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  1. Even thought this topic is often used in interviews made in Japan, I'm glad because the more people get interviewed the more opinions people get and get better understanding. I'm sure finding people who are wiling to go in front of the camera isn't easy. Good job.
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  2. I might be one of the few western women to say this but I really love how a lot of Japanese men don't like PDA. I struggled with dating exactly due to people wanting to get touchy fast and everywhere and I felt always uncomfortable, not to mention that touches scare me due to my trauma and abuse so having to touch someone a lot in order to keep them happy is giving me huge anxiety. So to me the fact that my Japanese crush also doesn't like PDA is something I very much love about him. I don't have to feel anxious or stressed that I have to touch him or show affection and we still can have an amazing time together.
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  3. All of these people were so mature and wonderful. Also your comment at the end was really interesting, that you are learning about Japan more this way, from other people. Honestly, open minded Japanese people like you, who are willing to learn from different people will really make Japan a better place.
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  4. Also I'm really happy to hear you will do the international couples interviews. I really want to know the issues foreigners can have while dating a Japanese person because I really do care for making it work out for myself so I want to get educated by people having similiar experiences.
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  5. Honestly dating with Japanese men as a foreign girl might be difficult and often very slow, in my experience which i personally like because i have huge trust issues and I need months for even a normal friendship which is why I struggle dating with people in my own country but I’m very comfirtable with the slow process with Japanese men. But it’s hard to know how they really feel about you since they often aren’t very expresive when it comes to emotions. But all of it is something That’s for me very comfortable. But these are just my experience and not every Japanese is the same. Basically some are willing to be open to foreign relationship which as an international couple will need a lot of mutual learning and understanding and some just won’t bother. It’s still an experience and even though I’m with my Japanese man for 2 years it’s still a lot of learning.
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  6. The english speaking part is so true. Foreigners take it personally when Japanese answer in english but from all the talking with my Japanese friends, even random Japanese people I meet I realized that some Japanese really just want to communicate in english which personally to me is comforting because my japanese isn't good and I need a lot of courage to speak japanese so when my friends only speak japanese with me when I want to really takes off the burden and I feel comfortable with them. I understand that it's annoying for some but for me as a foreigner that wants to talk with Japanese, it's personally comforting.
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  7. It is very scary indeed. We are neighbours to ukraine so having a war this close it really is a scary thing and I'm glad to see that Japanese support them. People in ukraine are very strong and brave. Stay strong Ukraine, we love you and polish, slovakian and romanian borders are open for you if you need help and shelter.
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  8. It's funny when I hear people talk about friendships. I live in western part of the world and even though making friends is easy here and you do share personal things about yourself easily, I could never really depend on anyone when I really needed something. But with my Japanese friends, i have never met more understanding people. The thing is that making friends with Japanese that would last takes a lot of time. It's extremely slow process but in my experience, it's worth it. I could just tell my Japanese friends my pain and traumas and I never got verbal validation but I got understanding and support I never had before in my life. So we all have different experiences it seems.
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  9. It's ironic how people say that wearing a mask is a pressure from other people in Japan but I experienced the same when I actually wanted to wear a mask. I didn't put my mask off, especially in crowded spaces because I just didn't feel comfortable and safe to stop using it and people laughed at me because I wanted to feel safe here. You get pressure from others in western parts of the world too, just in the other direction. Me wearing a mask doesn't hurt anyone and yet I got judgement from everyone around me for trying to be more safe.
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  10. So sad how they got bullied but I felt that. I got bullied and still do in my own country because I'm east european but I'm mixed with more slavic nationalities. It's sad how it can traumatize people. Same with my friends who are from France and are partly italian, we all got bullied a lot and even though we live in Europe we are still being bullied as adults. So I hope all of these wonderful people you interviewed will have more enjoyable life now. Personally my experiences with Japanese as foreigner have been both very good and bad. I have met Japanese that pushed me away and made me feel I don't belong there but at the same time I met Japanese that made me felt understood and gave me a feeling like I belong with them, like nobody else. So if anyone is traumatized but do want Japanese friends, don't give up. There are a lot of wonderful Japanese people that will care for you and will put the effort, just don't let your traumas limit you, even though I know it's hard.
