Comments by "dr1flush" (@dr1flush) on "Why Men CAN'T Ask For Help." video.

With all due respect you said you’re afraid people will think less of you if you’re vulnerable. That is weakness , to me you sound extremely insecure and weak. Everything in life requires vulnerability from asking for help to intimacy. There is great strength in vulnerability
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@luck9837 people respect , connect and love vulnerability. When someone is truly authentic people respect that. Why do you think people fall in love with deep music and art? Because that vulnerability is a connection to our hearts and speaks to people. There’s a difference between being vulnerable and telling people everything about yourself. I’ve never regretted being vulnerable in my entire life. That’s not to say that being vulnerable will always get you what you want
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@jimbla4747 Vulnerability is what happens when you power through our leave behind insecurity. Real vulnerability is no longer being afraid of being judged for who you are and what you feel. Emotional vulnerability is authenticity, truth and courage. Does truth and courage sound like a weakness ? Emotional weakness is fear, insecurity and avoidance. There is great courage and growth found in being authentic, not in hiding ourselves. I know what vulnerability means and on an emotional level it is the opposite of weakness. To embrace vulnerability is to be human, true to self, courageous and is the foundation of true strength
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@jimbla4747 to be emotionally vulnerable is to be honest, authentic and courageous. Is truth and courage weakness? To be emotionally weak is to fear, to be insecure and avoid. Is insecurity and fear strength?
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@jimbla4747 to be emotionally vulnerable is to be honest, authentic and courageous. Is truth and courage weakness? Vulnerability is not fear, insecurity or avoidance . Is insecurity and fear strength?
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@jimbla4747 to be emotionally vulnerable is to be honest, authentic and courageous. Is truth and courage weakness?
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@jimbla4747 to be emotionally vulnerable is to be honest, authentic and courageous. Is truth and courage weakness?
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@jimbla4747 that’s precisely why it requires strength. To allow yourself to be vulnerable opens you up to being wounded emotionally. Being vulnerable requires honesty, authenticity and courage. Is truth and courage weakness? The opposite of vulnerability is fear, insecurity and avoidance. Is fear and insecurity strength?
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@luck9837 there are definitely people who think vulnerability is weakness ( just read the chat). That doesn’t make them right. Those are the people who are the weak ones. That’s not a dig at them, it’s just the reality that they are because their weakness is insecurity about what people think of them. To be vulnerable just means to be human, authentic, have courage and emotions. What else is strength if not truth and courage?
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@luck9837 …and if you can’t be vulnerable with someone that relies on you that means you can’t rely on them. Love requires deep vulnerability.
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@Dharengo how do you figure that my opinion is the problem? Me not being afraid of what you’ll think of me if I’m authentic makes me the problem? lol. Sorry but no. The problem people face over vulnerability is they are insecure about what others think so they let opinions of them control their lives. That has nothing to do with me. Vulnerability is what happens when you graduate from insecurity
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@Dharengo I’m not a mind reader so what’s your point? You aren’t making one so to say I’m proving it makes no sense. Being emotionally vulnerable requires courage to overcome our insecurities. That’s not weakness that’s strength, authenticity and courage. I genuinely would like to hear an actual point against what I’m saying that makes sense. Instead it’s just vague statements from scared insecure individuals. No offense but if you can’t recognize what in saying to be truth you’re probably insecure
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@Dharengo what you’re describing is shame. Our insecurities aren’t are fault but they are our responsibility to overcome. The only way to find out if people genuinely care is to be vulnerable. Being authentic and vulnerable isn’t some universal key to getting what you want. What I said is that being vulnerable requires strength courage and authenticity. I never said it’ll make everyone care about you .
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@Dharengo you’re saying if anyone sees my struggle they will leave. This is shame and insecurity. This isn’t strength and authenticity. I can be vulnerable, be let down and be ok with myself. I am ok because I can take care of myself. If someone won’t make a safe space for me to be vulnerable then I don’t want a relationship or friendship with them anyway. The opposite of this is wearing a mask and being fake because I’m not secure with self. This is weakness, this is not strength
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@Dharengo do you want me to lie and say you’re a secure strong person for being afraid to be vulnerable with others? I have insecurities but it doesn’t stop me from being vulnerable with certain people . My entire point is correct that to be vulnerable requires strength. To be afraid of vulnerability is weakness.
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@Dharengo Self pity, shame, inauthenticity and avoidance aren’t a strength they are emotional weakness. It shows the level of insecurity when these are coping mechanisms. To be vulnerable requires emotional strength, courage and authenticity. The best Art, music , literature all portray levels of vulnerability and this is why they are timeless. Not everyone will appreciate, protect and make space for vulnerability. That doesn’t mean the solution is to hide behind a mask and not be true to self. That is the definition of weakness. Is not possible to find a loving relationship without vulnerability
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@Dharengo “ you’re doing it again” . Yup I’m being real and authentic. You’re not making any points against what I’m saying. What you’re doing is playing a victim and self pitying. If you can’t be vulnerable it literally has nothing to do with me or anyone else and everything to do with you. Until you face your issues and insecurities you’ll continue to blame others and play a victim.
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@Dharengo the fact you blame me or anyone for the fact you can’t be authentic or vulnerable shows that you need others to feel good about yourself. This is insecurity. If I don’t say nice things you think less of yourself. This is literally insecurity
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@Dharengo for you to be vulnerable means you’re open to being wounded. Weakness is your inability to withstand being wounded. There is a difference between weakness and vulnerability. Being emotionally vulnerable isn’t a weakness it is a strength because you can withstand being wounded. People with insecurities and complex trauma are afraid of vulnerability because of negative emotions that can come with it. Vulnerability is the only thing that leads to true connection with others
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@Dharengo in complex trauma vulnerability leads to pain and shame. That is why some see it as weakness. For you to say vulnerability is bad is like saying emotions are bad. It takes strength and courage to show all of yourself that is why you’re incorrect in arguing against what I’m saying. If you want to run away from the conversation idc
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@Dharengo if you avoid being vulnerable you’re still feeling the emotions, you’re just hiding them. You couldn’t be more wrong and it’s a shame that trauma has you believing vulnerability is negative
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@Dharengo best of luck healing
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@Dharengo nothing I said is random. I explained exactly why you’re incorrect in your assertion of seeing vulnerability as a weakness. I explained why it requires strength and courage to be vulnerable . Only people who have dealt with complex trauma see vulnerability as a negative because they fear what can come with it. Again if you think vulnerability is bad you think all emotions are bad. That is a sign of complex trauma. So I wish you the best in healing
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@Dharengo “every time a dude tries to open up people like you ….. make everything their own fault.” “… exemplified the reason men don’t open up” See you’re trying to blame me or others for your negative perception of vulnerability. I explained clearly why vulnerability is a strength and being afraid of vulnerability is a weakness. Nothing more nothing less
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