a monopoly on the mental resiliency.
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  65. Friendships come and go. Some will stay with you others won't. I find it's mostly the slow death. I have some friends that have stayed. Mostly the slow death is just from out growing them and going different directions in life. It's nothing that went wrong just grew apart.
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  66. It's not 1 in billion there many soul mates. All it mean is someone that has similar soul. I think soul means personality and values in this case. If you look at it from mystical new age view. Soul mates are just someone that come in to your life to teach you something and then they go one their way to the next person. Soulmate in this context play big part in charter of you life but not in future chapters.
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  67. Does this apply to people on the spectrum too? I'm on spectrum and find some mental health tips really don't work for me but I'm looking for ones that do.
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  68. When someone says they will see you soon, or lets do coffee that's NT behaviour. I'm not sure why they do it, maybe it's just way to end a conversation on good note that they will never follow through on. I try saying that it comes off extremely awkward.
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  69. How can any hate a person they don't know and can never know? That makes no sense. All the example you showed. I know a few name, recognize few faces from the media but I have no clue who these people are. I don't know their friends, relatives, and such. So how can I make judgment on person. Now I remember in 20s I worked at place that was majority women. 3 guys and 40 women. Women are just nasty to each other and created highly toxic work place. Even lead to sexual harassment in work place for the 3 of us.
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  70. I find it interesting in biblical times men could have concubines. Effectively mistresses that they cared for the but were not married. They would be provided for and children provided for but no inheritance as that went to male children. So if man didn't have the resources he didn't' have concubines. Summary of course and this was from several historical papers that were pages long. So take my summary and very very very loose.
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  71. I was the smart kid but never had this problem. I never felt humiliated learning. Here's why, I learn the best through failure. So in school I'd fail through out the year the ace the final exam. So developed embracing failure as way to learn. This allows me to suck at something till I learn it which in lot instance allows me learn it a lot faster that people expect.
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  72. Asperger's but don't know what my IQ is. I do know I had to pretend to stupid in school to avoid problems.
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  73. For me this brings up those personality tests they have us do at my work place. We do one called DISC. This has to be most frustrating thing ever. I got put in S, only problem is it aggravates me when people take the S Style as way to interact with me. I think the problem is I don't know where my mask stops and where the real me starts. I think it's some my social deficit and people pleasing to be accepted which really aren't me. Now it may seem I'm people pleasing when I get ticket a work to do some thing simple. I'm not jumping on it please you. I jumping on it get rid of it so I can get back to what I was really working on. But that not how they ask the question in the test.
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  74. I used to do a ton of sit up. Can do 100 easy. Thinking my abs were strong because I could do that. Nope they were weak, it was my hip flexors doing all the work. Found that out when I saw video on AtheanX and show how to remove the hip flexors by putting you feet together in frog position. Then I could barely do 10 sit ups and my abs on fire.
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  75. I can tell you how hard it is find non synthetic clothing. I can't wear anything even bit of polyester in it due to breaking out in rashes where ever it touches my skin. The percentage of polyester determines the length time. Lower % the longer I can wear before adverse affects. It never used to be this hard to buy non toxic clothing as it is now. People like me I feel are the canary in the coal mine. I'm often the one to get adverse affects from things long before studies show the hidden dangers.
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  76. Y2K wasn't a prediction. That's exactly what would have happened if we hadn't upgrade everything and I mean everything. Those were fun days, so much money being spent. Working in IT was quite the ride.
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  77. It's genetic that's been proven. It's neurotype. Like being tall is physical aspect. Autism is not medical condition is social condition we see we experience world differently. Communication is different. Autism has other disorder that more medically disabling but that also happen with non autistic people. Those disabling co occurring disorders in are autistic people are double that of people who not autistic. Why don't we look why that happens with autistic people.
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  78. I was the guy that didn't date in high school or college, didn't get laid to later. I had no issues with. I had other things to do than just chase women for sex. I've never had a problem. At well I have no idea how to flirt but that neurological deficit reason. I never had problem with attracting women just didn't notice I attracted women. As women got old they got less subtle then no issue getting laid. Dating became really easy once women dropped subtle hints.
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  79. When I learned to play the the guitar, a journey that never ends. Every new thing leads to 10 more new things and I'm on 2 years into it. It's taught me a few things about procrastination. One thing it taught me was 5-10 minutes practice is good enough everyday. I can fit that in so many parts of my day. It was the finger pain that set that though. When I started I could only play 10 minutes before my fingers hurt. Over time I practice for 5 minutes only to find 30 minutes had passed. I can procrastinate playing the guitar though by not actually practising but just noodling around. Noodling around is important too but you can spend your time only noodling around. This taught me stuff I can use in other areas of my life. Just do 5 minutes, need to clean pick one thing do it for 5 minutes and most time I go onto the next thing and the next then it's done and whole is clean and 30 minutes has passed.
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  80. They did some studies that you make the decision and 1-8 second before are consciously aware of the decision. So how do you make that decision with free will, you can't the decision was already made. So life programs your choice ahead of time. This can be changed though.
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  81. The reason flat earther concept exists it get people denying reality so that they then donate money. That what cults do. What more is organized religion make people more susceptible to this sort mental manipulation. Look how church work, don't ask questions. Listen and obey. Sing repetitive songs. Pay your tithes, collection plate what ever. These people ripe for the picking for flat earthers. They've been trained subconsciously to just submit to authority figures. So charismatic flat earther appeals to the and slowly then get indoctrinated. It's all about the money
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  82. The lies of ABA therapy is a hate crime. This guy compares to autism to cancer. They are not hear to help the kids they are eradicate them. Has no one learned from past. Take look residential school where the tried to cure kids of being indigenous. Take the Indian out of the boy they said. ABA is the same thing. We are repeating the past mistake and letting hate take over and hiding is trying to help.
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  83. I read about turning pain off through mindfulness and meditation and I tried it I literally could turn pain off. Have splitting pressure headache from a change in weather and I can turn the pain off. A bruised leg that throbs with pain. I can turn that off. How it works is when I'm going to sleep. I do deep breathing and use my imagination to visualize my idea of what the nervous system is based on my body shape. I imagine following to path to the source of pain and just turn it off. This is being very mindful of my body and relaxing. This works for mild pain like bruises, headaches, aches and pain from work too hard in yard. I've never had the opportunity for extreme pain like broken bones. I've done with a sun burn. Works best when I'm going to sleep. Harder to do during day to day activities.
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  84. I find it weird that the "Dragon" are so easily duped by a snake oil salesman. Sure this could sell a few but it's snake oil and won't last.
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  85. Anxiety is fear, a specific type. Fear the Future. A problem you can't fix worrying about the future. In moment the problem you can't fix isn't really a problem. Example. Housing prices today are high. Not a big deal, you're not looking for buy a house today. Anxiety come in looking and current price, seeing the trend over time and knowing by the time you are ready it will be worse and you have no control over housing prices. So you have future fear of not being able to buy house when you are ready to do so.
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  86. Trumps stats are off. It's more like 15 per 100,000 in 1980 when there was no diagnostic criteria for it. So yeah if one starts looking with diagnostic criteria it drops from 1-2 in 100,000 to 1 into 10,000 ,1 in 1000 and 1 in 150 by the 2000. 1994 the DSM 4 came out and autism was 1 of 5 disorders that were added. If you don't look for it you won't find it. I was diagnosed with Asperger's in 1980 though at that time that was not autism. Now is since the 2013 and an the DSM5. I can tell you as person diagnosed with it we were always there. I just showed it more as kid. That's why we we have all the late diagnosis now. All that people aged 30-60 getting diagnosed in past 10 years were kids 40 and 50 years ago. We existed. There is no increase. And existed before the MRR vaccine too.
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  87. I live in migraine central in South Eastern Alberta. We get Chinooks with odd wind pattern which brings warm winds in winter and extreme air pressure changes. So we wind, huge temp change from -20 to +10 C accompanied by pressure change. More people have migraines here than normal stats.
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  88. Unpasturized sour beers if you can find one add a lot good gut bacteria. Or just skip the alcohol and drink Kombucha.
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  89. Here's something I found interesting. Black and White thinking points to mental health problem. Typically high stress and anxiety. Just look at the state of the world in general. Everyone is more stress and dealing with a lot of anxiety. This I think wasn't as bad a before social media. Cause or correlation. I person think it's turned a feed back loop though causing more stress and anxiety if one isn't careful.
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  90. Being young stupid at age 19 I tried mushrooms at party. Really didn't find it had any effect long term. What I did find was music, I could single out instruments. Listen to rhythm guitar for example clearly. As well colors were much brighter. That's the only things I noticed really. Oh one more thing being intoxicated that intoxication and by time I was off the shooms. I was sober. Never did again but does show dangerous alcohol is as impairs you judgement and reduce you inhibition. I'd have never tried this sober.
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  91. Free will exist but it's base on perception. If I can choose toppings on my pizza that free will from my perceptions. But is it really. When you look at that possibility of the multiverse. Then free will doesn't exist because I choose all combinations of pizza toppings but I just perceive the choice as singular in all multiverses. In the Christian religion God gave us free will but God has plan. How's that possible given free will to do the plan unless I do both plan and not the plan and can't perceive only one or the other. That mean there is no free will really but it feels like there is because we can only perceive the universe we exist in and all our otherselves think the same. ????? Possible I don't know.
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  92. Sounds like my son. I think I'm like this to degree but I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but Autism when I was a kid. Back then you couldn't have both. I relate to lot of person ADHD does but also know there is a large over lap.
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  93. Where I live more women addicted than men but I can see why. Weight loss and meth addiction. Meth is huge problem with women where I live.
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  94. Have friend got the passive income going through investments. Took him 35 years of investing. Now he's retired living off 50% of returns and investing 50%. It's still not something he doesn't have to work for. He's always doing trades and investing in different things. He can just do that more not that he's not working. He's pretty set, not super rich but has a steady income from it and has reduced his expenses by having no debt. Single no kids helps a lot.
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  95. I used to always take blame. I don't have low self esteem though. It's just that on spectrum I'm expected to take the blame for miscommunications. I don't accept that now. It's a double empathy problem so it goes both way. I'm not only one that has to make the effort. But since I am making the effort if the other person is not then I do not need to take the blame for it. I do have to be aware when I'm not making the effort which happens when I'm overwhelmed.
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  96. I think how accepting we are men when women sexually assault us creates problems. In fact I'm sure I'm get in trouble for just saying this. Men don't like to to look at unwanted sexual touch as sexual assault. I don't know why, I even feel that way I just question it. Why am I OK with a random woman gabbing my junk?That's happened many time in 20s. I think if I did that women I'd be jail cell. But they can do it me with no consequence because I re-frame under my ego and shove the shame down, the shame does exist surprisingly. It's hard to admit it that it could be crime. That shame comes that while I had hot woman grab my junk, my girl fiend was at the table just out of sight. What this gets me thinking about is how this impacts the experience women have with men when come to sexual assault. This is also a story I've heard in locker room talk and we all relate to because we've all experienced it. How does that impact me and how I teach my son?
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  97. He talks like autism is disease. It's not, it's a genetically different brain. I can trace autism back 4 generation in my family. Diversity in brain played big role in survival of human species. What he's describing though could be impacting people who autistic/ADHD more than does NT people. That is not the cause of it but could be what makes it disabling. Neuro Typical people might not be a sensitive. Consider this though with Neuro Diversity we'd still be living caves as hunter gathers.
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  98. Information Technology is getting like that too.
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  99. This one depends on love languages. Cellphone checking impacts Quality time and that one many love languages. So this might not bother people with different love languages.
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  100. Porn is kind of boring, no it's actually boring. How do people get addicted? If i were to use porn and orgasm that just makes crave the touch of another person an porn can't do that and it boring. Honestly even if I do watch porn that won't help me orgasm. I have to go into my own brain and create my own fantasy to do that. Porn just is meh. But I don't have the negative emotions. I like my quiet times where I can just be with my thoughts. I get some of my most creative ideas during those quiet times.
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  101. I think if people looked at what marriage actually was in Bible they'd be shocked if they really understood what it was. It's not what what marriage is today.
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  102. I disagree, 25 years with my wife all started with casual sex. FWBs for 8 months and into committed relationship that lead to marriage, kids and quarter of century together. I"m not saying all casual relationship will end that way, just many I suspect end as causal dating does.
