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@gillianomotoso328
Don't unnecessarily conflate rare intersex conditions with me. You know nothing about me.
I was left to my own devices as a kid, it was before regressive strict gendered toys and clothes were a thing. I played with toys that, looking back, would be called "boy's toys".
I haven't worn dresses/skirts since school uniforms.
Trousers are more practical for building dens and riding bikes, playing cowboys and Indians (it was the 70's before terminology changed)
I learned to ride a motorcycle when I was thirteen, bought my first one at seventeen.
Was very attractive to boys my age because even when I was doing things we'd now consider "masculine" and wear clothes we'd now consider "masuline", all my biking gear was men's stuff, I always looked like what I am, a woman, so I wasn't mistaken for male or thought of as masculine, or butch, or lesbian BECAUSE it's always obvious what sex someone is.
Most of the time I wear blokes clothes, not because I want to look like a bloke, they're just clothes and a lot of the stuff I wear is stuff I've got from boyfriends, or charity shops tbh lol. They're comfortable, hard wearing, and have pockets! And yet I'm never mistaken for a man, because I'm female.
And get hit on by men all the time, because I'm obviously female and look female, even feminine, even though I don't DO anything at all to look feminine. Being a woman is ENOUGH to look feminine.
Whatever we wear, or what hobbies we have, or what job we do, we look like the sex we are.
I've never ever tried to look more girly, I just go about my day, in the body I have and funnily enough people just know what I am.
Shocker.
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@johnturner1073
It was an eye opener. I wanted to join them and work for them for all the right reasons and I've worked as a volunteer for charities too. The volunteers in my experience, for the most part (there are always exceptions of course! that's human nature I guess) those volunteers have been good people with the best intentions. For instance, I worked as a volunteer manning the Samaritans phone lines. All lovely, genuine people and to be fair to The Samaritans, they run a rigorous training and selection process so only the best get through. I only have praise for that organisation.
I don't know, but I think the figureheads of these large charities are probably good people too.
It's the people who rise to the middle ranks, or the highest ranks of local branches, who are the bad apples. The good people with honourable intentions leave the organisations and don't go for the senior roles as they know they're in the minority and that they don't "fit". The wrong uns stick around and climb the "greasy pole" as far as they can go. You can't change an organisation that's rotten, singlehandedly.
It's soul destroying to try to change a rotten culture, and also to watch the wastefulness and hypocrisy. I imagine that's how people working for public services: academia, the civil service, law and justice departments, the BBC and the like, must feel too. It would be interesting to hear from someone's perspective about that.
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