Comments by "Widdekuu91" (@Widdekuu91) on "Birds Fly In Shape-Shifting Pattern" video.
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@mastermindhunter
She cried because she was bothered her mom was holding it up in front of her.
She got jealous, she's a small child. It was like a 'cute hamster' and mom had it, but it then turned nasty.
And since mother still held it and didn't seem to mind the scary noises coming out of it, her trust in mom's judgement started to shrink.
So she slapped it (not too hard, as she was probably taught slapping is not okay) but then the mom kept filming.
And when she cried out, she hoped mom would instinctively respond and "care for her" (cry for attention) but mom kept filming.
And then the hamster cried/laughed and at that point her trust in mom's judgement was gone and she cried for real and got scared.
Source; I work with kids. There is some logic in them, but in a lot of ways, they behave like very sensitive and vindictive animals.
Until they turn 4, which is when you can speak with them, have fun, make jokes, surprise them, they want to help you and they're great.
But before they turn 4, they are testing boundaries and communicate in noises (even if they can speak) and if you talk to them too harshly, you'll seriously scar them for life.
And if you don't tell them to stop, you create a very annoying child that'll scream until it gets what it wants, because it was taught that's how life works.
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@mastermindhunter
Ooohh no problem. I had the same thing, I mean...I studied cognitive/social/etc. behaviour for 3 years and only then did I start to understand children a bit.
And many people mistake that for "loving all the kids' or 'liking all the kids' and that's not what I do haha. I love kids in general, but I don't love all the kids.
People always ask me to sit at the kid's table at parties and weddings. Awful. Especially if the kids are bored and start acting out and then I need to provide entertainment.
I mean, I'm not a free clown haha and it takes all my energy to entertain them for a few minutes, until they get bored again.
But I do like the way children (above 4!) communicate. And it helps that I understand them a bit.
There are kids that can be seen acting out because they're young, like when she hit the hamster.
That's an understandable act, but still annoying, even when you understand. What if a vase has recieved too much attention, youknow?
She would've broken it ánd cried about it then. So as a parent or supervisor, you'd have to think ahead and pick the vase up before the child would hit or get upset.
And as I said, before they turn 4, they're often upset and communicate in crying and whining. Or test the boundaries and yell; 'I'm dying!" to see if you show up.
Crying wolf used to be the hobby of my across-the-street-neighbourkid and he was good at it. Constantly yelled; 'I'm bleeding, aaaahh!' and I'd come running, because I wouldn't forgive myself if it really was true. The mother was trying to ignore it, I don't know, I couldn't differentiate between his actual screams of pain and fake ones.
And another kid was really young and if he got scared, he'd lose his mind and just wrestle anyone away from him.
He'd hit and kick and push and scream and cry and there was no way to communicate anymore. If you picked him up, he'd bite your arm and hand and kick you in the stomach.
That was just sad, because that meant he felt vulnerable and scared, this was not plain aggression, this was fear. I'd usually pick him up, walk around with him in the garden and sing/talk until he felt better and would usually apologize on his own.
There's no need to talk harsh or put him in the hallway, he won't learn from that. Later it turned out that kid was autistic and he went to a special school after that. It's been 7 years, so he'll be in his early teens now.
Another reason to act out is because they are severely troubled. For me, that's not always easy to recognize, but usually meeting the parents or friends gives me more info.
I once worked with a child that was seen as the most violent boy, teasing other kids, but when I met the father of the boy, I understood how this happened.
The father was hard, unforgiving and thought nothing good of his son. Even when I praised him, he waved away the compliment and said he was good for nothing.
So, those kids are nice and friendly once they are playing by themselves or with friends that they trust. You can't always help them in that situation, I wish I could.
I did talk to him about it once, but he walked off and said he was okay. He didn't like talking about it. I was 're-placed in another group' before I could help him.
One child got bullied once and bullied some innocent kids in return.
I walked up to his playhouse, to talk about it. But he hadn't seen me coming, so it 'surprised' him, he screamed, ducked down, got a big wooden stick from the floor and 'stabbed' me right in the face with it. And then panicked and spat in my face before he ran off. Coincidentally, his mom was there to pick him up from the afterschool-daycare.
I picked him up (he screamed and tried kicking me) and we waited until his mom came running over. And she explained what had happened and he apologized and they changed schools, so the next time I saw him, he felt much better and safer.
I will not go gentle on them if they bully others, don't get me wrong, but they don't 'spark animosity' when I see them, like the next group does, sometimes.
And the next group is kids that learned it gets them attention.
100% the parents fault and the kids should not be punished for that. So I try to be gentle (but very clear) in boundaries when they start acting out and screaming.
But it really makes my blood boil sometimes. There was a girl that wanted to sing once and she had already sung three songs.
Another kid was on the floor, crying, because she fell. We were helping the second one, when the first girl got angry and said; 'LISTEN, I'M SINGING!'
She yanked me away from the crying girl and when I refused to listen, she stepped onto the dinnertable in between the plates and started screaming loudly.