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  103. Here's an interesting thing my son said I totally get as I said the same thing when I was his age. He has no future, no future vision. He can't see him living to be 20. I said that exact same thing when I was 16 too. Then I got 20, and changed to 25. Then I got 25 and changed 30. Then I got 30 and changed to 80. I don't know if others think like this. My wife certainly can't comprehend that thinking. Not sure if that is time blindness thing that ASD and ADHD get. Something I have and suspect my son has and he's going through diagnosis process.
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  104. Seems to me the communication deficit is on the woman's side, she's not asking the correction question. My wife asks like this. "I want sushi, would you like to go for sushi with me." That's the real question. It not if I want sushi, she wants know if I'd join her for sushi. Just when the question is asked incorrectly you get the incorrect answer. Men are not mind readers and if you have man that appears to be that's red flag that you man in going down hill fast as he's being hyper vigilant about you needs. A man doesn't function well for years like that and will crash.
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  105. There have been some recent studies have shown Ketogenic diet help a lot and in some but not reverses. As well misdiagnosis is quite common. 15 minutes is not enough to diagnose someone and that the average appoint time with psychiatrist. They get paid to put you on drugs and paid to see as many people as possible
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  106. This is interesting, heard about it. Some corporations are not happy about it.
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  107. I look at content like this the same as guitar videos. you can binge watch them but if you don't use the content then it's useless. Same with work out video. You can watch all you want about how to pull up that maxes you gains but if you don't do then it's useless. If you find thing here. you can use the validate what you are doing and implement things you learn here but you may need professional one on one. Kind of like you do with personal trainer for working out or a guitar teacher. Both online and one on one works best but you still have to do the work yourself.
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  108. I can see why you got canceled. You don't seem to well educated, you may be but you are extremely biased with you personal opinions which are not facts going against well researched peer reviewed data. Your autism opinion are not facts and very uninformed.
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  109. That data shows no change in autism diagnosis in 8 years. 2000 1 in 150 2020 1 in 36 What happened between 2000 and 2020? The DSM 5 came out in 2013. That changed what was in the DSM 4 where autism was one 5 disorders. Asperger's was it's own disorder. In 2013 4 of that 5 were put into 1 diagnosis Autism Spectrum Disorder. Here's some math for you. 150 divided by 4. Divide by 4 becuase 4 disorders became 1 disorder. The result is 38. So we see a slight increase in diagnosis by 2020. Why the huge alarm? It's increase literally from 1-38 to 1-36. Not something to get your panties in bunch over. I'm amazed no one thinks to look at this and just jumps on bandwagon with not critical thinking skills.
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  110. Those aren't truths but false beliefs. You don't find love, you give love. You stumble a across someone giving love but if you don't love yourself first you won't be able to mirror it and it will pass you by. But find love give it to yourself first then give it others with nothing expected in return. If you make it a transaction it's not love.
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  111. Anxiety drugs ramp up my anxiety in me to insane levels I did find CBD gummies with only trace amounts of THC helped with anxiety really well. You do not get high using them at all. Excessive anxiety just fades away slowly. It's still there but not overwhelming. As well I only used those for 30 days and the anxiety hasn't come back and that's been 2 years now. I calming my anxiety helped look at what it was trying to tell me. So I feel and look at my anxiety now. It's there for reason warning me of something. For example I'd get extremely anxious about having to give presentation in school. Now if I have to do corporate presentation I don't get like that. My anxiety will tell, I'm not prepared enough or to see that I am. The anxiety is never gone just become normal. Butterflys in stomach, a sense of scary excitement, and my confidence gets better. I think that's why I don't need the gummies. They just gave me a break to see that.
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  112. Those racial and sexual dynamics aren't about 200 years ago. That's this guys blind spot. That's something that happens today. There are atrocities that have happened in my life time. I'm from Canada and Residential school people think happened over 100 years ago yet they stopped the practice taking kids away in 1996. We are still dealing with that today because those people are still alive dealing the with trauma. Saying it's dealing with the past is just avoiding the problem by pretending it's ancient history when it's we have fallout of in present day. We just repeating history too doing again just somewhere else.
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  113. That ADHD isn't genetic does not make sense. It's been researched a lot. 20% though is not genetic. Maybe she talking about that. Thing is there was more stress in generations before so that kind flies in the face of this. Would everyone be ADHD then if what she says is true? It is genetic, you can see in families identify it going bad 4 generations. Longer if the stories are correct form the past. ADHD in boomer generation and before was a bad thing. It was lot more hand on physical work and high school wasn't needed. It's problem today with more education and desk jobs as more and more of the jobs are automated
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  114. I see a lot conspiracy theories about climate change and globalization here in Alberta Canada. As it a perceived as a direct threat to people working in oil patch. So all kind theories. Like how Contrails from jets are spreading medication to makes us docile and less resistant to realizing Climate Change is scam. Really strange. It's all really silly as climate change measure will create jobs in oil patch, high paying jobs to reduce and eliminate emissions. Electric vehicle will be supported by zero emission natural gas electrical turbines. Yet they can't see this and blame lost job due to automation on climate change activism. I can see that they feel threatened on two fronts. On on changes to oil patch. People will need new skills that they don't have. They are also very fearful of climate change too and live in denial. Building conspiracies to support their denial.
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  115. I ran into that pushing through walls. Then figure out that I don't have to. For longest time I thought if wasn't hard it wasn't worth doing. So hard was Kool aid man going through the walls. Then a conversation about attending church with friend made realize I don't have to do the hard things. So took the easy path. Seemed weird but I started doing really hard things with easy on the easy path. Those hard things didn't feel hard to me. I felt bad about it. Easy should result in great success yet it did. Thing is I talked to this other guy and he envious of friend who seem to have to so easy in Tech, I know the struggles that friend had. So I just kept my mouth shut on how easy the courses were for me. That showed my path was difficult for many but for me really easy. It's not lazy to take the easy path and stop pushing through walls.
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  116. I'm not sure sensory issues are just ASD thing. I think NT people have them too just they are seen a acceptable and common among them so easier to accommodate and they can endure but vent about later.
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  117. That's what emotional availability is? I do that all the time. I got laid off at work years ago. How talk about it is not how I fixed it. I talk about how at first how I felt angry, scared and sad but then realized the opportunity of it and that job really sucking the life out me and suddenly I was quite happy that tough decision had be made for me. The world was literally ahead of me and I could be more choosy in my next job. That turned negative feeling to positive. Men don't like this can sharing. Women love it. The reason I do this though because I'm on spectrum. It's how people on spectrum communicate that we understand each other. So I'd share this with some that just go laid off as way show I understand how they may be feeling to validate the other person. People not on spectrum see this as black catting. Who knew social deficit would turn into a social abundance. I guess this why I make friends with women easier than men.
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  118.  @Nilguiri  Canadian Key board, so don't have the accents and such. So best I can do, thank you. Hosted student from Spain, learned a lot about Spain. Love get there some day for visit. That and Italy
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  119. This is pretty common for tourist destination. They start turning the place in revenue properties. Rent balloons and people can't afford to live and work there so they commute in with this tourists to support the businesses. A lot travel is going to be gone in future do climate change and increased costs. Then add in the AI that will remove jobs and resulting in universal basic income. That wouldn't cover travel.
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  120. DSM-5 is an issue is that it looks only deficiency not that positive sides of autism. It's different way of thinking. On spectrum you can have people with disorders same and those not on spectrum have disorders too. I think nutrition can have serious impact on those on spectrum. I avoid processed foods as much as possible as it triggers a lot problems with me being on spectrum. Not eating those foods means less problems for me. The problems still exist they are just manageable but too much processed food and it gets worse. I get overwhelmed much faster for example.
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  121. Is guilt really an emotion or is manifestation from outside influence that produce the real emotion being shame. That's how my psychologist pointed it to me when I was talking to her about how I was constantly being guilt tripped to behave in certain way. The guilt trip is method to trigger the emotion of shame in me as way to get me to do something they want me to do. This made sense to me as I don't really feel guilt just shame. Guilt trigger the shame. I might guilt myself and feel shame for things too. So my thought create the guilt then the emotion shame comes up. My thoughts are guilt but no emotion to them. Thought just trigger the emotions. So if I'm thinking I'm guilty for forgetting to do something I promised to do my thoughts are I'm guilty of breaking my promise. Then I feel bad, that's the shame I'm feeling triggered by my thoughts. I could blank my thoughts and avoid that entirely then have my wife guilt trip me, for good reason, then that triggers the shame.
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  122. I thought to be an Attorney General you also have to be a lawyer. If so is she a lawyer and can she be disbarred?
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  123. Where I live a prenup isn't enforceable if it violates existing law. So they have to be carefully draft it or the becomes unenforceable. I'm sure that true in US too but the US might have less laws to take into consideration.
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  124. I like being bored as I get creative after a space of being bored. When I'm bored I get so of my best ideas. Too much boredom could be a problem but I've never experienced it. What I do when bored is just observe my thoughts. Sometimes I just write my thoughts out. Thoughts just pass by then either like cloud passing the sky or written out to notepad document that I just delete. I don't ignore the thoughts just observe and don't engage. In the mess of thoughts is where creative idea come from. I don't do this all the time, sometime I engage thoughts that I should have just let pass and I spiral into more thoughts of the same type. That's when I need focus on something.
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  125. Interesting thing is trans fat bans. that was all occurring during that time out right banned in 2018 for most nations. The replacement is palm oil for example during this time. Is there connection? "A diet rich in saturated fat and sugar not only leads to obesity, it creates inflammation in the nucleus accumbens, a part of the brain that controls mood and the feeling of reward. And this inflammation can lead to depressive, anxious and compulsive behavior and disrupt metabolism,according to a new study. " University of Montreal So we are being told we having childhood obesity epidemic seem also start during this time and it's many nations around the world. interesting correlation, doesn't prove causation though.
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  126. Casual sex isn't with someone a woman doesn't know. Hook up sex can be, one night stands and such. Casual sex is two people that know each that have consensual sex with out commitments. Friends with befits for example. Hook up sex is dangerous for both because both are doing it and risk of STIs are higher in that sort of situation. Pregnancy is a problem as after hook up they might now even know the guys first name let alone anything about him. Casual sex is defined relationship where both know each and know each better. Casual sex can end in long term relationship too and better relationship if it goes that way, can go the opposite and end really badly too. I met my wife through casual sex and we've been together for 25 years now. The casual was that we were both going different direction in year. I was on contract job and had no clue where I'd be in year and she was moving to the UK for a year. So we kept is FWB and things changed. We moved from FWB to committed relationship and changed our plans to do that. So is causal sex all that bad if after 25 years we are still together?
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  127. Then you've never met a real woman. The same can be said about a lot men that never grow up. Peterpan syndrome.
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  128. That 7 seconds is just when you are aware you made the choice. That's a very useful tool for living life. I don't see it as part of a free will in any. It's just mechanic our brains use so we walk and chew bubble gum at the same time. Now as we can't count to 100 and recite the alphabet at the same time we a mechanism to off load on of those so I could train myself to write out the alphabet while I count to 100. This how we can drive a car or ride bike. I consciously knew of every decision made at moment it was made I don't we'd exist as we do.
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  129. 60 KM isn't what I'd call a few. But I guess if you look at the distance between galaxies 60 km could be considered a few in comparison.
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  130. So Methuselah then live to 74 1/2 solar years old. Back in that time living in equatorial region with no notable season and no idea of solar rotation they relied on moon cycles as years. 74.5 solar years would be quite old.by about 15 years.
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  131. The more I think about this the more I can't find desires. In fact 90% of what I what I have is due to my wife's desires. I think this comes from me being on spectrum. Just a hypothesis. I don't like change. So chasing desires are the worst thing I can think of doing. There are desires that I see but then I think about how much changes if I were to go down that path and desire become not a path to happiness but path to terrible things. So I sort of have the opposite problem. Desires seem like a huge chore that has to be done. I resist as long a possible. Even when I know in the end I'll be happier for doing it. The interesting thing mental heal professional see this a putting other needs before mine. They don't actually see that I'm avoiding change by giving my wife the things she wants. The only areas this doesn't happen isn't restricted interests and that's totally different thing where the rules are different, I can desire there and when I get I'm the happiest ever as well that is long lasting happiness. You describe that first time playing a video game and wanting that feeling again, I get do that all the time with in special interest.
