Comments by "Violet Joy" (@VioletJoy) on "EXPLORE WITH US" channel.

  1. I think it's an important aspect to point out in order for society to learn from this horrific incident. Chandler was coddled and did not have consequences for his actions throughout his upbringing. He chose a sweet, slightly immature girl that he could manipulate. He had been doing that his whole life. These are critical red flags to look for.
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  2. I'm only a few minutes in, but already love this Michael Bales dude. She gave me the "eggie beegies". I'm sorry because this is a very serious subject, but this guy kills me. What a great witness.
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  3. I wonder what Burns' motive was with Michelle. What a horrible way to die. 💔💔💔 How sad that her parents died without knowing what happened. It sure seemed like she had a bright future that was stolen from her.
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  4. Excellent detective skills, especially the one who stayed calm. That is often the best way to get a suspect to open up... and open up, he did. It could have gone very differently. I didn't hear anything about the husband/ father. No doubt he harbors a lot of guilt for leaving when the alarm wasn't working. No one would have guessed what was about to happen. My heart breaks for Kimberly, Jaimie, and the dad. That was a horrific nightmare.
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  5. Of course she didn't, but she continued to believe him even after he was in jail. Society could learn a lot from this case. She was likely pretty naive, and narcissists like Chandler prey on people like that.
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  6. ​ @zyxw-oe8hg It's not that she was psychic or intuitive. She just knows Sherri.
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  7. Ironically, I watch them at bed time to get my mind off of the current situation in the US. That keeps me up at night much more than true crime. You know it's sad when you listen to true crime to get a lighthearted break from real life.
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  8.  @garrettromer8499  There are documentaries about it where much more evidence was shown. First and foremost - it is extremely unlikely that a mother would believe another man is her child, especially considering the man looked absolutely nothing like him and couldn't even speak English. There is a lot more to the story. I hate seeing poodle jump to conclusions, but in this case, there was so much sketchy activity from the family that it's pretty obvious.
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  9.  @Muirmaiden  My thoughts exactly. Nicholas was a "troubled kid" = Nicholas didn't have a healthy, loving home life. 💔
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  10. After a body deteriorates, it evidently stops smelling. Also, there were dead cats found, so that could have accounted for any bad smell. I wouldn't think it would be reasonable to expect investigators to pull apart the walls. How would they think to do that? Accidents happen. It's not always murder. If she had been murdered, that would have been an incredibly odd way to go about it. Highly unlikely.
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  11. I believe that police have to make them publicly available to whoever requests them.
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  12.  @ShyOne1031  Let's not lump them all together. There are some very sincere, hard working cops and detectives out there.
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  13. It's interesting how so many jump to murder, almost like that is preferred over a horrible accident. If she had been murdered, why drag her all the way up to that spot? Why not just kill her and leave her right there. That's incredibly unlikely. She wouldn't be the first person to die while stuck like that in her own home. What a horrible, horrible way to die. 💔💔💔
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  14. Crazy.
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  15.  @RonPaulBot1234  Most people assume everyone who committed murder is acting. It seems very clear that his thinking process is not normal.
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  16. Most girls WERE runaways. It's not easy to know which ones aren't.
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  17. ​@M P She was being deceptive though. She knew much more than she was saying.
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  18. I thought detectives handled her unique personality perfectly. They asked really pertinent questions and evaluated her answers. It was clear that she was innocent of any wrongdoing.
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  19.  @niks7739  That's a generalization also. Unless you know the true stats, then your claim is based on nothing factual. It's critical to look at data and not throw around guesses. While there is corruption in some departments, there is corruption everywhere. There really is no way of making any group of employees completely "good". Humans are flawed, but for some reason, there seems to be an expectation for that not to be the case in the police force.
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  20. That's not necessarily true. We have no idea how she might handle an interview.
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  21.  @niks7739  Well, it's clear you have your mind made up and are not open to reason.
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  22. There's no healing from something that tragic.
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  23. You are saying there is "no way", but there is no way of you knowing that. She wouldn't be the first person to die like that, unfortunately. It's rare, but it happens.
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  24. It's important to look below the surface. He was raised with minimal expectations and no consequences. Parenting has a profound effect on a growing brain, whether positive or negative. He was babied, which is actually not loving. It sets a kid up for failure. Obviously, they didn't deserve to be murdered, but society can lean from this situation.
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  25.  @anyaisma4878  It's not really an insult, but an observation. Showing all parts of his life can help people to become more aware of what red flags to watch for. A huge percentage of the public fell in love with Kat. It's tragic that she didn't know what red flags to look for.
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  26. To be fair, that's common with hearing people, too. It was painful to watch.
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  27.  @krimstix  Freak accidents happen. As odd as it was, nothing seems to point toward foul play. If she had been murdered, that would have been a very strange way to dump the body. She most likely fell from the attic and either broke her legs or might have been knocked unconscious.
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  28. I give her a lot of credit for that. Unfortunately, some parents get just as single focused as everyone else. Example: Steven Avery.
