Comments by "" (@nightmareTomek) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. Dunno why they think it's ok to treat others like garbage. I'm gonna stay single, don't wanna deal with this crap.
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  2.  @roses6564  yes, all of them. Some labeled toxic, some not, but it's in their nature and they're doing these things subconsiously.
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  3. If both parties think the significant other is their best option, then that means she is over 40 and has hit the wall.
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  4. In interviews someone like Sadia has a clear advantage because she mastered the skill to answer quickly, implant and reframe her wants as facts and then shove the topic aside before it can get analyzed too thoroughly. I found that I always need a bit of time to figure things out to the bottom of them, makes me think I could never participate in an interview anymore or just be a silent listener. Also when I present the figured out version, then they get mad.
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  5.  @Mereologist  Your answer is like this: Police: "Who committed the crime?" Witness: "Generally we should be nicer to each other." Police: "Yeah true, but who actually committed the crime? You saw it, didn't you?" Witness: "I did, and that's why I want to tell you the important message that the world is very cruel and that this cruelty is very unnecessary." Police: "Do you want to help or not? We need to know who the culprit is." Witness: "I'm helping right here! I'm telling you that the world is full of bad people and everyone should strive to make it better. You should do your job and put the criminals in prison." You didn't answer my question, whether the man is actually hard to deal with or not. You just spammed overgeneralized life advice, which are very useless in tracking down a problem. That's a societal problem that whenever we try to find a problem (that might hurt a woman's feelings), we get bombarded with everyday phrases that we should all do better. And then nothing's solved. And that's why a lot of men are opting out. See how the witness managed to blame the police in my analogy?
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  6.  @mysticone1798  And not so true at all. In my experience rather a wishful dream, borderline a flatout lie. I've tried defusing situations with humor countless times, it works with men but only rarely with women.
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  7.  @roses6564  They convinced you very well to believe in them rather than in reality.
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  8.  @roses6564  not gonna read this. when it starts with ad hominems, you can't expect anything intelligent to come later. just another vvoman being mad.
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  9. So much stupid BLAH BLAH BLAH here. Appreciation this, appreciation that, it's already common knowledge and for some reason it's not working anyway. Why not? "After the man received all the help he needed he then left the woman and went on with his life." Yep, no surprised. (The reason is btw that you didn't care enough what he actually wanted, you just gave him something and expected from him to be satisfied, while he did't see much value in it). I can predict how long relationships last based on the behavior and chemistry of 2 partners at the start. I've been able to predict a few relationships 3 years in advace down to a month. And from my observation female perception is warped. They overvalue their input and undervalue men's input. I even have an evolutionary explanation for that. But for me saying that here I'll be seen as a misogynist, and women will continue to not listen. Just like a few comments further up people say women hate those therapists who point to the woman as the problem, and they stop going to therapy. With this attitude the relationships you want will keep breaking. You can think about that, or not, kinda your choice.
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  10. Wouldn't say corrupt. It makes it easy and makes them lazy. But the power doesn't last.
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  11. Black humor however isn't helpful at all.
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  12. That's the impression I had since a teenage age, prevented me well to have relationships. They just gonna get discontent over time and there's nothing you can do about it.
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  13.  @rayrwyr  but are there enough right women around for the average men? Probably not.
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  14.  @LisaCulton  You seem to be very angry everywhere you post.
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  15. ​ @LisaCulton  Ye sure, interesting. No, they're all out of spite, every single one. You could stop with that bitterness.
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  16. Women want to feel desired while making others feel undesired.
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  17. ​ @SpedSauce  This is where Tarabans advice is incomplete and wrong because of this incompleteness. Not only will she demand a higher price of a lower value man, she will also be very unwilling to do effort for him. If she does, she might already be dissatisfied with the relationship. Or if you ask for effort, she might freak out and leave. That's right, she will show her true colors and that's why low value men have learned not to ask for any effort.
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  18. Most beautiful woman I met and fell in love with 20 years ago, a bombshell and gifted, which made her not crazy. But the amount of disrespect to her father and other men made me walk away.
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  19.  @LisaCulton  yeah right, that's why they're walking away and vvomen are going to home depot looking for men. What makes those vvomen not alone?