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  132. This is not rule by bureaucracy. It's fiefdoms in civil service. Where manager build their mini fiefdom in department and they work to maintain even if has no actual purpose or isn't meeting the purpose set up by elected officials. In low of case they take Billion dollars and by the time it get to people in help way its down couple hundred thousand dollars. Lots of corruption. Work from home is not an issue. The money get spent locally in the community that way instead of wasted on long commute. Sure where the offices are end up with empty office and some closed businesses in that location. Fix that so people live there instead just being offices. That's the mistake cities made.
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  133. I find if I have friend that tries to dim my light that puts a fire under me and makes my light brighter. If it's something my intuition is telling me to do then someone discouraging me just tells me even more this is the right path. I'm not again constructive feed back with specifics like you point out. This just the generalized discouragement with no backing to it. I've made people very angry in following my path oddly after years and success they shocked I'm successful.
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  134. There is correlation to age of parents, obesity, diabetes and autism causation has never been proved. It's easily explain that these can have no impact what so ever. Take obesity and diabetes. It's proven obesity puts you at risk of Type II diabetes. Take how autistic people eat, sensory issues limiting what they can eat, you have interoception issues where not knowing if one is hungry or full, stimming can be eating a comfort food that is not healthy. Add to that getting exercise may difficult for some. As well alcohol use which is tied weight gain. Misdiagnosis and given meds that cause weight gain. So some autistic people end up obese but not all. That easily explain away in observation studies. Age is another problem as autistic people tend to 10 year behind typical people in terms of relationship, may take and extra time in post secondary to get their education. Have troubles with employment so they get married later in life if at all and that means having kids later in life. Mid 30s vs mid 20s. So if obese autistic person end up haven kid in their mid 30s what is more logical, it's genetic or obesity and age caused it. You can't make broad statement as true and proven based observation studies.
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  135. Women get seen as gold diggers by male design. In patriarchy where even today we still have women earning less than men in many sectors of economy, not all but in many. The conservative idea of woman at home with the kids. This creates a environment where women do end up relying on men for money. Then men call women gold diggers when that's what society is designed to do to women. It was worse 100 years ago but we have long way to go still.
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  136. I don't get meditation. Not sure what it's supposed to do. So you just sit the and do nothing, no thoughts for 30 minutes. All it does is increase my sensory input,. Being on the spectrum that's worse. I just shut off my inner monologue. No thoughts then I hear everything, see thing like that fruit fly and follow it around, start feeling the cold or heat. Done meditating I'm more stressed.
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  137. I studied first thing in morning just not long. I'd come back to it through out the day. I do this still. I'll get up practice my guitar. In school I used cram all night. Never did well. What night time brings me creativity. Earlier in day I seem to not be as creative. It's routines i follow mindlessly. Gets things done though. Once all those are done, I get creative late night. So what I did was just add study to my routine. Huge improvement for grades as went from 2.5 GPA to 4.0 GPA and Dean's honor role.
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  138. I don't always want to be right. That's not possible. The more I know the more I find I don't know and I can't be right all the time or 50% of the time. I can be confident in my wrongness and if shown wrong I have no issues adjusting what I was shown as right. I've been wrong today more than I can count. I've learned from each thing but that's part the the troubleshooting process in my job.
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  139. i crave boredom, so much always going on.
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  140. Should have said that I know this as that is exactly what my wife tells me. Not some male assumption. I'm that rock for her and she treasures that about me.
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  141. The reason is a diagnosed disorder is that while those cluster B disorders are really bad it's easy to misdiagnose people with it. Take look at how many women that autistic got diagnosed with Border Line Personality DIsorder, give drugs that never worked. Treatments that never work then one day oops it was autism all along. Who knew girls could be autistic too. They are just better social in masking and it fooled doctors into giving the wrong diagnosis. That's how good the masking is to people not spectrum.
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  142. They should have this meeting, don't call it team building. Call it expectations. Then everyone know. Next hold the specific people accountable.
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  143. zinc I easy to get by eating nuts. Peanuts and Almonds mostly.
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  144. my experience with Mormons. Grandmother on my mothers side and grandfather on my father side were Mormons. My parent were as well for time till racism cause my parent to quit. In that time a kid, I also refused to go church for totally different reason, that I was spectrum and it over whelmed me to be there. So I have some ideas why. As kids no TV, we had TV but a lot my Mormon friends were not allowed to watch TV. So we made up fantasy stories to pass the time. We'd sit in group and add to he stories. This lead to RPG game like D&D in early 80s. I look back on it as odd with that Mormon church had no issues with us playing game when other religions where totally against and protested it. I do find the book series Twilight seems like total rip off the White Wolf games. What really weird about this White Wolf sued Sony Studio over the Underworld series but not Twilight. I find that strange.
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  145. How do people know early childhood that we don't know what emotion we are feeling? I'd argue we do but don't remember due to infantile amnesia. We would be express emotions in way mature humans can understand. We would be able mirror those emotion with emotive empathy and figure out the emotion the infant or toddler is experiencing. I have many memories from before I was 3. I know what I was feeling too. I'm on of those rare people that didn't go through infantile amnesia. I have memories of things going back about 6 months of age. I have memories that not of something I saw in pictures or stories as know one knew those stories and no pictures. Example: 6 months old I was sick, not that sick I felt, but sick. I was in hospital. The nurses would take temp ever so often with anal thermometer. I remember that hurt, I was scared when the nurse would come. I was determined to keep diaper covered bum stuck to the crib mattress. Then she came with the huge thing she going stick in my bum to get my temp. At that time didn't know that it was to get my temp, I could not understand why she was doing that to me. Years later I saw an anal thermometer and it looked so small compared to my infantile memory of it. I can remember the smells. The green floor. Crib in the dim room and nurse at the station just outside the door to and down a bit. I can remember hearing get out creaking chair and come into the. I'd stiffen to keep my bum the Crib which never worked.
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  146. gurus don't work on me. I have this autistic compulsion to know why. If they won't tell me why I'll research it to find the why. If I can not find the why I won't do it. PDA plays a big part in this.
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  147. Self medicating is bad. People seem to overdo it when self medicating. If works they take more thinking more is better than it just mess them up.
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  148. Animals may have a concept of time. My dog will tell me it's dinner time on the hour, she knows. She know when vacation time is and she gets to go to the farm. As July approaches she gets so excited, farm time is is coming. It's almost like is she could talk she be asking when she gets to spend 2 weeks at the farm with my parents.
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  149. Psychologist pointed out that guilt is something other give you to induce shame. Manipulative people use guilt in form of guilt tripping to manipulate you. Guilt come from outside source. Guilt can from empathizing with others. If do something to hurt them this guilt results in shame for hurting them. Now you either try to make amend or internalize the shame and avoid the person in future. That's just example. You can have shame by not meeting expectations, no need for others to use guilt to make you feel shame. That's how she explained it me and I had all this shame for things beyond my control. Like shame for not being able to control another person's emotions. I had to learn I can't control other people emotion but I could control how I react to their emotions. In doing that I refused accept guilt. Trying to make me responsible for their happiness though guilt is guilt I do not have to accept. No shame that way either.
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  150.  @ArtSio443  I don't follow that logic. How doe it get to there shouldn't be suffering? That is quite the leap in logic to get to the shouldn't be any suffering.
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  151. The map really show a lack of geography. Doesn't even know his own country an puts the flag half way up Alberta Canada.
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  152. This good example of how person flirts but these are not habits you should adopt. What he's doing is being authentic. If you try to be like him you will not be authentic and that's turn off. A woman might not like the authentic you but it guaranteed she won't like you trying to fake it.
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  153. I've heard more women get post secondary degrees, diplomas, certificate and associate degrees. Yet most don't work in field they went to school for and work low paying job somewhere. Example I know several women with nursing degree working min wage jobs in fast food. I don't blame them, as a lot nurse job pay min wage though. Not all just the one in Long Term Care Homes looking after seniors where I live. This happens to men to just to lesser degree. I now several men with Education degrees that could get jobs as teachers. There is reason for that, preference for women and not in good way.
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  154. Blind spots can be found with shadow work so I'm told? Is that true. I've tried I believe I've found some of my blind spots but how would I know for sure if I'm blind to it? Maybe it is reveals a few but not all or none at all.
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  155. Venting with solutions is good. Venting and giving you power away is bad. It sure feels good though, the Ego loves it. Just causes problem in long run.
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  156.  @Mike80528  I work in high stress job. I also learned venting didn't help as I was just giving my power away. Blame other for stress. Instead I changed and figured out how to reduce stress while increase productivity. I just did it my sphere of influence. It caught on and stress while not gone it has lessened.
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  157. I have to delete my social media from time to time because it feeds me the same thing. You tube isn't much better. Just because I like one thing doesn't mean I want more of it. Yeah chocolate ice cream is good. Doesn't mean I want every ice cream ever made. This what drives me nuts about social media. Yeah that guy playing guitar and cat reacting was interesting. The algorithm got it wrong. I don't want more cat videos. I want videos of people playing guitar that I can learn from. But no, social media ditches guitar to feed cat videos. Took me weeks of flagging posts as irrelevant to get rid of cat videos.
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  158. Wouldn't study on sex worker be quite flawed and that is work not sex entirely. It's very narrow type of sex that sex workers have. Sure it one way a person can have sex by letting a person pay to use them. But how is that compared other sex. For example sex in open relationship, monogamous relationship, dating courtship, app hook up, friend with benefits. Do we no a old study based observing sex worker applies to all forms of sexuality?
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  159. Media isn't lying. Like the friend that never lies but at the same withhold information where so they don't have to lie. Still deceptive but not lying. That's what the media does. Social media, that were the blatant lies come though with deep fakes now making it worse. So if I see on social media treat it as all lies and if someone wants me to take it seriously it need to have legit sources.
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  160. i found a nap after work seems like it would interrupt my sleep but I've found I sleep better. But too long of nap impacts my sleep later in the night.
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  161. Interesting thing is I never needed corrective lenses till I started working in Information Technology. Sitting in front of computer for few years and then I needed glasses. I've found I can improve my long range vision by getting outside and not wearing my glasses. Not squinting to see in the distance. I can go with out my glasses with not issues other accepting a slightly less clear vision in the distance. Never wear my glasses when skiing, don't want risk breaking them and find I don't need use them to Ski any ways. So what if the tree 100 meters out is crisp clear still looks like a tree.
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  162. I'm in Canada and values are different really. People there want those things. The problem I see is they are blinded by propaganda. It happen in Canada too to lesser degree. That's why they don't have universal healthcare. I remember a they said they don't want death panels deciding who should live or die yet they already have that through insurance companies in much worse way. Profits over life saving treatments that have resulted in health insurance CEO being gunned down.
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  163. So if the got those small reactors to 60 million that's price of natural gas turbine. At least that was the cost in 2019 when company I work put new power plant, could be higher now. Each turbine is capable of 300 MW per hour. What would power output of these SMRs be. Would be less or more or about equal. If it was about the same or more then this would be good solution to the green house gas problems with natural gas.
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  164. I'm a guy and totally feel and recognize anxiety, for the longest time I couldn't put name to the feeling. Turns out it's anxiety. So I started to look at what my anxiety was telling me. It was alerting me to issue. True it makes that issue look 10 times bigger than it actually is. I''m on spectrum so I get overwhelmed and if too much I meltdown or shutdown or even worse end up in autistic burn out. Since I started being aware of that anxiety. It warning me of that I'm getting overwhelmed. It show my overwhelm as 10 time bigger that it actually is. This works well for me though. Sure I might not be that close to it I'm more aware I'm getting close. It's not red a alert but orange alert. Orange is good time took take action. Once in the actual read unforeseen events can push me over the edge. Direct result of recognizing my anxiety in this way has reduce the occurrences of meltdown by over 75%.
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  165. That's what they Government charges for it when it was first done probably 15 year ago in 2010. Now the price lower and those parts are freely available from any cable manufacture.
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  166. Trees can help us but not alone. But the issue is more that we are cutting down trees to create intensive industry that is big on co2 emissions. Amazon cut down for pasture land to grow the cattle industry. So if we stop and plant trees where they were.
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  167. I had political science instructor say this about when the left goes to too far. It goes too far when lands in same spot as the extreme right. The right goes to far when it lands spot of the extreme left.. Then he put point on board calling it the center. drew line to left and to the right to form almost a circle but on opposite the it does me but over laps. That over lap is that same spot the Right and Left get to when they go too far.
