Comments by "Gareth Hart" (@tgheretford) on "Better Bachelor" channel.

  1. People who use the term incel as an insult are actively admitting that they only value men based on one characteristic - his ability to attract a partner. If a man valued women based on one characteristic, they would label him misogynistic and demand his cancellation.
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  2. Here's a disturbing thought - now a "mid" has got with the richest man in the world, now all the "mid's" will believe they are a ten who can get a ten. This will just make things worse in the dating market.
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  3. Emotion is a very effective tool that is used to get people to be on their side and turn against you. Doesn't work with me, I can see straight through it. Had a work colleague a long time ago get angry with me and I did not flinch. She knew it wouldn't work and walked off admitting such.
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  4. In other words, she demands that "real" men know their place, do as they're told and keep quiet. She sees men as beneath her and with absolute contempt.
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  5. The question then becomes, what's the alternative? Statistically everything in real life excluding bars and nightclubs have collapsed and meeting people for dating IRL has become a social taboo.
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  6. And the 2's won't reply. And this is an above average person. Your average person doesn't have a hope in the dating market.
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  7. It's like a multi-millionaire who doesn't understand the concept of poverty because they've been shielded from it and then when finding out about it, just telling the poor to "just be rich bro".
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  8. The problem for these women is that attractive men also took the hint. Buyers remorse.
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  9. I suspect the assumption is someone who drinks in moderation, as opposed to someone with a drinking problem. Would be interesting to see how many would outright reject teetotallers?
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  10. Society treats the red pill as well as evolutionary psychology in the same way we deal with mortality. We know it's inevitable and reality but like to deny it and state an alternative reality instead (the "soulmate") for comfort and cognitive dissonance.
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  11. But still demands six feet, six figures, six pack...
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  12. I can do one better. If you live in the UK, you won't legally be able to criticise any woman soon.
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  13. Seeing the same thing in the dating market. Women increasingly would rather share a high status male or be alone than be faithful to one man who she sees as beneath her.
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  14. Attractive men don't have to ask women out. if you have to ask a woman out, you've already lost.
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  15. And yet if a man made fun of a single woman on a train for being single, telling her to enjoy her cats and saying that she'll never find a man, that man would be recorded by someone, confronted by others angry at his behaviour, that video would go viral on social media, he would be identified and doxed, he would be arrested, charged and jailed, lose his job, his home and his status.
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  16. The rhetoric from activists of late would make your analogy of dating for women change to complaining not only about the sauce, but the presence of commoners in the restaurant who should not be allowed to enter the premises in the first place.
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  17. And continue to do so when they're in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s... And yes, I see the same attitude and behaviour with single women approaching retirement as I do with young single women.
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  18. Increasingly the rhetoric, particularly in the UK, is morphing that it's not just short men that are not considered human beings. It's unattractive men. More like criminals than human beings, hence why there is a push to criminalise such unattractive behaviour and individuals in order to make society "safe" for women and girls.
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  19. @steven Detractors use the term bachelor and Incel interchangeably.
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  20. Happy International Men's Day everyone. Not that you'll be told that from the mainstream media.
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  21. The "Red Pill" is to the modern day what heliocentrism was in the 17th century.
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  22. Describes me too and I've made that perfectly clear with zero disambiguation for anyone who asks me why I haven't met anyone yet. Why would I waste time on being persistently rejected while having my finances and self-esteem repeatedly hit in the bargain?
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  23. What I find when it comes to judging a man's zero body count is that most men don't judge - it tends to come (in general) from women and male feminist allies.
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  24. They certainly do not want to create men who could challenge their dominance and topple them from their position.
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  25. Ironically, the financial model of online dating today is the same as the lottery and gambling. People go on for the thrill of the chase, the hope they will hit the jackpot and just like with gambling, the game is rigged to ensure the house wins and that big wins (long term relationships for dating apps) are limited and rare.
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  26. We now also have the concept of "hypergamy floats" in play as well. The bar for men as what is deemed the bare minimum is getting higher and increasing numbers of men can not and will never clear the bar.
