Comments by "Rose S" (@roses6564) on "Why people can't find love: understanding what you're searching for" video.

  1. We, women, see it all the time. He sticks you in the "wife role" then proceeds with neglecting you. You're old news, never mind boring to him. "I married you, what else do you want?" Um...the things the institution of marriage promised while lying through its teeth? Actual reality: marriage is to keep the Human Meat Production factory going. Romance and marriage overlap is serendipity or crazy luck.
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  2.  @cosmictreason2242  When it comes to love, it is the ONLY thing that matters. We don't love due to objective criteria. In love we are inherently subjective.
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  3. "Love is not attractive." Yup. It can even be perceived as worthy of despise.
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  4.  @Leoo117  This is an issue even more common among women who are much more likely to settle given their narrow fertility and eligibility window and the high competition over the type of men most women are attracted to.
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  5. It fits with a saint's experience. And some of us are.
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  6.  @peterhoatson  Irrelevant in the end. Blame assigning is useless. The two don't match.
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  7. Patterns at the population level mean virtually nothing for individuals. Yes, a person with a,b,c sought after qualities may attract more partners but they must still be overall attractive for any one particular person.
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  8. Love is inherently subjective, in the eye of the beholder. Simple as.
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  9. @GlutenSensitivityReader Same for dogmatic. Connect to reality.
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  10. What people mean by "finding love" is the felicitous match. It is neither to derive benefits from someone (to use or to be loved) nor to give them to whomever is available for a relationship (to settle and "learn to love" that person). It is a wish to meet someone who inspires the desire to give, as much as they inspire that person to do the same. Without inspiration, the decision to be giving remains inauthentic, duty-driven, and spiritually inferior. Holistic mutual attraction is key.
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  11.  @florinmariantanase5341  Unlovability does not come from looks only. It can be an off-putting personality, etc. For some, the most unlovable trait is stupidity. Stupid gorgeous jocks drowning in millions make some women's stomach literally turn. I said SOME women's.
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  12. Time to go, especially if alternatives exist.
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  13.  @peripheralparadox4218  But it's true.
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  14.  @peripheralparadox4218  Disagree. Most think "love is a choice" because they've been brainwashed into this idea to make their sketchily matched marriages work. The kind of selfless love Taraban talks about is not "a choice." One cannot help but feel and act this way, including walking away if the beloved wants things to be over.
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