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  168. I disagree. Having sex with you does not mean she find you desirable. It just means she want's sex and you are currently available. Sex doesn't not mean she has any romantic interests you just the guy and right time right place. Once she find the guy she really interested in that end and she moves putting you back in friends category. If you have woman tell you that you are great and any woman would be lucky to have. That's not her feeling, that her propping up you ego, trying to give you self confidence and validating you so you can go find the woman which is not going to be her. This is no deception by women. Not until you find a woman and get into relationship. If that that point she turn in green eyed jealousy monster, that when you know was interested and not it's too late.
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  169.  @Liliarthan  I agree with emotive empathy but cognitive empathy don't agree. Find cognitive empathy is offbase with NT but more accurate with ND people.
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  170. By the way I tell the doctor the symptom. Self diagnosing I may have idea that I need to go see the doctor on this about these symptom. So I tell them the symptoms I'm experiencing. Sometime I may even tell them I read about this online and thought best come to a Doctor.
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  171. Wind Chlll doesn't lower temperature. It make you feel the current temperature much faster as strips away the warmth you body creates. This mean frost bite can happen very fast. Basically it like blast freezer. The temp isn't colder it's just gets things into to that temp faster. Here in Canada. If you -20C with wind chill of -40C it's not -40C because you can still breath normally. If it is actually -40C, which happen when polar vortex hits. Breathing outside is difficult as the air that cold. Mind you I'd take -40c no wind over -20c with wind.
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  172. When it comes to shared roles in child rearing and just house hold duties. In Canada that has become normal. Not for everyone but for enough to be normal. Normal enough that people from other countries come her where that isn't the norm and are shocked.
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  173. I find this very odd. I like women that are successful. Best CEO we had was a woman, she was great. Very likeable, good sense of humour and she was amazingly competent the position. But I'm on spectrum and social hierarchies and gender roles are something I don't recognize. People often point this out to me, used to cause a lot anxiety after but not I just don't care.
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  174. Early 20s college tried shrooms. Never had an hallucination. Not really. Colors seemed brighter, jokes seemed funnier, music seemed more intense. Guess that sort hallucinating. Only tried it once. LSD on the other hand, that I didn't experiment rather someone slipped a tab in to my drink. I was hallucinating all night. In my hallucination I partied the whole night, dancing and socializing. The next day my friends said I never left my chair and was spaced out the whole night. Then the guy who slip me the LSD told me what he did, I punched in face for doing it. At least he said he deserved it.
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  175. I've always found I fall asleep the best between 12:00 am and 2:00 am waking between 8:00 am and 10:00 am. This is my natural circadian sleep rythm I have found. It's a lot of effort to got bed earlier and get up earlier. I often miss that mark. So is discipline a way to force yourself to be unnatural in your environment.
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  176. If you are man who's in 40s with adult kids, yeah someone close to the guys age on the edge of not being able to have kids and maybe fixed just like the man is. That's perfect really. And baggage, that great stuff to unpack with each other and laugh at .
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  177. I never had sex as kid, not till I was adult for many years. If had sex earliest I'd have end up in mess like friends I saw did.
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  178. I've seen a few examples of when it's the kid and not the parent and these are not uncommon. 1) drug addiction: Kids get into crazy things. I had no clue that over the counter stuff can be turned into opiod for example. A mild one that kids do just for fun because it's promoted on TikTok. When things turn side ways with the drug the child is hiding it with a ton of shame. The pain of shame and embarrassment that they go no contact to avoid feeling that way. (this on happen far too often) 2) Narcissistic predators: This pure manipulation as isolation tactic. The narcissists gaslights the victim so much they think that the parents are worst ever. It's win for the narcissist to get their victim going no contact with family and friends. Parents may not even be aware of this. They can be that charming the parent think they are good for their child.
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  179. I have never used a free charger. I have my own charger, it just need a electrical outlet. Even that I've never had to do but it's how I'd do it. If you phone is 10% battery when I'm out, it can wait til I get home. My phone is not that important to me.
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  180. I think the reason women are opting out marriage is the cost of weddings. It's really gotten out of hand how much it costs now. The price of wedding can be down payment on house.
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  181. none of my kids go smart phone till they were in high school. By the we had old phones and with driving, jobs, school now the phone was needed. Mostly to get work, seem work place want the ability to phone kids to fill shifts and no cell phone less likely to get employment.
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  182. You see this a lot. Governments allocated a bunch money into pot for X. Even when X doesn't need the money they take the money create nonsense research is the same reason you seen nonsense projects publicly funded. This in my opinion on it, people get budget, they don't use it so twit set up rule that you don't get budget again. So people waste the money as they might have project next that is of value. Problem is the project of value in the another area doesn't get funding. It's messed. Why can we put all public money in one big pool then submit valid proposals to get budget to do those things. What I see and I'm sure this applies to academia too is fiefdoms or silos where people protect their jobs by looking busy when they are not and creating a lot make work projects that do literally nothing.
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  183. LOL hard for neuro divergence, it's not even something I can control. Get me going on topic of interest and it's one track mind for me. Hence why they call it a restricted interest, it's restricted as once I'm on that track I'm stuck on it.
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  184. Dopamine I'd say come after the lust but is not party to the love portion. That more vassopressin and oxytocin. The dopamine get you wanting to do it again. Each time the other two hormones trigger the feeling of love. Which really isn't love, the love like feeling. Love is choice after that brain chemicals go away and they do go away. So testosterone starts, dopamine rewards, and vassopression/oxytocin give that longer term love feeling.
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  185. I can see why young men are not getting sex. This doesn't happen to all but all it take is one toxic woman to ruin a man and man will go with out sex to avoid that pain she caused them or it goes the other way were the man will just use women the woman used him. This also happens with toxic men doing the same to woman. I guy so I just happen to know more men that it happens to. My wife knows more women that its happened to. Men talk to men and women talk to women. So they create a messed up society. Then their kid grow up in this and get messed up. The create diagnosis to sell drug. Get them all drugs for anxiety, depression or what ever. All that lower the sex drive. I don't big Pharma will be happy till get us on a number of prescriptions. Those drugs have purpose but over prescribed.
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  186. Not every man watches porn. Being exposed to porn is not watching porn. Porn is everywhere and you will bump into it. Same goes for women. There is difference between seeking porn out and just stumbling across it.
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  187. I'm an man, but that provider protector is just a false identity for men who don't know who they actually are. Men have committed suicide over this toxic identity when the lose the identity. I've seen this repeatedly with oil field workers who lose their job and the the spouse is now provider/protector. As well the provider protector identity means absent father. Kids growing up with money and having it all given to them except for the father never being there as was he working so hard to provide and protect with money.
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  188.  @roseleejones8342  It gets better. Age 10 is a hard time I think for anyone but for high functioning people on spectrum is harder I think. It does get better over time. Takes a long time to learn the expected social cues but eventually you do get it. Never gets to subconscious level where you just get it but you can identify and sort it out faster with time and energy. But she will find the right people in time. Therapy I think would have been a better benefit for me where they worked on self esteem, understanding my Autism, and figure out who I am and what my values are. Discovering who I am allowed me to identify my special interests that lead to far better social interaction with like minded people. If I could have done that at age 10 instead 15 that might have helped more I think.
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  189.  @mr.e7541  She doesn't say that. She saying if you focus on the the end goal the flirting won't work and will go from fun to work making you less playful.
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  190. Saw a video about new way they can get data on that. Not sure it applies to serotonin. This was 6 months ago. It was in some way they can color brain chemicals and detect it in an MRI. I'm going to have to look that up again as I'm sure I've got lot of it wrong here. I think it may have been Huberman labs that saw that on.
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  191. Yeah some people can accept this yet claim the moon landing was faked.
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  192.  @WhichDoctor1  Eating moldy bread just tastes bad. I've eaten moldy bread on more than few occasions by accident. No bad effect other that that gross tastes in the mouth when you hit the moldy part. Not sure why some time I get bread that just turns so quick when it normally doesn't. Suspect moisture in bag, bagged before it cooled entirely.
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  193. I get a autism on my social media. A lot of it is about the struggle. Some of it is about positives. Like last night one post was about how there are people on spectrum that are happy, have a great job, a family and life is pretty good. That was an echo chamber for me. Sure I have my deficits, I'm just aware of them and do things to make life better.
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  194. Diary of CEO is always filled with misinformation and out wrong thing. It's all about getting view and making money.
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  195. On spectrum here, Asperger's. So much shame for just being on spectrum. Life puts that shame into me though. I really don't have ideal self. I have ideal self others impose on me and that is not achievable, it's impossible to achieve. Then I believed no one would accept the real me. I'm told several people now. Some had said they have always suspected. Had people tell me they thing no less of me and tell me they have ADHD. My grade 3 teacher was wrong. People do accept me and I accept myself flaw and all. Accepting my flaws and been great for me. I can accommodate them easier. Took me 11 years to get my education so I hear you. Certainly not easy but acceptance of your self is key.
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  196. I recognize each step. The problems with college at the start I hated what was taking. Exploring thing from more college to jobs. Finding the thing I wanted to do that fit my values and just fired me up. It was so easy this time, I didn't worry about grades. I wanted to learn and learn more than what was being taught. I taught my self. Too other courses outside college. End up with skill set with 5 year of education that no one else had and no degree. Then things just fell into line till the mid life crisis 15 years later. That I found was more acceptance, I like what I was doing just long term plans never came to being. It wasn't even acceptance it was realization. The realization that if I really wanted to do those thing I'd have made it happen. Just because friends took yearly trips to Mexico doesn't mean I have to be fulfilled. What more I realized people were looking at me like and the things I did and wishing they could but the reality is they could if they wanted to just they really didn't' want to.
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  197. I used to get canker sores as kid, lots of them. My dentist told to swish Hydrogen Peroxide. I did, that was grossest thing I've ever tasted. But it healed the canker sore in few days and I've never had again. I told the dentist that his suggestion worked. He said it must have tasted terrible and don't do it again, it's not something to be done regularly but could be done if the canker sores come back if I can stand the foul taste. It was 80s and things change, this might not be good idea now.
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  198. Yeah like the Christian right. They like to turn us into theocracy like Iran based extreme Christian interpretations.
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  199. I don't see an affair causing PTSD but CPTSD makes more sense. PTSD come single traumatic experience. CPTSD comes from a prolong trauma over few money. In affair that trauma is over few months or years. Over the duration of an affair that person knows it happening. They may not acknowledge it consciously or push it away making excuses for that person to avoid the conflict. But when time comes and the cards are on table for all to see the that when all that trauma come to head. The person who was cheated on second guess that past, why didn't they notice it was all there, that tells me they did notice but weren't ready to deal with it. Or they second guess what they should have said. "Why didn't I say anything when I noticed...." This would cause CPTSD, that why when he/sh is late triggers one time not other time, the late has to match that subconsciously noticed pattern of the affair over years.
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  200. A a person the spectrum I question my own gender identity in when was a pre teen. It was weird, but I figured it all out. CISMALE, whatever CIS means. That wasn't a thing back in early 80s. I didn't do anything it just naturally developed that way. The big cause I think was gender roles. The things I liked to do like cooking was considered woman's work yet I enjoyed it. I didn't like a lot of male gender role things. Liked the color pink, to me it's red (Autistic black and white thing. It's red or not) but I like it except they tell it's girls color. So much of that caused confusion for a brief time. Once I realized it was just society, read book that over 100 years pink was boys color. So that settled things in my mind. So I ignore gender roles. My wife likes and dislikes my disregard for gender roles. She doesn't like cooking so that work for her but when it come to fixing things that's the mans job and expect me to do when she has far more expertise construction, cars and such. Cause me a lot stress as she pushes me to do those thing which I feel totally clueless about and have no interest in.
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  201. Getting to moon is 60s was just political stunt. It was so insanely expensive that had little future purpose. What it really did is spur technology on Earth. Now it's far cheaper. The real drive that will cause the drive is what they find on Mars and the Moon.
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  202. Actually it's not just a matter of time, just the odds are good. We could get lucky then just incinerated by the sun as goes red giant
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  203. When someone deflect like that it's basically admitting they made it all up. It's pure fiction. She know the reporter won't be able to find her accusation as it does not exist.
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  204. Land based solar has huge cost in the land it covers. Putting solar where land isn't usable typically isn't good for solar. Like the far north. So it end up covering pasture or crop land. That has hidden cost in environmental impact and food production. As well would we get more energy 24/7 from large satellite to facilitate growth. But by the time this happens we will probably have fusion power plants.
