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  1. Nobita, keep up the good work. We really do appreciate the time and effort you put into these videos. We also know that you do not gain any money from them. I hope you keep bringing us quality content like you always do. Peace!
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  2. Thank you for intervewing us at a fun BBQ (your birthday🎂)Nobita san!😆3:56 so funny🍺😂 Young generations' interests are very different now from older generations now.. They less drink alcohol, watch less TV, own less things etc. Very interesting video as always!😊
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  3. I'm hafu and grew up half my childhood in Japan. When I was younger, I heard some slurs spewed at me. But as hafu performers increased in Japan things got better incrementally. I speak Japanese well and many are surprised. My father is Spanish/Mexican some in Japan wonder if I was hafu of Japanese native tribe mix. Part of what gaikokujin experience is the yamatodamashii and yamatogokoro mentality many Japanese have--what it means to be Japanese and having the heart and soul of Japan. When I go to Japan and around Japanese people, I switch to Japanese tatemae or polite. I know that American mindset is foreign to them. When I am in America, I switch to the American mindset but have been told I'm overly polite. Americans have trouble understanding Japanese cultural values. And in America I must adapt for differences between groups. Mexican American, Native American, Church, class, etc. In Japan, it's less complicated with a ubiquitous culture. I have witnessed Japanese treat Japanese poorly in Japan. In the United States I've witness, white, black, hispanic and native treat each other poorly. Discrimination does exist, but from my years of living strongly feel that it is rooted in poor self-image and fear of things that are different.
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  4. These points work for all countries no matter the cultural or nationality.
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  5. Growing up with my dad I didn't really consider how much trouble he went through, I kind of wonder if I would have what it takes to do what he did...
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  6. "I didn't feel being loved" This part and many others make it seem to me that women don't actually cheat for the same reasons as men overall (as opposed to what one of the first person talking was saying). Not to "spread their seeds" (how would women do that, I assume she meant "for purely sexual desire"), but to feel a connection with someone. While at the same time pushing away their husband if they come early (according to those accounts here) which is quite paradoxal.
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  7. Some reasons for Japan's low birth rate are that men on average have low wages in a society with a high cost of living primarily with a partner or children, making men less confident and less proactive in seeking relationships or children. It appears that the cultural and societal expectation that women should take full responsibility for all childcare lowers women's opportunities in the workforce and makes women feel as though they do not want to have kids because they don't want to completely dedicate their lives to it for at least 18 years. It seems that because most people in Japan live in large cities not suited for raising children and with poor facilities to help raise children it also makes the idea of having children less appealing. It seems that high rates of overworking especially for men also make the idea of having relationships or children less attractive. There appears to be a generally defeatist attitude in Japan that Japan is much worse than it is and/or things are guaranteed to continue to become worse, I would imagine that may have something to do with Japan's economy peaking in late 1989 and only becoming worse since then, meaning there are at least two and a half entire generations of people in Japan who have only ever lived in Japan as its economy has continued to worsen. Because of this, it seems that Japanese people assume there is nothing that can be done, and that Japan is done for, yet there are still many things that can be done to improve Japan's economy and improve Japan for those in relationships and those seeking or raising children. I think if Japanese people were more focused on looking at things for what they are and not being overly concerned with what their life will be like in 50 years they will see that Japan is a much better place than they give it credit for. The rates of child abuse, bullying and suicides also make the idea of having a child less appealing as Japanese people assume it is something that will happen to their children. There is also the general lack of communication and high unsaid expectations in Japanese relationships that cause people's relationships to sour making it harder to want or to raise children.
