Comments by "Widdekuu91" (@Widdekuu91) on "Parents Devastated He Got A Tattoo" video.

  1. It's kindof sad, actually. It shows the relationship wasn't good. This wouldn't have happened that way if it was. I used to date someone who had a controlling mom. He wanted a tattoo and told me. I was a bit hesitant, but understood. I told him that he should get it tattooed with me in the room, I wanted to be there, it was a big thing in his life and we knew eachother for 7 years at that point. Appareantely he was slowly ready to break up with me at the time, because he asked the tattoo-artist to order me to leave. I was told to either stay behind the counter on a chair or just leave. The guy said he couldn't do it with me staring at them and when I asked why the former girl (when we walked in and he was finishing the other tattoo) was holding her boyfriend's hand, he asked me to leave. My boyfriend turned around and didn't help me, so I left. Later, he said he hadn't heard the commotion and that I was already gone before he could tell him that I was allowed to stay. The more the relationship went downsouth, the more he started thinking of another tattoo. The first one was a design he'd wanted for ages. But the next one, was a corporate logo (and not a good one, but one responsible for oilspills and suffering and slavery.) He wanted it on his back. I said he couldn't, he couldn't do that to me. I have autism (eye for detail and distracted by tattoos) and to have to look at that logo forever, (while supporting greenpeace and being against oilspills) would be torture. He then said he was going to get it tattooed on a trip to America. He also wanted to add an American glag, while he was at it and some others. So that he could 'brag about it and have a good story' when people ask why he got the tattoo. Just an easy way to bring up the trip to America. I was not allowed to go on the trip to America, he wanted to hang out with his friends, which was fine, he did that each year. But since it was 8 weeks long and we only had one week left for our trip together to Germany, I felt he could lean my way a bit as well. But he couldn't since he felt he had much to 'catch up on' after having been denied his own choice by the mother and father. I was worried when he shared his plans to make prankvideos in the hood and videotape their reaction to them visiting with a recumbend bike, but appareantely I could not convince him nót to do it. I did ask him to pléase not get a tattoo and said it was something you kindof talk about in a normal relationship. He felt it was something he had to do, to feel like an individual (which he often did not feel like, due to the mother being overly present and the father never being there.) Then he went there and did not get a tattoo. He did purposely cut his hair off and send me the picture, to make sure I was upset, because I'd complimented him on it recently. Then he cheated on me in Miami, came back with a rash and then didn't have the guts to break up with me for another half a year, in which I was physically mistreated on drunk nights and eventually he burned my art out of spite when I did not take him back. Bottomline; 1. I need to stop venting outside my therapy and 2. in a normal relationship with parents or friends or girlfriends and boyfriends and wifes and husbands, you kinda talk about these things (unless you already have a sleeve and it's a surprise) and that is especially when you're about to put something in a visible place where they will have to look at it the whole time. This was clearly a situation that was either staged (it looked staged) and where there was no healthy relationship between them.
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