Comments by "Seven Proxies" (@sevenproxies4255) on "Why Do Japanese Men Lock Themselves Inside For Years (Hikikomori) | ASIAN BOSS" video.
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ScienceDiscoverer: No one said that this issue only exist in Japan. But at least Japan is somewhat proactive about it, because they came up with a name and definition for the behaviour.
It's hard discussing a problem and figuring out a solution to it, if you don't even have a name for it.
In other countries, people afflicted would be described in vague and inaccurate terms like "wierdos", "outcasts", "loners" and so on, which doesn't really help them, or provide a comprehensive description of the problem.
As to your own issues: the first thing you need to get through your head is that the world doesn't owe you anything.
You are not entitled to anything and you only deserve something by claiming it and making yourself useful to society.
Stop labeling people that you're jealous of as "extroverted" and yourself as "introverted". These terms don't help you understand the problem, they're only there to provide you with excuses for not leaving your comfort zone.
You feel anxiety in social situations? You wonder if you will be socially accepted for who you are and what you say? Well boo-fucking-hoo, EVERYONE feels like that, unless they are psychopaths.
Stop thinking that your anxiety is somehow "special" or "extra bad", because it's not.
Leave your comfort zone. Expose yourself to "dangers". Hit on a woman in public and get rejected. Pick a fight with someone and get punched in the face.
Spray some grafitti somewhere and get arrested for it. Go to a house party and greet and shake the hand of everyone there.
Do these things and reflect on the end results. Did the rejection, getting punched in the face or getting arrested lead to the end of the world? Did it kill you? Did it hurt you physically or incapacitate you in any way?
No, it won't. But right now, you don't know it from experience, because you've never left your comfort zone. So you'll never "feel" it, which is what you need to do to develop more confidence in social situations.
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