Comments by "sou 𐀔" (@moonriversou) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. I'm watching this and realising that I'm sometimes immature myself. I mean, I always knew this but I realise I have a long way to go.
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  2. Personally, when I meet someone new, I look at whether they are thoughtful (i.e., whether they're ego centric or thinks of others,) approachable, whether they ask about you, etc. Also, I tend to prioritise making a good impression with a person when I meet them so I think I need to prioritise how other people's first impressions with me are too.
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  3. Free Palestine 🇵🇸 Save the Children. All children of the Academic year 2023—2024 have died in Palestine; my heart breaks for them.
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  4. The number of people I ended friendships with by simply removing them out of my life is truly embarrassing. Even with all of the things they did to me, I felt so morally at fault for simply doing that. But I realised I was putting in so much effort in a friendship that did not respect me so I needed to do this.
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  5. I am SO glad you're talking about this bc I have been so confused about this for a while haha. also, I wanted to make a video recommendation, can you make a video on neurodivergence and the things that are commonly associated with these neurodevelopmental disorders?
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  6. I'm anticipating what I will be learning as someone who over compromises in friendships.
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  7. I think why I'm so terrified of having a frenemy and breaking a friendship now is because of a horrible and sort of tragic experience in the past. Before, I was very immature, on the defense but stern and was able to cut friends off easily without any consequences. But in the 11th grade I did the same, and the friend I broke off with made my life filled with anxiety because I left her off in a very immature way, I just stopped talking to her one day after a huge fight. I realize now that it wasn't the right way to deal with it but too little too late. She was an extrovert and would make friends with people just to spite me and speak negatively of me, it really got into my head and gave me alot of anxiety. Idk it was difficult. And then around december 2020, I had another incident that changed my life but that was online and somehow I was able to cope. I can't cope in real life with a conflict because of how I was brought up in my family (I had an extremely traumatic childhood that has a great affect over me) and knowing that there are people that genuinely don't like me at all or even hate me, causes me even more anxiety because who knows what they're gonna be talking about me or thinking about me. It's just something I would not like to feel, but I am trying to draw some boundaries for myself and I'm trying to figure out how to break up with a friend that gives me no positive emotions anymore. I want to handle it maturely and with class and I want to rely on myself enough not to be anxious about it.
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  8. I have just graduated from my bachelor's degree. I hope I can inculcate a few of these things in my life and find purpose during my gap year <3
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  9. Oh btw I'm seeing you post alot! :) I hope you're taking care of yourself and taking a break every now and then
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  10. ​ @An_Gha_  making a good impression ≠ being fake. It's trying to show off the best side of me to the new people I meet. I know myself, I know my best qualities. Besides, faking certain things like confidence or charisma aren't necessarily bad things as long as you don't do things that false to the authentic side of yourself.
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  11. I relate alot to this. I genuinely feel like sometimes when I put myself out there and experience an uncomfortable response and reaction and I fly into rumination. I'm so happy for you and proud of you <3 truly, as a fellow anxious person, I see you. You're inspiring many people here.
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  12. Nice that you're so introspective! I'm watching this as someone who's not in a relationship or anywhere close to that.
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  13. How do we know when a relationship is stagnant and heading nowhere? Not just with relationships but friendships, how do we know when to become close to someone and trust that they will take on their own responsibilities in the relationship?
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  14. 02:30 Do you have any videos on how we can become more nuanced in our way of thinking? I'm someone who's trying to learn that but I notice that even if I do emphasize with other people and I can understand their perspective, I tend to be get very frustated still later and I think that my way of thinking is correct and they're so wrong so they're either "stupid" or there's something wrong with them.
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  15. Ah I need this, you get me truly! I was just scheduling a gmail to my future self feeling lost and fearing how I'll react with all the friendships I ended last year. And I get notified about this.
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  17. Last year was such a turbulent year for me because of my experience with friendships. I graduated and realised all the friends I had in college were really not friends because either they did shady and terrible things to me or they had extreme opposing values as me and gave me a tough time because of that like as if it was my fault that we had opposing values and was senstive. It was heartbreaking. It was loneliness. I was filled with anxiety and my self-esteem was in the dumps because I thought there was something so wrong with me that I decided to let go of so many people. And moreover, I tended to romanticise my past friendships that had ended and the grief was hitting me hard. I realised a lot of my newer friendships were one-sided because I was putting in all the effort, I was acting out of loneliness and desperation. I had poor boundaries and communication skills. I was going through a lot. It was difficult but now, I think I did the work, I can see when a friendship is intolerable for me, and I am okay with taking action. Though, I still fear confrontation, when it's necessary and when I feel like my emotions will be taken seriously, I will not hesitate to speak up.
