Comments by "Regulus" (@xXx_Regulus_xXx) on "What People Get Wrong about Modern Dating" video.

lots of people have this mechanistic understanding of romantic relationships as well as other kinds of relationships and it's alienating af to be on the receiving end of. I had a friend disrespect me in a major way and then double down it, and then only when I made it clear I wasn't putting up with it did he scramble to offer a token apology. People aren't companionship vending machines that dispense what you want after reciting the right sequence of mouth noises, it's more complicated than that. As for romantic relationships, there are some people you can hook up with and some you can't. Talking to/dating somebody isn't about programming them to enter companion mode, it's about determining whether you and they are compatible. To at least some extent, that's already determined before the first conversation even starts.
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Evo it can happen, I attracted my current girlfriend by just vibing in my own corner of the internet. She liked a bunch of my posts so I used that as my opening to send a DM. I was just looking for people to talk to in general at that time so I just sent a sort of "hey want to chat sometime?" kind of message and she was up for it. We figured each other out as people, I tried taking it to the next step and it happened to work. It can happen that way, you don't have to decide you want to be part of the "dating scene" or whatever to find somebody.
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@corneliahanimann2173 I think everyone's entitled to be in exclusive communities because usually it's a good psychological release valve spending time with people who you have something in common with. I'm assuming you mean the groups that are more like "I hate women/men why won't women/men date me" or people who just spend all their time in an exclusive group whether or not it's toxic. That can definitely turn into something unhealthy.
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@tiagobarbosa509 "haha woman want money" this is only valid if you want somebody materialistic. If you want to avoid thottery you can't use bait that attracts thots.
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@vexrak01 yeah, nobody with any sense picks a partner for one trait. One trait might stand out above the others but if you only like one or two things that's not a foundation for a real relationship
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