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  8. It is important to note that Japan is not an outlier among developed countries with its birth rate, Europe has very similar one's. The thing that makes it distinct is that it does not engage in mass immigration and then pretend the problem doesn't exist. Let's be clear immigration is not a long term solution to demographic issues but much like bringing people into a ponzi scheme despite the fact that it's what western experts generally recommend to Japan, as birth rates are falling worldwide becoming a demographic black hole will only work so long and could be considered immoral for siphoning off skilled people from countries that desperately need them for any hope of internal improvements as well as having been the ones funding the education that western countries will take advantage of. On top of this a lot of the cover in a paper thin veneer, here in Britain living standards are declining rapidly but immigration (notably including illegal) are encouraged in order to pump the GDP figures and give the illusion that we aren't in a major recession, we also have the problem of cheap labour being used in place of technological advancement. This in not going into the many many other negatives. In short solutions at the ground level are vital and only real solutions will be able to fix such difficult issues. Personally I would recommend getting rid of government pensions as all they do is hide the fact that people need children to pay for them in old age. Likewise the modern dating system is not fit for purpose and indeed in the Japanese context seems to conflict badly with the culture and attitude of the population. Ideology which promotes and justifies family will also likely be necessary, in Japan this was traditionally fulfilled by Confucianism and the the West Christianity, people after all tend to act off what they believe in.
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  9. thank you for interviewing me It was so much fun I'm excited to see the next collaboration✌️❤️
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  10. Nobita-san -- I always tell people you're the best journalist in Japan. Keep it up.
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  11. So many interesting subjects, Nobita! I like how you let people talk as you listen, allowing them to share freely on their experiences. Great interviews as always.
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  12. This is why I love this channel! I get to see the real Japan. Good and bad.
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  13. I believe this is happening everywhere across the world. Japan is just much farther along the line than most countries. Them and S Korea.
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  14. She's so charming!! 😍
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  15. I'm 18, I don't wear makeup except some festivals...i go wherever without any makeup and I don't see there any problem without makeup 😊 we should love our face which God has given us 🙏
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  16. I can't speak about living there, but visiting Japan alone is great. People in my country (USA) think I'm weird for traveling alone; but I suppose Japanese people wouldn't normally be rude enough to comment on that anyway. But I can eat out alone, which restaurants here (other than fast food) absolutely hate. I hope Japan can solve this loneliness problem without losing that.
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  17. Not only in Japan to be honest... The world is too damn expensive it really is not worth to have kids in any part of the world
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  18. This is a very informative upload This topic is often unregarded 👍 The broken psychology of bullied people is truly saddening
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  19. I don't think having certain policies to try to preserve Japan's culture is bad. When visiting Japan , people will definitely avoid you on the train. They will even pick a worse seat to not sit next to you as a black/foreigner. I know a lot of Japanese people for an American, and the only thing that sticks out to me about race is how obsessed the women are with white men tbh. They'll marry the first one who speaks to them.
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  20. In a worldwide trend, society is isolating themselves more and more, at some high and low degrees, but we're getting lonely day by day, the world outside is scary, mostly after pandemic and now a war, I am scared, I don't view myself as a hikikomori but I don't wanna go outside, I have my job (that I can do almost everything from home), I am independent, but I don't wanna go outside meet people because I don't feel safe there, I rather play games in my free time, and thankfully my parents don't think less of me from doing that (plus I live in a place where you can get shoot, robbed and die at any moment, the place you guessed? Brazil).
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  21. I like this piece. This case states how culture does influence action, no matter what country you come from and how expectation can be very unfair and disappointing. I've seen reports done simply stating the problem and not bring up why it is this way and to not have a solution. Your solution is simple, step in with your eyes and discern for a more harmonious relationship. Good job.
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  22. As someone who took care of my ex-mother-in-law for over 6 years, I can relate to this issue. And I was in my mid 30s. That was the main reason for my divorce, because my ex's mother had severe senile dementia and it is a mayor issue to deal with, specially if the person in question has a full range of mobility. It is really draining and consuming. That was also the reason my ex and I decided not to have children. I can only imagine what a young teen must go through while caring for an elder relative or parent. Sadly, this issue is going to become more and more prevalent around the world in the next few decades. There are some really difficult ethical dilemmas we, as a species are going to have to face regarding our elders and ourselves as we age. You guys (the Japanese, Chinese and Korean) are just at the forefront of the issue. We are seeing the clash of the old ways with our modern day context and we need to decide how we are going to as societies. It is hard to admit, but the boomer generation has become the vampire generation, sucking the life out of the younger generations. And all of us that are growing old will inevitably join that vampire generation as we age. This might last for some decades until the population re-balances itself, but it will take a while. The stagnating effect of this re-balancing will last for quite a while.