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  11. I agree with the first girl about how to learn japanese. Dating a Japanese person will give you a lot of motivation to do so and to keep learning lol. Even making Japanese friends will help a lot but if you are closer to someone then you will literally desire to learn, been like that for me. Obviously, don't date a Japanese person just for that.
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  12. Wow, all these people are amazing. You interviewed so many different kinds of Half Japanese and it's interesting to see how different everyone's mindset is.
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  13.  @takashiifromjapan  I thank you for being unbiased and asking different kinds of people. Because yes, most foreigners prefer more open and warmer personalities, some don't. Just like the man from india said. Some foreigners are like me and him who aren't into that feely touching dating and don't like too much affection. My first Japanese boyfriend for example wanted more affection and warmth than what he was given by women around him but I couldn't provide that. So now I'm more comfortable with people who are more traditional Japanese because I like to take my time with things, have trust issues and I'm more independent. But at the same time, japanese/foregner relationship can work out only if both sides are willing to accept each other differences and educate themselves because the cultural difference will be there. But keep making great videos and educate everyone. Thank you for your hard work.
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  14. Thank you for this. I literally came to look at your video because I'm interested in my Japanese friend and I'm looking for ways how to understand him better. I agree with these girls, the language and cultural barrier will be an issue but if both people are open minded, it can work out. Learning about each other's cultures and languages is extremely fun.
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  15. I agree. You have to go through the repetitive process. I strugled so much with katakana, some hiragana and now vocabulary and kanji but I forced myself to repeat it every single day and now when I'm through basics i am so curious about the langauge and everything, I try to read and understand everything I can and it's so much fun for me. I even approach Japanese and try to practice with them now and most are happy to help. But also the mindset is a thing, I was just talking with my Japanese friend how we are friends for a while but despite that our cultural differences are still a thing so it still causes misunderstandings so we are trying to educate each other. Honestly just enjoy the process and learning about different culture and people, the experience itself is worth it. Just like Steve said, japanese is very hard. I'm not native english speaker but learning english, german and other western langauges was way easier for me than japanese so just enjoy.
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  16.  @sjbsavageink  Yes, a lot of people need touching and PDA to maintain relationships and although I understand that, it's have been the cause of my break ups because no matter how much I was forcing myself into it, I hated it. In my culture touching is perfectly normal so I always feel too abnormal. So to me, meeting Japanese men who don't like PDA is a blessing because I for the first time don't have to force myself to give more affection than I can. And you are right, about putting touches above all being an issue. It's so normalized that for majority of my life I had to force myself to do that just to keep others happy and that messed me up a lot.
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  17. Thank you so much for this. I really can relate to the german woman. I too wished I started sooner. Well, in my case, it was about learning. I was learning japanese as teenager but then I stopped because everyone told me to focus on western languages more and live in west. And that's what I did, I gave up on japanese, despite me wanting to go to Japan for a long time and I regret it a lot. Living in western countries isn't for everyone. And the worst part is that there is a stereotype that everyone will fit in there. But I never did, I lived in the west because of the opportunites that my country will never have but I suffered and was unhappy. The thing is that everyone expect to fit in in western countries and those who actually don't will blame themselves that there is something wrong with them. Like in Japan for example people know it's difficult because of the culture and society but if you don't fit in the west you will blame youself why can't you fit somewhere where everyone does and I thought there was something wrong with me for years because of that. So now that I'm making friends from the distance with Japanese and I got back to studying japanese again, I will just wait till Japan opens and just try to come. So I too regret that I was scared of Japan because everyone said so. But then again, maybe if I came when I was younger, I would be probably idiolizing Japan too much like a lot of people do and be disappointed, hard to say. But I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who has similiar feelings in your videos. I see a lot of foreigners with similar mindset like I do and I don't feel so out of place.
