Comments by "Ellie" (@ellie698) on "Lewis Howes"
channel.
-
104
-
65
-
50
-
34
-
12
-
10
-
8
-
7
-
6
-
5
-
5
-
4
-
4
-
3
-
3
-
15:54 no no no!
If you truly truly love someone, in my experience*, even when you don't even like them very much you still have an unbreakable bond.
The best way I can describe it that I could actually feel my heart energy extending out of my chest to connect with his heart. Like some kind of aura it force field. Subs y crazy I know, but that's what it felt. Trust me, I'm a very logical, practical, pragmatic person, but THAT is what it felt like.
So powerful! Like my energy (my soul???) was reaching out to touch him. Incredible.
I've felt actual love only twice in my life, separated by 15 years... all the people I met before, after and between them.... nothing like it... attraction maybe, affection maybe, compassion maybe, but not like THAT.
Only two people in my life and tbh I don't expect to feel that again.
But ... you can't predict it, you can't manufacture it, you can't force it.
It's either there or it isn't.
That's what I've found.
And if you feel THAT and they don't.... you are in for a world of pain!
2
-
If the love isn't mutually strong it can't last no matter how hard one or both try.
It doesn't matter how much effort one person makes if the other person isn't able to, or isn't prepared to, meet you half way.
You can't break yourself trying to do the emotional work for two.
That's not to say you can't support someone, of course you can, and you should. And a person who is truly in love would and does, even when it's hard.
Real, deep love gives you the energy to be there with and for someone. This is my experience anyway.
And the right one, if real love gives him/her the energy too, will be able to be there for you in turn.
Relationships are a team sport. A team of two. Maturity and a certain amount of healing brings you to the point that you can step up. And together from there, you learn, you grow, you make mistakes and forgive yourself and them, then grow together.
And you never stop growing and learning.
It's a truly beautiful thing when it happens but it's so rare!! I wish I'd found it.
I found someone i loved, so much, and I've only ever felt that way about two people.
I admired, respected, was inspired by them, every moment with them was precious. But for various reasons, it wasn't returned in kind.
I'm still good friends with one of them 20 years later even though he now lives in Canada.
True mutual love is precious, rare and to be treasured when you do, if you do (i don't believe everyone does, there's an element of luck involved to find the person you fit with), but if you do find it, TRUE love, not love from the ego but true love.
I believe it to be unbreakable. That's my experience of the feelings I experienced anyway.
To FEEL that love is a privilege... for both mutually to feel it for each other... OMG it must be incredible!
Not sure it will happen to me but hey, never say never, you don't know what fate night have in store for you do you
♥️
2
-
2
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1
-
1