I said; 'STOP IT NOW!' and she stared me in the eyes and continued louder. She was about 5, but the anger that I felt, scared me. I would never hit a kid, don't worry, but I never experienced the thought itself coming up. And the thought came into my head, when she did that, which is what frightened me, a lot.
So I picked her up, put her down on the floor and told her to sit in the hallway and wait. Which is when she burst into tears of disappointment and my anger changed into anger towards the parents.
I don't know why I shared all of that, haha. You don't have to read all of it, don't worry. Maybe I kindof wrote it down for myself.
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@abc784
Haha, alright, I translated them into English. The originals were written in Dutch (I kept a journal with the highlights, with changed names.)
Penelope (4) is skipping around the place and says; 'Let's play something fun!'
I go; 'What do you want to play, with the other kids?
Penelope stops skipping, rubs her hands, pulls a sudden 'dramatic-chipmunk-face and grunts; 'Dentist...playing dentist..yeeesss!"
Lisette was busy drawing Sleeping-Beauty's room. And drew a Tulip-shape in a vase.
Valentine said; Hey! That's not right! That's not a rose!'
But according to Lisette the rose was still new, and therefore still closed, that explained the shape.
Because 'Sleeping Beauty is a princess, so she gets everything new, including roses every day.'
(Which doesn't seem nice to me. Never being able to see a rose open up, but hey, it sounded luxurious to them.)
Marik tried to give me a High-Five, but he was too enthusiastic and hit me pretty hard, right in middle of my face.
Penelope wanted to play dentist, but there was no dentist-outfit to put on.
So she put a crown on her head, because dentists 'work with crowns', she'd heard.
And a tie, because it was serious business work.
And she topped it off with a full knight's armor, that she díd find in the dressup-chest.
Because it had a big red cross on it. And that looked like the red cross and that was medical.
Lucy said while walking to the Afterschool-daycare: 'Gosh, I see leaves falling, but they seem to fall from higher than the tops of the trees. It must all come from the trees of the universe, from other planets! '
Anna says; "I want to go to my sister, Lytitia." She walks to the toddlers, shouts; 'Letitiey! Titey! Tit! TIHIT! TIIIIIIIIIIIT TIIIIIT! HEY TITTIE! TITTIIIIIEEEEEE!'
Lisette was afraid that she would no longer be able to eat properly and that the missing teeth (almost 9 at that point) would never grow back.
Which was sweet, because she was quite old. (6 or 7 years)
Tom is playing a boardgame with me, but if HE throws 'house', he can throw a double one and go to the next house.
Yet, if I throw house, I have to go back 1 house and I am not allowed to throw anymore.
(Because apparently this is how it goes at home, where he always wins...)
Penelope wants to help me sweep up glitter, does it very nicely, but halfway through, she forgets what she's doing and throws everything enthusiastically into the air.
I was sitting in front of her, so I get everything in my eyes and face and keep glittering for weeks.
(Two very-occasionally-visiting kids, aged 9, quite old)
Kayla: I'm a burglar, muhahahaha '
Marieke: No! Did you break into my house ?!'
Kayla: YES! I have done just that!
Marieke: No... right? But....noo you haven't! What does our living room look like? Well? Say it then!
Kayla: Well… very… big.
Marieke: seriously frightened "Oh no! So you were really there?!
Shiela and Penelope play doctor, when I walk past, everything is fine and it is mainly 'pushing sticks into each other's mouths' and saying 'aah'.
When I come by a little later, Penelope is standing with a plastic saw from the other suitcase (toolbox) 'sawing off' Shiela's leg and Shiela is 'sleeping.'
When I asked what they were doing, the answer was shortly: "I'm performing an operation.."
One of the boys was afraid he might lose his shoes, so he put them on his hands and walked around like this all day, wearing shoe-gloves.
Annie is coloring and singing loudly while she's colouring. She has no idea that she's doing, she doesn't realise it.
She especially doesn't notice that everyone is silent and listens, while she creates the most bizarre; 'LAaaleeeulloooeeeeehheeEEHHEEEEEEEEEEE'-screaming noises.
Went on, nonstop for about 4 minutes.
I just copied my (very detailed) drawing of a unicorn, 6 times for everyone and I hand it out.
Kaya: I'm happy with it, I'm going to decorate it nicely, with stripes!
Elly: takes the drawing 'Yes, come here little giraffe, I'm going to make you beautiful..'
I might have some more, haha. I will have to look in my other documents. Just say the words and I'll post them :) I love re-reading them as well, haha, these kids were great.
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@abc784
Okay, wait, I found the last ones, I translated them haha, this is all I have.
There's about 4 untranslatable word-joke-stories, but they're not as good, you're not missing anything there.
In the creative-class, the only jar made of glass has fallen and shards lie everywhere.
At that moment everyone wants to 'suddenly' play in the class, to see what’s going on.
I said: No, boys and girls, no one is allowed in the classroom, especially not wearing socks.. '
Them: "What is it then?"
"Something broke."
'What then?'
"Something made of glass, something sharp… that's why."
'Why?'
“Well, it stood too close to the edge of the table. So you all should just go to the- '
"Who did that then?"
'I do not know. I have not seen. '
'How is that possible?'
