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  1. as a Taiwanese, i must say this video is absolutely correct I've just been to Tokyo this year and I really want to go again
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  2. I remember I got approached by some guy advertising Japanese sex services in 歌舞伎町 and of course I was interested but I expected to be scammed and even get into trouble with the law. I can’t imagine foreigners going for it unless it’s legal in their country maybe. But since it’s illegal in the US I just assume it would be stupid to go for it.
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  3. The problem is that by letting the idea fester as "well it's not actually happening", is that it creates an excuse to lookup the content people should be avoiding instead; that one thought of it's just "one thing" has a chance to grow and become something worse later on. Relationships are meant to be important, not just casual things.
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  4. Nobita I hope you see this There is a book called "Princes of the Yen" by Richard Werner, a German economist. It goes over how and why the 1990s economy collapse and bubble happened. Its Japanese version was a best seller at one point. I highly recommend you read it. There is also a documentary by the same name Please read it and consider making video. Thank you and love the channel
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  5. Good for her! It's uncommon for people to not submit to the social norm of everyone else.
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  6. So you are literally showing your daughter what an unhappy marriage is..She will see, learn and repeat.
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  7. It seems to me, marriage in the West are most often based on love (or attraction at "worst") In Japan it seems to me, marriage is often some practical arrangement, they simply do because it's expected by their families. (I've heard so many 27-28 year olds saying "it's time to marry" in Japanese, whereas imo, marriage is not about "time", but about "feelings".) Thanks for a great video Nobita-san - always interesting topics! ^^ Thomas
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  8. I have a friend who is a Korean teacher of an American man going through this situation. His former wife took their two kids and left. Though the courts have sided with the father, no actual progress has been made reuniting him with his children. Parental child abduction isn't as common in Korea as it is in Japan, but still devastating. It's scary to think things like this happen.
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  9. The moms final statement at the end nearly brought tears to my eyes. I pray she gets to see her children soon
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  10. Great video, Nobita. By the way, it is "risk averse" not "risk adverse".
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  11. thank you for talking with someone like this. i’m an autistic person living in australia and i’ve always wanted to move to japan, so it’s good to find others who have done something similar and enjoyed it : )
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  12. First she said cheating isn't good then goes on to say that married women who are doing this are good as they can explore sxx desires. Like wtf bro.....its like the biggest irony
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  13. Huge respect for Nobita for sharing this video 🙏
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  14. It’s really a issue any country that has access to technology, so America has this issue also on a much smaller scale. In USA we have a lot of space to move around but the simplest answer to fixing loneliness is going outside, go out of your comfort zone. Loneliness can form from soooooo many things that may have happened or that we deal with. Loneliness is a temporary, fixable state. Tokyo, Osaka, Chiba, etc are some of the most beautiful places I’ve ever witnessed with my eyes. Go outside!
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  15. Imagine you raised that girl and now are working in the porn industry. Sad. I would not accept it. Then, if I have a wife and find out that she is an ex-porn actress, I think I can't take it. The worry, the trust, and all kinds of questions will keep haunting me.
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  16. Great video Nobita! I love how you always talk to such a diverse range of people. It really helps us in the audience put ourselves in many different shoes and consider things from many different perspectives. Beyond just being informative, your videos always promote compassion and mutual understanding as well, which is awesome. Keep up the good work! I can't wait for part 2.😊
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  17. FINALLY!!! As someone with ASD, I've been wondering what it's like in Japan too. That's why I'm so obsessed with Japanese culture, it's insanely bizarre and scary to me but impressive and interesting at the same time. Thank you so much for this video.
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  18. God bless her for staying true to her convictions and beliefs, and her husband for accepting them. It's a shame Christianity still has a stigma in Japan, but perhaps one day the Christians there can break the prejudice. Unfortunately, tradition as well as the cults there, and in Korea, masquerading as Christianity scamming people for money certainly don't help.
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  19. I didn't expect to cry while listening to this but that was very touching. I had a similar experience when I was younger and I prayed and prayed to God to help me get through it because I just wanted to die. So hearing her say that maybe God choses to help those at the bottom/ those who are struggling really got to me. <3 I wish her and her husband a long and happy marriage.
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  20. It's a shame that happens over there. Im in Canada, married, work from home and recently had a baby and I can say that having my wife at home has made me love her even more! I take a quick break from work, give her a quick kiss, see my child, grab a drink go back to work. Spend my lunch hour together, and then after work we go out to the mall or coffee shop, but during this pandemic we usually spend time in our backyard. Seeing her in all her motherly glory taking care of the child, how can you not appreciate that? I know she'll have to go back to work soon so I cherish every moment we have like this before it goes back to our busy lives and we only see each other in the evenings. Nobita is definitely right, you have to find the person you won't mind spending the entire day with.