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  29.  @TonySamedi  I appreciate the well thought out reply and agree with so much of it. Yes, there absolutely should be a higher standard for police, but that wasn't my point. My point is how is that standard enforced? There are certain obvious signs when someone isn't right for the job, but sometimes those signs aren't obvious. It's complex. I'm with you; I think there should be very strict rules in place where if an officer abuses their power, they're out! That sure would help weed out the bad ones. Unfortunately, each department is different and is run by flawed people. Plus there is a system in place that often times works well, but other times doesn't. I'd like to see more pressure put on the management to deal with these types of situations more seriously. I'm not sure where that pressure would come from, except by the public and/or the government. Unfortunately, the majority of those speaking out are not reasonable or knowledgeable. You said that people don't expect cops to be perfect, but just want the bad ones to be held accountable. While that is a very reasonable expectation, that's not what the public at large is saying. They do expect cops to be perfect (their version of perfect) and say that the majority or all cops are bad, which couldn't be further from the truth. That type of assumption totally dismisses the thousands of honorable officers we have and is causing an incredible amount of damage to society.
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  30. Acting? He seemed very open.
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  31. ​ @1ittt There are a lot of really good ones, yet there are those who seem to lack basic common sense. 🤦🏼‍♀️
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  32.  @CatBuchanan  There was no motive and no evidence. In fact, there was quite the opposite. It makes no sense for a man who was about to collect on a wrongful conviction payout to commit murder, only to land himself back in prison. Brendan's coerced "confession" did not line up at all with the evidence. It was literally impossible. Zero blood. There was so much sketchy behavior by local law enforcement and the DA that several of them ended up in legal trouble. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that this was a set up. There is evidence that the killer could very well have been Avery's other nephew, Bobby Dassey.
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  33. That was awful. 💔💔💔
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  34.  @lukesimpson3080  That's totally understandable. How completely horrific!! I can't even imagine the trauma of an experience like that. 😳 That poor old man. For him to survive war and then lose his life in such a senseless way is disturbing and disgusting. No doubt, none of the boys who went to this boys' school rather than a youth detention facility committed such serious crimes.
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  35. It's incredible.
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  36.  @CatBuchanan  I see what you're saying and understand that murderers don't always fit a certain profile. A YouTube comment section isn't the place to dissect a case, but I'll just leave these few facts: *There was no motive *There was no physical evidence - no blood, hair or DNA *The "physical evidence" that was eventually brought forward was discovered in a very suspicious way (a new key with NO DNA in it, the bones that were not tested, the drop of blood on the car that was shown to have been impossible to have dripped) *There was nothing straightforward about Brendan's "confession", nor does it match up with any evidence. In fact, there's no way the crime could have happened the way he described. *Several people involved in the case were known to be corrupt and even faced charges *Local law enforcement had a lot to lose with the pay out.
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  37. That was heartbreaking. Only 4 days. 💔💔💔
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  38. Like smoking cigarettes?
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  39.  @lukesimpson3080  Yeah, I realize that. I'm not sure how many committed serious crimes, though. Even in prison, adult inmates aren't beaten and tortured like that.
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  40.  @NourKLI  Are you sure you meant to reply to me? You might want to reread my comment. I also believe she was completely innocent and believed him. I just pointed out her naiveté as that's something that society could learn from.
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  41. ​@Wendy Hawley I'm not sure why you mentioned, "As a black person..." What does that have to do with anything? And they didn't catch the first guy. They simply pulled over and detained him until they got more information.
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  42. Why is that? Because you just watched a video about several abnormal guys who killed a girl? Are you thinking they are average guys? The girl's own sister was involved too.
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  43.  @frankboff1260  You'd like to think that, but life doesn't work that way. It's sad he waited all those years. 💔💔💔
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  44.  @lesterlobotomy6224  Yeah, all of that makes sense. The praying out loud did seem extra.
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  45. However, she WAS being deceptive and knew much more than she was saying.
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  46. ​@12345fowler What red flags are you suggesting? He comes across as very committed to the relationship and very understanding. I can relate to that, and it can come from a point of extreme empathy. I wouldn't call that a red flag, but more of a lack of boundaries.
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  47. @thezombiesatemyhomework7412  What did you see as a "criticism" and "snap decision" in my comments? I'm genuinely confused here because I've had two replies now suggesting that I was somehow criticizing her. I don't understand how your last sentence pertains to anything I said. 🤔
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  48. That's a HUGE stretch. I've seen far worse. It sounds like he wasn't challenging her in hopes that she would open up. If he had pressed her, she would have likely left and gotten an attorney.
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  49. ​ @Dan55888 My thoughts exactly. All aspects of this case can be learning lessons, starting with how to parent properly. Spoiling a child and preventing them from facing consequences is not loving and does not prepare them for the real world. Choosing an immature, lazy, arrogant boyfriend who lies probably isn't going to go very well. Prevention is key because there's no hope for the narcissist to change.
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  50. ​ @jomoland I really don't want to read through all of the comments here, but in case no one replied... he's, she did stay with him. The jail phone calls have been made public. Also, if you watch the trial, she doesn't seem all too thrilled to be speaking on behalf of the prosecution.
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