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  18. Congratulations, Ana! Watching your journey and growth has been truly an honour and I am so proud of you. You're my favourite psychology content creator and I hope one day I am able to hold as much knowledge of psychology as you do. ♡
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  19. It's always worth it to assert yourself. As someone with the same problem, I'm so proud of you, I really am. I never saw me facing the aftermath of the situation's discomfort as "something I need to sit with," wow a great perspective change.
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  20. I want to ask you or anyone in the comments really, how do you deal with people who hurt you unintentionally? like by basically not meeting your needs, putting in any effort in the friendship, reciprocate your effort, etc. How do you know whether they have good intensions for you? I have always had a rough time making friends being neurodivergent myself. I have always felt isolated and alienated. I sometimes wonder if I am too on-edge for making adult friendships.
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  21. ​ @AnaPsychology  like subliminal video on youtube and research studies on whether they help reframing the mind, if you find any of them. because anything related to the conscious and unconscious mind confuses me so yeah.
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  22. 2:55 thank you for clarifying this because it's so confusing to explain to people who aren't studying psychology. I will definitely use this description
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  23. Please make more videos on shows like this, please!
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  24. 2:55 how should we respond if someone is being destructive towards me or has been?
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  25. So glad you're doing this!! ♡ Proud of you
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  26. Also, can you make a video on subliminals and psychology?
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  27. Would you consider making a video for people who are interested in doing their masters in psychology? Like what we would the academics look like? What would we require to do during the course like internship, research paper, etc?
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  28. Omg! I was gonna request you to make a video on this!!!! I'm so glad you did it yay! I was just yesterday watching a video on Netflix's "You" and I was thinking of Jodie Foster's stalker as well. It's terrifying honestly
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  29. I follow this one youtuber called Terri Cole and she's made some videos on this like the mother wound.
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  30. This is me preparing for my future ngl
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  31. this is a terrible way of looking at it. she's struggling with motherhood as a new mother, it was her dream, a glorified dream that probably clubbed any idea of reality. it's unfair to blame her for feeling this way. motherhood is horrifying and difficult, it's always best to extend compassion and empathy to those struggling with it. plus, I personally feel like she's struggling with depression and maybe the lack of support like others pointed out.
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  32. I think I requested this too, not sure but I always wanted to know research on it :)
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  33. Okay, I need a video on how to cope with passive agressiveness
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  34. Hello, Ana. Thank you for your video, I learn so much from them. And the bloopers were funny haha <3
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  35. 22:20 Even Anna Akana said this! Ever since hearing that, I've been inculcating that in myself too! So glad I watch videos like this :) makes me want to improve myself and makes me realise that there is a lot of humility in being human and not knowing things.
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  36. I think as much as I try to use psychotherapy and concepts in psychotherapy to calm myself down. My body remains in a state of dysregulation constantly and it reacts before I can respond by raising my heartbeat or my hands becoming sweating, etc. What to do during that time? CBT is helpful, and I definitely will try to reframe my mind using this as well but this is my biggest struggle.
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  37. Okay, I love your channel so much! <3 Thank you for always educating us on psychology and osychological research :)
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  38. This reminds of the resilient jenkins situation
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  39. 10:10 I truly am so like you, I'm shocked. I don't mind when people trauma dump on me either, nor do I mind when conversations turn deep really quickly. Often, I run into the problem of not knowing when to not be deep because yes, some people are like that where they don't talk too much about themselves or rather listening to people talk about deep things. Birds of a feather flock together, I suppose.
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  40. I'm starting to think I should just make a new journal series named, "Lessons with Dr. Ana" where I do the same thing as I always do with your videos: making bullet points and taking notes of the tips you gave out in your videos.