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  18. This is interesting. I was actually watching some people who live and have families in Japan and they made videos about some stereotypes. They pretty much mentioned how is living in different cities and how the restrictions are situational. Looks like it's true, you will have different experiences in Japan depending on where you are and on your own personality so basically everyone can find a place in Japan. Thank you for giving us a free tour through Japan and educating us. Kyoto is really beautiful.
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  19. She is amazing. Great video. But I can relate to her. I was brought up in an east european country and even though I'm slavic, I'm mixed with more slavic nationalities so everyone in my country made me feel like I never belonged there. Unfortunatelly for me, I never felt like I belonged in any western country either, despite me living in the west for a longer time. And now with the russia issue it's gotten even worse because I'm also partly ukrainian and lived in west so now people really make living around me hell. Since I'm more open minded due to having a lot of different friends from different countries living in my own home country was always lonely. And I never could fit in in west because exactly because I grew up in a totally different enviroment, my mindset cannot relate fully. I even lived in the Uk but it was hell for me. So since I have no idea where I belong, I'm just trying to meet a lot of different people from differnt countries and see where it takes me. Japan is currently my main goal.
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  20. Well, western men might be a little bit more gentleman like and there is a lot good about them but to me personally Japanese men have their own charms. I don't feel comfortable when the man I'm with is too forward, passionate and puts me above everything else, I feel smothered and my traumas are being triggered so even though I wasn't with a lot of Japanese men, just two because I care more for friendships than relationships and I'm not looking actively for anyone ever, they were the best relationships I ever had. They weren't too focused on me and too much gentlemanly yeah but it made it more comfortable for me. All the teasing and respect I got from them was absolutely beautiful and with the second guy I'm still with, I never felt the same way for anyone ever before. I'm happier than I ever was. I'm basically the loud foreigner that makes him laugh and he is the reserved Japanese who grounds me when I don't know what to do with myself and we complement each other so well. So yeah, international relationships are a lot of work and hard but it's hella worth it from my personal experience, if both people are willing to learn about different cultures and grow together.
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  21. Not the topic since I'm a girls but as an european girl I did date Japanese men and yeah, Japanese are open to it, just like some foreigners would try to date Japanese. The differences might be actually complementary and it helps you open your mind more if you are dating someone different. But for a long term, it's more difficult because of all the differences, it will show. It can work out but both people have to be very open minded and accepting to the differences and educate each other about it.
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  22. I honestly love that you interview a lot of different kinds of people. Even those who are from the same country have different opinions in your videos. I love that. Must have taken a lot of effort and time.
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  23.  @chithiennguyen1371  I don't expect a shallow person like you who is probably desperate for sex and affection to undertand what love is lmao Have your own weird expectations of a relationships without pushing it on others.
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  24.  @seikothechildofGod  They want it just like foreign people want to experience a Japanese person. Doesn’t apply for most.
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  25. I love Oriental Perl so much. She is the kind of foreigner I aspire to be like. One that doesn't stick to her own cultural bubble but want to experience different culture with everything that comes with it. I too am losing slowly my other western friends because we are not having anything in common anymore. I enjoy getting to know my Japanese and Chinese friends and I'm not going to give up studying Japanese until I'm at her level. Congratulations, hope we get to see a lot of videos from the wedding.
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  26. Thank you for this. I'm trying to save up so I can go to Japan either as student or working because it's getting impossible to live here at this point and it doesn't seem to get better so I appreciate all the information you are giving us.
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  27. Honestly, I do have hope for Japan that it will get better and better. Japan has always been good in taking good things from other cultures while they are also very aware of other people. As East European living in the west I have been suffering a lot. The too aggressive and individualistic mindset where you have to bulldoze through everything isn't for me. We have destroyed economy, war, so that sort of life style isn't for a lot of us. So hopefully with how younger Japanese are aware of everything, that it will become a nice blend between east and west for people who just want to live in peace and safety.
