Comments by "Brandon" (@gravoc857) on "How Anxiety Is Different For Men" video.

  1. Sort of. What it’s saying is that underlying anxiety causes men to look for problems in the world that are unsolvable by them, then use that unsolvable problem as the root of their struggles. It’s essentially a rejection of feeling and finding a coping mechanism to keep that feeling suppressed. The coping mechanism is generally latching onto a lack of control, because it’s a safe vector for men to share their thoughts, without actually facing their feelings bluntly and truthfully. Instead of saying, “My job is having a negative impact on my mental state, because I don’t know how to emotionally process these difficult tasks in a healthy, productive manner”. A man with underlying, untreated, and often-unknown anxiety might instead say “This job is killing me. It’s unreasonably stressful and it’s my employers fault for not hiring enough people, for not paying me enough, and for placing too much responsibility onto me”. While some of the latter may be true in this individuals case. They fail to recognize that they have allowed the environment to mold their consciousness in uncontrollable ways. This is an issue, because men are generally conditioned into this mindset. Societal norms are unintentionally generating men with anxiety, who have a lifetime of precedent telling them to not face it. Men need to learn how to prevent their environment from changing or controlling their mental state in uncontrollable ways. Learning to comfortably confront your feelings is a critical skill. It’s required to understand what environments do to your state of mind, how to mentally conquer those environments, and when it’s truly time to pull the plug on an environment that is mentally untenable.
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