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  21. Nobitasan many thanks for enlighten the issue.
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  22. The big issue with both sides of cross-cultural dating is that so often people only see the new "exotic" culture in the other and not the individual with individual needs, desires, flaws and strengths. So often people base their expectations on what they think a culture will be like and can't handle an individual who is not 100% whatever their preconceived idea is. On the whole "act giggly/immature to look cute" thing, that is an issue in almost every Asian country. Now that I think about it only Thai, Lao, and Cambodian women don't do that.
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  23. I think socializing being good at it is learned. I both learned to be shy and then a different time in life to be very confident. Also, I think maybe low self esteem and being overworked is causing a good bit of these issues
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  24. There is definitely a false humility in people who are proud not to wear makeup. It's a variation of the humble brag. I have noticed it is people with good skin or are attractive that are more likely to not wear makeup. If they had bad skin, or perceived as ugly, would they still be the same? I have my doubts.
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  25. I'm really glad people are opening up more about the exploitation of sex workers. Just remember not watching is the best we can do.. every daughter and son is someones.
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  26. Thank you so much Nobita for making wonderful videos such as this one. I myself am a Hikikomori - or NEET - from America. A lot of what was discussed in this video really resonated with me and how I feel, and it also gave me new ideas to improve my life and get out of this hikikomori situation eventually. I see there are others like me in the comments as well, I wish the best for you all
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  27. it's very hard to differentiate racism with stereotyping. ultimately it's about how you treat the individual person in front of you and if you allow the existing stereotypes about the groups he belongs to race/religion/creed to affect your judgement of them. for example, there is a stereotype that japanese cheat in relationships, and statistics might prove that to be true. but it would be racist of me to assume that you are a cheater, just because you're japanese. before you're a japanese, you're a person. and I have to get to know you more. i've noticed japan values peace/harmony over truth. that's why they "read the air". or make so many assumptions. or apologize without thinking. and aren't frank, opinionated or confrontational. meanwhile other cultures find assumptions insulting. the idea is, "instead of assuming what's best for me or who I am, why don't you just talk to me and let's learn the truth". they even have a saying "to ass-u-me is to make an 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me'". japanese culture is always full of stereotyping, and making assumptions, and non-confrontation. that's what reading the air is. and that's why a lot of foreigners feel so offended when the japanese person, instead of talking to them directly about something, goes around and talks to other people. makes assumptions that they "don't know any better". and assumes that they can't speak japanese.
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  28. Big chunk of that overtime is useless work that brings no profit to the company.
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  29. As a Filipina living in France, I just use makeup for fun and to enhance my facial features. However, I'm also okay without it because my skin is so oily and acne prone. I give my face a day off where I won't use makeup at all. I just use makeup for self expression, art and to show my uniqueness and individuality.
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  30. I wanted to talk about how well done this video was Nobita. You truly have a talent for this. God Bless you.
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  31. Nobita, I have been a fan for years and I think this is one of your best videos. You definitely worked hard on this. おつかれさまでした！
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  32. It’s not shameful or a disgrace to be human, and this is just one of the many things that does makes us human & unique. I’m from Texas, USA and most of my most interesting & awesome friends have some sort of illness, including my boyfriend who has high functioning ASD. For anybody that is doubtful of their mental illness because of other people, do not let it stop you from taking care of yourself to create peace within your everyday world & mind. I promise it’ll be worth it. Find sources that are willing to understand and be non-judgmental. Therapy is 80% of the work, while 20% is psychiatric medication, only used as a bandaid. So don’t let them overmedicate you. Thanks for making this video Nobita. As an American who is proactive in my mental health, educating strangers & being supportive of my loved ones. I’ve always worried about how supported Japanese residents actually are. Majority of the homelessness population has a mental illness (at least in the States that I know of), but we still have a long way to go in terms of solutions to get people that do suffer from a mental illness off the streets. It’s actually very expensive to have people who are homeless on the streets more than most would think. It would also help our economy to support people with a mental illness.
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  33. As an American married to a South Korean and the father of two boys, this is actually still an issue for us. Right now, my boys have dual nationality with no problems. But if they want to retain South Korean citizenship when they become adults, they must do the mandatory Korean military service. If they don't they must either renounce SK citizenship or face jail time. So while the situation is better in Korea than in Japan, it's still not perfect. Great video, and great coverage of this topic!