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  28.  @serenacula3256  YOU ACTUALLY MET FRENCH THAT SPEAK ENGLISH? I WAS WORKING IN FRANCE AND LITERALLY NOBODY SPOKE ENGLISH EXCEPT ONE FRIEND i HAVE TO THIS DAY.
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  29. I relate so much the guy from Sweden. My Japanese crush is also very honest but at the same time he is still Japanese so he has that empathy towards other people and I'm absolutely in love with that. You see, among western friends you do say whatever you want but everyone is so focused on their own originality that getting any sort of empathy is difficult. Which is something that comes so natural from him and it's something I have always desired. But despite that there are still a lot of cultural and personality differences so thank you so much for these videos. We both are trying to compromise and learn about each other but I really want to educate myself more on your culture so it's going to get a little easier. I hope all these wonderful couples will have a long and happy life. Everyone is so helpful and amazing.
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  30.  @ruturajgole1850  I disagree. I come also from a developing country and I could never rely on anyone from my country, while people from richer western counries were always acting like they are better instead of helping. Even if you watch other rich westerners like americans, a lot of them don't like living in Japan while few think it's the happiest time of their lives and even got married to a Japanese. So I think it depends on the personality. I struggle with having good friendships with westerners because even though I'm one myself I just don't like how intrusive, loud and selfish they are. While I vibe very well with my asian friends and even Japanese ones. Heck, I met my Japanese best friends the way that I literally asked them for help because my western friends were too busy being defensive instead of helping me. While Japanese, even tough i was a complete stranger, I was met with so much kindess. Granted, some Japanese literally told me they hated me but that happens rarely. So I guess it depends on the individual and on how much time and effort they are willing to spend on a person. Because making asian friends and Japanese in particular takes a lot of time and it's a slow process in my experience but to me it was worth it. I got more help and understanding from them than I ever got from my own people.
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  31. Wow, you really don't shy away even from difficult interviews. You are amazing.
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  32.  @kuyahkudey3217  that's what most people think. But me and a lot of my friends from other European countries like France, Germany and UK have experienced mostly the hateful side. Europe is not all free and cool as people think. Now with the war it's getting actually worse. Europe is falling back to extremism.
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  33. That's actually same with my crush. He is actually more honest but at the same time he keeps a lot inside and expressing emotions for him is very difficult. However when I ask him to be more straight forward with me and when he sees that I can't understand what is wrong he either expresses or just accepts that I can't read between the lines even if my life depended on it. But at the same time he shows he cares for me with his actions so I still feel cared for. The communication indeed is tricky but can be worked on if both parties put effort in.
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  34. Japan has clearly a long way to go but I'm so glad that the lgbt people you interview are happy and feel safe in Japan. They deserve to feel safe and happy. Nice interview, Takashii.
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  35.  @alexandraveloso9604  Thank you. It's slowly getting better. The Japanese man I'm with is extremely helpful and supportive in ways nobody ever was before so maybe I'll heal one day.
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  36.  @SamuraiSx19  Yes, I noticed it from all the likes and positive comments I got that I'm not the only one. Which is nice. All of my western friends are too touchy and I always felt like an alien for being different. It's hard to notice because usually you see people complain when dating Japanese that they are cold and stuff and how unhappy they are with them but I'm unhappy with men who need a lot of intimacy because I can't give that to them. So it's nice to see there are people like me too.
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  37.  @MariaD.L.  You people have no idea how happy you all making me with your comments. I don't feel so lonely. Each time I say anything positive about my experiences with Japanese men and I get a bunch of people judging me because I feel comfortable with less motional and touchy men. Glad to see I'm not alone.
