Comments by "Aaron Rosenberg" (@aaronrosenberg6633) on "Why I'm done trying to be "man enough" | Justin Baldoni" video.

  1. Define "weak." An important message here is, are you strong enough to be vulnerable? Honesty is a powerful stance, much more powerful than being "manly."
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  2. His subject is men. He is emphatically not saying women are perfect. Lack of criticism toward women does not in itself mean he believes that "all women are these flawless angels who do not need to work on themselves." Again, that's your personal inference, based on some bias you hold, about which I cannot know unless you come clean.
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  3. "he seems to be coming with a perspective that all women are these flawless angels...." I don't think so at all, nor do I think he implies this. I think you infer it.
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  4. Who is "we"? I do want what he's proposing. And I think it should start with you.
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  5. I do not see hims as trashing men as a gender. He is not saying that being male is inherently bad. He is only speaking of our complicity in our own undoing as well as our historical oppression of women. This is a real thing - toxic masculinity, despite how much people want to ridicule the concept. It can be uncomfortable when a man who's done some serious introspection holds up the mirror to other men. "Guys who go out of their way to get women on their side usually have an ulterior motive." I think that's your personal cynicism talking. "If a woman gave a similar talk where she was claiming only women are the problem...." But there you go again. His talk isn't about "only men being the problem." It's talking about the problems that many men have.
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  6. Ask them what that actually means. Chances are you can bring it around to being a good human.
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  7. Masculinity doesn't have an immutable definition, and I don't believe he wants to get rid of it anyway. He wants men to be open and comfortable with all facets of their personalities, including the more sensitive and complex ones. If a man is a crane operator but enjoys buying fresh flowers for his home, is he masculine? If a man smells bad, dresses like a slob, curses, but is a fine wine expert, is he masculine? If a man is able to take on a street gang with martial arts and he dresses like a dandy and wears lipstick, what then? Women are attracted to all kinds of men. Heterosexual men with feminine characteristics don't really seem to have a hard time finding women who love them for who they are.
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  8. From the cancer that is toxic masculinity. It's always good to know that these videos reach people, despite their ill-conceived responses.
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  9. But I think this is only because, in the larger perspective, they've been forced by men into those roles.
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  10. You not only didn't answer the question (since you would be unable to as you're not the commenter I questioned), but you added a nonsense digression. Congrats.
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  11. Surely there must be at least a few some people in your life who like you for who you are, who don't insult you because you possess certain feminine qualities. Maybe stick with them and find others through them? Give your father a really perplexed look when he calls you a sissy, a look that conveys just with the eyes how much he's disappointed you.
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  12. Sometimes that's a problem, too, yes.
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  13. Hmmm....Guess you didn't hear what he was saying. Maybe play it at 1/2 speed.
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  14. How about a few more details refuting some of his points?
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  15. Because I believe that many men are not ready to hear this yet. Also, they seek out TED videos promoting justice in order to troll.
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  16. I guess men are the masters of typecasting. Simple.
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  17. See, I don't see how sacrificing and providing leads to your concepts. It's not a zero-sum game. The man is not the only one who sacrifices and provides.
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  18. Likely, "walking all over" to you means simply achieving equality. I notice that lots of people express fear when any historically oppressed population begins making strides toward equality. When people feel superior to any other group, that group's hard-won equality threatens that superiority.
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  19. Well, you're not really saying anything different from what I said. Arrogance is a deterrent to listening.
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  20. It's much more complex than that. Regardless of gender, there's a huge continuum of masculine and feminine traits, behaviors, mannerisms, and world-views. I've known way too many men with lots of feminine qualities who are married to women. Reality refutes you.
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  21. He seems pretty lovable.
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  22. "it just turns into another "Sorry women, all your problems are because of men." " No, it doesn't turn to that at all. But many of their problems are because of men. This cannot be denied. "It always has to circle back to women and how they're the victims and they're the ones that need the pity, and they're the ones that need all the empathy and help." The way women have been historically oppressed and continue to be oppressed by men makes them an excellent litmus to "circle back" to. Women's equality directly reflects how men are doing. Not acknowledging this is only willful ignorance. And again, nobody said, "they're the ones that need all the empathy and help." That's only you putting words in his mouth so you can play victim. "You can be a guy trapped into acting a specific way, never interacted with women in any kind of negative or abusive way; and you'd STILL carry anti-woman guilt." Now this sounds ver personal. Are you telling your story? Regardless, it's often the case that cultural-behavioral indoctrination leads people to mistreat others without even knowing they're doing so. Chances are good, for instance, that if you're an employer "trapped into acting a specific way," you'll hire a less qualified man over a more qualified woman. I'm going to guess that you've not considered such a scenario.
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  23. " "Their problems are because of men" is a objectively wrong statement there I denied it." I said that many of their problems are because of men. Are you attempting to change my meaning? "Your subjective view of the world isn't a infallible." Did I claim it was? What a juvenile thing to say. "Because you didn't substantiate your claim I am not going to either." You would to well to first substantiate yourself as either JTA TII or rahn 45. Did you forget to use the correct youtube account? You want me to substantiate my statement that many of women's problems are because of men? Yeah, no. You've got some reading to do. Start with the entirety of U.S. history alone. "Both men and women were oppressed by scarcity(lack of resource) and needing to survive." That's a non-sequitur and it's irrelevant in this context. "Men oppress women is arrogant statement that suggest men have ability control the world they never have and never would probably, get off your god-complex." Control the world? Are you 8? You seem to be arguing for the sake of arguing and not really because you have anything to say. Men have historically controlled women in the U.S. Women were only allowed to vote in the 1920s. "And there is empathy gap extended between genders for example in Britain most common reason for male death between 20-50 is suicide if this was the case for women there would be a massive uproar about it but in comparison it's treated like a side issue that we might come around to address." This is a can of worms that is also, strangely, irrelevant to our topic. You're posing a hypothetical scenario to deny that women have been traditionally oppressed by men. But also, are you afraid of punctuation? Entire paragraphs beg for it. "A human can be only guilty for their intentions because that's only thing a person can control." This looks lovely in writing, but is actually meaningless. "For instant cultural-behavioral indoctrination could lead to person like you to post the above comment which might cultivate negative behavior towards men thus hurting men , are you sure you are not guilty of being anti-man?" Yes, Spanky, I'm sure. You've fabricated a convenient world for yourself where nothing can be known, and therefore, nothing is true. Except what you say, of course.
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  24. Why do you spin stories to fit your own agenda?
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