Youtube hearted comments of KGS (@kgs2280).

  1. “Antisocial and narcissistic”. I suppose racist would fit into the antisocial aspect of this particular Karen. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for not only a great analysis of this, but also your straight-faced smiting humor. Nailed it.
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  2. I fell in love with Oaxaca when I went there in 1973. Haven’t been able to get back, but, one of these days! You two are such beautiful folks, inside and out. Your kind and open souls come shining through.
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  3. Dr. Grande, thank you so much for this. I’ve finally figured out my situation. I’m so glad you mentioned the Borderline Personality overlap. After growing up with a narcissistic mother I developed some of those characteristics, but the label never quite fit completely. I was a hot mess when I was young, but have figured out a lot of the problems, and am able to change my thought patterns and internal responses accordingly and in a much healthier manner on my own. As to the last portion of the video regarding no contact, I completely get that. I’m almost 70 and my mother has been dead over 15 years, but that hurt and broken little girl will always be a part of me, and I can still hear all the internal messages (“you’ll never amount to anything” was a biggie). I just don’t react now how I used to. But the hurt will always be there. Thanks for all your great videos. They really do help.
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  4. Here’s a surprise: being a girl that age when hormones kick in is no picnic, either. We’ll just suddenly say something sharp or nasty to someone, then even we will wonder where that came from. It’s a hard time of life for everyone.
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  5. ¡Viva Mexico! ¡Viva La Independencia! ¡Mexico, querido y lindo! ¡Viva!
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  6. Wonderful interview! It brought back so many amazing memories, both good and bad (I was in college when Woodstock and Kent State happened). As someone who lived through that era and became a hippie, I can tell you that it was a life-altering moment in history. My politics still reflect that change, and I so wish musicians today would write songs speaking out against the ugly things that are happening now that are so similar to what happened then to inspire that kind of music and bring people together in the kind of peace-and earth-loving comraderie we had then. They changed history for the better then, and I’d like to see that same kind of change now.
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  7. Wow, this video brought up some difficult memories. That feeling of being trapped really struck a nerve. I felt like an animal in a cage, a very small cage. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for truly understanding the depth and long-lasting damages these relationships wreak.
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  8. This was wonderful, David. Thank you. It’s really amazing that this was actually aired on TV in 1958. It was only a year later when my family moved from the Midwest to Florida, and I remember being stunned, even as a child, to see “Colored only” signs in public. Fortunately, that wasn’t allowed too much longer, but there were still segregated schools and neighborhoods. I never understood it, as I had grown up in a military area where I went to school with kids from all over the world, so that had seemed a perfectly normal thing to me as a kid.
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  9. Thank you for this. You answered a question I was just getting ready to ask: can and do the two types of narcissists blend together in one person? My mother seemed to be a blend of the two types. While I would say that she was primarily the vulnerable type (all boxes checked), she also had many of the styles of the grandiose style, especially the demanding and being at the top of the food and power chain. To risk another metaphor, it was her way or the highway, always. She was introverted enough, or perhaps self-controlled enough to ingratiate herself among members of the extended family that they all thought she was so sweet, but she was never, ever sweet with her husband or children. In fact, when she died, I offered to call her sister-in-law to let her know, and this lovely lady said, oh, I’m so sorry; she was always such a nice, sweet person.” Not having had that experience with her, ever, I blurted out, “are we talking about the same “Mary Smith” (not her real name)?” I wasn’t being flippant, I was just so shocked that other people knew her as a completely different person, and never saw her dark, twisted, dangerous side. Fortunately, this person wasn’t one of the relatives she had groomed to be one of her “flying monkeys” against me (the scapegoat). She primarily used her own mother for that purpose, and did it so well that when my mother threatened to kill me (yes, literally), and my father threatened that if she ever threatened me again or made a move against me, he’d have her institutionalized (btw, the ONLY time my father stood up to her for me), she called her mother who called me and screamed about what a terrible daughter I was, and if I ever threatened her again (which I had never done, but granny wouldn’t actually speak to my father that way), she would have ME locked up. Sorry to drone on, and I’m sure you’ve heard it all before. And that is only one tiny little portion of the suffering she spent many, many years visiting upon me. Another thing you said that rang true was that these people have suffered themselves in childhood. She once told me that when she was a small girl, her father would come home from work and start screaming at her mother, accusing her of sleeping with any man around, like the milk man, postman, and any other he could think of, then he would start beating on my grandmother while my mother hid, terrified, in her closet, but able to hear everything. “Hurt people hurt people”. And that is one of the primary reasons I decided to not have children, because although this was many, many years ago and the psychology was not understood yet (or at least not public knowledge), I somehow instinctively knew it would have serious detrimental effect on my children, through me, even though I didn’t understand the mechanism at that time. Sorry to blab on, but your videos are doing wonders for my understanding, and I thank you greatly for that.