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  20. You're a rare one to listen. I think these lies are what makes us so wary and suspicious of one another and destroy our trust. I hope you find trust in your husband that goes beyond only that he doesn't cheat, but a trust that his decisions are meant to do good for you, even if it doesn't always look like that. I mean in case you haven't found that yet.
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  21. No matter how you pet the cat, it gives you the claws and then says "you better pet me better, or I get myself a better petter".
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  22. It's not just the beauties that hate the truth, from what I observe.
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  23. But they want to be lied to... Do you think they don't?
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  24. xD Women will always find a reason to separate, and they will always blame the man. One story after another. I bet you never considered that you could have been the reason he didn't put in the effort you expected. Well, I hope being alone makes you happy, because if not, I wouldn't have any sympathy for you.
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  25.  @LisaCulton  which is most likely a myth you like perpetuating. Sons probably had a lot of duties and requirements laid on their shoulders, from working, being a good this and that, to going to war. Daughters duty was just domestic help.
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  26.  @LisaCulton  but we can't stop playing the victim card, can we.
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  27. And that's not even ridiculous enough to sound made up.
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  28.  @Mereologist  Is that actually true though that men are difficult to deal with? Or is it just that women feel like it? That is why more and more men don't want to deal with women anymore. Any criticism you say they're immediately reflecting back at you.
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  29. This is the key element that Tarabans advice is missing. Not only will she demand a higher price of a lower value man, she will also be very unwilling to do effort for him. You can't demand it from her or if you do she might freak out or even leave, she will just not think it's justified to do it for you.
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  30. ​ @Enhdros  Saying this again. This is where Tarabans advice is incomplete and wrong because of this incompleteness. Not only will she demand a higher price of a lower value man, she will also be very unwilling to do effort for him. If she does, she might already be dissatisfied with the relationship. Or if you ask for effort, she might freak out and leave. That's why low value men have learned not to ask for any effort, because it doesn't work and only leads to drama instead.
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  31. Sometimes you need to give a bunch of praise anytime she lifts a finger.
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  32.  @amerigo88  The focus of the video might be nice and all, but how is it in reality? Feels to me like the man's job is 10000x harder, he needs to walk on eggshells and not even say a single word that she might to his detriment interpret however she feels like, and all she needs to do in return is to just be polite? If I think about it, I actually tried to be loving and forgiving and always speak with a warm tone. Amounted to nothing.
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  33.  @ephraimwinslow  I also know what you mean, but I persisted with truth and helping and found a beautiful way of IDGAF. Had quite a bit of training with this with my ex.
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  34. Well, it's a bit more complicated than what he articulated, and the complete workings are hard to explain. Thus he's not completely wrong, but imprecise.
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  35.  @JanW51  requires equally as much? You can't be serious, right? Because not being entitled and bratty is so hard to pull off, or what?
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  36.  @robmcguckin7605  That's why I keep saying that high value men stay single because they don't want to deal with that crap. Not because they're jerks or something. And I'm not even high value.
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  37. I think you're forgetting "DUMB". I'm binge-watching him today, a few videos have good messages, but most are just dumb, and way too long for their dumbness. Just let me point you to what he said at 8:30, so you can really envision the stupidity of that what you're praising here. "Eventually your red pill days will be characterized by relationships with women. Everything is completely different and yet nothing has changed. ... Women will be part of our lives in one way or another. In a way the red pill allows to have relationships with women in a way that makes sense for the particular individuals involved. Women are not the enemy." And then envision divorce r4pe. How men can lose everything, job, house, children, to a woman who became a bit unhappy and is full of spite towards her ex husband because in her eyes he's at fault she has to divorce. And Orion is saying a bunch of nothing, or that no matter our knowledge nothing will change and what is happening is going to be ignored. How is that not stupid? No, actually women's behavior is abnormally destructive and needs to be addressed and fixed, the way you'd try to correct a bad behavior of a child. Divorce r4pes need to stop, PERIOD. Many other things need to stop as well. The red pill points this out, there's no stupid enlightment in this, it's knowledge that can either be used or ignored, and he talks about it like it can only be ignored. And that's from someone with a psychology profession. Aboslutely idiotic! Think it through.