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  23. Part of the difficulty might be that these individuals are identifying as Japanese American. I was born in Iran yet from the age of 11 I’ve been in America. Therefore, if someone asks me what are you? I simply say I’m American because this is where I live and this is who I am. It really should be a simple as that.
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  24. I‘ve seen some unhappy marriages and all parties involved were better of divorced. It’s sad that the laws/society in many countries make it so difficult to do it quickly and cleanly.
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  25. Same things going on in India, Parents don't approve for the marriage of a romantic couple until they cry, fall ill or give an intense exam of true love 🤦‍♂️ Not all , but some
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  26. Thanks for the video, Nobita. No matter how many videos you make about porn, you always manage to bring in a new perspective which is very refreshing. I am especially puzzled that male porn actors, even though their number is 70 vs. 10,000 female actors, get paid so little for their work. 70 vs. 10,000 seems like a lot less competition so the "reverse gender pay gap" here seems quite an enigma to me. Question two for me is: if the payment is that bad, why are men willing to do the job and that with high motivation. Surely, people do not work for money alone but investing so much effort and time in a job that will not feed you implies quite a high amount of .... let's call it... altruism to get all those women satisfied by new movie material 😀
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  27. I totally understand the reasons, why they often choose to stay together. But I think it would be great if they at least are honest with each other and their children. "Mom likes you and Dad likes you and we both want to care for you. But we don't like each other so much anymore." They could keep their relationship but give each other the freedom to find happiness another way.
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  28. Thank you for doing another video about Christians in Japan, I look forward to watching it when I get off work💯 Keep up the good work brother 💯
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  29. You clearly put a lot of effort into making this video. Good job
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  30. In my early 20's and dont drink. It has gotten me excluded from certain social events or made me feel like an outsider in some places, but I choose not to still. Its not for health or anything, I just dont really like the taste and never really saw the appeal of drinking. I dont mind if other people drink, but its frustrating when people try to force you to.
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  31. I'm part French, but mostly Vietnamese. I have the double eyelids, but I didn't know there was such a desire for this in Japan. They are already beautiful people!
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  32. my mom is 87, she won't leave the house without makeup. This is the entire world with women.
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  33. I've been living in Japan for 1.5 years, but my very Western-minded Japanese husband and I have decided we have to move to my country of Canada. The number one reason is because we can't stand the idea of raising kids in Japan. Worrying about our future kids as adults getting caught up in this horrible abduction situation is part of that. Also, it absolutely infuriates me when I see people trying to justify this blatant child abuse with "I don't want to interact with my ex." My god, how selfish can you get?
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  34. 最も美しく魅力的な女性は、化粧もせず、エクステもまつ毛もつけず、特に肌を漂白したり美白剤を塗ったりしていない自然な女性です。
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  35. The only advise I can give to anyone is to prepare themselves to be old. Eat well, work out, read, continuously challenge yourself and learn new things. There are many people who are 100 and live alone, have no issues doing every day activities. I would not want to be a burden to my kids or grandkids just because I am old.
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  36. I mean personally I’m autistic and have bipolar and during my teens i cant really tell if i was bullied or i was just completely delusional and thought i was. If its just verbal abuse my best advice is to just learn to ignore it. Physical abuse however is a whole other can of worms and the best advice i can give towards that is to defend yourself and not worry about the consequences of doing so.
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  37. I have to say, being respectful is just as important as being confident in the US, as a general thing. If you are disrespectful you will be shut out of a lot of things and potentially wind up in prison. Confidence can't really make up for this.
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  38. I mean it's kinda easy to fall into the mentality honestly, and much of it can probably be boiled down to "Expectations," at least in my opinion. People forcing their expectations on others and belittling them when they don't meet their personal ideals/standards. Happens with couples, happens with societies. Same story different number of people involved. It's easy for people to fall into escapism at that point.
