Comments by "Widdekuu91" (@Widdekuu91) on "GBNews"
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My situation was not as bad, but I was hoarding (clean) items and wouldn't let anybody in my house. People thought I was just very private and most of them stopped asking eventually.
I went to therapy and then started cleaning the house, bit by bit. It had taken 5 years of buying things and it was difficult to throw it to the thriftshop, I wanted everything to have a good home and not many people were interested in the items, thinking there was something wrong with them (because why otherwise did I want to get rid of them?)
After a while, two people from the neighbourhood came to ask for marbles and paper and I got my craftingboxes out and handed them the paper. I asked them not to walk in after me and wait by the door, while I got more of the craftingmaterials.
They immediately followed me into the house and started commenting on it. They said it was a stockroom, not a house and that it was full. I said I was working on it and everything was clean and I gave them the craftingmaterials and asked them to leave.
Later that evening, they spoke about it in the neighbourhood-meeting, informing all the men and women that 'it was horrible, like a stockroom with boxes' and that I had them 'stacked up to the ceiling' (by which they refered to one bookcabinet, that I had stacked some boxes onto, so yes, technically that was up against the ceiling.)
One of the men asked how bad it really was, right after I walked in for the meeting. I heard the woman answer; 'It was horrible, I got stuck in the boxes. I shouted for help, I was stuck! I couldn't get out! I was absolutely stuck."
I dropped my voice to an icecold level and said; 'Oh, I don't think you've even touched one box Samantha...were you stuck to the floor by any chance? There is a 2-meter-width walkingpath in the house with no boxes on it, so that I can dance through my house. And yet you were stuck, you say?'
The rest of the neighbourhood started telling me that I "just had to get everything and pick it up and throw it away" and I left.
A few months later, I visited the other woman that had forced her way in and had called me a hoarder and had initially told everyone about it (not the one with the imaginative I-was-stuck but the other one) and when I visited her with more craftingitems that she requested ( I know, but I needed to get rid of the items and I knew she would use them and not perhaps chuck them like a thriftshop could do) her kid opened up the door and said; 'Thankyou' and left the door open.
I leaned in and said; 'I'm assuming I need to shut the door? Hello?' and I heard a voice saying; 'Yes, please do!' The kid then opened up the curtain to look at me at the front door and I saw her sitting in a massive amount of items. Her kid walked across and on boxes and it was fuller than my house had ever been.
I closed the door politely and went home. I guess she was projecting when she kept on yelling how I was living in a stockroom.
I have currently found a better source for my materials (crafting-club) and I have started differentiating between the value of items for me.
It's gotten quite empty in the house (literally) and all that is left is difficult-items that need to be sold.
I have adapted a new style of hoarding/purchasing, where I just trade massive bags of stuff and trade them on.
So I take in 2 bags from an acquintance, I take 4 items out and I give away the rest, in trade of a bag of chocolate.
I eat the chocolate, get rid of 2 items, trade those in for licorice, help someone with my empty boxes for storage etc.etc. I just trade and exchange everything immediately.
That way, I still have my temporary 'high' from having bags of stuff in my house, but they only stay 2 days.
I've had people tell me that I should stop purchasing/trading completely, but it is a coping-mechanism and therapy is quite difficult these days. I find this technique helps for me. Some people drink, use drugs, smoke or gamble. I trade bags of old stuff and give them to charity in the end. I think that is a good coping-mechanism for now. And when I said the room was very empty, I meant that. It really is empty, in a good way.
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I know many people that thought about it for a long time, had a transition and were very happy about it.
I also know 2-3 people that had a sudden feeling they wanted this (obviously were NOT approved for surgery, it doesn't work that way!) but they cut their hair and bound their chest and wore prostethics.
After 2 years, those 3 had changed back.
It is important to realise that, if you feel like a man and you're born in a woman's body, a transition might be a very good idea.
And when you recently went through trauma, divorce, grief, and you suddenly want to be a man, you are confusing 'being a man' with societies idea of strength and manliness.
Anyway, as far as I know, therapy and intense psychological interviews are done before surgeries and cutting anything off is not a 'spur of the moment' decision.
Just like with regular cosmetic surgery, you need to make sure you are in balance mentally and have thought about it properly.
Sorry for the person in the video, hope they heal.
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