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  38. I love how a lot of Japanese in your interviews want to visit other countries but at the same time are content to be in Japan. Considering how the rest of the world falls appart and how dangerous it is everywhere now, it's no surprise.
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  39.  @robobin  I did not say they are all the same. I said it happens with Japanese men way more often than with western men. My first Japanese boyfriend was also into touching a lot which made me uncomfortable. Stop telling people they are assuming while you are jumping the gun yourself. It should not have to be said that every Japanese person is the same. People who have common sense know that they too are all different
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  40. Omg, she is so cute and I'm glad she is doing well. I'm curious about her experiences and her work so another reason for me to create tiktok lol
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  41.  @gnihi1  that’s such a biased article like most people have about Japanese. I didn’t even meet such Japanese yet and I talk with Japanese every day. Most are trying to speak English to help me because they know I struggle but if they see I’m trying to speak japanese they talk normally with me. And trust me, I’m far from a Japanese. Maybe people should stop acting like all Japanese are proud imperialist and treat them like every other person tbh.
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  42. Omg, these people said so many useful information. Thank you so much for this video, Takashii.
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  43. Congratulations on getting a sponsor, you are doing a great job. Also I love getting snacks from Japan so I might try them out.
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  44. It's sad but racism is everywhere. I haven't personally got too bad forms of racism from Japanese. Unlike in my home country in Europe where I got spit on, harassed, stalked, sexually asaulted, mugged, being refused service from official authorities, ignored or harassed by police, and the list goes on. Surely that happens to people in Japan too but just saying it sadly happens everywhere, there is no country without racism. But comparing it to other countries, I personally haven't gotten too strong forms of it from Japanese. But do interview people with other skin tones so people can get really different kinds of opinions.
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  45.  @Maidaseu  ah of course there will be people coming here totally missing the point. No, I literally said in the end that it should not be the main reason. It's not the most enjoyable way because it's the hardest way. Because there will be clash of cultures that won't be so problematic among strangers or just friends, but it will force you to learn to communicate better because you will have to deal with relationship issues and you will be forced to learn how to express yourself better so your Japanese lover will understand you and you will understand them, simply because you love them. I don't know why It needs to be said but apparently it has to be said. This is not to encourage dating Japanese people for any wrong reason, just like foreigners wouldn't want it if Japanese dated them just to practice english.
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  46.  @kuyahkudey3217  I mean, the first biggest crisis in Europe and most European countries jump into fascism and extremism. If that doesn't give you a hint
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  47.  @onzeeotherside3848  you have close minded people everywhere. Foreigners can be as and even more close minded than Japanese. They are people like everyone else, some close minded, some open minded, it's about meeting the right people.
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  48.  @samuraijosh1595  Well, that depends on the person since not every Japanese is the same of course, just like any other person. And I'm not really into dating in general so I don't date much. But from personal experiences, the best relationships I had were actually with Japanese guys. And that included solving conflicts and break ups.
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  49. I really agree with the french girl at the end. As someone who made Japanese friends, I can say that I like the way they do it more. Like she said, it takes a lot of time and effort but when they see you really care and really mean it, it's one of the best friends I ever had. I know it's something a lot of people can't relate to me but I was always very traumatized and I have extreme trust issues so I like the slow paced Japanese style. I always made friends fast but it was always the reason I suffered a lot. I agree it's a little difficult to make japanese friends but as someone who never trusts or likes a person unless I known them at least for 6 months. It's the reason i struggled a lot with even people in my own country because I won't open to people fast. So for those who struggle and want Japanese friends, don't give up, it's a very rewarding experience but it will take a lot of time and effort. The friendships I have with my Japanese friends are the most honest and best friendships I ever had. I believe we all should make friends outside of our cultural bubble, even if it's difficult. It's how we grow as people.
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  50.  @Mig54Ru  Yes, we know Ukraina has been suffering for years. But not everyone knew. So they at least show support now. It's they can do unfortunately.
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