Comments by "Rose S" (@roses6564) on "Being right doesn't matter: winning the battle to lose the war" video.

Small disagreements, small issues. Let it slide. Big and consistent disagreements, big issue. If a man or a woman consistently find themselves trying to convince the other that they are right and the other wrong or they just don't get it or something needs to change - it's the Universe talking: a poor match, your life could be better. Exit and choose better if the blessed chance presents itself. Sometimes loosing the war is the right thing to happen because you won't be at war anymore once it's lost. Then you win.
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Good move.
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@4787fhjjk You are welcome. Most people are foreign to their own subconscious.
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No, you're polite and gracious because he doesn't do or say anything egregious to you. If he did, you would not be, or you would be and exit.
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If it's a small thing, yes. Let it slide. If it's big to you and frequent, it would be foolish to continue to let it slide.
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Well, this happens because men often conflate looks with quality. It backfires.
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Indeed. You want to find someone with whom you don't have that many disagreements of major importance. Small disagreements mean nothing: "the ironing board would sit better there instead of here!". OK, set it wherever you want. Other stuff is much bigger and you want to have virtually none of that. If you do consistently, it's a bad match, choose better if you have the chance, exit and try again.
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@marcusmcgraw3519 So you won't get in trouble. Then simply leave.
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Emotions are complex, organic information and are as valuable as the caliber of the person experiencing them. High quality people's emotions contain a lot of relevant information, which dpesn't mean that they will act on them recklessly. The emotions of low caliber and mediocre people contain poor quality information and are likely to cause reckless behavior. Not everyone's emotions have been created equal. The emotions of an intelligent person, man or woman, are worth more than 1000 tons of "reason" by a mid to low individual. If you are in a relationship with an intelligent woman, the last thing you want to do is to dismiss her emotions. Do it at your own peril bc that information is valuable.
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@lilmargin12 Absolutely! No doubt about that. Except their emotions are expressed differently, and more likely to result in anger, stubbornness, aggression , sometimes, resistant passive-aggression, than crying and raising voice etc. Thank you for your clarity.
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The public misunderstand emotions. They are simply organic information. The trick is everyone's emotions have not been created equal since people themselves have not been created equal. A high caliber person's emotions contain a lot of relevant information, unlike the chaotic, arbitrary emotions of lower-order types (man or woman). Men's flagrant mistake is to dismiss womanhood as a monolith and to believe that all women's emotions are the same ridiculous nonsense which must not be taken seriously. If you are with a reasonably intelligent woman (and if you are not, what does it say about you?), then dismiss her emotions at your own peril.
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@richard_from_england333 Absolutely there is an objective reality out there, but "right" and "wrong" as understood by humans are not. Some people get closer to the objective reality in their evaluations than others, but that's a different story. Right and wrong typically means moralizing and morality is nothing objective. You don't have to apologize for your "right" at all. You only need to be with someone who sees the same "right" as you do and there's no need for apologies? See? Ta da. I solved it.
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@alineharam Traditionally, the institution of marriage was founded on the severe underestimation of the importance of a good match. Nature and society do not care about couple happiness and fulfillment. They care about reproduction and social order. That’s it. It’s on the individual to understand the magnitude of the good match since everyone else will be keeping hush hush on the topic. Too many learn too late.
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@richard_from_england333 Nope. For a relationship, that's not what's important. What's important is general agreement and symbiosis. Two people can be deliciously wrong together if they both think the wrong is right.
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Wrong long term approach. If you always ignore the way she feels about you and just manipulate her into compliant behavior, one day you'll get the explosion and the walking out on you. "Walk away wife" syndrome happens because the woman has had her reality invalidated for years; and when she finds the right outlet, she is ...well, out.
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@marcusmcgraw3519 I don't think it's men vs women. It's men and women of iffy quality (which is most) who can't handle their emotions and cannot understand them because they are chaotic. Most people, male or female, are not people of caliber and the way they deal with their emotions is vexing. It takes intelligence, nobility, wisdom self-awareness, knowledge, restraint, decency, etc to understand one's own emotions and those of others, and to know what to do with them. That's a human elite in a caliber sense (not socio-economic status). Most people are not human elite so you'll see sketchy and mid-to-low men and women throwing accusations at each other as to who is worse. Blah and boring.
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@perpetualprocrastinator OK. Get yourself a prenup.
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