Comments by "Widdekuu91" (@Widdekuu91) on "Twitter Pick-Up Artists" video.

I would've liked; 'Hey, nice! Doritos" and then a handsome smile, a sortof half-wave or half-a-indexfinger point and a small nod, you know what I mean. I will smile and nod back and say; 'Yeah! Haha!' If I find him interesting, I will give him a few glances at the cashdesk and if he's outside, he can say; "Youknow, maybe this is too sudden, but I like you and I've just scribbled my number down on my receipt. I would love to hang out one day and eat Doritos together. If you'd like that too, give me a call!' and then hand me the note. That gives me the chance to say; 'Yes, sure!' or 'Oh thanks but..I don't think I'm currently looking for something. Thanks though, I appreciate it. You seem like a great guy. I dó really appreciate it." To which he'll then say; 'Ah, all good, no worries! Enjoy your Doritos lady! as he walks off a bit) and I answer; 'Haha, thanks, I'm Emma bytheway!' And he'll reply; 'Ah, well I'm ... have a good day, Emma, bye!' I mean, back in my day, this was flirting (depending on the answer, ofcourse. No was no.) Now, it seems you have to hand over your number like you're held at gunpoint after you smile to someone.
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@SearaChar Thankyou :) Well, maybe I should start a twitter-account that- just kidding. :P
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Youknow, in Dutch, the word for woman, female and wife is the same. And the word for husband, man and male is the same too. It's vrouw and man. If you get married, the only thing that changes is that instead of being 'een vrouw' (a woman/female) you are now 'his vrouw' and he will say; 'I am her man.' It's the one that you've picked to be yours and they have picked you to be theirs. If you really try to say husband or wife, you'd likely use the word echtgenoot/echtgenote which means "companion-who's-presence-I-enjoy in marriage." Genootje is a bit like the humanisation of 'little pleasure/enjoyment' and klasgenootje is your classmate. Someone who you enjoyed being in class with.
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That's brilliant, I once shut down Jehova's Witnesses by answering; 'I don't want to talk about your Gods, but I want to talk about MY Gods. Let me introduce you to my favorite band (after which I presented them with magazines, posters and music. And some printed out pictures that they were allowed to take.) They didn't want that, ofcourse, so they were off quite quickly.
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I've felt trapped once, when some drunk dudes started putting their arms around my top half, pinching my sides, tickling me in a sortof grabby way while a third one started acting like some discount-Disneyvillains (looking me into the face drunkishly and slurring; 'Ohnonoh noh noh...noooOOooow what do we have here? Why are you struggling? There's no need for that.." I mean, if he'd had enough hair on his upper lip to create a mustache, I bet he would've twirled it. He really felt powerful at that moment. Asswipe. Either way, I angrily screamed that they had to let go and stop being pathethic and tried stamping on his friend's foot (while the other continued groping) and the one in front of me kept 'Tut tut tut'-ing which infuriated me, so I gave up and shouted; 'HELP!' to my boyfriend that was standing about 5 steps away from me. Sadly he was too busy hitting on a girl that he'd later cheat on me with, so he was preocupied and did not do anything. It took me ages to wriggle myself free and when I confronted my boyfriend, he did not feel sorry, he just said; 'Well, had you stayed close to me, they probably wouldn't have done that. That's what you get when you walk away on your own." Which creepily reminded me of my parents when I was 4, youknow, telling me not to walk off on my own. I was 22 at that moment, so that boyfriend had no right to act like it was normal for me 'not to be able to walk off on my own.' Either way, he's my ex now. I am in therapy for the whole thing (not this incident, this was one of thousands) and I've come as far as pitying my ex for his spineless behaviour, because this was constantly happening. And I was álways sticking up for him if it was necessary. Conclusion, I might not be able to fight off three guys, but I am stronger than him, luckily.
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You can, but it is frowned upon. I have done that before though, with bread xD
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I think it has more to do with wanting to controll people. He'd have to unpack that with a therapist and figure out where that urge to controll others comes from. I dated someone that probably went for me, because I was easily influencable and manipulated and he did that, because he had been 'controlled' by people his entire life and his worst fear was to be with a woman that just like his mother would controll his life and tell him what to do. So he nééded someone to be emotionally unstable and lean on him, so HE was the one in controll. I don't think he realised that that's what he was doing, but I hád mentioned to him; 'Interesting, how all of your 11 exes were all the victims of s-assault before you dated them.' To which he probably thought; 'Ah, yeah, I am a rescuer-type-of-man.' No, he was the kind of man that could not handle anyone being as strong as he was, out of fear of being surpressed by her (even if that was not her intention at all.)
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Make sure to always stay within other people's nearity and speak loud and calm. "I will not give you my number!' and "I do not want you to say that to me/do that." It's really difficult, especially to find the courage to speak out loudly in a scary situation like that, but IF you have to, speak loud and clear, like you're talking to an old, deaf person. No anger, just like you'd speak to your grandma. And make sure to pack your bag and get your stuff directly, so you can leave. And find other women or trustworthy-looking men to sit with and tell them; 'That man is not treating me right and I want to sit here.'
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@@appleswithpeanutbutter609 I'm an autistic woman and PUA is not good advice. Read a social book and speak to some folk. The last thing you need is bad advice that "might occassionally work if the setting is right." That is exactly what will make you a creep in the other 99% and women will warn eachother if you get a name somewhere. If a girl looks at you and smiles comfortably, you might approach. Smile back, see if she keeps looking at you. See if she frowns or her smile drops, in that case, walk on. Don't run directly at her/stand superclose/walk in a straight motion, like you're in a shop-aisle going for the last box of cornflakes. Just casually stroll past, as you probably were already doing. Smile, say hello and if she turns away and ignores you or she says; 'Hai' and turns back around, she is not interested. If she puts a step on your direction, smiles, nods, keeps her body aimed 'at you' then she might want a conversation, which you start with; 'It seems you're having fun!' or "Is the water not too cold? I was considering going in the water, but was afraid it was too cold.' Or anything else that you genuienly thought (as long as it isn't "nice bathingsuit" or something.)
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My go-to-turndown story has always been to recall that time my toe was infected. I don't know, people always recoil in disgust when I talk about how the puss had the consistency of thick mayonaise and came seeping out, covering the bathroomfloor. No guy has made it to that point though. Also, naked grandma's and mouldy refrigerators. Those subjects always work. And dog-vomit. Go right into detail about what you saw in it, which undigested stuff was still there.
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