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  205.  @kaseyboles30  Solar could power my house today but will in the future. That's really the issue. What I'm seeing exponential power usage coming in next 5 years due to AI and automation. That's going to be to road block to that for now. I'm sure that problem will drive a solution for power demands that are clean just cut cost by automation.
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  206. That's not VPN are used for. A lot VPN companies use scare tactics to create a new market of suckers. What VPN is used for is secure connection to another network over the internet. Think of it like dragging a virtual wire through the internet to you device. This has uses. One could use it to by pass firewall and access Apps that blocked, school kids do this use social media in schools were they block social media. Another is connecting to you home or work network to access services that are open to the internet. The use the these companies scare monger on is public wifi. That's largely useless. Sure once the VPN tunnel is up you are secure but you have just enough time when joining a rouge AP to enabling the VPN for shady character to compromise your device. Once compromised the VPN is useless. Best advice, don't join unknown free wifi. If I was hacker I'd do that exploit zero day vulnerabilities which is really simple to do with a little just enough knowledge to be dangerous.
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  207. I play SWGOH and that game is less fun but it's not addiction. It's how they are monetizing the game. What's more even in I was willing to pay there don't offer anything that I'd spend on anyways. They cater to new player or whales. In the middle where I am they just mess the game up. I can see how screen time addiction happens. Scrolling, if you scroll to just scroll that's problem. I like scroll to find information, that leads me to more content in longer forms on YouTube and or their own websites. Scrolling just to scroll and see the same variation of the same stuff seems pointless. I find that happens and it's really annoying. I don't want to have to scroll though tons of junk. So what this leads me to doing is deleting my account and starting new.
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  208. Fossil fuels are not finite. They recyclable, the planet does that over very long time. To say they are finite would be saying that we can destroy matter and energy. The problem is not that they finite, the reserves are finite. We will use them up and they will take very long to return.
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  209. Women cheat just as much if not more than men from my experience.
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  210. I learned you can meet all your needs yourself but that highly energy intensive and take more time than you have in day to do so and needs will go unmet. At the same it take less energy to meet another persons needs. This appears to be a survival mechanism. If it take me less energy to meet the needs of someone else who in turn spends less energy meeting my needs then we end connected and working together with better chance of survival. Just more observation with myself and anecdotal. I don't know there is peer reviewed study on this. So take that with grain of salt.
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  211. large numbers don't see that large anymore considering data storage these days. I remember when we talked about RAM in KB. Now we talk about ram in TBs. Storage is even bigger, when you get Petabyte range and quite common now. So talking Trillions isn't that big any more. Mind boggling is the Yottabyte
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  212. I saw people go through what you describe as quarter life crisis but they went through it in Grade 9. This typically happened to those aged out of sports due skill and cost then found themselves having to choose classes for high school. This would happen again when going from School to college/university/work/trades.
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  213. Would how much is cost them to cut that tree down.
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  214. Question. I'm told I turn into furnace when I sleep, not when going to sleep. I never notice it but my wife does.
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  215. The funny thing about super heroes is like Superman, he's superman but has to put on a mask of mild mannered Clark Kent to fit into society. That really resonates with me. I'm not super hero but I have to put mask to fit in society due ASD. Interesting thing here. When I'm with my ND friends I don' t have any of these issues. But with NT person they just squirm and escape or get angry.
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  216. Dot com bubble was also was caused by Y2K. I did a lot work upgrading. What I saw a consolidation of upgrades for both business software and hardware. So this cause huge spending 1997-99. 2000 hit and and no need to upgrade for almost anyone. The upgrades would start again in 2003-2006. This balanced out of next 10 years and got better with lot of new tech. So eCommerce sites weren't cause of DotCom bubble bursting. They were a victim of the Y2K spending. That cause such spike in spending that investor jumped on anything to get bit of that pie. A lot businesses could handle the post Y2k era of far less spending and went went under. Bringing eCommerce startups down with them as investor panic withdrew investing dollars. At least that what I saw and I was doing contract work for Y2k and post Y2k no one was upgrading anything. Made finding contract extremely hard.
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  217. People asked how Nazi Germany was allowed to happen by the people. These are tactics they used. There have been holocaust survivors and their kids pointed this out.
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  218. So true. I wanted to learn to play the guitar so i just did it. I didn't share that I wanted to I just went and did it.
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  219. Elon does bring up so good points but not all his points are good.
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  220. I went to college 3 times, failed twice. Didn't fail the class just failed to complete it. Something completely outside my control and the time made me change my direction. My 3 rd was just looking at it differently. In the end I ended up skill set that used my first 2 attempts with 2.5 years of additional education.
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  221. Ginko BIloba in Canada at least has been wildly available in energy drinks and health food stores supplements for over 30 years. Still very little research on it.
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  222. Sex once a month I wish. Lucky if i get once in 3 months. I know the reason though. Prescription meds that lower libido as side effect. Wife's 4 different meds with that same side effect. She went off on for while to see if was the cause of iron loss. It wasn't but during the time our sex life went from 3-4 times years to 3-4 time in month just from her not being on the drug for 3 months. But now she's back on the drug for stomach issues. It's hard thing to deal with, not sure how much more I can take of this.
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  223. My experience with cynical people is they get taken advantage of the most. That seem reinforce the cynicism.
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  224. I drive my wife crazy when I tell her the music she listening to is that song and confuse it with another song that sounds the same. If it was just once I'm sure not issue but it happens all the time.
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  225. Could showing interesting be seen as inauthentic interest and erode trust? I think there is fine line between the two. I'm sure we've all been there in early dating where you find out the person you are interested in has interest in something you don't at all but you go research and pretend to like what they like. This was something I did early in dating. There was that anxiety that they wouldn't like me if I didn't like what they liked. I stopped doing that after a while. I guess it was getting comfortable with and realizing I don't have to like what they are interested in but I can acknowledge it and encourage but not take interest at that same time.
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  226. Yeah -20 is fine with no wind, good ski weather. -10 is optimal though. Couple weeks ago -38. I don't believe in wind chill. Wind just makes you feel the -38 much faster doesn't actually make it colder. It's a blast freezer.
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  227. The tone part is odd, not everyone use the tone of voice that another would expect for a situation. This is very high lighted with autistic and/or ADHD people but it also happens with NT people as well to less obvious way. Criticizing tone of voice sound like an Ad Hominen attack to discredit a person. There can all kind of reason why tone of voice does match what individual might expect. That can cuture, regional dialect, age difference, and such too.
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  228. That's the story I was told. My supervisor was a UNIX, Mainframe Admin from the 70s. The stories he had. I also heard this from SUN Microsystems engireers on support call back about 25 years ago.
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  229. when I taught IT classes that regular pop quizzes were to be expected at learning tool not counting for grades. No one said bad things about the pop quizzes in my reviews.
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  230. No one was negotiating with Trump. In Canada our politician were asked if they had talked Trump. Carney said he had not but instead retaliated with tariffs and would wait on Trump to make the next move which as this pause. I think the pause was more about insider trading. Driven by a panic move due to stock market going down. But he told his billionaire friend to take advantage of it and bragged about it. Which shocked me. He could just kept his mouth shut and let people think he did as panic move.
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  231. I didn't like being bored and child. When I had kids there was no time to be bored. I came to treasure being bored for hour or two. Now I crave being bored and alone with my thoughts. That seems to bring out creativity.
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  232. Seems to me horses were a social status symbol for girls, from my experience. If a girl had horse it didn't matter if she was socially awkward or not deemed pretty, she had a horse and could ride and care for it. That alone made her popular. At least that's how it was where I lived. Then you'd have all the other girls collecting plastic horses and getting knowledgeable in order to get in with popular girls that had horses. My daughter didn't care about horses at all. She all about cats.
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  233. I don't like to share my play list of music with people as it's too much of a view into my very soul. But Clash and Dead Kennedy on my play list.
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  234. Non existent source he has spoken to in ages? So are they no existent or just someone real that he claims he has spoken to recently?
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  235. Did he just say the US population is who he's at war with.
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  236. I don't think men are losing interest, not from what I hear from the women. What i think is happening is men are getting shot down for all kind reasons.
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  237. That really doesn't make sense. Recalls make for a more profitable car in long run as it make the car more reliable and safer in future and build consumer confidence in the brand.
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  238. Saw a neuro scientist's pod cast. Oxytocin as well as Vasopressin have some interesting affects. It depends on a few factors. 1) Casual sex and man leave after sex. That woman will ends up in more both Oxytocin and Vasopressin. More bonding for the woman 2) The man stay and cuddle after sex. The man end up with more both Oxytocin and Vasopression. More bonding for the man. Men figure this out and if they don't want to get attached they leave as quickly as possible after sex. That's why they do it.
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  239. Good explanation of it, brings me back to 1989. Just have to tell my brain shut up as the base equation was 1. Yeah it's simple to show how it's done, brain.
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  240. To me the emotions are Happy, Sad, Angry, Scared. Just the 4 emotions that work like color pallet when painting picture. That's how I think of emotions. This is simplified to look like primary colors but it could mirrored in music 7 notes too. If I do it this way I can say create playlist of music highlighting lyrics be the verse, chorus, or parts of it. Then 9 songs played in order, signing the highlights. That's feel so powerful to me. I don't let anyone see me do this. It's like keys to my soul.
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  241. Raw natural talent doesn't exist and we don't have natural rhythm. We all have internal rhythm that isn't same music like circadian rhythm. What appears as raw natural talent with music is that passion and focus that lead to hard work practicing in alone time then when people see it they see it as raw talent. But like those not all good idea from intelligent people they practice a ton enjoying the practice then it look raw talent when others see them. Like I have raw talent for information technology but reality is I eat, live, sleep it as it's a something I love. At work it look like have a natural raw talent for this as things come so easy for me. People don't see what I do outside of work though. I'm progressing fast in learning to play the guitar now. I practice it every chance I get multiple times a day. So it seem I'm picking it up pretty fast but it's not talent it's that I practice a lot.
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  242. I disagree on equality. We all want equality except maybe those with NPD, sociopaths and psychopaths. The equality though is at certain level that is not sustainable for larger populations. There is also equality in opportunity which don't even have now. That means people get the same opportunities but they free to not use them.
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  243. I wonder if there is quatum entanglement between the atoms that make up cells that is used a form of quantum communication in body.
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  244. st of my life. What I think is this is sort of true. Only AI is and end of traditional computers so it has lots of purpose. Quantum Computers, I've only read about them, they are the at the beginning with out much purpose yet. I suspect AI on current system will provide more purpose for Quantum that drive it in the future. This is what happens when any form of machine intelligence gets applied. I'm not talking AI but tool that help you code and building new things. AI is just that on steroids.
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  245. Weird thing about lies to myself is that my thoughts disprove them. So it take a lot energy to maintain the lies and create more to lies to myself to counter the logical thoughts. It's weird. So instead of lying to myself I accepted the logic. That lead to dealing with lot of painful past situation that I never really dealt with that well.
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  246. Pay now or pay more later. That's what someone told me many years ago.
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  247. I see more negative emotions in men. These negative emotions are pushed down and suppressed leading to thing like drugs to cope, hence alcoholism is very common in men. A lot mental health issues get swept under the rug due to stigma. Covid19 seem to put spot light on this. Indirectly but it put men in a space that had all this come to surface. I look back at an my father. I look at myself. Men carry a huge amount neuroticism we just hide really well.
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  248. That's not issue, you just deal with it.
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  249. Isn't China already doing this, i think you was a youtube video you posted last year?
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  250.  @loke6664  Tourism isn't not an say to for a city to make money. Some are lucky to have tourist attraction that cost nothing to develop into a revenue stream. A lot of cities will pave over that tourist attraction to put condos instead. I've see that happen a lot. Not all these AirBNB place and not really tourist thing to do there anymore except get drunk in AIrBNB.
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  251. Here's you speak is what makes me think why men aren't getting sex. Women don't want that.
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  252. I prefer longer content. Short form content is like commercials on TV to me. A good commercials is fine but don't want watch it all that time get me back to the longer show.
