Comments by "Rose S" (@roses6564) on "Choosing between two women: it is not always an either/or" video.

  1.  @DanCummins  Much as we would like, organic real life doesn't align with human-made linear rigid morality. People end up in poorly chosen committed relationships all the time, only for the marital satisfaction to go down the drain in time, without the possibility of resolution, but also without reasonable ways out either. This can leads many people to extra-marital relationships. When people go with fundamental needs unmet, something's gotta give and moralizing can never prevent such cases.
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  2. They end up with a mistress because the marital choice was most probably poor and now he faces serious unmet needs at home.
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  3. For the W1/W2 case, the separate evaluation of each woman (1/0) is only possible in theory. In practice, the comparison is inescapable. Likewise, giving up two birds in the hand for an endless number in the bush borders on pathology, unless both women suck, in which case there's no choice to make. For the W/M case, keeping both is an option only if both women agree with polygamy. It doesn't matter if that's what the man wants. If only the mistress agrees, we have the classic "affair" which turns toxic because of the secrecy required to sidestep society's moralistic hysteria when the Situationship surfaces. If the mistress doesn't agree either ("leave her or I am gone"), then the choice is made for him and he is back to wife. The vast majority of men in such situations almost always err on the side of wife because it is the default, headache-free position to take, no grief from society. Mom-Society sets the default: wife > mistress, even when wife = Medusa and mistress = Cinderella. Like an goody-to-shoes child, the man obeys. Also Orion: "women are loyal to their feelings, men are loyal to their duties, else society calls them cowards and traitors for abandoning family." Agency, choice, free will are a lot more limited than people realize.
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  4.  @aquietpatron7281  Yup. Send him a request.
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  5. You mean like Camilla has cheated on Charles? "Once a cheater always a cheater" is a moralistic myth, with no empirical evidence to support it. It is more likely to refer to the persistent label society attaches to the transgressor, rather than the high odds they will do it to you too. The argument is complete BS. Poor matching is at the root of all cheating situations and 100 times more toxic in tangible terms than the cheating itself. If they cheated, they were never made for you to begin with.
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  6. You mean morality and love? Why would a man choose a mistress other than for love?
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