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  27. Bumble doesn't solve the issue because it allows men lower than 8/10 to be on the app. Same problem with Tinder. Or Match. Or any other dating app or site. That's the underlying issue that women have, including the author of this article, have with dating.
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  28. It's known as "hypergamy floats".
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  29. It's predominately about genetics that gets your foot in the door. Gym can help with frame but it keeps being sold as the solution to all of life's problems. But the gym can't make you taller, give you a square jawline if you don't already have one, change half your personality traits or fix genetic abnormalities. You can't pass on good shoes, a good suit or a trimmed beard to your offspring. After the initial first impression comes social status as the key factor for attraction. People should go to the gym for self-improvement, not as a solution. And nowadays, I have observed that women are increasingly going to the gym to find physically attractive partners and using is as a compliment to online dating while complaining about unattractive men being in their presence.
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  30. A UK TV/radio station this week was making the insulation that Tate was the leader of bachelors, to have the viewer and listener assume that single men were being radicalised and that was why society and dating is toxic for women. They are not just coming for men's content, they're coming for a growing subset of men if the proposed UK law is anything to go by - and no, it doesn't just target cat-calling and wolf-whistling.
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  31. She's not yours, its just you turn confirmed by science. Also, Briffault's Law.
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  32. Increasingly now, good guys don't finish.
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  33. In before the inevitable "misogynistic ignorance" from the press.
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  34. Not quite. It should be: 1) The presence of unattractive men makes us unhappy 2) The absence of attractive men makes us unhappy
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  35. At this point, finding anyone who fits those requirements and are not in a long term relationship is like trying to find a unicorn that coughs up banknotes on command.
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  36. Alas, like with Twitch streamers and OnlyFans content, only a small number of craving men spending all of their income on them is what is needed to sustain them and encourage others to join.
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  37. Then they seek the "retirement plan" from the doctors, surgeons, accountants and tradesmen who are on the dating apps.
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  38. That will also be an offence under this proposal. Scottish men will only have two options - get a partner or go to jail.
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  39. Look up the posters that were put up in Bristol in the UK in the last week. It's already here.
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  40.  @joemachine4714  Not any more. They don't want the "beta bux". Such men have been replaced by the state, alloparenting, technology and so forth.
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  41. The problem is, a key criteria that men get judged on is whether they have a partner and if they don't, by choice or not, it is seen by society as a bad point against you. It is what it is.
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  42. Yesterday, a British MP on the BBC gave Internet companies an ultimatum - ban pornography or we will (beyond the Online Safety Bill). We've had a rash of evolutionary psychologists and conservative commentators calling single men cowards. There's a moral panic happening right now in real time in the UK and potential new laws coming down the line based on unwanted attention/communication and offence with women. And you wonder why single men do not want to integrate into a society that demonises, shames and belittles them, never mind being ignored by those with an agenda who want to hijack discussion points?
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  43. Buyers remorse
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  44. He was banned from campus. He was lucky the Police didn't arrest him for harassment.
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  45. Now we have the scientific data to prove it. Which also means everyone who claimed it was the top 1% of men are technically correct, the best form of correct.
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  46. It's basic evolutionary psychology and something most men note when he has a new girlfriend/wife.
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  47. They're not. They're cheering her on.
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  48. I was shocked that the person who wrote this article is in a long term marriage. Experts and coaches are usually long term single individuals who should be the last people you take advice from. The other problem with advice is that people are attempting to rationalise emotional and illogical decision making plus present advice that won't get social pushback (a key problem with self-reported studies on attraction) which is why we constantly hear of the "soulmate", "you'll find someone when you aren't looking", "just lift and touch grass" and "personality is key to attraction".
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  49. The ironic thing being with the abolition of the Winter Fuel Allowance for many pensioners, there will be women now who will be chasing a younger, financially capable man to support them in order to survive. There was also a plan to abolish the Single Occupancy Discount but that is looking like it won't go ahead.
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  50. And if they do, men in mass numbers will quit dating. If the court wants to drive a wedge between the sexes and bring in a population collapse, they will uphold these charges.
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