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  253. When I was young desperation drove me to get a job. I needed to earn money. So got any job I could get. This I knew was temporary. That job is just pay some bills but I kept looking for other jobs. I didn't have time to sit there and be picky. So took a job packing trees for tree planting, about as far from my career goals as I could get. But I kept looking for job in my field. Oddest thing was I ended getting a job I didn't apply for. This was late 20s. Now if I got my early 20s I had no clue what I wanted to do. I jumped from job to job experiencing things. This showed me what I needed to do. I got job and I was just lab tech. testing concrete and asphalt for density. They had computer problems and that was interest of mine. I fixed their network, 2 PCs and stand alone modem. It was simple fix that no one else could figure out. That's when I knew I had go back to college and get more skill in computer networking. That's what lead me to graduating and taking that job packing trees. I never really quit but got quiet fired. Quiet firing is when an employer just doesn't schedule you so have to quit and take new job.
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  254. Just pattern recognition that's all. AI can do it so fast it appears self aware but it's still just pattern recognition. I doubt we'd notice AI becoming self aware as we don't even know if we are actually self aware or just a function of biology. I've seen a lot debates back and forth on that one. Interesting thought experiments but really no way to prove the one way or the other.
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  255. Not sure about this but in learning the guitar if I'm sitting across from instructor watching him play as I play along with him my chord changes get a lot better. I land them more accurate, change them more in time with the beat, and can do it with out looking. Watching what you said on mirror neurons got me thinking am I mirroring his movements. As when practicing alone I find playing more difficult. Found that interesting.
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  256. Men having no sex, it's clear they are choosing to no have sex. I seen men sabotage themselves so bad with online dating. I have single women that show me the "the crap" they have to deal with. I take a look, hundreds of the same emails and instant messages. Have men become idiots or something. I'm being serious, do men really think that sort of thing works to get sex. Maybe they go lucky once with but most women just laugh at the stupidity of men these days. It's literally shocking how stupid some men are. ' I think George Carlin got it right with this — 'Think of how stupid the average person is, and realize half of them are stupider than that.'
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  257. I think the economic factor won't be a problem. Like you said government are asleep and the economic change would happen over night and leave them scrambling when it does happen, which I agree won't be any time soon but I suspect when it does it will hit by surprise due to the crying wolf we see today and 3 years and not much has changed we won't believe it when it really happens in decades to come.
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  258. Funny how you mention on people with social anxiety and knowing when take your turn in conversations. I'm on spectrum and that's hard for me too. I don't worry about it though, not at the moment. I just end up interrupting then a few hours later that's when the thoughts hit. Was I being rude, did insert myself at right time, did I take to long, did I speak to fast, did I speak at wrong level for audience, were the even paying attention. Replay it for next few years. That's not anxiety but autistic rumination or looping. Most seem to get wrong and think it has to do with anger. I think ti can be but can also be looking at myself it way to remember how act socially acceptable to NT people that get out of hand due to feeling embarrassed after the social encounter.
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  259.  @triachinidx436  That's no procrastination, that is prioritizing. You can prioritize the wrong things though. It's not that you won't do it just sometimes you prioritize wrong with time and find you run out of time. I don't see that procrastination.
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  260. No that never happens. What does happen is man will make the same as the woman. There equal pay and pat on back for big corporations. Yeah that worked but not as expected.
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  261.  @enshala6401 I found Christian churches teach fear and anxiety in my experiences. God fearing people for example. A term I heard lots but never made sense or felt right.
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  262. Venting is something I do that is very helpful for me. It helps me. I think work like this. I go venting, all that info goes into my speech sent. I'm forming what I'm going to say minutes before that comes out. So I might get 1/2 way through and light bulb comes on. Then I running to fix the problem. This can seem really weird to people I venting to. They might get 1/10th of the venting but in my head the missing pieces is highlight. Then I stop venting, apply what I've learned at the next opportunity. I used to a fixed major network outage that had us all stumped then I run over type a command and everything lights up, the network is working again. I've done it at home, venting to my wife, the why don't I do this instead for dinner tomorrow, it will create leftover we can use later in the weak when I'm busy. All started because I was venting that I don't what to cook for dinner tonight. What see other do is vent in way that gives all their power away. Like venting about the boss and giving all their power to their boss. Or venting about some hardship and giving all their power to politicians who don't even know them but it's always insert politician name fault and nothing they can do the change it until people stop voting liberal for example. No solution if you give all your power away making yourself helpless. But it does make one ego feel good.
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  263. I don't have a bar. Just free weights, bench and pull up bar.
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  264. I don't think WOKE has anything to do with this. It's just word thrown around. Starts in 2014, that when social media hit a critical mass on smart phones. Bring the echo chamber effect to all of use. Blaming wokeness is just like any other excuse people use to avoid responsibility. That responsibility is to get off the doom scrolling.
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  265. Highly processed foods don't taste good. There was a time when it did, back in trans fats day. One the removed trans fats, I find I can't eat high processed foods. Maybe a a condiment. If I eat processed food I get craving real food.
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  266. It was about the caffeine when I was kid. No cola, no root beer with it. You could have caffeine free coffee or cola. It was never followed much. Making up weird rules doesn't prove faith. I think most of these rules probably had some reason for being banned. Like don't eat pork for the reason that a starving person will eat it and risk getting a parasite out hunger but tell them God say it's a sin and problem solved less sickness in the tribe.
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  267. They said Fusion 30 years away now 10 years away. I suspect it will be even sooner. It's just how it works, things progress exponentially. Add AI in to this now.
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  268. Does the video game type matter. I see some games I play because I like the story. My son plays competitively with first person shooter or racing.
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  269. Are you saying the boy bullying is way more terrible or do you mean the women's bully is?
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  270. Cults, that's what cults do. If they can get you deny reality they have complete control and get you do things like donate lots of money.
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  271. Is that nasty inner critic the ego? Just curious.
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  272. No such thing as out of your league. That limitation one puts on themselves. It's not real. Jealousy is more about what your not doing for her that puts you at risk of losing her. Thing is deep down you know you're not doing that. You can do those things though, so that not league thing.
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  273. I wanted a promotion. I didn't get it. Circumstance a year later allowed me to do that job on temporary basis. I realized the promotion wasn't what I wanted. I was happy doing my current job. Society wanted me to get the promotion. That's what you are supposed to want. Promotion don't even make sense in some case. Like you're top of the game doing you job but want to be promoted to management. It pays more. So then you get it. You're terrible at, there is no passion, but the pay is more. Your employer loses a good worker that was top of their field and gains a poor manager. But it's seen a payment for years of service, he's paid his dues and is given promotion to management. Why not just pay managers less and hire managers. If they are top of their field pay them more. A manager doesn't need to make more than those they manage. This way you get really good manager who have the passion to manage people. You get really good employee that have passion doing their jobs. This doesn't mean a manager can't make more just it's not given they should.
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  274. I read book that if you tell other want are going to do then it's less likely you will do it. Telling other puts out as fantasy you telling others. If you do it then tell others you are doing it it. Don't tell them the end goal. That just for you and others. Like I didn't tell anyone I wanted to play the guitar, I just bought guitar. I still haven't told anyone what my goal is in learning to play. That's just for me and I have specific goal.
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  275. Also during the black death plague hit Asia, connection maybe? That would spread to Europe by 1300s. This play killed 1/3 of Europe's population and 1/2 of Asia's population. Genghis Khan would have spread it with his armies probably through fleas.
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  276. marriage was useful for a few things. This would be legal marriage no marriage as in the big party or religious accompaniments. 1) It allow the work place benefits to cover the spouse and kids if they come with the spouse. 2) It allow some tax breaks but only in specific circumstances 3) Shared resources, rent, food, services. 4) It bring protection to both parties in marriage in things split up later.
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  277. It's half that, divorce rates are 40-50%. That's not really true that the little things add up over time. It's more threshold of missing little things consistently applied over years that does this. It's not like you didn't do X, Y, Z and that is carried through the marriage. But if done was consistently that marriage will end.
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  278. I didn't suffer. I just made choices. We never went on fancy destination vacations. We visited family and did it cheap. 2 kids. Could have had 3rd but married later due to post secondary education and we wanted 3 years between. A 3rd child would have meant risky pregnancy. The real problem I see is we tax which isn't problem. How we spend the tax money is. It's going to corporate welfare so CEOs can get huge bonuses. Bonuses that exceed average people's yearly wages. Rest goes to shareholders. Then we cut taxes but not the corporate welfare. So less social programs to help raise kids and encourage a higher birth rate. Immigration is not the answer, that hurts the nation people emigrate from. Brain drain as they call it. This creates bigger problem as it lowers the intelligence of other nation and low intelligent people harm themselves and others.
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  279.  @indratapa Easy enough to get good taste by expanding what you listen to and training your brain. It doesn't happen over night but over time your taste in music change. It's like learning to like beer when you hated it before.
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  280. Silliest statement ever. Maybe we should stop eating chlorine by sprinkling it on our food. That would kill you by the way. Yet that's exactly RFK jr is saying. NaCl is salt just because it has the element chlorine in does not make it chlorine. Salt is the compound of Sodium and Chlorine. Just like there is mercury in other compounds it does not make it mercury.
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  281. I'm next door to Saskatchewan, 30 minutes from border near the Cypress Hills. I think when of not disorder I think that covers Highly Sensitive People. The weird thing about a diagnosis is I don't really feel autistic, does it have feel? People I tell about it, no questions it. They just tell me they suspected, it's explains a lot, they've always known. The one's that always have known I suspect heard through my family. To me being autistic is normal for me. So I don't have frame of reference of how it could be any different, think they call that mind blindness.
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  282. I do the cooking. I check what needs to be bought. I do need to know what people want. I have all in my head. It's not just what to buy. It's what to preserve and what to pull out of freezer. How what I'm cooking I can turn into left overs lunch for kids and my wife. It's all on me 99%. Here's the kicker, even though I'm doing 99% of that. My wife in her head is doing it all anyways but never falls back on her. It's just that if she doesn't do this it makes her feel like bad wife. That's so messed up I can barely get my head around that idea. I suspect there is reverse of this with men from I've seen. If woman does male gender role so men can feel emasculated(deprives of his role and security) by that. I feel that at all though. So tough for me get my head around that too.
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  283. I'd say we don't have a little monkey but a little Teilhardina which is the primate from 56 million years ago all primate evolved from. The monkey today is a totally different evolutionary line.
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  284. To say 1 in 6 people are is basically saying everyone is. Which would be true. Narcissism is something we all have. There is healthy and unhealthy narcissism. I don't think that means 1 in 6 have NPD though. I do see society that would be pushing us to show a lot of narcissistic trait more than any other time due to social media and culture of misinformation. This create a space where more those traits show up. A person with NPD show set number consistent narcissistic traits and that is the normal base line. A person that does not have NPD can show the same traits but their not their normal base line and they opposite of consistent. So it's not like there are more narcissist just feels that way on social media. Also a lot of people like to point the finger at others in relationship to be narcissist when the relationship is toxic. It's easy to do instead of looking at yourself and your role in the relationship. I've done that, didn't help things when I needed to be more assertive and less people pleasing. Communicating more and not letting resentment build up. Those are thing I did, my responsibility in toxicity of the relationship. But I could have just pointed at her and she's narcissist taking taking taking use that as excuse to end thing and go repeat the same mistakes with the next relationship. What's more is our society pushes that happy wife happy life mentality on us and that's just a road to a toxic relationship filled with resentment and contempt.
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  285.  @AxxLAfriku You are right. An artist makes their art for themselves. If people don't like that art, that opinion has no bearing on you thinking it's perfect. There great example of artists that people see to a legendary artists when in their time no cared about their art work. A good example of this Edgar Alan Poe. He only became famous after his mysterious death. He made literally nothing on his writing and had other job in writing to pay the bills.
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  286. When I'm not working. I don't get tire till late at night. I feel the best when I get up between 9am and 11 am. So 10 am -8 ours is 2 am. So I tried it, set my bed time window in between 12 am and 2 am. Amazing the energy I got waking up at 9-11 in morning. At work I'm always tired. I get up a 6 am and try to go to bed between 9 and 10. I struggle to get to sleep toss and turn till 12 am and then I'm out and alarm goes off. I'm startled awake then fell groggy. I can't even eat breakfast. I can force breakfast but it makes me uncomfortable. I'm tired till 10 am then the grogginess ends, After work about 5 pm I get tired and want 20 minute nap. Just found this all very interesting about myself.
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  287. I can do that in here in Canada but meh, not something I'm interested in.
