Comments by "Regulus" (@xXx_Regulus_xXx) on ""Self-Love Isn't the Answer"" video.

  1. I had a similar experience dating. when I was single I figured "if I'm worth loving why hasn't it actually happened yet?" and it made me more unwilling to seek better circumstances in all areas of my life. Through a mix of courage and desperation I tried being a good boyfriend for a few women and after some trial and error I found somebody compatible and we ended up in a positive feedback loop of making each other better. Even if that went away tomorrow, I would always be able to tell myself, "I did it once, I can do it again."
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  2. small note about Christianity since you mentioned it, there are different interpretations but generally the reason you're supposed to change your behavior in response to love is less about worthiness and more about gratitude. If someone does something nice for you because they feel empathy for your pain or misfortune, usually the proper response is to take what you're given to further improve so you don't suffer as much. You want to suffer less and so does the other person so it's painful for everyone involved if you keep living in the way that makes you miserable.
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