Comments by "Rose S" (@roses6564) on "What to do if you're BORED in a RELATIONSHIP: the sure-fire trick that always works" video.

You have your answer. You were most probably irretrievably incompatible, life moved on, hopefully to progression. Now it's time for you to find a more compatible woman. Good luck.
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Not necessarily, Most human live unconsciously, which is hardly an experience lived.
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Because a relationship is not just about raising children. Partners have adult needs that they need the other to meet.
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The concept of one's own truth is crucial to establishing compatibility in a relationship. Relationships are not about some OBJECTIVE Truth. They are about harmonizing the subjective truths of the two partners.
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@marktapley7571 Yes - and the truth of disharmony needs to come out. Then people either do something to come in alignment if they can, or split. There you go. You have your beloved facts and objectivity.
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@cal5444 You're missing the point of the video. When he talks of "one's truth" he refers to the fundamental needs of each partner. If they don't manage to harmonize their differences in a way that makes them both complementary and compatible and enhances well being for both, one partner or both will end up suppressing "their own truth" (meaning who they are at the core - which is unchangeable), just to make the relationship supposedly "work." This has nothing to do with objective truth such as if someone cheated or not. Obviously, that's something objective: did you or did you not. Beneath that objectivity there's an ocean of suppressed needs and fundamental incompatibilities left unaddressed.
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@pmaitrasm Sure they do. They are experiencing falsehood.
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Single waiting for a high quality symbiotic relationship instead of a co-dependent joke which is what most people have. With what he is, he will get it.
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@cal5444 You revealed yourself, you became authentic and allowed me, the partner, to face your truth. Then I will do the same. Then we have options: meet you where you are, or you meet me where I am - assuming this is within our abilities. Compromise (half, half) is a bad idea bc it leaves both frustrated over the long term. Decide together whether we can live with the status quo or with whatever differences surfaced from your confession (just accept the problem and live as it is, which is rarely possible) or we go our separate ways, trying to be as decent to each other as possible (no acrimonious divorce, ego and selfishness reduced to a minimum). In fact, there is another severely under-utilized option: change roles so we won't have to separate our lives altogether. We friend-zone each other and free up the role of partner so that another one more compatible can step in. This is especially important if there are children. The ossified schizo-religious way about moralizing over the "sanctity of marriage" and how people have to suck it up and deny themselves in the name of keeping the union intact at any cost, absolutely breeds mental illness. As if God would be such a ridiculous matchmaker to allow or develop serious incompatibility between two people in the first place. Incompatibilty and not "lack of willingness to make it work" is at the root of most relationship failure. Marital dogma against all evidence breeds mental illness, suffering, and sometimes cheating. LMK what you want to do! ;-)
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Being complacent about boredom and lack of emotional fulfillment has nothing to do with rejecting "facts." In fact it is people like you who deny the reality of incompatibility in such cases, which is a fact.
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@BlackLion76 You are delusional. If partners had no responsibility to harmonize with each other, they wouldn't need each other when functional aspects of living can be easily achieved in a state of singlehood today. It is the job of each partner to ensure compatibility in the relationship, which means similarities of yoke as well as accepting differences that harmonize and enhance each other's well being, instead of causing misalignment, suppressed truths, and frustrations. Keep trying relationships where you don't need to make the other happy, see how well it's working out for you, unless you find someone who is fine living with you as a virtual stranger. Of course partners need to make each other content, whole, like they belong - which means happy. Quit spreading absurdities.
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@BlackLion76 Not at all single. In fact, profoundly not single. lol
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@BlackLion76 That's just the thing, I am against settling. I worship compatibility. But I'll give you that, you managed to avoid threatening with cats. Dog is an improvement. Lol. Silly humans ...
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