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  288.  @Maggy47  Don't trust, do your own research. I suggest peer reviewed studies. Marketing data is not accurate. An MD is not good source either. Talk to pharmacists. Not just one but few. Quite often I've found the pharmacists as doctors are not experts on pharmaceutical. Be very careful with mental heal medication, that should be last resort not the first thing they try. But prescribe a pill 15 minutes vs hour of therapy costs health care less. In the end the therapy is still needed and now one might have addiction to mental health meds on top of it and they meds didn't help. Don't trust big pharma, they often create drug looking for a problem.
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  289. Radish is cruciferous. I binge radishes in radish season each spring. Just love them when they are fresh. Fall is cabbage time, make this recipe my grandmother taught me. Ground beef, beef broth, onion, celery, green peppers and a head of cabbage depending on the size. Seasoned with hot chili pepper and oregano and splashes of worchetshire a sauce. Simmer till tend and server as soup over rice, rice can't be added as soak up all broth over time. This get better tasting with time in fridge as left over. You get a ton cruciferous vegetable with this soup due all the cabbage.
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  290.  @donniet685  Typically red, purple or white
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  291. I live in Canada, multiculturalism has never been the problem. We are very multicultural here though in past no so much. Chinese head tax, residential schools, 60 scoop. The problem with immigration was government not investing infrastructure while allowing massive immigration. This has lead to problems with housing and more homelessness. Our Justice system can't keep up, show in court delay and hiring more police. Healthcare is problem as population rise faster than hospital can support the populuatoin shown in high wait time and not being able get family doctor. Education is a problem where schools are getting overloaded, not enough teacher nor classroom leading to larger classroom sizes and not enough educational supports. This isn't like it was 150 years when an immigrants could get a homestead $1 and have to live off the land. When it come to cultures the only ones that isolate are the racists but they are a small but quite vocal minority. They preach divisions where there are none.
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  292. Is this more the case that over weight women prefer a guy that is like that them the Dad bod which is also overweight. They see this and don't think a guy will try to change them.
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  293. Don't really need a VPN to do get around region restricted content. Get free AWS account, set you region in the country you wish access content, create EC2 instance with Squid proxy. Put your proxy setting to the IP address you get from AWS and you have access. Your internet traffic will come out in country the proxy is set. This isn't a VPN but gets the job done for fee with less encryption overhead. A bit of hassle though in some cases. So that where paying monthly fee for VPN can be easier and not hassle in using. But if you don't have credit card like teen in school that wants to play Fortnight at school where they block it this works great.
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  294. Intentional binding. The gym, I had app that had regimented working out routine. No choices. I tend to not work out as much as should. My work out was always no choice, start exercise A to B to C to D and finish E for push day. The app would change A, B, C, D and E talking the choice from me. So working out becomes a chore that is easy to get superseded by other activities. Learning the guitar is not structured and I have a choice to on what I want practice. I end practicing at least once a day or more. What more is end up doing all the things I need practice by choosing the one thing I was start of practicing. Choosing where to start, do practice scales, chords, strumming, rythm, slide, or song first. I think about it and choose one then end up doing all that time permitting. My prediction is I'll get better at strumming if choose strumming. This I if I got time with out being practice the urge to practice grow a lot and end up practice the next time I can do it. This very interesting.
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  295. I'm not sure I'm buying this. Too my hype that seems to be get revealed in the future to a be all hype. Maybe in another 10 years.
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  296. China building the molten salt thorium reactor using fission looks quite promising. But you are correct with prediction, they were way off on when Chat GPT 4 was supposed arrive too. I think AI could really help in speeding up timelines on fusion.
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  297. I took a look into my sleep patterns and chronotype. So I tried something. Going to bed a certain time. Normal is 10 pm to 8 hour before having to get up for work. Tried 11 pm, 12 pm, 1 pm. What I'm finding is the closer to 12 pm my bed time is the quicker (20 minutes) I fall asleep and I stay asleep. If I got bed at 10 pm I got sleep in about 5 minutes a wake again in 40 minute then toss and turn for hour or two finally falling asleep. This seem to be around 12 pm. The I'm up again a 3 am and 5 am taking 30 minutes to get back to sleep. This also happen if I got bed past 1 am. If I get to sleep between 11pm and 1am I get my best sleep and wake feeling good even though it's 7-6 hour as I have to get up for work. But it go for 8 hours I might restless and wake not alert and feeling drained. I do find the later sleep time I need more naps. But naps for me serve a different purpose and I'm on spectrum and some days just need it to deal with over stimulation and regaining energy. I might see if I can shift my start for work.
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  298. Sounds like you have yet to grieve the future you had planned with her. Most to don't realize that they had a future planned. So you grieve the person no being in you life now and ignore the future you planned which can be planned subconsciously. If that makes sense. It's me trying put in works what many hours with psychologist I worked on my relationship. We did get back together. Still had grieve that future though. That was where thoughts I had came from when I can't stop thinking of her. It's that imagined future and I didn't even realize I had that .
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  299. 90 minutes a week is 12 minutes a day. That's not even an investment, that just normal communication for 12 minutes. What's more it isn't even 12 minutes at once. I found women communicate in parts anyway. 2 minutes in morning you listen, you'll get bit more after work, during dinner, after dinner.
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  300. Talking to fast for that an autistic trait. If a special interest I talk fast. I had to learn years how to talk to slower when I taught the MCSE course at college. In my reviews talking to fast was always a criticism even after slowing down.
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  301. What about when listening to music and you get that tingle through out your body from head to toe. Sometimes it hits just the left side or right side
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  302. when you have an abusive person in the family a family dynamic typically occurs. You end up with one parent abused who becomes the enabler. Another child becomes the scapegoat. That the child blamed for most. A golden child is typically target to get all the praise. The others become lost children. Lost children get abused to but the scapegoat child gets blamed for it. Like a abuser would blame scapegoat kid for beating the lost kids but the golden child get more of psychological abuse. The enable is living in fear of being the target of the abuse if they step in.
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  303. ADHD and Autism have been around long before plastics were even invented. ADHD first noticed. So I don't see the link. In my family history, my behaviors are the same as my Great Great Grandfather, Great grandfather and grandfather from what my mother has told me. I'm the only one diagnosed though. It's possible that microplastics are impacting ND people more than NT people.
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  304. That talk about drinking. in 60s/70s people drank at their desk job in clouds tobacco smoke. I can't even imagine that. Heard all these stories at retirement parties when I first started working here. Hard to imagine a time like that.
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  305. Just my opinion but I think those that don't think they have worth or feel useless have not found purpose. In this world today find one's purpose is extremely hard. Societal expectation expect men to get an education, find any job that pay, get married, have kids, and such. What if marriage is something one wants, they do it out societal pressure and fail at it. Thy work a job for 10-15 year that has purpose and feel defeated, useless and the job provides no worth. That's terrible way to live. We all struggle to find purpose and it can take longer than you think. Some stumble on it right away. Others it take years of shaking off the expectations of others to find purpose.
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  306. I get my pleasure from the journey. Accomplishments mean the end of journey. Pleasure in the doing not the achievement for me. When I've accomplished there is sense of grief that it over now. The adventure begins though.
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  307.  @susanlodgerelaxations5269  It's different for everyone because everyone eats different foods. I don't know what your doctors are like but here in Canada my doctor is big on vitamins and making sure the efficiencies are not causing a problem. Rules them out first. From what I've read about depression a lot of it is situational. SSRI only treat the symptoms of depression and it's kind of like juggling to find the one the work best as in helps with most symptom with least side effect impact.
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  308. Could we be doing this in our perceptions. I don't mean physically moving that fast as whole body. Our neurons fire at speeds of up 434.5 km/hr. But they don't always fire the fast. So in our own brain could we have perception that different between other and move around this life observing things. Are there things in brain that move even faster that we haven't detected yet? The consider our neurons firing at that speed as we spin on this planet at 1600 km/hr and orbit the sun at 100,700 km/hr and solar system moving at 720,000 km per hour. So what happens when one person is half world behind another for time? Minor differences?
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  309. It really does get better by age 3. At age 3 walking and talking. Trips to the jungle gym and having coffee with friend or making new friends. The second kid was even easier, been through it once already. Have all the stuff still and confidence because your first kid is 3 now and new baby. We had created a support network of other friends that have kids the same age. First kid we had none of that off the start. That's why it was so hard. I can say the first year with first kid was by far the toughest. I look back in hindsight for 20 years ago. That time was really short though but sure didn't feel like it at the time. I still remember how exhausted we were.
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  310. Boys are hormonal too. To say they steady 365 days of the year is off I think. I should introduce you my 16 years old son. Way more hormonal problems with than with my daughter who is 3 years older. Boys are different hormonal though.
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  311.  @nickv8334  I don't see how, green house gas emission for data centers exceed 18%, as well data centers contribute to climate change through heat pollution due to massive cooling requirements. The add the construction of data centers and emission from concrete production for example. AI definitely loses that round.
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  312. I did the test on my chronotype. Moderate evening. Which make complete sense to me. If I'm on holidays and take 3 weeks. I wake up like clock at 9:45, no alarm needed. If try to go bed early than midnight I struggle to get to sleep. I get the initial dreamy state and wake up like it's just nap then I'm awake till after 12:00 pm. Then I'm sleeping ok waking from time to time but easy to get back to sleep until my alarm goes of 6 am and I'm groggy, not hungry at. It's hard to eat at all till after 9 am. That's when get really hungry. 2 hour into work. There is also that afternoon nap time that hits me at 4:30 pm.
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  313. that face vase thing was weird. It flickered back and forth till I saw both at the same time. Think what it did was you said saw one then the other but then with both it just took is vase and face at the same time as one interpreted image. Then I lose that. Cycles like that. Vase, faces, vase, faces, both, both, both, vase, faces
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  314. Good thing advertising doesn't work on me. Well it would if they target ND people but for the 99% of the time they targeting NT people. Those ads often leave wonder WTF.
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  315. Musk is visionary. Visionaries rarely see the vision they put predict. 20 years is a joke, maybe 20 years to put some people on mars as expedition. Then if they is some valuable resource on mars they will exploit that for the profits. But will profits even be a thing with AI and automation in 100 years. I see colonization of the moon more acceptable and that for external resources. A moon base where we use robotic space craft to find asteroids that have value and bring them back to moon for processing and back to earth. That's a big IF too, only if our probes return something useful. That would be good say getting resource from asteroids if possible vs mining and destroying out local planetary environment. There is problem. Since I was kid 3 Billion population now 9 billion tripling in my life time. If that population is to grow we need off this planet. I double will achieve that before mother nature culls the human herds. Covid19, bird flu, climate change and fungal infection. I think that will happen before Musk's dream but then that could be why he's talking 20 years. Does make it possible though.
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  316. Mind blowing sort of till you look into it. It's actually not as big of impact as you might think. It's not an excuse either. I suggest seeing psychologist. I'm not expert just want I learned seeing psychologist.
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  317. I don't understand how claim reality is myth is something people would buy. The climate has always changed. You can see it now by just going outside and being observant. I guess i could understand if you born in 2015 you might not notice that much. Too busy playing with toys and lacking decades ago reference points. I notice climate change in plants, animals and insects. In my yard I have birds that 30 years ago would have no business being here. Same insects. I have plants that when I was kid would never grow in our zone but grow now and produce fruit. Lot insects are big problem like tics. We've always had them but the cold killed them off so they were rare. Now they are common as the it does not get cold enough long enough. 2 week of polar vortex apparently isn't enough. Now climate always changes it just does so slowly normally. Every so often it does a rapid change but that also appears to happen with points in time mass extinction events. Any species that can adapt goes extinct, the hits both animal and plant life. I'm not convinced that Co2 is the reason for climate change, could be just symptom. I look at increase in global temperature and it seems to follow the time line of heat exchangers for refrigeration. The growth in AC for data center, large office towers, homes, cars, shipping goods export/imports. Train cars and truck with refrigeration units. All this power by fossil fuels that produce Co2 and Methane as green house gas. I picture a green house growing vegetable with an huge refrigerator in corner power buy diesel generator. A haze in tall ceiling but heat coming from coils of the the refrigerator are the real culprit. The green house gases don't help, just make it worse. So going to green energy could make this even worse. Imagine no longer using fossil fuel but using solar to power our AC electric vehicles. Put in heat pump to cool the home, dump that heat outside.
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  318. That's typically how it works. Stand up the a bully and they try to turn it around on you.
