Comments by "Rose S" (@roses6564) on "The most effective marriage intervention: get out of the house" video.

  1. You are not in your grandma's times and this is good in many ways. So it is great that your grandparents managed to keep a marriage legally intact (Oh, the glory) which was so good that the two did not particularly want to be around each other? Talk about human rationalization.
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  2. This was Dr. Taraban's worst posting to date. 100% wrong. Modern relationships are NOT strictly religious-contractual as they used to be, so they can be considered "saved" in formality only. They are based in the possibility of an actual relationship and pair-bonding, not in a contract that stays intact. This is the only thing you can "save" with the office strategy: the face. If you find you need to be as far way from the spouse as you can most of the times, just to maintain the contract, it may be the Universe talking to you. Wait until the two find someone "at the office" (or elsewhere) with whom they actually click, have things in common with, and experience the magnet that causes them to seek each other's company consistently. Modern big boys and girls need to get one thing through their maladapted heads stuck in cultural lag: it is no longer to enough to marry someone of the opposite sex strictly for complementarity of sex roles (to get sex, children, economic stability aka 'eating,' community integration, "normalcy" and legality). For a relationship to function in substance a man and a woman must also have the BFF quality together, in addition to complementarity of sex roles. Don't believe me? Ask Nietzsche. You can't be actual friends with your spouse, whose company you enjoy and seek consistently? Too bad, so sad. Your relationship should probably not exist in the first place. But you want regular sex, children, and family? Oh, well. Do better relationship-wise then we talk. Dr. Taraban's advice is superb most of the times but this one is plain bad for out times. Don't try this absurd craziness at home. You will fail, bemoan divorce and the awful B who walks away with half the farm, then wonder why. The answer is not "at the office" to forget you have a spouse you'd rather not be around for too long. The answer in in the quality of the relationship and its chance for par-bonding.
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