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  39. I’ve seen several of my friends got cosmetic survey to make their eyes double lid. All of them say that it really hurt and their eyes were so puffy for the first few weeks but was worth doing it because they have gained confidence about their looking. This obsession seems not to disappear but hearing Elena’s point of view as an European Is eye-opening! Thank you Nobita san and happy new year!😊✨
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  40. I'm a foreigner living in Japan, and I have ASD, but I'm high functioning. I have a wife and kid that I brought with me. We're quite happy here, and it's been easier working and living here than in my home country. However, I'm incredibly introverted and have absolutely zero interest in assimilation or making friends. I come to work, always leave on time, and do what I want with my personal time. Reading the air can fuck off. I've found the more direct I am, the more I get what I want out of this country. So, if you have no concern or interest in how people view and interact with you, it can be very easy here as a foreigner with ASD. But if you're concerned with fitting in, being accepted, and developing deep relationships, I wouldn't come to Japan at all.
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  41. Cheating is something disgusting and cannot be forgiven
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  42. This kind of industry is just gonna keep gettin more and more popular as demands for it continue to grow more and more. I’m not in favor of it but I realize that there’s a lot of ppl that want this kind of content as well as some that want to work in it. It’s a to each their own thing imo. Thanks for another upload Nobita.
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  43. Wow...exactly when I was doing some research and watching videos about the subject! I personnally would love to have a job experience in Japan, but as an application or video game developer. Thank you for this video, Nobita!
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  44. Lets do some math... using the numbers she gaven us, she's been doing this 25 years, or roughly 9,131.25 days (365.25 days * 25 years). We also know from this interview that she has made at least 2,700 videos. Meaning that she would had to make a NTR video every 3.3819 days, or every 81.17 hours to achieve 2,700 videos in 25 years. For a genre that's about being unfaithful, she's more committed to this genre then many people are to their own marriage.
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  45. Nobita-san, thanks for this video. I am planning on becoming an English teacher in Japan and I have found this video very informative. It helps to know the social atmosphere and social expectations of students that I may face as a teacher. Your videos have also helped me evaluate where I would like to teach as well as perceptions of religions outside of Japan. I am a Christan from the U.S. and didn't know much about japanese views of other religions so thanks. If you could make a video about japanese perceptions or sterotypes of other countries or cultures I would find it enormously helpful. Thank you so much, keep up the good work.
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  46. When in Rome do as the Romans do. When I visit Japan, I adapt to the behavior. I put on a mask where they wear them, I keep quiet on the train, and elevators. I take shoes off indoors, I politely head bow and say すみません, and act super polite with people if they are station attendents, police, shop owners etc. thanking them repeatedly and saying はい when its necessary in agreement and mirror.
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  47. Thank you so much!! I am autistic and would be happy to chat with this young woman, but unfortunately, I do not speak Japanese. I find that even in Korea there is a stigma when it comes to various psychiatric conditions. As a teacher, I see that parents don't want to get their kids diagnosed, even if they know there is something wrong. Of course there are few parents who do, and I am grateful for them. The online community has many autistics. Youtube, fb, instagram, and tik tok. I don't like tik tok much, but some autistics use it. I am very glad this young woman is reaching out to others online.
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  48. My Japanese husband and I face a similar problem despite I'm a Filipino. I think my case is rare in the Philippines as an only child and the inevitable carer for my elderly parents. Our parents are in their 70s and we are in our 30s. We didn't have kids as we will be pressed with childcare costs and elderly costs together. Japan is expensive to live but even if we have to live in the Philippines right now, we still feel the same financial worry due to unabated inflation here. The only good thing I have in the Philippines is I already have my own house and car and won't have to rent or commute...and a small businesss on top of my day job which I don't have such privileges in Japan.
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  49. Change your work week standards would help dramatically. I quickly realized Japan was not for me after college. Luckily, my fiancé, born and raised in Japan agreed to come back to the U.S with me. We have a baby on the way!
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  50. Bless you for talking about this Nobita! Really great reporting!
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