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  34. Sounds like it was a Loveless marriage before the two-year Mark if infidelity was a problem. This is one of the topics always made me sad about Japan. From an outsider's point of view. It seems like Japan social life is too strict. They have to behave a certain way to the point where they don't even know the person that they're actually being married to. If there truly was love in the beginning it quickly dies because the couples are working so much that they never see each other. After a couple years of this they just become strangers to one another.
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  35. The more the industrial the society the more expensive it is to have children especially in cities versus in farms/rural societies the more children you have the better since it is basically free labor
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  36. This is one of those things ive wondered about but have been too lazy to google. Thank you Nobita for the video!
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  37. Thank you for the interview🇯🇵🇹🇼
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  38. Chris was absolutely a role model for me in terms of how to approach moving to Japan. Working hard in language school (difficult, as I'm old and older brains struggle with language learning), making it a point to understand the culture as best I can and at least not make the same stupid mistakes twice, and so forth. Making friends goes slowly, but as the language skills improve that will get easier (and being too pushy too quickly would be a big fail in cultural understanding anyway). Fortunately, as a musician, music acts as a sort of side language that other musicians comprehend, regardless of nationality. Couldn't be happier up here in Sapporo...
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  39. Nobita I love your channel, inspires me
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  40. Yeaaaaah, similar reasons here in the United states. My income is not low and our household income is at the upper threshold of upper middle class (i.e. almost classified being upper class, whatever that means these days). Even with such a "good" income, we would probably expect to have a comparable quality of life to my parents that made a fraction of that with 2 kids and lower paying jobs. The biggest financial hurdles these days that my parents didn't face were sharply rising day care costs (now about as much as a mortgage), college costs (4 year degree is about ~120k), and general cost of living differences. The major one of course is housing, which has risen at a breathtaking rate in just 3 years (roughly 40% jump in price). Having a modest house costs a fortune now. Not to mention food, transportation, retirement, etc. It all feels completely unsustainable. I don't want my children to suffer in such a world where you're expected to work relentlessly to get ahead and it never feels like it's enough.
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  41. I'm glad to hear that foreigners with autistic problems are treated better in Japan than in Europe. No matter what difficulties you encounter, people's kindness can help you live peacefully. Thank you for another great video Nobita-san👍
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  42. Thanks for spreading awareness on such an important issue
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  43. Nobita always asking the real questions.
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  44. Even though I'm not Japanese, I love the culture and I worry when I think about the rapidly declining population. It pains me to think that somewhere so vibrant and full of life might be almost wiped out in a few generation simply by virtue of people hesitating to have children.
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  45. thanks for debunking this nobita. everyone down here in brazil told me the japanese hated us bc of racism. but i always thought that was a bluff.
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  46. I think Rune nailed it. I stopped dating in my mid 20s when I realized I was having more fun with my inner circle of friends playing video games or hiking and fishing the thought of finding a wife or even a longer term S\O was becoming less alluring I'm now in my 30s and still don't find my self interested in having kids even here in the united states.
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  47. I mean, when people value appearance much more than what’s genuine, this bounds to happen. Let’s be real, appearance does matter, but so is honesty. It becomes a problem when one is valued much more than the other. Sweeping problems under the rug and ignoring it, is only hiding away from the problem, never has made it disappear. When you create a society that views 他人 = 迷惑, you’ll get a cold and uncaring world, just like what happened to you and your grandma at that train station. Thank you for always covering the social problems of Japan that many tends to ignore. You gave the voice to the silence and oppressed, gave form to their tears and worries, 有りのままで。You’ve truly carried the spirit of honest journalism. 改めて、ありがとうございます、のび太君。 目をつぶるな、目をそらすな。真実を見よ、真実を聞け、真実を語れ。人を助けることはこれまでも、そしてこれからも決して簡単なことではない。だからこそ、やる価値がある。他人に最後まで手を差し伸べて、今より優しい世界を作るために。
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  48. Honestly the Tohoku area is my favorite part of Japan I have been to. Sendai seems to offer all the stuff you would expect from a big city but without the over population of Tokyo, the haste and trash of Osaka, or the pomp of Kyoto. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed my time in those cities, a little less in Osaka but maybe it was just the area I was in, but Sendai felt like home. Great people, great food, and the local Tohoku Daigaku is a great university. I would strongly recommend trying to apply if your school has a study abroad program with them.
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  49. Cheating is something I will never forgive in a relationship, if this happens to me someday, this will be the end of this relationship too.. She can take her leave and I never want see her face again... Don't have escuses for this shit..
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  50. It is much healthier to not drink alcohol. This is a great trend!
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