Comments by "Widdekuu91" (@Widdekuu91) on "He Couldn't Look Away" video.

  1. I never understood why people felt the need to destroy or otherwise 'bully' their exes. Some people reply; 'Well, maybe you've never been cheated on then!' and I have been cheated on, definitely. But I just acknowledge that the asshat wasn't worth my time and love. (He broke up with me, even, saying he felt no more love.) I refused to take him back and delivered all his belongings in a clear bag. Even a small christmas-gift he hadn't received yet, but I had no use for myself, so why would I chuck it? In return, he refused to give me half of my lingerie back (saying he was going to put it on his new girlfriend) and destroyed all my art, in an attempt to 'make me suffer from loss' like he was doing after I didn't take him back. So what have we learned? He has keepsakes around his house (and lingerie on his girl) to remind him of me the entire time. He knows he has been an ass for cheating, an ass for breaking up ánd an ass for destroying my art. And he knows I was not an ass during the whole thing and recently his friends gaveme a heads up that he keeps mentioning me (there is zero chance I take him back.) I in return, have been hurt tremendously, but I have seen his true colours. I vent my frustration in my art (that gets sold for a foundation) and I work through the hardship. (And occassionally, anonymously vent about him, like on here.) I avoided venting to his friends though, many have no clue what he did. I gain nothing from him-losing-friends, it's not like it'll make him a better person. He will have to live with the fear of them finding out about it, until he comes clean to them. I don't see the need for the revenge-taking. I don't understand. Keep your head high, continue and leave it behind you. Speak, create, make art. People love to fantasize about laxatives in coffee, but in reality, you're just being petty and trying to 'punish' them, whereas they've already punished themselves enough. They have been awful people (and they have to live with themselves every day) and they have lost you, in their lifes. Assuming you are great, that is a tremendous loss for them. If I ever break up with someone in a shitty way and they're mature, I expect them to shake their head in disappoinment and leave me behind with a horrible guilt. And vice versa. The more the other person stays calm, the more it shows the contrast between the immature bully and the mature adult that is not going to deal with their BS. (Although I obviously don't have plans on ever being shitty during a breakup.) And if it is a normal breakup, there is no need for these revenge-things AT ALL because not only are you nót helping yourself by showing your most awful side to them, in a sad attempt to show others around you, how great you are and how this did not break you. In reality, it highlights how broken you are and how not-great you are to be around.
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