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  10. Please don’t put a rattlesnake in the ring! Another good analysis, Dr. Grande. Love your new background and mic.
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  11. What a great video, with so much excellent research! Thank you for sharing this. I was shocked to find that there are still so many accusations of witchcraft, with terrible punishments, happening in so many countries. As soon as you mentioned accusations of Witch Hunts today, I had a feeling you would be mentioning Donald trump’s comments. He has no understanding of real witch hunts, and the terrible consequences of them throughout history! But he does love playing the victim! I’m saving this video to watch again and again…great reference.
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  12.  @TheYarbros  Thank you for that. A week sounds very reasonable.
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  13. I had always thought I’d choose Oaxaca, but I’m really such a big city girl and I love Mexico City (DF), and am curious if it’s still worth it. Are you going there to give us the scoop? Would love to hear about it.
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  14. Oh, my. You hit every nail right on the head. This really stirred a lot of old memories for me. It really made me even more glad I got out of those relationships. Which reminds me, would you consider making a video about how often people who grew up with a narcissistic parent end up in a relationship or marriage with another narcissist (especially with women seeming to do it more often). I’ve seen a number of comments about that, and I did it myself. It’s like a woman who grows up in a physically abusive relationship with a parent will often marry an abusive man, because it is familiar, it’s what they understand, even though it’s also painful. Thanks for another great video.
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  15. Excellent video.
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  16. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for such a compassionate and understanding treatment of the devastating emotional and psychological results of sexual abuse. People need to hear this.
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  17. What fun! Glad you are enjoying Guatemala. It’s funny, but just last week I was qwatching a YouTube video about some of the history of Guatemala. I don’t remember the name, but you’ll see something about “fruit” or “bananas”. If you want to know more about the history of Guatemala, I think you’ll find it interesting. It’s pretty brutal, but it’s mostly about how a U.S. fruit company went in and took a lot of the land & forced the people to work for them. Then when things got to testy with the public in the U.S. they sort of re-branded and changed their name to Chiquita. That might be related to why you are seeing so many American food places there, as we (the U.S.) pretty much took over the country. Also, you mentioned hearing about Livingston. One or two videos cover a lot about that place as well. It’s very interesting. A man there who “saves” the history of Livingston said that the people there did NOT originate in the Caribbean islands, but he didn’t say how they originally got there. He made it sound like they were always there, but I wonder about that. I have a Guatemalan friend, so I’ll have to ask her if she knows. Anyway, glad you two are safe and having a great time. Looking forward to your next videos.
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  18.  @TheYarbros  ❤️
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  19. Congratulations!🎉
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  20. Congratulations on 300K subscribers! You’ve earned it. As movies go, I like several of your choices, but have to disagree about Unforgiven. As a woman, I found it to be preposterous that men of that era would be that introspective and self-blaming for raping a woman, not to mention discussing their self-blame with other men. Rape was generally considered “just a thing men did” and they felt it was their “right”, and something that women brought upon themselves. It has only been since the early 21st Century that society has been calling out that kind of thinking, although it still persists in many ways. On a completely different subject, I would love to hear your take on Young Frankenstein (one of my all-time favorites). While it was comedy, and without much to analyze psychologically, I thought it was brilliant, and very memorable. I agree with your choice of The Martian. Keep up the good work.
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  21. Good documentary, David. Well done.
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  22. Lovely attitude. We are the ones who can make the world a better place...through kindness.
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  23. This is why our physical money is backed by real gold. I don’t know much about crypto and how it works, but as soon as I learned that it is not backed by, or based on, anything real, I thought about our gold in Fort Knox and why our “regular” money is based on that, and I knew crypto was a bad idea.
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