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  38.  @NormanGreenwood-s2o  "technically"??? So if "Reality is one and it is you who seems to be having problems coping with it" isn't technically an ad hominem, then "just another vvoman being mad", which was my very next response, wasn't one either. You're picking favorites and judging sides differently based on your liking. When I said what I said, albeit it wasn't nice, she wasn't questioning why I think this way, no, her immediate response was to jump to blame my opinion on an incorrect assumptions about my life circumstances. She's gonna sit on that opinion. Even if she didn't, from experience I know that you can't talk to them normally again after they've been mad once. And I'm not gonna read the rest what you wrote. Are you her alt account or something, because I used the block feature? Can do the same with you. Like, immediately!
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  39. not this spiritual adviser spam again...
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  40.  @jamesbickle4912  And that's the answer why some never commit. If there were less dishonesty at play, people would marry after only a week.
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  41. Women don't amplify everything, only negativity. When you shower them with positivity, they can be extremely indifferent. Otherwise how did we arrive at the understanding that women love drama? Also there's an easier way to avoid arguiging with women. If she's shouting and crying, her her out, don't respond, turn around and go away. Done! I haven't had fights with women either.
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  42. This isn't delulu, is a purposeful emotional jab. She knows she's wrong. But it's not her intention to be right, but to be hurtful.
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  43.  @Sad_Bumper_Sticker  Which you wouldn't be able to refute not even if arguments would be raining from the sky onto your head.
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  44. Just be the richest man in the vicinity, and also win the genetic lottery, also win the lottery of finding a nondelusional woman. Easy as pie.
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  45. xD Time to cheat and take his house, lady. Most other women do this, too, as soon as they experience a teeny tiny bit of unhappiness. Then they put the lives of their kids in jeopardy just to get back at their ex husband. You have kids? Women search men who make 6 figures, then complain that they have to work for it. Still, even if he makes 100k a year, the marriage has (not exactly sure I remember the numbers correctly) like a 50% chance to end in divorce, compared to only 10% if he makes 400k. And yet, if the man is available at home, she can still complain that he's too available and not career-driven enough. This clusterfk of reasoning just looks to me like women actively look for a reason to seperate. I wonder if this is evolutionary from the times where the alphas got regularly replaced by younger and stronger alphas. In modern times though it makes women often end up alone and regretful.
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  46.  @roxyroxelle  Yee, people never think it's fun to have the truth hit them in their face. And that's good because I don't really want a partner. All the girls that fell in love with me over the last 2 decades I told no, they were just all emotionally unstable. What emotional availability do you want anyway? Men are surprisingly empathetic, but you women don't believe it anway, or can't recognize it. And is this what you want, or just approval for your mistakes? And even then, a lot of women keep complaining anyway, they just switch over to that he isn't masculine enough or something. Hypergamy is a thing. What I observe is that unless women marry up by a significant margin, they will be more dissatisfied over time in their relationship and no amount of empathy can do anything about it, especially not if the man hasn't been blessed in the DNA lottery.
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  47. I don't think it's the 2/10 pumping their egos as much as media and the industry is. Industry found out that pumping their ego is what incentivises them to make these 80% of consumer buying decisions.
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  48.  @borispirs7788  no, omg, don't make her "elaborate". It's her purpose to make emotional jabs at those she disagrees with. You just gonna make her attack more.
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  49. The problems I see with "becoming the best version of oneself": - what do you do it for, if not for women? Money? Status? Confidence? - best version at the end usually only means accumulating more money and resources. Not smarts, not create something relevant, not improve society - if all men become the best versions of themselves, women will chase the top 10% of high high value men. - meaning: please work and be disciplined, so someone benefits off of you (which by the way doesn't equal improving society) "The best version of oneself" can very well turn out to be a societal trap in half a century
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  50. He isn't completely right in everything. His general idea how society is going is quite good, but the winners from the survival show didn't have to live for another month there to claim their victory, if they would have had to, then it would be more like life and there would be no winners, just a general breakdown of the system.
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