Comments by "" (@lyndsaybrown8471) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. Sometimes it becomes apparent that someone doesn't respect you and you just need to walk away.
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  2. "how many serial killers do we need to hear this from before we start believing it" So true
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  3. As a lawyer, y'all are probably about to get a lot of work responding to these.
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  4. She's not an authority. She was a guardian and she failed in that duty.
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  5. Yep. It's not difficult to see why her kids no longer want to talk to her
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  6. His work should be shut down. It's hurting people.
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  7. ​ @Tipp02984 but even then, I think that a good person would be more inclined to consider the other person as inconsiderate to a user. Calling someone, "ungrateful" postures yourself as someone who is owed something, which good people don't really do.
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  8. Stay strong. People like your father want to make you out as the bad guy, but, even if he was affected by lack of contact, you don't owe him his comfort over yours. Especially since whatever grief he may be feeling is no where comparable to what you survived. Keep thriving.
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  9. So true. It clearly traumatized them enough to want to hurt their own children.
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  10. How normalized it is.
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  11. Gonna have to change that cause people are leaving their phones on silent.
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  12. Glad you got away
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  13. Psychologists often have to help these people so they are more likely to listen, analyze, ask further, seek out the why and whether the person wants to change. But as a regular person who probably wouldn't be taken seriously by this lady. Um...yeah.
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  14. It also disregards that people pleasers are also avoidant. They're always putting on a face for others, not showing their true selfs. Because they don't share themselves, they don't rely on others, but can cohabitate for a time. They also have a great excuse for not relying on others, saying they just don't want to be a burden or they're easy. Fun, no one ever complains about the people pleasers. I guess it's because they can be used. And then it feeds into the people pleaser's understanding that people only care what they can get from the people pleaser, not the people pleaser themselves.
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  15. Send them this video? I don't really know. Depends on the person and how open they are to parenting info.
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  16. Sheesh. Those kids relied on her and she'd rather hold on to her delusion that she was a good parent rather than try to be an actual good parent now.
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  17. I agree. Clinginess is ick. I can understand wanting to do something with someone, but I can't understand NOT doing something UNLESS someone does it with you. And it seems as though, based upon many comments, the anxiously attached person blames the person who didn't do it with them for their own decision.
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  18. ​ @tedoymisojos this. Had a friend who did the same thing (planned friend trips but took no feedback from us friends) and still expected us to not only participate but pay our portion. It's not an income thing, it's a "you'll do as I say and want," thing.
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  19. That was the same story for me as a CPA. It was really hard to connect outside of work because work was pretty much any time, being expected to drop everything for someone else's fire drill.
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  20. Yeah, i think what the friend was uncomfortable about was exactly what happened. I think they were worried about going on this trip with their friend expecting her to mean what she said when she said not to worry about it. Progressively throughout the week, the lady covered her own meals, again, "don't worry about it." Then, on the last meal of the last night, the lady in the video exploded at her friend. And her friend had nothing to defend herself with because she trusted the video lady in spite of her gut feelings of discomfort. And now the video lady is online, complaining to the Internet, which is a very public tear down and one which I'm sure she's expecting to make it back to the friend. And she's further demeaning the friend by blaming the outcome of this trip on her friend being poor. Maybe I'm projecting seeing as my sister has put me in a similar situation for two vacations now. Acting generous in booking and paying for a room, only to try to make me feel bad about it later. Oh, and one of the trips was allegedly for my birthday. And I did actually pay for half of the room.
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  21. Just ask if they like Legos
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  22. When you grow up knowing love is conditional...
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  23. A couple thoughts on this: 1. Regarding the interview where Blake stated, "They never ask the men about their fashion," was supposedly on a fashion program and the female interviewer was excited to speak about the female fashion as that is her career. So, for Blake to divert the subject away from what she should have known to be the topic and should also have known was the interviewer's career; it does come off as, "mean girlish" because it is dismissive to the interviewer. 2. While it is possible that Blake may have social anxiety, she also has a fuck ton of money. We expect for people with more resources to behave better because they have the resources to behave better. If Blake doesn't have a personal assistant or two, I would be surprised. She has access to people who can help her prepare and she has access to people who can help her with her mental health. She should use that access to treat other people how she would want to be treated. Afterall, the rest if us don't have her resources and are expected, and meet expectations, for the same. 3. Just a final thought on why people are so upset. Celebrities are our gods now. We used to have fictional people we believed were real and thought they acted in alignment with our values. Now, celebrities fill that role except that, as normal people, they can't possibly live up to the godhood placed upon them. And those are my thoughts on this topic that i forgot was a topic.
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  24. Like... preferring Native brand deodorant to Dove? 🤷‍♀️
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  25. Encouraged? It's still expected and singlehood is still shamed.
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  26. Bumble BFF has been really helpful for me. Just throwing that out.
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  27. Yeah. Being able to communicate with each other and work together to survive is how we got where we are. Intrinsic to humanity's survival is the ability to understand and compromise.
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  28. It's not about perfect, even. It's about not being abusive. Not using your child as a dog to kick when you feel down about yourself.
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  29. Yeah, I think that happens a lot in youth. People are still growing into themselves and they don't have a handle on their emotions yet. All of their emotions are big.
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  30. Hope it's going well!
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  31. Being a Stay At Home Mom is a prison unless you have people to help and give you time off.
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  32. Here from the future to inform you that the Department of Education is being dismantled So, no time soon.
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  33. ​ @Fairycorehomedecor  I'm glad you said, "had" a friend.
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  34. All the advice in the world means nothing if those people talking aren't willing to be people acting. She needs someone to take that kid off her hands for a bit. At least long enough for her to get checked out for postpartum depression.
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  35. I know. I'm always open to reconnecting, unless the other person did not treat me well last time, so I kinda think people are the same.
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  36. Right? They're mad about the estrangement for the communication that they won't be able to do at their child, but they're not concerned about what they didn't hear and won't be hearing from their child.
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  37. To me, I find ignorant of modern economics as well. What we do to survive has outpaced pure genetics and yet we are adapted to the world we invented. Suggests to me that humanity has been living in it's own mind for a long time now, and what is conceptual is very different from what is physical.
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  38. Congratulations!
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  39. I think it's important to have people outside of therapy who listen to me. When you're asexual and have people in your family who may have a cluster B personality disorder, friends and co-workers are kinda your main connections. I've also been thinking about looking into what groups are in my area, maybe volunteering or book club. Friends are great because your interests can vary and they're happy to listen, at least the people I have been fortunate to meet. Totally understand people not wanting to branch out if they already have good support.
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  40. How are you doing?
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  41. That is always the case with these people.
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  42. Sorry for what you are going through. Hope it gets better!
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  43. Well said!
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  44. You mean like when they plan what they want to do for your birthday? Yeah, it does show a lot.
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  45. How are you doing?
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  46. How's that relationship going?
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  47. Right. But when it comes to major religions in the world, suddenly the number of people who call themselves Christians matters.
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  48. For sure. With the amount of products out there to satisfy those cravings, there's no reason to use another person for that.
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  49. It should
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  50. Facts. People learn what they perceive to be a big take down and then they use it on anyone who they believe have wronged them. Same with comparing people to Hitler or events to the Holocaust. Total irreverence to the severity what that would actually mean.
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