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  319. Supernatural is just away of saying I have no clue how you are going that. All my logic and nothing makes sense. That's what supernatural is. If I took smart phone back in time 100 years that would supernatural to them in past because they have no clue how the tiny device can play music they've never hear or considered possible and how does that device do, must supernatural.
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  320. I don't think this is all cut and dry. You have 1 type of woman and 1 type men. Two boxes only that we view men and women in. That's just not reality. There is so much that impact this. Culture has a huge impact. Women and men have many variation on neurological genetic way. Take look at the extremes even ASD and ADHD brains. that's estimated at about 12% of the population. Then HSP at 20%. All these people with different brain yet we try to fit them all in 2 boxes based on physical sexual characteristics. People with penis in box those out in the other box.
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  321. I've read men are great at raising children historically. It's our society now that removes men from raising children. Back in time more family farms and lots of kids. The father had to raise the kids, mother was pregnant and care taking of infant(s). So women naturally aren't as good at it, non my words what I read. They excellent with infants but kids get old fathers take over and that's where children learn to work the farm. Wish I could find that paper I read.
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  322. There is no such thing as person no one else wants. That's an illusion. After you wanted her, right? So if you wanted that relationship so would others who think you're luckiest guy in world. Do the work to keep the relationship strong. Jealousy that has been suppressed to point it turn in green eyed monster will guide you. Feeling little jealousy, what you not doing. Maybe it the difficult conversation you've been avoiding.
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  323. science fiction is based on science. Science fantasy is not. Sci-fi and Sci-Fan can blur the lines. Like Warp drive. The science but the fantasy is also their, those magical lithium crystal which bridge the gap between theory of possible to make the Star Trek a plausible future for our brain consume the content. Just look the other things, that smart phone as all power of Tricorder long range communication device and more. Medical advance, they have that stuff now that we saw in the show. Now the dark stuff like Terminator AI and Drones, that's scary.
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  324. We have always had global instability. We haven't flipped anything. The change is we have news that travel seconds showing up how unstable thing are globally. In hunter gather times, one would never hear about disaster on another continent. They only had local news. Maybe hearing what another tribe told them.
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  325.  @DeviLz1337  Pride come after being successful. You can't have pride for graduating with 4.0 GPA before you graduate with 4.0 GPA. Pride won't make you successful but shame of failure can drive you to do your best and achieve that 4.0 GPA that you can be proud out.
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  326.  @Letmebeanonymous666  Just a guess, child labor in work houses, debtor prison which was another form of free labor. 7 day work weeks dusk till dawn. That sort of thing leave no time for relationships.
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  327. I get praise for easy things all the time. It's annoying. People don't see the difficult things. Maybe they don't even understand them. A lot difficult things for me are easy for others. I don't have problem with progress. 18-25 these impacted me at different levels. I wonder if age has something to do with it. 25 changed things and they say brain development finishes around age 25
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  328. When I'm on a park bench sharing stories with NT I see the NT person as have deficit in reciprocal conversation as they don't reciprocate at all. On the flip side they surface conversation I have remind myself to reciprocate in their way. Doesn't really seem fair to me as I flex to them but they get annoyed and don't reciprocate at all with me. Same situation with some ND, not ever on spectrum ADHD even I find the conversation very reciprocal back and forth. I can see how odd this must look to other though. I find it turns into I share Topic A they share Topic B in response and we go back and forth between topic A and B. Or other time we just share stories or our live to show we understand their story and this can also look A and B. The difference we both fully engaged and understand each other. As well asking for clarification isn't see as insulting.
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  329. Happy wife, Happy life means people pleasing that keeps the peace for as time as internal resentment builds resulting in contempt for each other. So if you want to end up divorced in 10 years follow that advice. How happy are you really when you hide your needs and ignore their needs catering to them based on the needs not you are not getting met. Sometime that can work if you unmet needs are their unmet needs but that not normally the case. If this does work this when you have 25 years marriage end in divorce.
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  330. Grief has not stages it's all at once. There is no denial, no anger, no bargaining. Just intense grief that fades in time as I feel it. It brings up memories. Some make me cry, some make laugh, some just hurt. I'm not sure but i'm very logical so denial doesn't work. No real room emotionally to be angry. Bargaining for the impossible seems pointless but we do want to make sense of things, I don't really see that as bargaining. Depression doesn't even make sense. Yeah there will overwhelming sadness. That's normal, expected and how our bodies work. So can't be depression. That leaves only grief.
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  331. Most debate against on freewill i find definition of free will changes to suite the evidence one has against it. In the end it just become circular. No idea who is right or not it just keep going in circles. Say this is clock wise argument. The counter clockwise is the same in reverse. Those that say we have free will change the definition of free will to support their arguments too and it's just as circular. Seem kind of pointless to debate really. Predetermined I don't buy it. I might no have free will or I might. But I'm not in control either and random factor change things. If I have choices A, B, C, D or E and no free will as C already predetermined what happens when nature removes B and C from the options before the choice can be made. Do do I still pick C just nothing happens or do evaluate the new condition and pick A now. Honestly not really worth time worrying about it.
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  332. UDIO is down, guess too many people used and crashed. They are only allowing paid membership.
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  333. I watch shorts for motivation. I grab my phone and watch guitar videos and then I'm off to grab my guitar. Try the riff I saw online . I actually prefer longer content like 30 minute video on how play a song.
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  334. Where I live a dermatologist appointment has waiting lists of 2+ years. Serious issues get moved up the list that's why the 2 years waiting for just a checkup. Shortage of dermatologists, seems it not as attractive a field in medicine.
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  335. Too:Open Monitoring: Found looking at my thoughts with no judgement was to talk to myself about looking at my thoughts with curiosity. With curiosity I'm not judging. But to look my thoughts and tell myself not to judge just made me judge them. With curiosity I found I was not judging but interested in what that thought had to offer. So don't judge but curious.
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  336. Religious people really must not like math is showing in Quantum Physics. Nor how common the building blocks of life are. Sure it 1 in million they form life but consider that 100-400 billion stars in our galaxy and there could upward of 2 trillion galaxies. That 1 in million will have happened, is happening and will happen a lot. This is something you need believe on faith, math and observation show it. I'm sure world has end million of time we can never noticed as we aren't the dead cat in Schrodinger's thought experiment. That take bit leap of faith that science will prove or disprove in the future.
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  337.  @timsmith2771  I find people who use VPN get sold snake oil. VPN have their uses but a lot the reasons in sale pitches is snake oil sales techniques. People then use them like that and waste their money. That's why they use the snake oil sale pitches. Gets lots of suckers. There some good tech Youtube channels the explain VPNs in really good way and give the legitimate reason one should pay to use one.
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  338.  @nonefvnfvnjnjnjevjenjvonej3384  It's just figuring out interesting things you can do with you skills. If working out, you can theory craft workouts. How do you want break it up. Leg day and push pull. What exercises you put in each work out, order of them. That would theory crafting outside the gaming world.
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  339. Metaverse is a failure. But it's through failure that you get to what would be thing the real new thing that take the world by storm. VR headset are pain. Now plugged in to your brain when that happens then this will be something.
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  340.  @oldfogey4679 50 music is good but it's poor recording quality and instruments were just new when it comes to what can be done with guitar today. The work of 50s gave us the music of decades to follow. Honestly I would agreed with you 2 years ago but learning to play the guitar totally changed what I view of the 50s music. Like Johnny Cash started 1954 and his stuff is great. You might not like it from the 50s but a lot covers of over the decades and even him playing it in 90s was better than 50s but it's still 50s music.
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  341. Why do people identify as political parties. That's just choice. So one could could choose cherry ice cream so do they identify as cherry ice cream too? See how weird that sounds?
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  342. The 60s scoop showed this towards the end residential school genocide in Canada. These kids were take a young as infants and the trauma of the past residential school still impact them even thought they adopted to white families in the US.
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  343. I don't think that is really what is meant by limerance. LImerance is when you project you fantasy relationship with another person. Limerance can play a part in in this obsession that can turn stalking.
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  344. Jealousy is valid emotion that is trying to tell you something. Most me just suppress the emotion and ignore it. Jealousy is type of fear, fear you will something. In relationships it's fear you'll lose your partner. That is a valid fear. So feel the jealousy and ask it why early on. The answer you will find is typically something you're not doing. Not making time for your partner, not being vulnerable, not listening, not communicating your needs for example. When this is suppressed you subconsciously know you are losing your partner. So when she look so attractive to you, you know other will see that too. Instead of feeling like luckiest guy in world to be her man, you have all the fears from the things you don't know you're not doing but instinctively know some one better could come along because you're not being the best version of yourself.
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  345. Salaried doesn't mean no overtime where I live. It just means a person in salaried position get over on any hours over 44. So work week could 7.5 hour day with an unpaid 30 minute lunch break for normal 37.5 scheduled work. Extra work as long as it's under 44 doesn't have to paid as that's covered by salaried pay. But go over 44 hour it's 1.5 times regular pay in overtime. The in labour laws here and most people don't even know that, letting employer take advantage of them.
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  346. I'm in Canada, So what happens when the baby boom generation starts to die off which they are starting to now. Over the next 15 years I see a ton of funerals I'm going to be attending. All those people own houses. Some many houses, revenue and recreation properties. This happened between 1995 and 2010 too here in Canada. By 2007 it got really bad with falling house prices excluding certain cities. This cause the government to try and get more people buying houses. The sweet spot really was 1998-2002. The government caused spike in prices from 2006 onward. They had scale back those measures. Those were mostly increased immigration with out new infrastructure or housing to support it. Boosted housing prices alright. Put pressure on healthcare, police and fire services as well as water and sewer infrastructure. Road repair budgets were then exceeded and roads decayed. I see housing price dropping over the next 15 years. Question is will government allow that to happen?
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  347. That's the same for me as man. Not sure if emotionally and psychologically but my brain has to activated and that could be emotionally, psychologically. I'm not really sure. All I do know if that if my brain isn't turn on my sexual desire is not there.
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  348. You're young. That's why. Wait till your married 25 years. Own hobbies, friends groups, and such is something happen naturally over time. I don't have to do everything with my wife. I'm excited for my wife if she gets a new friend and they go drinks. I'm happy she has her own hobbies. I do like parallel play though. That's where I do my own thing in same room she does her own thing. My hobbies I have group of friends that play games. My wife is happy for me to have that even though I'm going 6 hours with my friends once a week. I'm love it if she played the game too but she has no interest. But then I have no interest trivia night with her friends. Early in the relationship it was the opposite and we did everything together. It's good but as your grow that changes and that's good thing.
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  349. I thought this guy a comedian not actually serious.
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  350. I'm one of those people that rarely ever gets scar even from deep cuts. I don't know why I don't. My wife gets scar from smallest of cuts. I was just looking at my thumb where cut tip of even with a bit bone, no scar and can't tell which thumb I did that to. Only way i can tell is touching it as there was some nerve damage. Very minor but enough to notice.
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  351. I bet many people especially women have this ability only they have never connected the smells to disease.
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  352. I don't get meditation. I've tried the basic focus on your breath, that felt I was largely useless. If I want that I can do other things.
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  353. AI is being used to create tons Deep Fakes and other forms or misinformation. So seem to me AI more the tool not that threat.
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  354. I'm am on spectrum that his guy is 100% out lunch on Autism. I saw interview on Diary of CEO. Autistic content creators have torn it apart. So many people look at studies and use correlation as causation. That's very wrong. And this guy land her on Autism Awareness month when all the snake oil salesmen come out. Give it few week and this will be torn apart by the Autistic community.
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  355.  @Ryzeex.  There are some like that but many not like that depends on which Islamic religion. But this sound very much the same as strictest Islamic religions.
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  356. On phone concept. I don't use my phone in bed. I go to bed, plug it, screen down. Put glasses on top and go bed. I never have an urge to check. As well I put in do not disturb unless I'm on call which happens once ever 10 weeks. Think I've only gotten 1 call out for 2 am in 3 years. Rest happen in evening or first thing in morning as I'm getting ready for work.
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  357. I don't see 1000 years away. I work in IT. I've seen the impact of it. How it's connected the world brought people together. I'm watching you now. We can put 8 billion brains on this, more than we can run millions of GPUs to create AI to assist or tell us how to do it from patterns were are not capable of recognizing.
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  358. Why would anyone think drinking water with swish in morning. I do that all the time. Just seem natural to me.
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