Comments by "Jeremy" (@josiah5776) on "Women Can’t Answer How Marriage Benefits Men" video.

  1.  @aminoacid6177  This! Yes! Great relations with the parents is very important. I have run into some who had daddy issues, and other who had 304 moms. Both of those varieties presented problems. The ones who love and respect their parents are usually better people.
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  2.  @phoenix5054  I can confirm that it is enough. Set boundaries and don't commit to a woman who won't respect them.
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  3. What does a good woman bring to the table? Loyalty, faithfulness, companionship, support, intimacy, children ... bringing you peace. Yeah, I don't need someone to cook and clean either. I can do that myself or hire someone. However, those tasks are very strongly integrated into women's psyche over in the Philippines. Just take it as a plus that she is willing to do it. What do you want, a woman who works and brings in an equal income? You can have the here in the West, just stay here and don't marry or co-habitate. Yeah, cooking/cleaning isn't the only thing ... but the mindset of wanting to do it without screaming "patriarchy" is definitely a plus.
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  4. I can confirm the $100/$200 per month. Far, far less than a freeloading Western relative ... and even farther less than a materialistic Western wife. I married an eldest. She passed that duty to the next oldest son, her younger brother. She is close to her family still, as am I ... but she is a wife first.
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  5.  @tedlogan4867  Nailed it! Moral relativism is destroying the world.
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  6.  @phoenix5054  I'm pretty sure he means giving her family a monthly supplement of $100-200, not supporting his own family on that amount. I totally agree with you that 100-200 a month total for a family is nowhere near enough.
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  7. It is interesting how many people have issues with a Filipina being close to her family on the one hand, but then want a traditional family-oriented woman on the other. Where do you think the traditional, family-oriented woman learned it? It's like saying, "Wow, I want this beautiful flower, but I want to pull it out of the soil and expect it to thrive on it's own." Wanting to cut her from her family is a Western mindset, just like "don't marry the oldest" is a Western mindset, and" don't give anything to her family" is a Western mindset. An independent woman who doesn't need her family is often an independent woman who doesn't need no man. How has the Western mindset worked for you over in the US so far? Your ability to provide is one of the most attractive factors about you. Wanting to cut that off after you get her is like her suddenly getting fat and ugly. I'm not saying be an ATM, but you can set boundaries and still work within the culture. Also, very few Filipinas choose their family over you, they just want to keep their family in their life as a key relationship. Nothing wrong with that, if it's a good family. Yeah, as a man you can easily live alone. I did it for years and didn't pick a wife until the right woman for me came along. It's all personal choice and what you're willing to give + want in return. To me, the biggest danger is getting married anywhere in the West. You lose all your options the moment you do that.
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  8. My Filipina wife is close to her family, but our family is her priority. Yes, family is important to her and many other Filipinas, but it is rarely her family before you. It is just that their family remains important in her life and she won't cut them off. I'm cool with that because she has a great family ... better than my own. Yeah, the support thing is there ... and some Filipinos expect that a Westerner can pay more. It's up the man though. Set boundaries. Me ... I don't mind helping ... but I set a sum every month and that's it. Give it out of your own heart and then just say, "I already gave what I can this month." That works reasonably well. Also, they are nowhere near as bad as a freeloading Western uncle ... and ten times less expensive than a materialistic Western wife. Yeah, there are women there who will try to soak you dry, but less so than here in the West. You should be good at spotting them after years in the West.
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  9.  @IncognitoXYZ  Maybe that happened to you, but that is not the case with me ... or at least a dozen other expats I know. Sound like sour grapes to me.
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