'Well it fell ... smashed ... to the ground. But go to the- '
'Where?'
'There… at the table. Kids, listen, I- '
"But when did that happen then?”
(Just to be clear, I kept answering the questions because a parent was in the room with us.
Normally I’d say; 'You're all going to the other room NÓW and you wait there!
But the parent wanted to know these things too, so I kept getting distracted. And áll the kids kept pouring into the room.)
Mieke: It's my birthday today ...so you ALL HAVE to sing for me!
We sing Happy Birthday and another national birthdaysong
Mieke: 'Yes… and now… another 3! Because I turned 5.’
Teacher: Eh…. no Mieke, we'll do 3 in total ... just like everyone else, everyone gets 3 .. '
In the meantime we are filming this whole thing for Mieke's parents, so they can see what her special day was like.
And ofcourse, Mieke creates a great drama about getting all the 5 songs.
So, in the end we decided to sing another 3 songs, as she wanted.
After which Mieke yelled: 'Yes, helloooooo, was that finally it? Jeesh, that took ages, I want my presents! '
Penelope has lunch and it's one of her first times with a plastic knife.
She spreads butter on a sandwich, but it goes wrong and there is 1 lump of hard butter in the middle. She tries to spread it out, but it doesn't work.
She puts some nutella on top of it, mixes everything together, tries to spread it out, but it still doesn't work and in the end, it is a plain, empty sandwich with one gigantic lump of butter and nutella in the middle.
She looks at it, sighs, tries something out in one last attempt and then says; "There is nothing more that I can do.."
She waits a dramatic 2 seconds, staring at it and then, without any hesitation, folds the sandwich and eats it like that.
Piet knows that this month, the daycare-theme is Magic.
We have already talked about witches and fairies and Colleague B. is just dragging our old rug from the floor, which we are going to throw away.
A very large, heavy, slippery rug. That is very difficult to move out of the room.
Colleague B: How are we going to move this? How are we going to fix this? This has to go.. into the garbage can? Or at the front of the garbage?
Colleague W: Yeah, good question..I don't know either.
Piet: (in the voice of tv-presenter, as if he knows everything) Well ... the solution is very simple. You just take some magic hand gesture and poof, it’s gone. Dúh!”
Vicky (4) wanted to say something, but didn't know how to put it. I waited a few seconds each time, before answering, while we walked down the street, to the daycare.
Vicky: "If you .. if you .."
Me: Yes?
Vicky: If you go with ... guinea pigs, guinea pigs that ...
Me: Yes?
Vicky: Guinea pigs… they go… guinea pigs
Me: What do you want to say?
Vicky; If you….If you throw guinea pigs around... they will scratch you ...
Lucy: The older you get, the naughtier you get!
I’m talking to Penelope's mother, and Penelope is starting to suck her thumb.
I say; "No..Penelope ...", and she immediately removes her finger from her mouth and her mother says; "No, Penelope, don’t do that."
Now, apparently she has agreed with her mother that she can still suck her thumb at night.
At this moment, it is a quarter to 6 in the evening, so it is dark outside.
Penelope roars with an amazing Moroccan accent (don't know where she got that from, she’s very white) "EYYY but it's night time!!!" and points to the window with a rapper movement.
I was amazed because she's 5 and had never done that before. It looked hilarious though. I'm guessing she watched Ali B on the tv (a popular familyfriendly Dutch Morrocan rapper.)
Tias is standing at the table and wants to ask for a ricecracker with cheese spread.
He had to ask Colleague B. very politely (back in the day) but now I am minding the rice-cracker table, and I’m not that strict.
I just make the crackers and put them on the table, they can ask and take the crackers from the table.
Tias: “Hello! I’d like some cheesespread."
Me: 'So, with a rice-cracker, right? Just tell me what you want, then you can grab the rice-cracker that’s on the table. There’s two kinds, which one did you prefer?”
Tias; confused May I ... please..I would like ... thank you ... have a rice cracker..and eh..some cheese spread.. '
Penelope felt that her loud baby sister Felicity should be quiet, and as she chatted to her mother, she very casually pushed Felicity’s jaw upwards.
Which looked very funny, because Felicity looked like this; O_o? and Penelope held her hand up like that permanently, too, as if it were a baby snooze button.
Penelope doesn’t say ‘Oh the humanity’ but ‘Oh, the manatee.”
(almost perfect translation from the original Dutch one, where she said ‘Oh zeekoe’ instead of ‘Oh zeker.’ Zeekoe is a manatee.)
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@lukemajors6357
Haha, well I never could talk about the children (to people outside the daycare) because of privacy and safety reasons.
Because, youknow, if you mention their name or their autism or their favorite stuffed animal, someone might overhear and use that information to lure them away from the playground into danger, by saying; 'I'm a friend of your former teacher E, she told me about your ballet-classes."
So I always kept strictly to those rules and felt very responsible and only after leaving the company again and it being 5 years later, I felt it was safe enough to start sharing.
And also, nobody really cared for the stories. Most people don't even sit still long enough to listen to them, I don't even try to tell them.
I dó have nice stories too though. If you want I can share those too. They are shorter, I promise, hahahaha!
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