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  41. Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this video gave me a good understanding of boundaries and communication! ♡
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  42. What happened to your video on friends who copy you? It was from a couple of years ago. It helped me when I first found it because I actually had a friend (my best friend at the time) who was insidiously copying me and it seemed so disgusting to me. I ghosted her and our friendship fizzled away. But I felt guilt that I did that to a friend and I started doubting whether I was being dramatic. And back then, I didn't realise why it made me so uncomfortable and I definitely did not know how to deal with it because I was embarrassed to bring it up and I felt like it would be so narcissistic of me to do so. Moreover, it did not help that she once told me that she'd sometimes copy other people when she liked the things she saw (there's nothing wrong with doing that but when you're constantly doing it in such a way that it's noticeable... yeah, you're doing something wrong.) This year, however, I tried to speak her (these past two years I had tried but after our initial conversation where I tried to gain some insight on her psyche, she'd always end up ghosting me.) And only at the beginning of this year, did she respond to me because I told her quite straight forwardly that I wanted to discuss why our friendship ended. And she said that our friendship hadn't ended in her eyes and that she stopped wanting to be friends with me because she was extremely envious of how I was at the time and she even said that I inspired alot of the things she did. Then, she ghosted me when I tried telling her why her constant apering made me extremely uncomfortable. I just can't believe that this was something that actually happened to me because I blamed myself for the end of the friendship but in retrospect, she lacked some severe boundaries and also, she lack self-concept and she so bluntly disregarded me by taking whatever she liked about me and discarding what she didn't. It was disrespectful and disgusting. And I gave myself such a rough time. And moreover, she was my best friend and she knew I was in such a terrible state of mind when she was doing all of this. I was suffering from depression and anxiety, coming to terms with my childhood trauma and I was trying to rediscover myself and she said she was envious of how I was... oh terrible and traumatic. I had severe intrusive thoughts because of all of this. It was terrifying and I had such a poor self-esteem after all of that because I felt like my worth was nothing if anyone can do the same things I can do. I took the initiative around a month ago to remove her from every aspect of my life including all social media. Because I realised that she hadn't changed since she did not openly admit to it and ended up ghosting me. And I also discovered she had been ghosting and mistreating one of our mutual friends and it made me realise that she did not value friendships at the same effect I did and it was no use rekindling the bond since she felt no remorse, she didn't change, she also would have made me extremely uncomfortable. Also, it felt really good to actually end the friendship after almost two years of this. It felt like I took back my power almost.
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  43. I needed this. It's kind of funny because I know this as a fact. I know that this is how I specifically work but it's so much easier for me to just be lazy or do what I want to do instead of what I need to do. Something I always struggle to do is read a book or listen to audiobooks, mainly because I have dyslexia and the thought of reading/focusing on something for too long is daunting. But one time, I read the first chapter of a book after setting a timer on a whim and it was just insane because I wanted to start the book for ages, I knew I would love it, and all but I just couldn't get myself to start. So, this is a great reminder. I will be taking notes, I was literally starting to make my schedule.
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  44. ​ @AnaPsychology  I had a feeling you might! Thank you
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  45. You wearing that sunblock cap is so cool! I never realised that people would even consider it weird bc it kind of looks like a baseball cap
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  46. 17:50 This is my whole life wow. The regret and the mourning you go through not doing something you know you should do. Also, it takes me back to all the incidents of pain where someone has targetted and attacked me emotionally for just existing that existing is fearful.
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  47. 🧍‍♀️ After watching this am I wondering, do I do this? Do I do the bad level of therapy seek?
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  48. Oh I just realised that you have a new intro! It reminds me of Bojack Horseman's intro!
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  49. Congratulations, my love! This is such a surprise 🩷🌷 I love you and I'm so happy for you
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  50. I'm late but happy birthday ♡
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  51. ​ @AnaPsychology ahhhh thank you so much. I want to start my journey on understanding my neurodivergence but I feel like the more I learn, the more it feels like I'm making excuses for myself. I do also believe it is good to educate neurotypical people on how neurodivergence commonly affects people.
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  52. I was just thinking of this; I'm so glad you spoke about this!
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  53. Have you fallen sick recently? Edit : Get well soon, Ana D:
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  54. ​ @tiffanie.sparrow  whats human design?
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  55. Congratulations, my love Ana! I'm so proud of you. I've been watching you since June 2021. I'm so so proud of you, I love you and your content.
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  56. Thank you for this video because I definitely think this will benefit me.
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  57. Can you maybe make a video how to not become a frenemy?
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  58. Hello, Ana :) so glad you made this video because after being in a gap year for a year now, I will be starting my Masters in Counselling Psychology in a week from now.
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